The end for us in the lifestyle?

[coastalkid]

Wow! Then she knows the dangerous game she's playing. What does she expect you to do? Of course she would miss her good thing. Now she knows you don't really have your own "good thing". I'll bet she acts a lot different when she comes home from a date now. I'll bet she doesn't share much about the details as much as she might have before. She's in a tough spot. She knows she can't do what you can do, let you have your fun like she's having fun. I just have to believe that she's not really having as much fun as would if she knew you were feeling happy and satisfied. Kudos to you for having the strength to let her play on. I think that will only drive home your point even more. I have hopes she'll see the light and figure things out.

[Tamilcuck]

Hello. Sometimes as the wife and boyfriend get closer, we may get pushed out. My wife is also not so into the actions with me but that is a turn on for me as a cuckold to a sexy wife. I don't even feel like asking her for more as I feel quite happy that she is in a long term relationship with her bf. Like they don't fuck that often, more sessions are soft tender lovemaking and that turns me on even more. I have adapted to them and my wish is to continue serving the 2 of them to make sure their love grows.

Sorry if this is not what you are wanting to hear. I do not mean to be disrespectful.

[coastalkid]

I'm hoping you're making some progress either with discussions with your or with yourself! Any updates?

[Anonymousrob]

I'm hoping you're making some progress either with discussions with your or with yourself! Any updates?

We are on vacation right now so saving some of that until we get back

[Bluetoed]

Thank you for creating this thread and sharing your experience.

It's easy for visitors to this forum to get a perspective that the lifestyle is all sunshine and rainbows, and that just isn't very realistic. This forum functions like this because it's far more enjoyable for people to share their ups than it is to share their downs, so the forum is flooded with the up posts. Not to mention the amount of fiction that exists here.

The reality is nearly everyone in this lifestyle had to, is, or will have to to, navigate through the ups and downs. Thank you for sharing your navigation through this down period. I am sure you will work something out.

[allways]

Time for you to kick ass. If you don't the marriage will be over.Compersion is joy at anothers joy. If you are locked out of that joy then the opposite is the cancer called jealousy. You can be a cuck without being a door matt.

[Bull4Oldrwives]

Excuse me, but where is the Bull in all this? Being invited into a marriage is a privilege and it entails caring for the marriage that provides the platform for me to experience incredible pleasure, romance, and excitement. That means caring for all concerned with the proviso that HER pleasure is paramount. A good relationship and communication between the Bull and cuck can prevent problems as well as provide the most intense and fulfilling relationship for the wife. Finally, I always remind the wife that the incredible excitement, pleasure, and romance we experience is intense as it is because it is taking place within the triad that has been created for her within the safe cocoon of her marriage.
This is another reason why cucks should be involved in vetting lovers for the wife with discussions between all three as to hopes and expectations.

[elina]

Time for you to kick ass. If you don't the marriage will be over.Compersion is joy at anothers joy. If you are locked out of that joy then the opposite is the cancer called jealousy. You can be a cuck without being a door matt.

Strongly disagree
And hopefully the couple has been able to have some good conversations during their holiday.....

Sincerely
elina

[Anonymousrob]

Time for you to kick ass. If you don't the marriage will be over.Compersion is joy at anothers joy. If you are locked out of that joy then the opposite is the cancer called jealousy. You can be a cuck without being a door matt.

Truer words have never been spoken

[Anonymousrob]

Thank you for creating this thread and sharing your experience.

It's easy for visitors to this forum to get a perspective that the lifestyle is all sunshine and rainbows, and that just isn't very realistic. This forum functions like this because it's far more enjoyable for people to share their ups than it is to share their downs, so the forum is flooded with the up posts. Not to mention the amount of fiction that exists here.

The reality is nearly everyone in this lifestyle had to, is, or will have to to, navigate through the ups and downs. Thank you for sharing your navigation through this down period. I am sure you will work something out.

I just wanted everyone to know it’s not all sunshine and rainbows!

[Anonymousrob]

Excuse me, but where is the Bull in all this? Being invited into a marriage is a privilege and it entails caring for the marriage that provides the platform for me to experience incredible pleasure, romance, and excitement. That means caring for all concerned with the proviso that HER pleasure is paramount. A good relationship and communication between the Bull and cuck can prevent problems as well as provide the most intense and fulfilling relationship for the wife. Finally, I always remind the wife that the incredible excitement, pleasure, and romance we experience is intense as it is because it is taking place within the triad that has been created for her within the safe cocoon of her marriage.
This is another reason why cucks should be involved in vetting lovers for the wife with discussions between all three as to hopes and expectations.

Thing is that I always am. I’m the first line. I always chat and discuss things with them way before they get to her.

[coastalkid]

Time for you to kick ass. If you don't the marriage will be over.Compersion is joy at anothers joy. If you are locked out of that joy then the opposite is the cancer called jealousy. You can be a cuck without being a door matt.

Truer words have never been spoken

There's a good reason why you feel this way.

[Anonymousrob]

I think after her next play date, I’m calling it and we will be finished with the lifestyle. I just don’t see this being able to survive long term as it is. It’s okay and we’ve had some great times, but I don’t think I can continue with it the way it is and with no effort to change things on her end, I think it’s time.

[coastalkid]

I hope she comes to her senses. I respect your choice. I've always thought a wife should be able to confidently say what her husband gets out of the situation. If she can't or struggles to answer that it shows how much of a disconnect there is. I feel badly about your situation.

[Anonymousrob]

I hope she comes to her senses. I respect your choice. I've always thought a wife should be able to confidently say what her husband gets out of the situation. If she can't or struggles to answer that it shows how much of a disconnect there is. I feel badly about your situation.

It’s okay. Don’t feel bad yet. If it turns rough after we drop, then you can

[coastalkid]

Did Rachel have another "play date" yet? The tension has to be building up inside you. What has her attitude and demeanor been like?

[Anonymousrob]

Did Rachel have another "play date" yet? The tension has to be building up inside you. What has her attitude and demeanor been like?

Her next play date will be when we get home from vacation. One of her bulls wants a threesome which she thinks sounds super fun. I’m kind of meh on the idea at this point. She is planning on doing that overnight still. I’m pretty uneasy about that but I promised her she could do it at least once. So we will see what happens.

[coastalkid]

Seems like you're hanging by a thread right now. I can imagine that any productive discussion feels unlikely to change things because "she's just not into" the kinky things you want. It seems like another one of those ubiquitous double standards. It's no fun for you if her hearts not in it, but not necessarily in reverse.

She has to know that it works the other way too. If your heart isn't into it I don't see how she can be having fun, or least as much fun as she could be having. I can only imagine the tension when she comes home from a date, knowing you feel the way you do. It has to be test of your patience.

I'm holding out hope that she sees things more clearly and realizes that you're worth stepping out of her comfort zone to give things an honest try. She has to know she's had a great experience (up to now) and she can change everything if she just tries. Fingers crossed for you!

[Anonymousrob]

Seems like you're hanging by a thread right now. I can imagine that any productive discussion feels unlikely to change things because "she's just not into" the kinky things you want. It seems like another one of those ubiquitous double standards. It's no fun for you if her hearts not in it, but not necessarily in reverse.

She has to know that it works the other way too. If your heart isn't into it I don't see how she can be having fun, or least as much fun as she could be having. I can only imagine the tension when she comes home from a date, knowing you feel the way you do. It has to be test of your patience.

I'm holding out hope that she sees things more clearly and realizes that you're worth stepping out of her comfort zone to give things an honest try. She has to know she's had a great experience (up to now) and she can change everything if she just tries. Fingers crossed for you!

I appreciate that. I think things will be fine. Probably boring but fine. I think it’s prob time to just call it because I don’t really see our situation improving on my end. I promised her she could have an overnight so I’m going to let that happen. Afterward, probably done with the lifestyle.

[coastalkid]

Are you sure about the overnight? I'm thinking about what Lookingforadventure said on your Jealousy thread. If you're going to call it done this may make things more difficult for you. The resentment that LFA suggested might occur is probably already in you to some degree.

I know for me resentment has been a monster for me. I've resented my wife for feeling like she robbed me of some of my best sexual years of my life. I've learned that resentment is first, unproductive, and second, unhealthy for me to carry in my heart. It made me want to ignore her sexually the way I felt like she ignored me. My resentment had grown into spitefulness. It took me longer than I should have let it to realize it was eating up inside.

I've managed to control my attitude. Things are much better for us now, still any time I struggle to get hard for her now that demon of resentment pops up and I have to fight it off.

No matter what happens, if you call it all off or if she concedes and tries to give you what you want (she has to be into it too, she'll have to convince you of it and that will be hard for her), there will be some "feelings" that will come out of YOUR decision. If you're leaning towards calling it off, it might be easier if you didn't have this one last time to deal with her emotions of ending it and your emotions of having your hopes dashed also.

I wish she had it in her to try for you, just try. I wish she saw your example of patience and compersion. I still hold out hope that she will think about your sexual desires as no different than her own. If she could do that maybe she could learn to enjoy making you happy facilitating your pleasure like you've done for her.

[Anonymousrob]

Are you sure about the overnight? I'm thinking about what Lookingforadventure said on your Jealousy thread. If you're going to call it done this may make things more difficult for you. The resentment that LFA suggested might occur is probably already in you to some degree.

I know for me resentment has been a monster for me. I've resented my wife for feeling like she robbed me of some of my best sexual years of my life. I've learned that resentment is first, unproductive, and second, unhealthy for me to carry in my heart. It made me want to ignore her sexually the way I felt like she ignored me. My resentment had grown into spitefulness. It took me longer than I should have let it to realize it was eating up inside.

I've managed to control my attitude. Things are much better for us now, still any time I struggle to get hard for her now that demon of resentment pops up and I have to fight it off.

No matter what happens, if you call it all off or if she concedes and tries to give you what you want (she has to be into it too, she'll have to convince you of it and that will be hard for her), there will be some "feelings" that will come out of YOUR decision. If you're leaning towards calling it off, it might be easier if you didn't have this one last time to deal with her emotions of ending it and your emotions of having your hopes dashed also.

I wish she had it in her to try for you, just try. I wish she saw your example of patience and compersion. I still hold out hope that she will think about your sexual desires as no different than her own. If she could do that maybe she could learn to enjoy making you happy facilitating your pleasure like you've done for her.

We will see. I gave her the 100% green light so we will see how it goes. Send good vibes on Thursday lol

[coastalkid]

Are you sure about the overnight? I'm thinking about what Lookingforadventure said on your Jealousy thread. If you're going to call it done this may make things more difficult for you. The resentment that LFA suggested might occur is probably already in you to some degree.

I know for me resentment has been a monster for me. I've resented my wife for feeling like she robbed me of some of my best sexual years of my life. I've learned that resentment is first, unproductive, and second, unhealthy for me to carry in my heart. It made me want to ignore her sexually the way I felt like she ignored me. My resentment had grown into spitefulness. It took me longer than I should have let it to realize it was eating up inside.

I've managed to control my attitude. Things are much better for us now, still any time I struggle to get hard for her now that demon of resentment pops up and I have to fight it off.

No matter what happens, if you call it all off or if she concedes and tries to give you what you want (she has to be into it too, she'll have to convince you of it and that will be hard for her), there will be some "feelings" that will come out of YOUR decision. If you're leaning towards calling it off, it might be easier if you didn't have this one last time to deal with her emotions of ending it and your emotions of having your hopes dashed also.

I wish she had it in her to try for you, just try. I wish she saw your example of patience and compersion. I still hold out hope that she will think about your sexual desires as no different than her own. If she could do that maybe she could learn to enjoy making you happy facilitating your pleasure like you've done for her.

We will see. I gave her the 100% green light so we will see how it goes. Send good vibes on Thursday lol

I already am and have been!

[Anonymousrob]

Are you sure about the overnight? I'm thinking about what Lookingforadventure said on your Jealousy thread. If you're going to call it done this may make things more difficult for you. The resentment that LFA suggested might occur is probably already in you to some degree.

I know for me resentment has been a monster for me. I've resented my wife for feeling like she robbed me of some of my best sexual years of my life. I've learned that resentment is first, unproductive, and second, unhealthy for me to carry in my heart. It made me want to ignore her sexually the way I felt like she ignored me. My resentment had grown into spitefulness. It took me longer than I should have let it to realize it was eating up inside.

I've managed to control my attitude. Things are much better for us now, still any time I struggle to get hard for her now that demon of resentment pops up and I have to fight it off.

No matter what happens, if you call it all off or if she concedes and tries to give you what you want (she has to be into it too, she'll have to convince you of it and that will be hard for her), there will be some "feelings" that will come out of YOUR decision. If you're leaning towards calling it off, it might be easier if you didn't have this one last time to deal with her emotions of ending it and your emotions of having your hopes dashed also.

I wish she had it in her to try for you, just try. I wish she saw your example of patience and compersion. I still hold out hope that she will think about your sexual desires as no different than her own. If she could do that maybe she could learn to enjoy making you happy facilitating your pleasure like you've done for her.

We will see. I gave her the 100% green light so we will see how it goes. Send good vibes on Thursday lol

I already am and have been!

Kind of feeling worse than ever about this whole thing. Had a strange realization today. Feeling like dog shit if we are being honest.

[Bluetoed]

Sometimes it's good to take a break. Maybe it will just be an "offseason", or perhaps a new season never starts. I recommend not speaking in absolutes about something your wife obviously loves, as it could make her defensive about it, which could escalate it and boil over.

[Anonymousrob]

Sometimes it's good to take a break. Maybe it will just be an "offseason", or perhaps a new season never starts. I recommend not speaking in absolutes about something your wife obviously loves, as it could make her defensive about it, which could escalate it and boil over.

If she refuses to budge and let me have any fun or leeway or even include me, why would I continue though? It’s hurting rather than helping the marriage I fear