Update:
Hey everyone, I thought life would get less busy, but I was wrong. Mia and I have been doing really good. We haven't been using condoms as much while having sex which feels great. We alternated from using them and not, as I was still apprehensive and was nervous about getting her pregnant. The fear has gone down and so going raw has been super enjoyable. We've also been talking more about Justin. I have gotten her to be more comfortable comparing us. One thing I got the balls to ask that was super hot was while she was stroking my dick was for her to show me how big Justin was compared to me. She wrapped her hand around my dick while adjusted the size to what Justin's would've been. I didn't last much longer after that lol. All in all, our relationship has been good and was strengthened during her sharing past details.
I think I'm ready to move to the next step and bring up cuckolding. However, as I've brought up in other posts, I'm really nervous to bring up cuckolding. If you guys could tell me what went well when you brought it up to your women, that would be great. I've been overthinking this conversation for months so having some go to lines that you guys think would work would be awesome. Also, should I bring it up from a threesome angle or just go to cuckolding? That's one thing I've been thinking a lot about. Also, I need some cuckolding resources to show her to ease her into this. Obviously I can't show Mia this website as she would recognize these posts as being about us as well as some of the posts on here are a bit out there. Just come websites, articles, or anything that would be good to show someone new. I don't want Mia to be overwhelmed with information or scared off by the extreme parts of the kink. Thanks for being patient with my situation and for the advice so far.
Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
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Dream Weaver
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Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
My 2 cents. I was successful, it just took a very long time, and then she stopped it again, never to return.
I'm not saying this is definitively the best advice.
1. I'm hesitant to advise you to be so "open" with the word and concept "cuckolding". In the "real world" this type of bold honesty seems to fit best with a couple that ALREADY is into swinging.
Because you two are so young and inexperienced (wrt open relationships) I think there is a 90% chance it will freak her out and make it tougher.I don't think you can "introduce" her to it via websites or articles on the subject. The concept is radioactive.
2. We had the "cheating" conversation before we got married. I think most couples with any sense have this talk. It's the one where you tell the other person what you would do if they cheated on you. This is where I gave her the "hallpass", told her I wouldn't hold it against her, but I want to know. (Note - this is not a guarantee that she will actually tell you . It's more useful to set the tone.)
3. The "threesome" conversation seems like a nice step if you think she'll go for it, but I kind of think she has to have already showed some interest.
4. Be supportive if she shows interest in other men. Like if she gets a crush on somebody at work or something. Many girls won't admit this sort of thing, but some will. My wife was this type of person, honest about it. Let her know it turns you on!
5. I did the following. I told her something like "I have to be honest, based on on some of our pillow talk we've had, I've thought about it, and if you ever find yourself in a situation where you are attracted to somebody and want to sew your wild oats or try somebody out, I'll support you 100% but you have to, must must must, tell me, because that's the only way I'll enjoy it."
6. Once you have definitively brought it up, there's no need to keep bringing it up if she gives you a hard no. That's not to say she won't do it, but the #1 complaint you'll see from women is "he won't shut up about it". It turns them off. It's your fantasy, not her fantasy, and you can't make it her fantasy if it's not already. Maybe she's ready to slut out and you'll get lucky. But if not, be cool, not a pain in the ass, and be satisfied with the long game.
I'm not saying this is definitively the best advice.
1. I'm hesitant to advise you to be so "open" with the word and concept "cuckolding". In the "real world" this type of bold honesty seems to fit best with a couple that ALREADY is into swinging.
Because you two are so young and inexperienced (wrt open relationships) I think there is a 90% chance it will freak her out and make it tougher.I don't think you can "introduce" her to it via websites or articles on the subject. The concept is radioactive.
2. We had the "cheating" conversation before we got married. I think most couples with any sense have this talk. It's the one where you tell the other person what you would do if they cheated on you. This is where I gave her the "hallpass", told her I wouldn't hold it against her, but I want to know. (Note - this is not a guarantee that she will actually tell you . It's more useful to set the tone.)
3. The "threesome" conversation seems like a nice step if you think she'll go for it, but I kind of think she has to have already showed some interest.
4. Be supportive if she shows interest in other men. Like if she gets a crush on somebody at work or something. Many girls won't admit this sort of thing, but some will. My wife was this type of person, honest about it. Let her know it turns you on!
5. I did the following. I told her something like "I have to be honest, based on on some of our pillow talk we've had, I've thought about it, and if you ever find yourself in a situation where you are attracted to somebody and want to sew your wild oats or try somebody out, I'll support you 100% but you have to, must must must, tell me, because that's the only way I'll enjoy it."
6. Once you have definitively brought it up, there's no need to keep bringing it up if she gives you a hard no. That's not to say she won't do it, but the #1 complaint you'll see from women is "he won't shut up about it". It turns them off. It's your fantasy, not her fantasy, and you can't make it her fantasy if it's not already. Maybe she's ready to slut out and you'll get lucky. But if not, be cool, not a pain in the ass, and be satisfied with the long game.
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Hi,
I think you can approach the subject very simply.
During moments of excitement, you suggest the idea to her. Or you can talk to her about it during a discussion dedicated to this topic.
Just be sincere and don't pressure her.
Just tell her sincerely that you fantasize about what turns you on, and then listen to her to see if she likes it or not.
If she doesn't like it, you have to respect her choice.
If she likes it, you can arrange sex with another man.
If you want to have a threesome, you can suggest it to her; if you want to be a cuckold, suggest it directly. You'll adapt if she asks you for a threesome.
In any case, DON'T PRESSURE HER.
It has to be fun, and pressure kills fun. And then be honest and communicate, especially if there are any doubts; it's essential for a healthy relationship.
Good luck!
I think you can approach the subject very simply.
During moments of excitement, you suggest the idea to her. Or you can talk to her about it during a discussion dedicated to this topic.
Just be sincere and don't pressure her.
Just tell her sincerely that you fantasize about what turns you on, and then listen to her to see if she likes it or not.
If she doesn't like it, you have to respect her choice.
If she likes it, you can arrange sex with another man.
If you want to have a threesome, you can suggest it to her; if you want to be a cuckold, suggest it directly. You'll adapt if she asks you for a threesome.
In any case, DON'T PRESSURE HER.
It has to be fun, and pressure kills fun. And then be honest and communicate, especially if there are any doubts; it's essential for a healthy relationship.
Good luck!
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Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
If you want to open the discussion with her in a non-threatening way, you could try the “I had a weird dream last night and I don’t know why but it really turned me on “ approach. Or find an online story that fits what you want and tell her you find it hot and ask her to read it and let you know what she thinks.
User above is 100% correct, pressure is a killer! I made this mistake in the early days many times, it’s so tempting to push too hard.
User above is 100% correct, pressure is a killer! I made this mistake in the early days many times, it’s so tempting to push too hard.
Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
My suggestion:
[You]: "I had a dream last night. It was, Justin and you, you two were fucking, and you were loving it."
[Mia]: "Wow. What happened? Anything else?"
[You]: "No, I just woke up with a huge hard on."
If Mia asks more questions or wants to discuss, answer her. If she doesn't ask for more info, just leave it, the seed is planted.
[You]: "I had a dream last night. It was, Justin and you, you two were fucking, and you were loving it."
[Mia]: "Wow. What happened? Anything else?"
[You]: "No, I just woke up with a huge hard on."
If Mia asks more questions or wants to discuss, answer her. If she doesn't ask for more info, just leave it, the seed is planted.
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Wantsomefunto
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Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
I agree with the last post,
Tell her you had a dream she was being fucked and you woke up very hard with lots of precum and had to finish yourself off. Just say you don’t know why bot the thought of Mia having better sex with another guy is really turning you on now
Tell her you had a dream she was being fucked and you woke up very hard with lots of precum and had to finish yourself off. Just say you don’t know why bot the thought of Mia having better sex with another guy is really turning you on now
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Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
I agree with the i had a dream scenario and I'm not talking about MLK...
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hwlurker88
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Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
I think most are in agreement that the dream idea is the best baby step. Then maybe 2 weeks later you have a similar dream but maybe it has a few more details in it.
When she was giving you the hand job compariing Justin's size to yours, what was her reaction to the conversation/comparison? Did she comment/react to you having a quick orgasm from it? Did you share why it made you orgasm so quickly? I think it was a good opportunity to maybe have said something like "it was so hot to see your hand adjust to his size and I couldn't help but imagine you stroking and sucking and fucking his huge cock. When I imagined watching you doing those things with a cock bigger than mine, I just got so turned on I couldn't help but orgasm!"
When she was giving you the hand job compariing Justin's size to yours, what was her reaction to the conversation/comparison? Did she comment/react to you having a quick orgasm from it? Did you share why it made you orgasm so quickly? I think it was a good opportunity to maybe have said something like "it was so hot to see your hand adjust to his size and I couldn't help but imagine you stroking and sucking and fucking his huge cock. When I imagined watching you doing those things with a cock bigger than mine, I just got so turned on I couldn't help but orgasm!"
Re: Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help
Dream or wet dream definitely the way to go....you could even play it as embarrassed..."I know this is odd, but in my dream you were being fucked by this big cock, I was watching and you were telling me how much you were enjoying it, teasing me about how good he made you feel... and seeing you so turned on turned me on...."