Seeking Advice on Navigating Fantasies with My Wife and Friend

[hifive]

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for advice about a complex situation involving my wife and a close friend. We’re all in our 50s—I’m white, my wife is white, and my friend is black. This detail feels relevant as it plays into the dynamic of my fantasies.

My wife and I have been married for over 20 years and have a strong relationship. In the past, we explored Femdom dynamics, which aligned with my submissive tendencies. However, we’ve stepped away from those activities for a few years, leading to less excitement in our intimacy. Recently, we’ve started to rekindle that dynamic, and it has reignited some of my desires, including a cuckold fantasy involving my friend.

My friend, who is single and divorced, has expressed his attraction to my wife in the past. He values our friendship and is hesitant to act on these feelings, worrying about the potential consequences for our long-standing friendship. My wife, on the other hand, has been reluctant to explore this scenario but is aware of my fantasies.

We’re planning to visit him soon, and I’m unsure of the best approach. Should I encourage an open discussion between all of us to see where things lead naturally, or is it wiser to avoid bringing this up, given the potential complications?

I’d appreciate any advice on how to navigate this delicate situation with respect for everyone’s feelings and boundaries. Thank you!

[Wantsomefunto]

First make sure your wife is even interested in doing anything with him. Then if she says yes, arrange some time for her to be alone with him when you visit. Let it happen naturally

[Cdncuck]

Wantsomefun is correct. Before doing anything that could be embarrassing, make sure your wife is on board. If you surprise her or embarrass your wife or your friend, it won't end well.

[CuckedbyNikki]

You should consider having separate, open, and honest conversations with both your wife and your friend about their feelings for each other and their thoughts on your fantasies. Be clear about your desires, but also emphasize that maintaining healthy relationships with both of them is your priority.

If they are both open to exploring this dynamic, you could then arrange a casual, no-pressure setting where they can connect naturally. This could lead to a closer, more intimate bond between all three of you, ultimately strengthening your relationships.

Remember, clear communication and mutual respect are key to ensuring everyone feels comfortable and valued. If handled well, this could become an incredibly fulfilling experience for everyone involved.

[naivecuck2]

A potential complication is that your wife becomes addicted to sex with your friend and not with you?

After about 17 years of not seeing nor talking too a recently divorced, former high school boyfriend, that had sent a U.S.P. S. letter to her parents house, wanting to get reacquainted with her by asking her out to dinner at a high end, Chicago, suburban restaurant.

I gave her a "hall pass" before the movie and she left me and our two young daughters for a "reunion" dinner with some college girl friends at 5:00 PM and returned at 5:00 AM having fucked a guy with a bigger cock multiple times to orgasm.

She then fucked him 4-5 days per week while I was at work and our daughters were at school....I became a "pussy free" cuck.

after two years of cuckold angst and humiliation she is now my ex.

[MartasBoy]

Hi everyone,

My friend, who is single and divorced, has expressed his attraction to my wife in the past. He values our friendship and is hesitant to act on these feelings, worrying about the potential consequences for our long-standing friendship. My wife, on the other hand, has been reluctant to explore this scenario but is aware of my fantasies.

Like what CuckedbyNikki said:

You should consider having separate, open, and honest conversations with both your wife and your friend about their feelings for each other and their thoughts on your fantasies. Be clear about your desires, but also emphasize that maintaining healthy relationships with both of them is your priority.

I think he offers sound advice. Both of them are likely to feel embarrassed and self-conscious, if you try to have the conversation with them together.

Maybe you could meet with your friend first, over some drinks. Tell him how much his friendship means to you, and how much you trust him. Tell him that you would be completely comfortable with him sharing some passion and affection, and excitement with your wife. Let him know of whatever boundaries you would want, to make sure it feels comfortable for you. You could impose things like that they could have some passionate time together on an afternoon or evening, but no spending the night together.

Then tell your wife that you had an honest discussion with him, in which you made him aware, that you are aware, that he has a huge crush on your wife. Tell your wife how cute and sweet you think it is, that he adores her so. Tell her about how much you love her, and how much friendly affection you feel for your friend. Tell her that his crush on her doesn't make you jealous, but that it sort of warms your heart, knowing your dear friend also appreciates how wonderful your wife is.

Tell her that you love her and would never want to lose her, or encourage anything that would put your marriage at risk. But tell her that the thought of seeing two people that he cares about so much, enjoying passion together, leaves you with some heartwarming feelings.

Tell her that, if she were to ever feel interested, or curious about him, you would be okay, with some provisions. Then tell her also, that you would be comfortable only if it was some brief shared passion and affection, but nothing like spending the night, since that is something you would only want to occur in your special marital relationship that the two of you share. Let her know that this is not about wanting to see her do some toddry fantasy for you, but rather to see the two of them enjoy a mutual affection between them.

Then plan an evening at your house or his, someplace where they will have privacy and feel comfortable and relaxed together. Plan a fun evening of socializing. Then you can make a trip to the grocery store to buy all the ingredients for some kind of special drink, like bloody marys, or margaritas, or something like that. Go to the store and get lost for a couple of hours and leave them together to talk and flirt. When they have some time alone together, with both of them armed with the knowledge that there is some mutual attraction, and that you are comfortable with it, that is the time when something is most likely to happen, if it is going to.

[luvwives999]

Here is my experience. My fiancé, now wife and I discussed a 3-some. She had a particular friend of mine in mind, and he on more than one occasion mentioned how attractive my fiancé was. We are in his apartment one night, and he goes in the bedroom to take a work call, pre cell phone. She says to me, I want him to fuck me tonight, do we ask him or just start. I decided to ask, so I went into the bedroom and told him she wanted a 3-some, he turned us down. After we were married, he was over for dinner one night, I basically revealed her body to him after dinner, and we all ended up in the bedroom, and she got what she wanted. I always wonder what the outcome would have been if he walked out of the bedroom to my fiancé naked. I think it is harder for a guy to turn a naked woman he desires down. You can always discuss the consequences of what happened afterwards.

[MartasBoy]

...... I decided to ask, so I went into the bedroom and told him she wanted a 3-some, he turned us down. ...

I got little hints that my wife, and a good buddy of mine had a mutual attraction. He frequently told me how lucky I was to be with her. Whenever he and I were hanging out with some guys, and someone ask what my wife was like, my friend would just say how incredible she was and what a lucky guy I was to be with her.

At one point, he went through a tough breakup with a girl and hung out with us more because he was now single and lonely. My wife expressed concern for him, and was trying to think of all of her single girlfriends, trying to think of someone she could fix him up with. I heard her describe him to a couple of her girlfriends as really good looking, and sweet. When she didn't think I was listening, she told one girlfriend that he was a real sweetheart and a gentleman, and she imagined that he would be a really generous and considerate lover.

I told them separately, that the other had confessed to me that they were attracted. I told him that I thought my wife would be interested in a fling with him, and that I wouldn't be upset about it. I told my wife that he is always going on about how pretty and incredible she is. One night, after she had a couple of drinks, she expressed concerned about how lonely he was. She told me, that she thought his confidence had been blown a little bit by the breakup and she couldn't imagine why some meat woman had jumped his bones. She expressed concern about him being lonely. She said she felt like consoling him. She said that if she wasn't married to me, she would be happy to give him a thrill and help him get his confidence back. I suggested she should. I told her that I thought it would be really sweet if she seduced him, to help him get his confidence back. We talked about how much I cared for him as a friend, and I trusted him so much to respect our marriage, that I wouldn't be bothered if they hooked up. She told me that she would not want me to talk about it to the two of them, when we were all together, because she would feel embarrassed, and was certain that he would too. She said that it would have to be something that organically between them, when I was around, otherwise she would feel shy or embarrassed.

An opportunity presented itself a few days later. They were both talking about a new movie that had come out that interested them both. It wasn't kind of movie that I cared for much but they both shared an interest in it. I suggested that they should go see the movie together.

When my wife got ready to go meet him for the movie, I noticed her fussing about what she wore, and how she looked, like she would normally do for a date with me. I teased her about how thrilled he was going to be, to be out with her, the way she looked. As she left, I told her that if she didn't come home till very late, or the next morning I would understand. She just laughed it off.

After the movie, she called me and said that they were hanging out at his house having a great talk, and that I shouldn't wait up for her. She came home the next morning. They had done it.

[trecital]

Discuss with your wife first.

If she's on board, then discuss with your friend.

Good luck.

[sandy691196]

Discuss with both separately and give both your blessings if they wanna go ahead. Tell them you have no expectations from this trip for anything to happen. If something does happen, you will be happy for her/him. It it doesn't happen (tell your wife in a naughty moment. Don't tell your friend) you can at least fantasise and get hot! To your friend your tone would be Mother Theresa like - noble and kind and selflessly caring!

To your wife, it will be an extension of your usual cuck talk.. presenting it to her as a pragmatic opportunity to make something happen for real. Why him? Because he is safer than a stranger and wouldnt want to mess up your marriage (probably). No hide and seek or elaborate ruse would be required to make things happen.

Tell her if she wants to withdraw at the last moment too, just to make an excuse and give you a call. And work out an excuse for you to come in and make things easy with some diversion..

She is probably worried about the social aspect of playing with a friend. Tell her that playing with an unknown stranger can be more messy, if the guy is wrong. So it all depends on the guy.