Outed

[nick_mr]

Has anyone been outed here. How did you handle it ?

[surry]

What do you mean?

[nick_mr]

I mean people you know / family / friends/ neighbours have come to know of your lifestyle ( hotwife/ cuckold ). How did you manage it .

[ucaneffher]

Has anyone been outed here. How did you handle it ?

Here as in on OHW?

[fraktastic]

I think they meant " has anyone here been outed in real life"

[nick_mr]

Yes I mean in real life, not here as in OHW

[trecital]

Do you mean "deliberately outed", i.e. where someone has found out, and then told other people, even though they shouldn't have?

Or, do you mean where other people have just gradually found out, put two and two together, and it's become common knowledge?

[AZPainter]

If What you are asking is what I think you mean, yes, I was outed as a cuckold many years ago. My then wife was having sex with several of her co workers and I was unaware of her doing this but eventually found out as I have talked about in other threads. I am know sure the men she was seeing after work, she was a cocktail waitress, knew she was married to me. As an artist I also made posters for club bands and for special events the club might have, like on holidays, and especially New Years and Halloween.

Once I found out about her extra activities we had several in depth talks and we came to an agreement she could continue but I had to be told in as much detail as possible. It wasn't long after the agreement she brought men home afterwork, so they certainly knew then. I saw most of these men when I went into the clubs to talk about a new poster and when delivering it. It is hard to describe , but I did notice a little change in how they looked at me and treated me. Not bad, but I guess as a more beta male compared to themselves. Plus, sometimes comments about my wife and her looks. They were friendly but with that attitude in mind. I understood it and accepted it.

[canadianwittol]

I have been outed on relatively small scales but which have felt impactful to me.

First was my wife's best friend, which was negotiated up front. My wife did not want to live a "secret life" without being able to confide in her best friend. So she has known the whole time, and slowly over time they both began to divulge it to other women in their friend group. Most of my wife's closer friends know at this point. This part was not negotiated, but as it occurred over time it was like the frog in boiling water - I didn't really mind other than the first disclosure which took me off guard. At this point when I meet any of my wife's friends I would assume they know I'm a cuckold.

Next was our family doctor. This was also not pre-negotiated, but my wife admitted during a physical and in discussion about her birth control (this was a few years ago now) that she did have multiple sexual partners, and so while the world "cuckold" was never used in those interactions, my Doctor is aware of the fact that my wife cuckolds me.

At another juncture, my wife slept with a co-worker of mine who was under the impression that she was cheating on me so did not know that I knew, but certainly he too obviously knew, at least in the classical sense, that I was a cuckold as he was the one cuckolding me.

Finally, and recently, my wife went on a trip with her lover and his employees where it turned out that the wife of one of those employees just so happened to be our old dental hygienist and so she has most recently become aware of this as well. All of the other employees know the context as well, so I've been outed to all of them as well, but I do not know any of them save the hygienist and another woman who wanted to ask me about our lifestyle.

Aside from that, I try to keep it concealed. My wife tries to some level to keep it concealed, but isn't greatly concerned if people find out. Case in point, when she (intermittently) participates in Tinder and/or Ashley Madison, she has a full face photo on her profile, and her profile states clearly that she is married to a cuckold and that she is looking for NSA hook-ups. Whether or not anyone I know has seen her profile online and is thus now aware of our status and simply has not mentioned it to me is something I will never know.

But given all of the above, while I would not say I'm "out" as a cuckold, it is certainly no longer the closely guarded secret that it once was. When we started this lifestyle I would have considered anyone having knowledge of it a disaster. At this point, while I am not as a cavalier as my wife is about it, I don't really care greatly whether people know or not, although I remain secretive about it in my own day to day life.

[hornedhubby]

I was outed as a cuck wannabe and as submissive to my wife, N, when she was on a work trip in 2010.

This was a slice of time where we were both embracing the Queen/subby aspect of our marriage. She and two other close friends and co-workers were drinking wine and talking in N's hotel room. One of them, S, who happened to be the nosiest and snoopiest person ever, picked up N's open lap top and began looking at it, even dropping out of the conversation for 30 minutes or so. N thought S was just scrolling her Facebook page.

But when the two friends left for the night, N realized she had left her e-mail inbox open, including a long, meant-to-be encouraging and entertaining message from me, both celebrating my subservience to my wife and urging her to get an awesome, big cock fucking while she was on the road. Detailed and kinky. Please do him again in the morning before you take the plane home. Bring me the creampie! Hope he balls your brains out. Can't wait to eat your royal pussy!

S had almost certainly read that entire message and perhaps several others (the themes were in the subject titles) from me in her inbox. And chances were nearly 100 percent that she would share these outrageous contents with the other friend who had been present when they flew home together the next day. They were nearly best friends, and there was no way S was going to sit on a secret like this.

N came home and told me what happened. She also was nonchalant and said she didn't give a shit if they knew about our dynamic.

Frankly, being outed excited the hell out of me. I'd had many interactions with both of them prior to this. Even cooked a girl's night dinner for the three of them a couple times. Thought they liked me. Hearing what happened I fantasized about N ordering me to serve them in kinky submissive fashion the next time. And N seemed open to that.

So, before their next work trip together, about a month later, I encouraged N to try bragging a little about having a submissive and permissive cuck hubby. In an effort, first, to confirm that S had definitely read her messages.

N tried that probe. Unfortunately, S responded to N's vague query with an angry, jealous rage about her own horseshit marriage. This response made N feel guity and angry with herself and with me for pushing her to get confirmation. I got a lecture - an unpleasant lecture - about it that night.

So the outing, for me, was a complete backfire. Didn't really mess up N's friendship with S and P. It's still on-going.

But, honestly, since this incident, S has treated me like a perverted creep and P not as warmly as she once did.

And it blunted the momentum and high-water mark I'd nurtured in encouraging my wife to embrace her natural dominance and explore her sexual boundaries.

A bummer. Careful what you wish for, I guess.

[Long Lurker 34]

I have been outed on relatively small scales but which have felt impactful to me.

First was my wife's best friend, which was negotiated up front. My wife did not want to live a "secret life" without being able to confide in her best friend. So she has known the whole time, and slowly over time they both began to divulge it to other women in their friend group. Most of my wife's closer friends know at this point. This part was not negotiated, but as it occurred over time it was like the frog in boiling water - I didn't really mind other than the first disclosure which took me off guard. At this point when I meet any of my wife's friends I would assume they know I'm a cuckold.

Next was our family doctor. This was also not pre-negotiated, but my wife admitted during a physical and in discussion about her birth control (this was a few years ago now) that she did have multiple sexual partners, and so while the world "cuckold" was never used in those interactions, my Doctor is aware of the fact that my wife cuckolds me.

At another juncture, my wife slept with a co-worker of mine who was under the impression that she was cheating on me so did not know that I knew, but certainly he too obviously knew, at least in the classical sense, that I was a cuckold as he was the one cuckolding me.

Finally, and recently, my wife went on a trip with her lover and his employees where it turned out that the wife of one of those employees just so happened to be our old dental hygienist and so she has most recently become aware of this as well. All of the other employees know the context as well, so I've been outed to all of them as well, but I do not know any of them save the hygienist and another woman who wanted to ask me about our lifestyle.

Aside from that, I try to keep it concealed. My wife tries to some level to keep it concealed, but isn't greatly concerned if people find out. Case in point, when she (intermittently) participates in Tinder and/or Ashley Madison, she has a full face photo on her profile, and her profile states clearly that she is married to a cuckold and that she is looking for NSA hook-ups. Whether or not anyone I know has seen her profile online and is thus now aware of our status and simply has not mentioned it to me is something I will never know.

But given all of the above, while I would not say I'm "out" as a cuckold, it is certainly no longer the closely guarded secret that it once was. When we started this lifestyle I would have considered anyone having knowledge of it a disaster. At this point, while I am not as a cavalier as my wife is about it, I don't really care greatly whether people know or not, although I remain secretive about it in my own day to day life.

CW
- What about the GF's BF's and husbands? What sort of reaction from them if they knew?

[kellycuckoldsmark]

I have written about this before so will keep it short.
When we first started out and were on AFF our discrete photos showed enough for someone to join the dots
When we ended up meeting them they were my wife’s best friends parents and really good friends with her parents
Thankfully they were experienced and we had a great time with them for several years. He shared Kelly with a few of her dads friends.
So I guess we were outed but only in a positive way.

[tailchasers]

Yes we have. As swingers and as HW. We tightened our lips and moved on. Ignored those saying things. We made it "not a big deal" which stole their thunder.

[D+D]

Only to one person that I know of. I was on a site as a cuckold to solicit lovers for my wife. One guy I chatted with and who eventually became her lover turned out to be a man that we both knew well. They have been seeing each other for three years now. He is married so he doesn’t tell.

[Michigan1]

I am a wanna be cuckold and have kind of been outed as such to some of our friends. She has definitely outed me as having a small dick and not satisfying her to friends and some of her family but it’s usually in a joking manner and we both enjoy it.

[vmb69]

I actually outed myself due to a technical error on my PC. Was chatting with my wife about her new Fuck buddy, and we were discussing the cock cage, when whatsapp did an update and took the focus. I didn't notice and kept typing and hit send. This went to family friend, a very nice lady. Before I was able to realize what had happened she replied with "This is very interesting, I want to know more". The message was intended to my wife and mentioned how I had booked the hotel for them that afternoon and that I had already locked the cage.

[sml_peterBR]

Since we started in the cuckolding lifestyle, my wife always missed talking about her experiences with other women.
We were around the 10th month when she would have a trip with her sister and one her best friends, both singles. As she already wanted to tell them about us and to let her free to enjoy her trip, I've agreed she could do that. It was nice because she did got laid by another man during the trip.
Today there is another friend of her who knows.
They're all open minded people, we've never talked about anything related to it, but I admit since that I still feel a bit embarassed around them.

[Long Lurker 34]

I actually outed myself due to a technical error on my PC. Was chatting with my wife about her new Fuck buddy, and we were discussing the cock cage, when whatsapp did an update and took the focus. I didn't notice and kept typing and hit send. This went to family friend, a very nice lady. Before I was able to realize what had happened she replied with "This is very interesting, I want to know more". The message was intended to my wife and mentioned how I had booked the hotel for them that afternoon and that I had already locked the cage.

VMB69
- Like your family friend we too want to know more. What happened with this family friend, speaking with your wife, asking about your cage and other related things. Did anything ever come of it?

[vmb69]

I actually outed myself due to a technical error on my PC. Was chatting with my wife about her new Fuck buddy, and we were discussing the cock cage, when whatsapp did an update and took the focus. I didn't notice and kept typing and hit send. This went to family friend, a very nice lady. Before I was able to realize what had happened she replied with "This is very interesting, I want to know more". The message was intended to my wife and mentioned how I had booked the hotel for them that afternoon and that I had already locked the cage.

VMB69
- Like your family friend we too want to know more. What happened with this family friend, speaking with your wife, asking about your cage and other related things. Did anything ever come of it?

She told me she always knew my wife was in charge and that the message confirmed it. I told her to please delete the message and to please not say anything to anyone. This was a year ago. Since then she asked me a lot of questions, and at this point knows everything. The good thing is that she also has friends that were swinger's so wasn't shocked by it and she also goes to nudist theme places. She did ask me if she could see the cage, so I sent her Pic of the cage itself and then she said no I want to seenin use. So I sent her a Pic of it on me. She laughed and said she had guessed my wife needed more but never thought it was that small.

[LuvBoot]

My wife's whole family knows. It is just not talked about. When I met her her aunt was a mistress to a guy although she is still married and has two kids with her husband. It is a different relationship that my wife and I have together but that is what her family is familiar with.

[hornedhubby]

Sounds like you outed yourself to exactly the right person, vmb69. Pretty hot woman and a fitting friend for your cuckoldress.

Did either of you tell your wife about this outing?

Anyway, lucky you. Best wishes.

[Her number1]

I mean people you know / family / friends/ neighbours have come to know of your lifestyle ( hotwife/ cuckold ). How did you manage it .

Yes, some people we know have found out, and some at least have very strong suspicions. We manage it by continuing to be ourselves.

[vmb69]

Sounds like you outed yourself to exactly the right person, vmb69. Pretty hot woman and a fitting friend for your cuckoldress.

Did either of you tell your wife about this outing?

Anyway, lucky you. Best wishes.

I did mention that my text went to her but she is not keen on me talking about it too much. Since this family friend is an older lady and I know she would say anything I left it at that. But she does like asking me about updates

[mmcnx2]

Years ago I was a third for a couple, she was a very hotwife and he a bit cuckold. I had her bent over the back of the sofa, balls deep in her with him in a chair watching jerking off. Her mom walked in from the kitchen she had come into the house through the garage and we never heard her. The wife grabbed a towel nearby, hubby covered himself with his pants and I stood there with a hard on standing in the middle of the living room. Mom did a quick 180. Afterwards I guess daughter and mom had a chat and while mom didn't approve, she did say i looked like I was doing one heck of a job.

[Michigan1]

Years ago I was a third for a couple, she was a very hotwife and he a bit cuckold. I had her bent over the back of the sofa, balls deep in her with him in a chair watching jerking off. Her mom walked in from the kitchen she had come into the house through the garage and we never heard her. The wife grabbed a towel nearby, hubby covered himself with his pants and I stood there with a hard on standing in the middle of the living room. Mom did a quick 180. Afterwards I guess daughter and mom had a chat and while mom didn't approve, she did say i looked like I was doing one heck of a job.

That is so hot. I’d love to be the cuckold in that situation, I know my mother in law would laugh and bring it up in conversation once in a while.