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I don't mean exposed as in seeing it on TV or in porn but actually experienced it to some degree to be able to understand how it really feels.

As a teenager, my friends (like most I assume) would brag about how big their dicks were and how they were gonna fuck each other's mothers, sisters and girlfriends. It wasn't something I particularly joined in with, I didn't have any sisters, they'd never seen my mother and the only girlfriend I'd had no longer lived nearby.

At some point, one of them noticed I was close to a friend of my ex, she had ridiculously big boobs which made her a bit of a target for them when this subject came up. I didn't really care, they had no chance with her and I had no real intentions with her either. About a week later she sends me a messenger chat log she had with him where he had been progressively trying his luck with her, desperately trying to meet up with her. He didn't know her, had no reason to have her contact details other than to get one over on me.
She and I had a good laugh about how cringe most of it was but it was never mentioned again, I didn't dwell on it.

A few months later we're at the house party of the same guy's girlfriend. At the end of the night when most people had gone home, there were a few of us left, most asleep. His girlfriend starts making advances on me, fascinated with what's between my legs, stroking, caressing, eventually taking it out and accidently waking up her boyfriend in the process. The 3 of us were on the same sofa, it was clumsy, confined and she was laying across the both of us. I felt bad about what was happening but I think what he had done with my female friend was in the back of my mind acting as some kind of justification. I assumed when he woke up that he would flip and the situation would stop but he glanced over at her stroking my cock, paused for a moment then pretended that he was still asleep. She couldn't see that he had woken up and he couldn't see that I had seen him wake up.
I was so confused, I didn't know anything about cuckolding, couldn't even imagine such a thing existed.
I felt even less guilt though, he had chosen not to stop it so why should I stop her?
She continued to give me my first ever blowjob, him pretending to be asleep the whole time.
She invited me over the next night alone and I lost my virginity with her.
He and I never really spoke about what happened, he acknowledged that he knew but it didn't feel like something I should brag about.
Incidents like that seemed to keep happening with him and other girlfriends he had, it became like an unspoken norm that I would get with his girlfriends or girls he liked and he never protested.

There were 2 other friends (albeit not close friends) of mine I had similar happenings with and they reacted similarly, a blank expression, no words, no protest, just watched. I was still confused why they reacted that way but I now had some confidence that they were probably fine with it.
If I had to guess what their train of thought was it would probably go like: "Is this some sick joke?! Is that his real dick?! Surely she won't cheat on me? It looks like she's curious. I wonder what her hands would look like wrapped around that cock. Shit, I shouldn't be thinking like that. Why am I not stopping this? Why do I want to know how far she'll go with this? Why does it feel like I want her to wrap her hands around it? Maybe I'll just see what it looks like and then I'll stop it. Omg, she's going for it, her hands look so small. She can't help herself, what a slut, she loves it but I can't blame her. I can't compete with that. She's looking up at him like she's about to suck it. Why do I want her to? If she sucks it, I'll stop it for sure. Hurry up and wrap your lips around it... why do I want her to...? so I can end it... of course. Omg, her mouth is so stretched, she looks so fucking hot like this. I need to stop this now but first I just need to relieve some discomfort in my pants, oh fuck that feels good, maybe just a minute more."

One of them spoke to me a couple of months after and tried to deny watching it happen, he pretended that he just found out about it and it had caused their break up and tried to make me feel bad about it. That combined with me getting into a long term relationship meant that I didn't go through with these situations anymore.

Given that 3 out of 3 guys had reacted the same way and all of the girls seemed to go along with it as if it were some natural perk of being a girl, it's always made me wonder what proportion of people would be into it if they were to have a similar experience. If I and guys like me went all out to pursue situations like this, would more people be into cuckolding? Would that be a good thing?
I imagine most guys wouldn't expect themselves to react that way but wouldn't know it until they actually experience it. I also imagine that most women couldn't imagine their boyfriends could react that way unless they saw it for themselves.
Was I morally wrong to give those introductions/experiences? Or was it a gift? I guess you can't know until after.

being a cuck is a wonderful feeling most should experience!! I agree I'm sure a lot of guys would love it and all true women would embrace it if they can manage to have the courage to get what they deserve, when they want, anytime.

I wish I had tried more with couples, especially older couples when I was young, fit and good-looking. I think I might have had some success, especially since more people went out to pubs and clubs. Few men have this consciousness of both the availability of wives and the vulnerability of husbands. I didn't hesitate with married women who were out alone, but I would never have thought of trying with the husband or boyfriend present.

I have the sense of what it was like for the boyfriend in the OP. Years ago I was with my ex in Italy, and while we were sitting at the hotel bar one night a good-looking guy in the uniform of a colonel in the Italian army sat next to her and began to chat her up, completely ignoring me. This was before I was consciously aware of cuckold desires or she had cucked me as she did a few years later. I was annoyed but paralyzed to do anything. If he had proposed we go to his room for a drink and she said yes, anything could have happened.

As a teenager, I knew my friends were experimenting with multiples (threesomes, swaps, gangbangs, “reverse gangbangs” where a three/four/five girls pick a guy and fuck him together, as a harem). Unfortunately, as “the friend-zone guy,” I was never invited. This was well before cellphone cameras, so there was really only word-of-mouth rumors. (Can you imagine how much cum we teenagers spilled jerking off to thoughts of a buddy being fucked by a harem of hot girls all at once…wishing it was us…our buddy bragging about how it happened to him?) Multiple girls tended to be the standard fantasy for a lot of teenagers since it looked like all of our rockstars (Guns ‘N’ Roses, Motley Crue, Poison, etc.) were living that way, but there were always a few outliers like hubudig2’s friend in the OP who knew early on that an even bigger thrill was watching your girl cum on a friend’s cock.

In my more recent middle-aged years, I’d come to find out through my son at college that a lot of these sexual “shenanigans” continue happening almost every weekend in school dorms all across the country. (I went to a commuter college, so I missed out.) He told me all about it, I think, because (like his old man) he was “friend-zoned” and never got invited. (Like father, like son!) He was somewhat bitter about the girls never inviting him. He’s long past that “stage” now, out of college. Quite “normal,” but can’t believe men willingly let their wives cuck them. He makes disparaging side-comments from time to time, calling some politician on the news a cuck or something like that.

If he only knew that his own mother has his father happily cucked!

He’ll figure it out! At some point it will dawn on him that ‘Mom and Dad sure seemed to spend a lot of time with “uncle Anthony” when I was a kid.’

(Yes, son. Uncle Anthony was fucking your mother twice a week for 16 years! And I was standing next to them, happily watching and jerking! She has a new boyfriend now, since you’ve left the nest. Now, head off to your social group and find a girl who can get you started. Fall in love with her. Ask her to cuck you, and you too will understand! Once you taste it, you’ll never want anything else. Like father, like son, I imagine.)

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 6:52 am

Now, head off to your social group and find a girl who can get you started. Fall in love with her. Ask her to cuck you, and you too will understand! Once you taste it, you’ll never want anything else. Like father, like son, I imagine.

Wow...
So would that be your unspoken advice to him?
You think he'd be happier if he gets a taste for it?
Do you feel like he'd be missing out if he never experiences it?

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 6:52 am

Quite “normal,” but can’t believe men willingly let their wives cuck them.

How did that subject even come up? Some careful steering of subject of conversation by you?

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 6:52 am

but there were always a few outliers [...] who knew early on that an even bigger thrill was watching your girl cum on a friend’s cock.

Were you aware of these happening?
Were you into the idea back then?

Being a cuck is not for everyone. For me it's enjoyable because I am not able to satisfy my wife in bed because of my very small cock so for me it's enjoyable knowing my wife is getting what she needs sexually.

hubudig2 wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 8:02 am

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 6:52 am

Now, head off to your social group and find a girl who can get you started. Fall in love with her. Ask her to cuck you, and you too will understand! Once you taste it, you’ll never want anything else. Like father, like son, I imagine.

Wow...
So would that be your unspoken advice to him?
You think he'd be happier if he gets a taste for it?
Do you feel like he'd be missing out if he never experiences it?

Unspoken advice…..Yes. He’s 27 years old, now. We know he’s straight. (We’ve asked!) He lives on his own. He has a good job that pays the rent and then some, but he’s not really interested in hooking up with girls. He’s somewhat introverted. He likes to stream movies and various online series AND play video games when he gets home from work. He has a social group that he occasionally hangs out with to play board games once/twice a week, but he’s otherwise very content to stay in his apartment watching TV and playing video games. IF, by some miracle, he happens to hook up with some girl, I can almost guarantee that it’s going to be a FLR (Female Led Relationship) . He’s very content just being told what to do. He never complains. He just does it! (His tolerance for “putting up with shit” is exceptional!)

That said…..If he hooks up with the “right kind of girl,” I could very easily see him getting cucked. (There are almost certainly going to be occasions that open the door. The question is: Will she open the door all the way?)

I can tell you that consensual non-monogamy (cuckoldry, in our case) blew the top off of our relationship and opened up a world of amazingly good experiences.

I will not put it past my son and (hopefully?) his future wife to discover that monogamy is boring…….vanilla…..and that it often just doesn’t feel natural. He’s a pretty smart fellow. He’ll figure it out the way I did….and, I believe, my parents did before me.

If my son and his wife were to ever somehow breach the subject with me and my wife (highly, highly unlikely……and INCREDIBLY awkward……hoping it never happens, actually), we would explain that it has been a boon for our relationship, but that they’d need to be SOLID before they ever think about it. Communication is foundational. Ground rules would need to have a rip-cord for both of them….a parachute with a soft landing should one or both decide it was too much. And they would need to declare their unwavering primacy for each other under any and all circumstances. Beyond that, we’re talking about other details…..safe-words and expectations around participation. Condoms? STD testing? Watching/No watching? Etc.

If he and his wife remained “vanilla” for their entire marriage, I don’t think he’d be missing out on living a rich life with the woman he loves. Loving your wife/husband is a given no matter the lifestyle.

But I do think a couple’s relationship and marriage is highly enhanced (and immensely nuanced) by choosing to enter into a consensually non-monogamous lifestyle.

A metaphor: You can survive on Applebee’s, but wouldn’t you rather dine at a Vegas buffet?

(For those overseas, Applebee’s is a chain-restaurant in the U.S. Standard fare food….burgers, chicken dishes. Vegas buffets are notoriously “over the top” with vast offerings. They are THE model for modern gluttony! “Vegas” and “sin” are often synonymous. People go to Vegas to “sin!” Get drunk, eat, fuck, and gamble. It’s an adult playground. Tons of entertainment. A lot of fun, actually.)

hubudig2 wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 8:02 am

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 6:52 am

Quite “normal,” but can’t believe men willingly let their wives cuck them.

How did that subject even come up? Some careful steering of subject of conversation by you?

Our younger son (23, now) was a high school sophomore (2nd year) just seven short years ago.

He came home using the word “cuck” in a pejorative way.

As we all know, those teenage years are often very formative in how we understand the world. Social media has supplanted a lot of parental guidance. Kids (for the most part) are learning how to conduct romantic and sexual relationships at around 14 years old, and these days they’re getting a lot of their queues from social media.

Unfortunately, fuckheads like Andrew Tate have more influence than us parents over how our kids understand sexuality. (If you’re unawares, search “Andrew Tate.” He’s a fucking social media asshole who rapes young women….and then hires lawyers to get him off the hook!……..The kids loved him before all of the accusations because he exudes that “man’s man” mentality. They’ve sort of drawn away from him now.) It’s all about that toxic masculinity bullshit.

Anyways, on little occasions with my son (teaching him to drive, watching the news, etc.), he’d get mildly annoyed at something and call the annoying person a “cuck,” like it was something “that poor loser should be ashamed of.”

Of course, he had not (and, as far as I can surmise, still hasn’t) managed to figure out that his mom had been cucking me with “uncle Anthony” (her coworker whom we referred to as “uncle Anthony”) for about the previous decade before all of this…..About once or twice weekly, the wife would go over to Anthony’s house to get a thorough fucking while I stayed home with the kids to babysit and help them with homework. (I have been privileged enough to watch about once a month as the kids were sometimes with their grandparents or at friends’ houses for several hours.)

Being a classic cuck, you might imagine how it made me feel to hear my own son throw “cuck” around so cavalierly. It kinda hurt, to be honest, even if he didn’t know. But a cuck just has to come around and admit that this is part and parcel with being a cuck. Society views us as weak men. (The truth could not possibly be farther from the reality. We’re actually stronger than most! Think about it.)

He’s not part of the college dorm scene anymore, but he has said that sexual experimentation is the EXPECTATION there, and that vanilla couples are the exception. (“EVERYONE is swapping partners, Dad! It’s unreal!”)

We haven’t really talked about it over the years. The sting of hearing him bandy the “cuck” word about has worn off. He has moved on to other pejoratives.

And I don’t really think it’s appropriate to talk about our sex life with him. (I mean, although it’s obvious that he and his girlfriend are bangin’ it out from time to time, I would never ask them about their sex life!) Why would I? (Ick!)

hubudig2 wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 8:02 am

SheLikesWhenIWatch wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 25, 2025 6:52 am

but there were always a few outliers [...] who knew early on that an even bigger thrill was watching your girl cum on a friend’s cock.

Were you aware of these happening?
Were you into the idea back then?

As the uninvited one, I could see that there was MUCH more going on with the bigger picture than met the eye. Knowing that friends were swapping girlfriends (and that the girls were just fine with it) opened my eyes….that “rainbow parties” were not uncommon. (Rainbow party: Each girl wears a different color of lipstick. The fellows run around “collecting” different colors on their dicks……Again, I was never invited because I was always “friend-zoned.”) Sex was not so vanilla, after all, for many of my friends.

Maybe it’s why I was open-minded when, in my first experience, my good friend wanted to fuck his newlywed (just “minted” the day before) wife right in front of us……with the obvious end of wife swapping so we could essentially cuck each other. (We both agreed that there’d be nothing hotter than watching our wives moan and cum on another’s cock. My mind was BLOWN!!!)

I don’t know! But having seen it so much in my impressionable teen years seems to have softened the shock that “people are freaks!”…..that sex is super-diverse if you know where to look.

I know this much: My wife and I are better off for it all today. (She’s moved on from “uncle Anthony.” She has a new boyfriend now.) She and her boyfriend enjoy cucking me. I enjoy being cucked.

What more does a happy couple need?

Honestly I think most people are. Who hasn't been cheated or had a partner where you knew that being monogamous wasn't really expected. Even the dude who seduces the wife has to share that woman with another man.

Dream Weaver wrote: ↑

Sat Apr 26, 2025 10:17 pm

Honestly I think most people are. Who hasn't been cheated or had a partner where you knew that being monogamous wasn't really expected. Even the dude who seduces the wife has to share that woman with another man.

I don't think those things alone would be enough to trigger it for most guys. They could be optimistically disregarded or rationalised in other ways.
I've not experienced those things but I imagine being cheated on would just be upsetting unless:
- I realised that I would always rather accept her cheating than leave her for it
- I realised that she was cheating because other guys could satisfy her better sexually

I am sure there is a psychological predisposition to being a cuckold but in my case it was just a hard choice. And an evolution. My girlfriend, now wife began to cuckold me almost immediately. I was devastated. I cried, I conjoled, I begged, I ultimately left her. But I came back and it happened again and again. She just couldn’t seem to help herself. And I couldn’t live without her. She wanted me, but also wanted her freedom. Then a funny thing began to happen. I began to be aroused by her dalliances. We found our happy place and have now been married for 40 years. She is currently in Europe with a man we met through OHW. They just sent me pictures of them naked in bed together. I am so excited by that. I have evolved into a sissy. I wear panties most of the time. She considers herself a slut wife. We haven’t had sex in several years but she helps me masturbate sometimes. I am very content.

Dream Weaver wrote: ↑

Sat Apr 26, 2025 10:17 pm

Honestly Even the dude who seduces the wife has to share that woman with another man.

Good point An angle not often considered. Who indeed is getting seconds?

Along similar lines, the wife is keeping two men sexually satisfied rather out of the ordinary for the avg girl.

Dream Weaver wrote: ↑

Sat Apr 26, 2025 10:17 pm

Honestly Even the dude who seduces the wife has to share that woman with another man.

Good point An angle not often considered. Who indeed is getting seconds?

Along similar lines, the wife is keeping two men sexually satisfied rather out of the ordinary for the avg girl.