She was too into it

[Alexander89]

We’ve had our first session recently and to put it bluntly it was intoxicating in every sense of the word. Only issue was her being so into it from the moment I helped him enter her, she just let go of my hand, and proceeded to wrap around him. It took me by surprise and I wonder if it’s something i should worry about?

[Cgb29]

If you started from a solid foundation and have good trust and communication, it's nothing to worry about. Every time my wife meets a guy, I want him to be her best ever. Her pleasure is why we do this.

On the other hand, if you jumped in without thinking it through, then yes, it's time to worry.

[coastalkid]

This is a tough spot because you really only had two potential outcomes, either she liked it or she didn't. Both outcomes have gravity. If she had a bad experience or an unimpressive one you would have been disappointed for both of you. Whatever your dreams and hopes are you are directly dependent on her experience to see them come to reality. On the other hand you had to prepare yourself for it being a successful first time and this would be uncharted territory for both of you again. All of your emotions and feelings are going to be new and potent, hers too.

You'll know more when you have some discussions with her. Not discussing it will leave you to your imagination and that can take you to dark places and dark thoughts.

[Johnann2227]

If you started from a solid foundation and have good trust and communication, it's nothing to worry about. Every time my wife meets a guy, I want him to be her best ever. Her pleasure is why we do this.

On the other hand, if you jumped in without thinking it through, then yes, it's time to worry.

Totally agree. We are in this lifestyle to bring our wives the most pleasure possible. This lifestyle should be, and is, all about our wives. If the sex is so good that your wife forgets you are there, celebrate it. That is supposedly what you want.

I, many years ago, realised that my wife's pleasure is my supreme goal. I have willingly encouraged her to fuck hundreds of men over the last 25+ years because it excites her. I now enthusiastically share our bed and house with her boyfriend on a permanent basis. I realise that I cannot compete with a man 17 years younger than me. A younger man who has a bigger cock and greater stamina. A younger, more muscular, more handsome man.
I have never seen my wife happier or more satisfied and I have never felt greater love and appreciation from her.

[slenderfish]

It's a swinging pendulum for each of you, and the swings are not usually exactly in sync. My example:

Beginning. You (usually the man) have the fantasy and keep it to yourself until your pendulum has swung so far that you finally share with her. At this point hers is as far from yours as ever.

Over time, hers begins to swing towards yours. Ultimately, hers also goes far enough to yours that she agrees to try it, and does it. You both assume they are in alignment. But they are not. In this case, hers swings past yours and you are suddenly left behind in the fantasy/enjoyment (comparably speaking). You didn't expect this and it's disconcerting.

But hers is on its own trajectory and all you can do is deal with yours. Either you try to catch up to hers, or you let your concern cause yours to continue to move the opposite direction from hers and you have increased distance/dissonance.

They will never be exactly the same, but you can do your best to try and keep up with hers, just as she finally attempted to keep up with yours and ended up swing past yours.

Hope this all is followable.

Net/net: This is what you wanted, I'm sure. It's an adjustment. Better that you need to adjust and manage your unexpected (concerning) results, than for her to have had unexpected (concerning) results and give it up altogether.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I don’t think it’s anything to worry about.

My wife is completely lost when her boyfriend is in her. She can think of nothing other than how good it feels.

That’s certainly no reflection on our relationship.

It’s a reflection of how utterly intoxicated she becomes when trying to milk her boyfriend’s nuts.

Amazing to watch, isn’t it?

[Aussiem]

My wife forgets I am there as her BF works her to orgasm. I love it, raw passion, her moans, his grunts, her eyes closed as she pushes up to his thrust. I can see how she is ecstatic with his cock deep inside her and all she is focusing on is getting him to cum in her. To me it is the most erotic thing I can ever see, far more exciting than sex for me. I love the look on her face as she achieves her goal and orgasms as he cums in her. Then finally she opens her eyes and smiles at me, seeing my hard cock and knowing I love her fucking and getting filled. If she wasn't into it with great passion I would be worried.

[naivecuck2]

It's very easy for the wife to become addicted to extra-marital sex and I am writing from experience....what I naively thought from the "hall pass" with a former high school boyfriend that I gave her to be one and done became daily while I was at work and our two elementary school daughters were in school. Two (2) years later we were divorced.

[luvwives999]

My thoughts on this are, what is the point of doing it, if you don't enjoy it.

[funfortwo]

When we started this dynamic, my wife "somewhat" reluctantly decided to give it a try. Within a few meetings, she REALLY started embrace how she was feeling. She truly enjoyed the "power" (in her words) she would have while her BF desired her. Their chemistry started to blossom, and she relaxed and would really become excited to entice him into longer and better sexual encounters with him. She went to great lengths to prepare for dates with him with purchases of new lingerie, spicy ideas for their dates, and having extensive preparation for their upcoming date. I've had the pleasure of watching her on videos with him and could see how she totally became hungry to please him and would have multiple rounds of hot sex, while admitting that she always wants MORE of his bigger cock. At first it was difficult to see the transition into a more empowered sexual woman, that would express her desire for him. She admitted that she does this now for both of us, but mostly for herself. She hasn't totally admitted that sex with him is "better" with him, but she admitted that she has truly become a size queen and enjoys his bigger dick. With a lot of discussion, I was able to sit back and enjoy the transformation.....It's what I wanted, but reality is different than fantasy. It just took a while for me to sit back and enjoy who she's become, but it's totally HOT once I realized I was never going to be replaced. Enjoy the ride....

[funfortwo]

When we started this dynamic, my wife "somewhat" reluctantly decided to give it a try. Within a few meetings, she REALLY started embrace how she was feeling. She truly enjoyed the "power" (in her words) she would have while her BF desired her. Their chemistry started to blossom, and she relaxed and would really become excited to entice him into longer and better sexual encounters with him. She went to great lengths to prepare for dates with him with purchases of new lingerie, spicy ideas for their dates, and having extensive preparation for their upcoming date. I've had the pleasure of watching her on videos with him and could see how she totally became hungry to please him and would have multiple rounds of hot sex, while admitting that she always wants MORE of his bigger cock. At first it was difficult to see the transition into a more empowered sexual woman, that would express her desire for him. She admitted that she does this now for both of us, but mostly for herself. She hasn't totally admitted that sex with him is "better" with him, but she admitted that she has truly become a size queen and enjoys his bigger dick. With a lot of discussion, I was able to sit back and enjoy the transformation.....It's what I wanted, but reality is different than fantasy. It just took a while for me to sit back and enjoy who she's become, but it's totally HOT once I realized I was never going to be replaced. Enjoy the ride....

[coastalkid]

My thoughts on this are, what is the point of doing it, if you don't enjoy it.

Bottom line!

[JeffBingham]

A very smart man once told me that the definition of happiness is when reality exceeds your expectations (conversely, unhappiness is when your expectations exceed your reality). We’re not yet in the lifestyle, but I’ve told my wife numerous times that I hope and expect that her first experience will be exactly as you describe yours.

I’ve told her that I expect and hope that her first time will be so much fun that she will forget that I’m even there because she will get so lost in the experience and pleasure/thrill. I’ve said that I want to hold her hand and kiss her when he slides into her, but that I hope it’s so good that she lets go of my hand and stops kissing me to start kissing him and to forget for a while that I’m even there.

I fully expect that moment to be a bit of a punch to the gut to me, but I want that for her and I expect/hope for it for her sake. 10 years ago when we first started talking about it, I probably would have had the same reaction as you. But we have grown so much since then that I have way more confidence in US that I am pretty sure I know how I will feel. However, I also know that reality is usually different from fantasy because there are 2 other people involved with real feelings and emotions.

Talk it through and let her reassure you of her undying commitment to you!

[whosbeensleeping]

I guess either you like it or you don't. If she likes it but you don't then for sure you have some talking to do.

[bradisalpha]

It is called New Relationship Energy (NRE) .. including the taboo and slutty nature of it, and can completely overtake a wife while her husband watches helplessly and (hopefully) enjoys it.

With the first entry of a Bull (BF) she is entering a world with no connection to the responsibility of her home life and family. It is a freeing time for her to enjoy her uninhibited sexual desires and she will let go completely.

That is what makes this lifestyle so exciting !! I would not worry about it if your relationship is solid.. I would complement her for enjoying her first experience and look forward to your next adventure together.

From my experience as a BF, I would worry if I was not able to draw that type of excitement and reaction from a hot wife !!

Just my thoughts…

Brad

[handye12]

It's a swinging pendulum for each of you, and the swings are not usually exactly in sync. My example:

Beginning. You (usually the man) have the fantasy and keep it to yourself until your pendulum has swung so far that you finally share with her. At this point hers is as far from yours as ever.

Over time, hers begins to swing towards yours. Ultimately, hers also goes far enough to yours that she agrees to try it, and does it. You both assume they are in alignment. But they are not. In this case, hers swings past yours and you are suddenly left behind in the fantasy/enjoyment (comparably speaking). You didn't expect this and it's disconcerting.

But hers is on its own trajectory and all you can do is deal with yours. Either you try to catch up to hers, or you let your concern cause yours to continue to move the opposite direction from hers and you have increased distance/dissonance.

They will never be exactly the same, but you can do your best to try and keep up with hers, just as she finally attempted to keep up with yours and ended up swing past yours.

Hope this all is followable.

Net/net: This is what you wanted, I'm sure. It's an adjustment. Better that you need to adjust and manage your unexpected (concerning) results, than for her to have had unexpected (concerning) results and give it up altogether.

I really like this explanation SF, Spot on in my experience

[masculinecuck]

My wife had never had a big cock before and it took me a year to convince her. Once she got his big cock a MAJOR transformation occurred. She went absolutely WILD. I've never seen her cum so hard and often, it's why now I've been her cuckold husband for 8 years cut off for 5.
It is what it is........

[Tamilcuck]

My wife had never had a big cock before and it took me a year to convince her. Once she got his big cock a MAJOR transformation occurred. She went absolutely WILD. I've never seen her cum so hard and often, it's why now I've been her cuckold husband for 8 years cut off for 5.
It is what it is........

I agree with you. Once the bug penis goes in, the wife is transformed. Going from my thin 3 inch penis to her first bulls thick 9.4 inch penis, I could see the change in her and how everything changed after that. If I could go back in time. I still would not change anything.

[bltn1966]

I got some great advice when we first became swingers.
A friend told me one day my wife there is going to be a guy that’s going to have my wife doing and saying things in bed that’s she’s never done with me. He said if I wasn’t ready to see that I better get out now. Boy. was he right. It took awhile for it to happen but when it did WOW!
I was hurt, turned on, jealous, fascinated…etc. But, I couldn’t get mad. It’s exactly what I wanted to happen.

One time my wife made a sex tape with a guy. She was very reluctant to let me see it. She practically beg me not to look at it. Then she hid in the bathroom while I looked at. I couldn’t understand her apprehension until I saw the guy giving her an award winning, life changing fuck. She thought I would be mad at her. I’ve seen her have sex before but not like this. She was relieved when I told her I’m glad she had great sex with another man. It was going to happen sooner or later.

[Tryagain]

We’ve had our first session recently and to put it bluntly it was intoxicating in every sense of the word. Only issue was her being so into it from the moment I helped him enter her, she just let go of my hand, and proceeded to wrap around him. It took me by surprise and I wonder if it’s something i should worry about?

My experience was the same. The guy was really hung and when he took his pants off she later said that she knew things would be very different than with me. We all got under the sheets together. he sucked on one tit and I sucked the other one for a minute. I could see her hand under the covers grabbing his cock right away.

Then she just turned toward him and they began kissing. THAT was the end of my involvement. needless to say, after he put about 2 inches in her she went crazy. after the first fuck was finished, she them grabbed his cock for another fuck, Then after that and a cigarette, she grabbed him again! They fucked so much that she asked him to finish up but he withdrew like a good guy. BUT she asked him to straddle her face and sucked him off to completion. It was all WAY too much for mer to handle at that time.

[brutay2]

Johann2227 is absolutely right. you only take your pleasure when you see, hear and feel her pleasure as another man takes her completely right in front of you with you helping.