My girlfriend and her interest in other men

[Tolliver]

Thanks. I didn't really see it as anything crazy, but maybe that's because I've gotten used to her behavior. While we were standing there my brain went on a fantasy trip to the two of them getting hot and heavy, several times. On Saturday they had a date set up but my sister had a minor emergency so Rie called it off and we helped my sis with her car. I told her she was free to keep her date but she replied that it would be more fun if I was there. So we appear to be sharing the same fantasy to some degree, which was a very nice moment.

Her new friend Don is going out of town this weekend but she's going to go to his apartment for a meet and greet that will probably not last too long. I'm wondering exactly what might take place and keeping my fingers crossed maybe something will happen. He's doing both summer school sessions so access to him should not be a huge issue, assuming their relationship takes off like I think and hope it will.

[scarfolamew]

Honestly, the ability to simply walk into a store and conjure up a future sex partner is fucking wild. Lots of really hot women are completely unable to do that, despite what many would have you believe. Rie obviously has an astounding confidence and a keen gift for reading sexual signals in others.

I love how at home you feel in this lifestyle now. Your excitement is contagious. Good luck bro

[Tolliver]

Well last night RIe and Don officially became a thing. She dressed up in another short (black) skirt and tight white top with midriff showing. She had me drive her over to his place, then let me know she was going up alone and I was to wait in the car. She was up there for close to 2 hours. About an hour and 20 mins I sent her a text to check on her and she sent back saying she blew him once and was probably going to give him another one before leaving. I told her to have fun and promptly screenshotted the text. When she got back to the car she said she had a nice time and we left. Not sure when or if she'll see him again but I have to admit it was an exciting night even though I didn't get to see any of it.

[Rogueuser1]

Nice! Can't wait to hear what happened while she was with him - hopefully he took good care of her and gave her an orgasm (or six) too.

[OldChap]

Did she give you a passionate kiss when she got back to the car?

[hwc]

loving this so far!

[Tolliver]

She didn't have sex with him. Just gave him head twice. She has a kink for giving blowjobs, as she has admitted to me once months ago. No passionate kiss but she did tell me I was a "good boy" for taking her and waiting there and that I earned some TLC of my own, which she made good on.

I asked her when she was going to see him again and she told me it probably wasn't going to happen. She went on to outline the pros and cons. Yes he's a big cummer which she likes, but he wasn't as big or assertive as you know who (Big Mark ofc) nor did he have any interest in doing anything with me in the room. She then told me with a wry smile that she does so enjoy getting fucked silly with her future husband in the room. <3

Now here's the bad news. Mark has been asking to see her, either have her drive to him or meet at a motel halfway. She is clearly into this which concerns me. She went so far to say she will readily go without me because as much as she likes putting on a show for me, she does also just need to get laid. I didn't even think about suggesting I can try satisfying her. I am at peace with the fact that I can't.

She first hinted she might take off work and just go during the week, then said she might spend the night with him Friday or Saturday night at a hotel. So now of course I'm starting to get unhappy and jealous. I loved the idea of a situation we have more control over but she is slipping back into her old ways where Mark takes too much and I feel slighted.

[ucaneffher]

So now of course I'm starting to get unhappy and jealous. I loved the idea of a situation we have more control over but she is slipping back into her old ways where Mark takes too much and I feel slighted.

Warning: Sorry for the long response
Oftentimes this comes with being a cuckold, although not always as every couple has its own dynamic and personality.

In my single lifestyle experience of 7 years that took place well over a decade ago, I learned that the cuckold becomes a bit of a secondary contributor of decisions and it could be because he wants and likes to feel her in charge or she actually may be in charge.

In our relationship before the lifestyle I was in dominant and in charge, even during the first year or so into the lifestyle I was still calling the shots and sort of "directing" her to do things. It was nice being in control even when I wasn't the one fucking her.

After reading so many stories on here about the women taking full charge and the cuckolds having no say whatsoever and having no choice but to watch their women dive entirely into their single girl roles.

Eventually after 1 year into the lifestyle and having an already very promiscuous 20 year old girlfriend, I decided to sit her down and have the conversation and giving her all of the power and choice. I wanted to be like those cuckolds on here who would share stories of them holding on for dear life while their women called the shots entirely (similar to how Rie has from the very beginning- I like Rie's style a lot)

I started by telling her that I was giving her the freedom , power and choice to do whatever she wanted outside of our relationship. It didn't matter how far she went and how hard she pushed me to my limit. If I ever got jealous or crabby, to just console me but don't stop and keep pushing as long as she is comfortable and enjoying it. She was intrigued but doubtful and brought up scenarios of the times where she did push my limits in the past and how I would react angry or crabby and I told her that I didn't want her to stop and just keep moving forward. Told her that the goal was for me to adapt to her and I would eventually get over the jealousy of seeing my GF choosing the lifestyle and her other men over me.

She tested the waters a few times and I clearly failed but she was quick to point out my reactions and told me "See! you expect me to be in charge but you're still directing and getting jealous!" She did it several times to make me aware and eventually I learned to shut up and accept it. It sucked but it was becoming sexier each time that she made me feel powerless when picking another man and leaving me behind.

That was the beginning of my transition from stag into full blown cuckold. I finally was like one of the guys here who had a girlfriend with a overly active sexual appetite and was now carrying herself like a totally single and available girl with a cuckold boyfriend who had no say other than to see his gf getting picked up left and right and going away entire weekends at her discretion.

7 years in the lifestyle, 1 year old being a stag sharing his GF and 6 years of holding on for dear life as a cuckold whose girlfriend now lived to be with other men. In those 6 years she moved out to live with another man, would go on vacation with lovers, had two full time full blown relationships, cut me off and went sexually exclusive with her boyfriend, hell even got off birth control and didn't use protection while she was with him, she even went as far as demoting me to secret lover while she went fully public and dated him openly.

That conversation proved that she was only suppressing being in charge because once I told her to let go and enjoy, she turned me into the biggest cuck for 6 entire years. I had zero control and had to mold myself to her life with other men. I don't think this is what you want but it seems like you still find it a thrill so I'd say don't fight it. I'm hoping my current GF turns into a Rie and has me gripping for life while she is making me accept her choices to be with others just like Rie would make you accept her going to stay next door or bringing him over for dinner and making you accept that he was there to fuck her.

[Dream Weaver]

So now of course I'm starting to get unhappy and jealous. I loved the idea of a situation we have more control over but she is slipping back into her old ways where Mark takes too much and I feel slighted.

Warning: Sorry for the long response
Oftentimes this comes with being a cuckold, although not always as every couple has its own dynamic and personality.

In my single lifestyle experience of 7 years that took place well over a decade ago, I learned that the cuckold becomes a bit of a secondary contributor of decisions and it could be because he wants and likes to feel her in charge or she actually may be in charge.

In ….

I think more and more I’m realizing that stags enjoy being puppet masters.

[scarfolamew]

ucaneffher, what happened at the end of six years? Does the letting-go fantasy extend to losing her for real?

[nutjob]

I think more and more I’m realizing that stags enjoy being puppet masters.

Not to diminish cuckolding in any way, but some people just aren’t wired to enjoy denial, submission, and humiliation. That doesn’t make them puppet masters, it just makes them people who get off on being a part of their partner’s sexuality instead of people who get off on being separate from it.

[ucaneffher]

ucaneffher, what happened at the end of six years? Does the letting-go fantasy extend to losing her for real?

From year 3 until year 6 it was watching her publicly date him while I became her secret. She was completely his. For me it became more than I could handle even though I wanted her to not hold back. I got to a point where I asked her to ease off a bit or to leave him but she kept asking for time and telling me that I wanted it this. She told me that she liked where things were and wanted us to continue as is- her being his and me getting the scraps and left over free time when he was no available to her.

At that point, I wasn't ready for that type of arrangement and decided to break it off. Years later as I reflected on it, I regretted it and realized that I would've been happy being her cuckold on the side while he was her primary man. If he and I would've gotten along, that would've been a feasible scenario for me but since we hated each other, I know there was no possibility of me formally surrendering her to him and continuing as the cuckold on the side.

Looking at it from a 2025 perspective, I am still open to try that arrangement again but with better structure/communication as well as with a man more compatible with the lifestyle and who I actually get along with. In theory I liked and enjoyed watching her date and transition into becoming his but due to him and I not getting along, it made it rough.

If my current GF started dating, I'd want her boyfriend and I to get along and become good friends just in case their relationship evolves, I won't feel so weird letting him take over my role as her man. If he and I are good friends, I'd likely be happy to see him take over and become her main man while I accept my role and become her cuck/secondary man.

Not sure that this counts as losing her for real but I've often thought about that scenario above. Living in poly household where my wife and her boyfriend are the main couple and I'm mostly a spectator but still get time with my wife to keep our intimacy and connection but ultimately the 3 of us know that she is his and we all like it that way.