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[shagbag78]

Wife wants to "hire a sucker"

Hello people, we both are 37 years old and have been in a 21 year old relationship right since we were 16 years old and I feel incredibly fortunate to have with her.It seems that both of us have grown immensely.

We didn't have sex until we got married 10 years back but had regular PDA,oral sex.She had cheated on me just a couple of year before we got married with her colleague.I had even seen hickeys on her body also her chats and she agreed never to repeat the same.

Got married 10 years back we have had a below average sex life may be it was good at the beginning but things started spiralling 5 years back and hit rock bottom 2 years back ,almost sexless for a year and a half and even after that very less in frequency.Majorly I wast feeling sexual and lost my libido for reasons that i recon i have dealt with and it's history thankfully.

Now since the past year and specifically 8 months or so our sex life seems to be on track,it seems to me that her desire and expression towards sexual intimacy is way more than mine and I am ok with it.

8 months back she asked me about my wildest fantasy while we were cuddling and I told her" it was to see her having sex with another man while I watched".
She replied after a bit of pause "are you sure about that ? Won't that make you feel jealous?" Also adding that " I can't Imagine doing that,it makes me feel yukkk and it's a turn off".
To that i replied " for the last few years I am unable to have sex with you and keep up with your desire I have an average sized dick and I cum very soon,so why should you suffer and enjoy life"

But the next morning she came close to me and hugged me on the bed and kissed me too.
A few days after that while we were making love she told me " I will make all your fantasy come true" and expressed a desire to have longer and regular sexual sessions which we don't have there are few bursts but that's just it.

A few days while we were intimate as usual I came as soon as she started riding me that not unusual,she insisted that I licked her pussy that I love doing the most.

She said " I love the way you suck my pussy"
"I love suckers" "make sure you suck my pussy once a week,or else I will Hire a Sucker"."do you want me to hire one ?
For which I replied "no"
After a while of pussy sucking she came hard and we cuddled and slept,next day also we were pretty intimate and cuddly.

What are your thoughts ?
Surely in our next session I will get the sucker topic back and tease her by agreeing to it.

[hornedhubby]

If she loves oral sex, give her what she wants and give it with love and enthusiasm.

Also, ask her if she would like you to add a dildo or vibrator to your play time. If she agrees, involve her in the shopping effort.

Then take it from there. Don't push her into playing with other men. Make sure you are ready for that, IRL, and let it be her call to proceed in that direction if the desire evolves to that level.

Best luck and thanks for sharing.

[coastalkid]

Have you discovered why or talked with her about how she went from " I can't Imagine doing that,it makes me feel yukkk and it's a turn off", to "I will make all your fantasy come true"? I know I'd want to know how/why her thinking changed.

How does the above fit in with your other thread about her wanting to watch you suck cock? Do you suppose that she suggested the idea as a sort of counter-offer to what you asked her about having sex with another man? As if it was some kind of test to put you in the same spot you put her in about doing something that initially struck her as "yucky". It could be a kind of "tit for tat" thing to see if you think her fantasy is "yucky" to you initially.

When you told her your fantasy she responded with, "Are you sure about that?" and "Won't that make you feel jealous?". It's obvious that her mind is sorting through the possible outcomes. I would guess it's natural to anticipate and fear the negatives before contemplating the positives. It's also natural for any given situation when wanting something that you seriously consider the cost of what you want.

From what I gather from both of your threads is that somehow she's made a 180 degree change in her mindset. Without some sort of acceptable explanation for that, that would leave too much to the imagination. She seems to have more than a passing interest. Since she's shared her fantasy with you hopefully she's open to more discussion that will set aside the negatives and give more thought to the potential benefits.

My Magic 8 Ball says, "The chances look good!"

[shagbag78]

If she loves oral sex, give her what she wants and give it with love and enthusiasm.

Also, ask her if she would like you to add a dildo or vibrator to your play time. If she agrees, involve her in the shopping effort.

Then take it from there. Don't push her into playing with other men. Make sure you are ready for that, IRL, and let it be her call to proceed in that direction if the desire evolves to that level.

Best luck and thanks for sharing.

Yes she loves it and also cums very quickly orally.
We had a vibrator but stopped using it,will be intresting to add it again as a variation.And best to involve her while shoping for it.

Yes I am not pushy at the same point little bit unsure so will be happy to take it as it comes.

Thank you

[shagbag78]

Have you discovered why or talked with her about how she went from " I can't Imagine doing that,it makes me feel yukkk and it's a turn off", to "I will make all your fantasy come true"? I know I'd want to know how/why her thinking changed.

How does the above fit in with your other thread about her wanting to watch you suck cock? Do you suppose that she suggested the idea as a sort of counter-offer to what you asked her about having sex with another man? As if it was some kind of test to put you in the same spot you put her in about doing something that initially struck her as "yucky". It could be a kind of "tit for tat" thing to see if you think her fantasy is "yucky" to you initially.

When you told her your fantasy she responded with, "Are you sure about that?" and "Won't that make you feel jealous?". It's obvious that her mind is sorting through the possible outcomes. I would guess it's natural to anticipate and fear the negatives before contemplating the positives. It's also natural for any given situation when wanting something that you seriously consider the cost of what you want.

From what I gather from both of your threads is that somehow she's made a 180 degree change in her mindset. Without some sort of acceptable explanation for that, that would leave too much to the imagination. She seems to have more than a passing interest. Since she's shared her fantasy with you hopefully she's open to more discussion that will set aside the negatives and give more thought to the potential benefits.

My Magic 8 Ball says, "The chances look good!"

Not sure what made her say that it can also be said in the spur of the moment,i didn't counter question then.

No she never mentioned me about sucking other cocks or something related to it,she meant to say is that she lives it when I suck her pussy and wanted it often as possible and if I failed to do se she joked of hiring a sucker to do the job for her.

Thank you for the response,like mentioned earlier I am taking things as they come and see how it goes from here on.