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I never expected to be writing this but I'm just looking for some advice.
Over 10 years ago we discussed experimenting in the bedroom and I suggested we invite another man to our bed since I knew my wife would be pretty jealous if we had another woman or couple join us.
We discussed it, seriously thought about it and then my wife decided she didn't want to do it because she was worried about the potential consequences. I didn't push it further, we roleplayed the idea a little over the following year and then we moved on to work and family, and forgot all about it.

Then a few weeks ago out of the blue my wife asked me if I remembered suggesting we experiment with other men joining us which I did and so since then we've been discussing it again.
Why now after all those years? It seems to be down to two reasons.

Firstly, she recently turned 50 and she feels she's had quite a limited sex life. Actually she opened up about some of her fantasies, things she has thought about but never experienced. She's never had a black man, never had more than one man at a time (she likes the idea of experiencing a few men at once), she's never done anything really out there such as dogging or a sex club and hasn't been with a female since university. Actually she recently told me about a few things she did at university I never knew about, I think there's definitely an element of missing some of the adventure.
Secondly, she was out with a friend recently and she opened up about being a hotwife and her husband being a cuck. They haven't had sex for years, but she has a very active sex life it seems. This got my wife interested and it has been playing on her mind since which is why she raised it. She also admitted that I've never really sexually satisfied her but she never wanted to hurt my feelings about it. To be honest I never assumed I did, I'm not big and have always cum very quickly.

I asked about whether she likes the idea of cucking me like her friend and she does, although only if I want to be cucked. We talked about denial and chastity and these are both very much on the table, but only if I'm willing.

It was a bolt out of the blue after so long but we've had around a month to discuss it and I think it's something she feels ready for, something she needs to do even if it's only for a while, to experience it.

So I'm here to ask some practical questions.

Firstly, we're not spring chickens any more, my wife is 50 and keeps in good shape, but we're not a couple in our 20s. Are we too old for most bulls or is 50 an age we can still get involved and find good bulls? What about clubs and parties at 50? I want my wife to feel beautiful since she is body conscious at the idea of competing with young wives. My wife has a bit of an oral and cum fixation, are there clubs that cater for this as a particular fetish?

Is there anything we should read to make sure we're prepared and make it a fun positive experience? I've agreed to abstain from sex, are there any guides or places to learn how to be a good cuck and to help my wife to make the most of these early experiences? I just don't want to spoil things for her or any bulls who join her, and if I can help with clubs and parties and surprises like that then I'm sure it would be a nice surprise. I had a look on Amazon for books but didn't see anything that I thought would be a good learning resource.

Welcome to the forum CuckTrainee. You have it made and need to decide how you want to proceed. 50 is no old and you have a lot of time to play and explore. Better schedule a time away with your wife soon.

CT - Age is just a number - as long she is physically fit, works out regularly I am sure many younger (wo)men will find her very attractive. I like a woman who takes control of her sexuality and is willing to "own" it. Once suggestion would be for her to join the forum as well and become verified, so she can discuss with other women in the LS.

If you were to attend a swingers party you would find most people are over 30 and many couples in their 40s, 50s and even 60s. I know of a few people who didn't even start until they were in their 70s. I doubt her age would be much of an issue.

Just to give you an idea of how sexually active the older set can be, some seniors homes have higher rates of sexuality transmitted infections than colleges

CuckTrainee wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 28, 2025 12:17 am

I never expected to be writing this but I'm just looking for some advice.
Over 10 years ago we discussed experimenting in the bedroom and I suggested we invite another man to our bed since I knew my wife would be pretty jealous if we had another woman or couple join us.
We discussed it, seriously thought about it and then my wife decided she didn't want to do it because she was worried about the potential consequences. I didn't push it further, we roleplayed the idea a little over the following year and then we moved on to work and family, and forgot all about it.

Then a few weeks ago out of the blue my wife asked me if I remembered suggesting we experiment with other men joining us which I did and so since then we've been discussing it again.
Why now after all those years? It seems to be down to two reasons.

Firstly, she recently turned 50 and she feels she's had quite a limited sex life. Actually she opened up about some of her fantasies, things she has thought about but never experienced. She's never had a black man, never had more than one man at a time (she likes the idea of experiencing a few men at once), she's never done anything really out there such as dogging or a sex club and hasn't been with a female since university. Actually she recently told me about a few things she did at university I never knew about, I think there's definitely an element of missing some of the adventure.
Secondly, she was out with a friend recently and she opened up about being a hotwife and her husband being a cuck. They haven't had sex for years, but she has a very active sex life it seems. This got my wife interested and it has been playing on her mind since which is why she raised it. She also admitted that I've never really sexually satisfied her but she never wanted to hurt my feelings about it. To be honest I never assumed I did, I'm not big and have always cum very quickly.

I asked about whether she likes the idea of cucking me like her friend and she does, although only if I want to be cucked. We talked about denial and chastity and these are both very much on the table, but only if I'm willing.

It was a bolt out of the blue after so long but we've had around a month to discuss it and I think it's something she feels ready for, something she needs to do even if it's only for a while, to experience it.

So I'm here to ask some practical questions.

Firstly, we're not spring chickens any more, my wife is 50 and keeps in good shape, but we're not a couple in our 20s. Are we too old for most bulls or is 50 an age we can still get involved and find good bulls? What about clubs and parties at 50? I want my wife to feel beautiful since she is body conscious at the idea of competing with young wives. My wife has a bit of an oral and cum fixation, are there clubs that cater for this as a particular fetish?

Is there anything we should read to make sure we're prepared and make it a fun positive experience? I've agreed to abstain from sex, are there any guides or places to learn how to be a good cuck and to help my wife to make the most of these early experiences? I just don't want to spoil things for her or any bulls who join her, and if I can help with clubs and parties and surprises like that then I'm sure it would be a nice surprise. I had a look on Amazon for books but didn't see anything that I thought would be a good learning resource.

Dude, you are so right on to be perfect.

Before men and women marry, they should know what does and doesn't work for them.

Women who marry young will almost always regret experiences they didn't have.

My wife's future brother-in-law told me that he and his first wife opened up their sex lives before they hit their mid-20s. She did it all including gang bangs. But she did it for the wrong reasons. She sounded insecure. She wanted to be what she thought was the sexual diva all Southern California women wanted to be. She thought that if men wanted to fuck her, she must be hot and sexy. She fucked their friends' husbands, including the husband on their very close friends. He found out about it. He told her they were done with sex parties, wife swapping, extramarital sex, etc. She agreed to become monogamous. That lasted 3 days. She went right back to fucking their best friend's husband. That ended their marriage.

My wife knew that story before he told it to me. She said she sounded like the classic young girl who married young, had limited sexual experience, and wanted to be the girl that all men craved.

My wife brought home reading stuff he gave her to give to me. It was about how to enjoy sex beyond marital boundaries. A book about swinging and personal accounts of swingers looks to be interesting. Last night, I read a photocopy of an excellent article about gang bangs. It was written by women who had gang bang experience. They explained how to avoid a regretful gang bang and techniques to experience the best sex of women's lives during gang bangs.

Over 50% of women fantasize about doing gang bangs. Most of those 50% or more fantasize regularly about doing gang bangs.

I've never participated in a gang bang. Neither has my wife. However, she does fantasize about doing gang bangs. I used to think that a woman got naked, hopped on a bed, and dudes did what they wanted to her. According to that article, that was the way to not do a gang bang. There was a lot of info in that article that I never considered.

My wife was thoroughly sexually experienced before I met her. She knew what would work for her in marriage. She knew I had it the first night we had sex which was on the evening of our first date. The irony is the first sex act we did was her giving me the most incredible blowjob I ever had. That woman had oral sex skills that all men wish their wives had. Before I fucked her, I went down on her...a lot. She came many times. Later, she told me that I was the first man she fucked who was more concerned about her sexual euphoria than his own. She said that most guys just want to cum. She blew most of those dudes off as having little or no sexual experience.

Sexual compatibility is a huge component of keeping marriages together. Women and men have to know what is sexually compatible for them. Honest women will tell you that women who have had a lot of sexual experiences are most happy in marriage if they marry men with whom they're sexually compatible.

My sister-in-law was extremely sexually experienced when she married her ex-husband. He was sexually inexperienced and sexually naive. She thought she could teach him how to enjoy mind-blowing sex. For an unknown reason, he refused to allow her to teach him how to have the best sex of his life. Their sexual incompatibility was probably the dominant reason for their divorce. It was so horrific for her that she went out of her way to avoid having sex with him. Thankfully, she is going to marry a man who's 10 years younger than her but is completely sexually compatible with her. They both love sex.

I firmly believe that women should be thoroughly sexually experienced before they stand an altars and exchange vows.

Take a look at “Sex at Dawn” and “The Ethical Slut”, both are available on Amazon. And of course, the Internet abounds with cuckold videos on places like XHamster and Xvideos dot com. 50 years old is I think a pretty common age when women come around to the idea of expanding their horizons.

armyguyot1 wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 28, 2025 4:45 am

Welcome to the forum CuckTrainee. You have it made and need to decide how you want to proceed. 50 is no old and you have a lot of time to play and explore. Better schedule a time away with your wife soon.

Thank you, it's encouraging to hear that 50 isn't too old. I think we will do something like go away for a long weekend to meet a bull,my wife has been talking to several so I think we'll start small and away from home.

venus-can99 wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 28, 2025 6:55 am

CT - Age is just a number - as long she is physically fit, works out regularly I am sure many younger (wo)men will find her very attractive. I like a woman who takes control of her sexuality and is willing to "own" it. Once suggestion would be for her to join the forum as well and become verified, so she can discuss with other women in the LS.

A good suggestion, I'll pass it along. She isn't big with the Internet but it sounds like a good idea in this instance.

Tank Turner wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 28, 2025 1:26 pm

Dude, you are so right on to be perfect.

Before men and women marry, they should know what does and doesn't work for them.

Women who marry young will almost always regret experiences they didn't have.

My wife's future brother-in-law told me that he and his first wife opened up their sex lives before they hit their mid-20s. She did it all including gang bangs. But she did it for the wrong reasons. She sounded insecure. She wanted to be what she thought was the sexual diva all Southern California women wanted to be. She thought that if men wanted to fuck her, she must be hot and sexy. She fucked their friends' husbands, including the husband on their very close friends. He found out about it. He told her they were done with sex parties, wife swapping, extramarital sex, etc. She agreed to become monogamous. That lasted 3 days. She went right back to fucking their best friend's husband. That ended their marriage.

My wife knew that story before he told it to me. She said she sounded like the classic young girl who married young, had limited sexual experience, and wanted to be the girl that all men craved.

My wife brought home reading stuff he gave her to give to me. It was about how to enjoy sex beyond marital boundaries. A book about swinging and personal accounts of swingers looks to be interesting. Last night, I read a photocopy of an excellent article about gang bangs. It was written by women who had gang bang experience. They explained how to avoid a regretful gang bang and techniques to experience the best sex of women's lives during gang bangs.

Over 50% of women fantasize about doing gang bangs. Most of those 50% or more fantasize regularly about doing gang bangs.

I've never participated in a gang bang. Neither has my wife. However, she does fantasize about doing gang bangs. I used to think that a woman got naked, hopped on a bed, and dudes did what they wanted to her. According to that article, that was the way to not do a gang bang. There was a lot of info in that article that I never considered.

My wife was thoroughly sexually experienced before I met her. She knew what would work for her in marriage. She knew I had it the first night we had sex which was on the evening of our first date. The irony is the first sex act we did was her giving me the most incredible blowjob I ever had. That woman had oral sex skills that all men wish their wives had. Before I fucked her, I went down on her...a lot. She came many times. Later, she told me that I was the first man she fucked who was more concerned about her sexual euphoria than his own. She said that most guys just want to cum. She blew most of those dudes off as having little or no sexual experience.

Sexual compatibility is a huge component of keeping marriages together. Women and men have to know what is sexually compatible for them. Honest women will tell you that women who have had a lot of sexual experiences are most happy in marriage if they marry men with whom they're sexually compatible.

My sister-in-law was extremely sexually experienced when she married her ex-husband. He was sexually inexperienced and sexually naive. She thought she could teach him how to enjoy mind-blowing sex. For an unknown reason, he refused to allow her to teach him how to have the best sex of his life. Their sexual incompatibility was probably the dominant reason for their divorce. It was so horrific for her that she went out of her way to avoid having sex with him. Thankfully, she is going to marry a man who's 10 years younger than her but is completely sexually compatible with her. They both love sex.

I firmly believe that women should be thoroughly sexually experienced before they stand an altars and exchange vows.

Thank you, that's really helpful. I admit that I was surprised that she opened up about gang bang fantasies, that seemed unexpected, but if it's such a common fantasy then I guess it makes more sense.

I think we are sexually compatible in a sense. I mean we've always been fairly open together and while my wife generally has a higher sex drive then me, it isn't as if we haven't had sex when the mood has been right. Family never helps and I work a lot but I'm pretty good at picking up signals for when she is feeling frustrated and I will then take us away for a weekend or something. So we are compatible mostly and it hasn't been a problem, but I've always known she does get frustrated and has that higher sex drive. But when she raised this with me I didn't take offence and I think it's a good thing if I can help her to get satisfaction and play out those fantasies of hers that are most dear to her.

Jujube wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 28, 2025 1:51 pm

Take a look at “Sex at Dawn” and “The Ethical Slut”, both are available on Amazon. And of course, the Internet abounds with cuckold videos on places like XHamster and Xvideos dot com. 50 years old is I think a pretty common age when women come around to the idea of expanding their horizons.

Thank you, those are good suggestions. Actually I was aware of the Ethical Slut after someone else mentioned it to us a week or so ago, we were looking to order it at the end of the month. The Sex at Dawn book sounds interesting to.

And it's reassuring to know 50 isn't an unusual age to begin in the lifestyle.