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Hi all. This is an update on the post I made a while ago where I expressed my hopes for my girl to try someone else. Since then, we had a threesome in which I mostly just ate her out or held her hand. It was very exciting and my girlfriend expressed her gratitude at trying another guy, agreeing to try it again in the near future. (hot story btw)

That's all well and good, but my GF didn't know the depth of my fantasies that inspired the encounter. Rather, I had let her know over the months that I wanted to watch her and try something new. Despite her positive responses to that, I didn't go into cuckold dynamics and details which I really want to explore with her.

Typically she's very blunt whenever I bring something up, so despite being really open minded to sex and stuff, I find it hard to carry a conversation or understand her thoughts without feeling annoying.

I tried explaining what a cuck was to her recently (not a word of concept she had heard of before, bare in mind), and I got a "meh" response from her. I said that it's what I wanted to be while I showed her a bunch of porn and captions that I believed to show the concept but was met with silence. I said I was embarrased but wondered how she felt, and her reply was essentially a verbal shrug of '...if that's what you want. It's no harm'. And that was it. It didn't feel like she was interested or engaged by the idea. In hindsight, I have reason to believe she was stressed and not really in the mindset at the time to discuss such a thing, but it's worsened the anxiety I already had about this topic in general.

She's abroad now visiting her parents for a month or two, and I keep getting tempted to text her and get her clear thoughts on it, maybe explain the dynamic again and what she can enjoy from it. Lots of 'her-type' guys have been messaging on Fab and I'd love to connect her to one, such that she can dip her toes in the dynamic and build a relationship before a meet. But yeah, I'm just feeling nervous and uncertain about it all again.

I gotta remind myself we already went over that hurdle of her fucking someone, and she did that without a second thought. She's really enjoyed pegging me one time, and we even tried a chastity cage for a couple days after visiting a sex store. She loved that too. So like, not the freakiest jump in things to ask to be cucked, but still...

Do you think it is worth me texting her to clear things up? I guess aside from general rejection anxiety or feeling weird about the fantasy, I'm bothered that she wouldn't be excited for it even if she agreed. I really want her to be excited for it. From what I've read, it can just click for girls when they meet the right guy, so maybe talking to one of the guys that reached out could do that for her?

I think you are courting disaster in your relationship. The way you are going about it.

Pegging, fantasizing and an occasional 3 some are part of a couple's intimate life in bed. She was happy that you allowed her to try out a man in your presence, as a part of your sex life.
But what you are obsessively pushing for now is in a different genre. In her book, you are suggesting a parallel relationship for her.
Most women are freaked out by the implications of that. She will see you in a different light. And plan her future accordingly.

Btw, in that 3 some, did the guy fuck her bareback and cum in her?

wait til she returns, re establish your relationship and intimacy and take it slow. you are pushing it and bound for disaster

Absolutely texting her and keeping the thoughts open is the way to
Go- don't pressure her but bring up the opportunities to her in a
Slow fashion, her responses while being very horny off on her own away from home will certainly set the tone of her interest.
Let it simmer...your wife's willingnes to think deeper on the subject while away laying in bed along with the fun you both would have will better connect the dots....now's the time

I think the texting is the worst possible way of going about it. Whatever the subject, you know what it’s like when you receive a text. It hits you unprepared. You have no real idea of the tone of voice in which it was written. It is too truncated to be a real discussion. The text can arrive at an inopportune moment and cause a bad reaction.
I know that with the written word you get the chance of saying all you want to say and she gets the chance to gather her thoughts before having to respond. But if you choose your time for a conversation carefully, e.g.after supper and a few glasses of wine, I think you stand a much better chance of being listened to. Or maybe you can have some pillow talk over the telephone when you are away from home.
If you do write, then at least give her a teasing fair warning in advance that you want to talk about sex.

The experience of a lot of OHW writers in any events that they get a bad reaction the first time round but that the wife comes round to the idea after thinking about it. In your case, your wife is already a long way down the road. I would’ve thought that you could have a chat that built on that experience. And you can honestly say that seeing her have sex with somebody else was the hottest thing that you have experienced.

Leave her alone. From what you describe, while she doesn't show wild enthusiasm, she participated in pegging you and fucking someone else. She's shown very clearly that she's willing to try new things. If you push too hard you will look insecure and it may piss her off. Let her have her vacation without bothering her with your fantasy and pick it up when she gets home.

I'm with everyone. You have already planted the seed...hell, you've even acted on it. Definitely let her process all her emotions and thoughts about what you said.

It's by no means a light topic and just because she is not wildly talking about it or bringing it up does not mean she has completely forgotten about it. Chances are that she will bring it up when she is ready to talk about it, unless she has some type of avoidant personality, of course.