ucaneffher wrote: ↑Tue Mar 11, 2025 6:15 am
Desiplayer wrote: ↑Tue Mar 11, 2025 5:26 am
since being converted bi few years back by wife
Question for you Desiplayer, do you honestly believe that she "converted" you instead of you already having dormant existing desires?
I have a theory that most people who are bi curious, bi, or gay have always been that without accepting or embracing it. In your case, you don't think that it's something that you wanted and just used the cuckold lifestyle as a way to deflect an existing desire and instead blame it on the wife "converting" you?
This is not meant to be an attack by any means. It's just that over the last couple of years, I've been noticing an increase in bi/gay related stuff in the cuckold forum (I've been in OHW since 2007 and the old one since 04) and feel that some of the men who become cucks already had curiosity for the same sex but disguise it or mask it with the pretext of making the wife happy. There's nothing wrong with being bi/gay, being a cuck, or both.
Everyone should embrace, enjoy, and live how they want to live. Hell if I had an option, I'd sign a lifetime agreement/contract to surrender my woman and settle for watching her cuck me hard with another man permanently. It's something that most people would disagree with but I would dearly embrace her completely replacing me while giving me just enough rights/benefits to make it worthy of me staying around/together while in reality she belongs more to another man than she actually does to me.
I feel that as long as I get the right amount of intimacy, friendship/connection, and inclusion to her sex life with another man so that I can masturbate along whether it's watching her, hearing her, or hearing the details, I'd be more than happy to settle for that life. She'd have another man as her main partner to take care of all her sexual needs and emotional needs, she'd have me for emotional partner, best friend, and support her relationship with him. I would have her as my female best friend and partner in crime, he would be my male best friend who I'm happy and proud to see become my wife's permanent partner, and I'd live the cuckold dream of knowing that another man has replaced me and has sex full time with the love of my life. We'd all be a team and we all win and get something out of our arrangement.
Sorry to go on a long OT rant.. hope it's okay.
I hear you when you say the feeling may have always been there, just hidden or repressed and it was uncovered by the wife or by the situations
But for me, it genuinely does feel like conversion
I've never had a bi/gay thought or curiosity, could never imagine being with a man or even just a cock. If anything the thought completely turned me off. Nothing wrong with being bi or gay, it's just not for me at all!
My wife and I have shared cuckold fantasies for many many years, which morphed into sph and humiliation play and tease & denial to pussyfree
But she got into MFM porn & then MMF bi-play & then MM gay porn, it really gets her going
Our sex life, (but not domestic life) is female-led and we practice a lot of denial play/pussyfree dynamics (not permanently denied but up to her when we do & it's getting more rare)
Our sex life was generally me masturbating to her humiliating me, which I crave and she gets off to her now gay porn
She introduced it to me & while it turned me off, she had me cumming to it (I was turned on by her being so turned on)
Over time I was desensitised to it & then it even began to turn me on
She'd have me given a BJ to her dildo & even got me my own set & id have a vibrating butt plug in my ass & giving a BJ to a dildo while she was making me cum to gay porn or cocks
Over yet more time I began to seek it out in private away from her & disappeared down a rabbit hole where I wanted to try it for real
This has gone on for several years and it's a permanent feature of me cumming now - often in ladies panties, with a vibrating butt plug giving a BJ to a dildo while looking at gay porn or cocks or even men while being humiliated by my wife
It has got to the point where I can't maintain an erection during the rare times we have PiV, but erection returns
So, I don't believe everyone has some hidden or repressed bisexuality - I believe some people can be encouraged or coerced into it given certain circumstances of denial even including intermittent nudity denial, and the gentle encouragement of a loving wife, over a longer period of time & me who craves denial & humiliation
Was I always gay but in denial or repressed? I suppose it's possible, but I strongly don't believe I was. I was only attracted to opposite sex both sex or relationships, now, except for my wife, it's the opposite with pussy turning me off and cock & men turning me on. Although I love my wife more than anything