Since being into this lifestyle, my ability to last inside my wife has diminished over time. I’ve tried to fight it and often been frustrated about it. But recently, I have learned to accept it and even embrace it. For me, the most important thing is that my wife is happy. I ask her if she minds If i cant last more than a minute and she says she is happy that she makes me finish. Unfortunately im not a cuck yet as my wife has never played with another guy. We play a lot with toys, she gets fucked long and hard with various dildos pretending they are different guys. We play with denial because “it’s no good” if i cant last longer than a few seconds.
I feel more comfortable embracing it and enjoying it than trying to fight it.
Interested to hear your thoughts:)
Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
Not quite sure I ‘embrace it’ but I have accepted it and use it and use it as part of the fantasy.
I used to never have this problem but my wife kind of slurred it in and now it’s just too late to turn back (or so it seems). My wife is not multi orgasmic, so once she has her orgasm, she’s ready for sex to be over whenever I’m done. I can sense she’s finished and often she has her orgasm thru oral, so no penetration has occurred. (We’re both ok with that as I 100% love performing oral on her…. But no, she doesn’t reciprocate). She always wants me to also have the opportunity to orgasm, but because she’s done, she wants me to have it as quickly as possible. She’s very efficient that way. So, I’m n some sense, I was trained to be a quick cummer.
To be honest, I find it embarrassing and depressing (and I have no humiliation kink, so it turns me off to be frank). So, I would rather use denial to keep the euphoria of being turned on going. My wife doesn’t understand it… she’s very utilitarian about it… she thinks the only point of sex is to have an orgasm and she’s frustrated if she doesn’t. I try to explain that I hate ejaculating so quickly because the drop off from arousal is so steep and quick am that it leaves me feeling bad. I’d actually prefer not to have an krgasm so I stay turned on and in a state of arousal. So, we have also turned to denial although she’s not particularly good at it. She plays along as best she can and has at least finallly embraced the idea me not always wanting to fuck her after. I need to balance that with givingn in and having an orgasm as my wife really likes to feel like she’s taking care of me too.
I used to never have this problem but my wife kind of slurred it in and now it’s just too late to turn back (or so it seems). My wife is not multi orgasmic, so once she has her orgasm, she’s ready for sex to be over whenever I’m done. I can sense she’s finished and often she has her orgasm thru oral, so no penetration has occurred. (We’re both ok with that as I 100% love performing oral on her…. But no, she doesn’t reciprocate). She always wants me to also have the opportunity to orgasm, but because she’s done, she wants me to have it as quickly as possible. She’s very efficient that way. So, I’m n some sense, I was trained to be a quick cummer.
To be honest, I find it embarrassing and depressing (and I have no humiliation kink, so it turns me off to be frank). So, I would rather use denial to keep the euphoria of being turned on going. My wife doesn’t understand it… she’s very utilitarian about it… she thinks the only point of sex is to have an orgasm and she’s frustrated if she doesn’t. I try to explain that I hate ejaculating so quickly because the drop off from arousal is so steep and quick am that it leaves me feeling bad. I’d actually prefer not to have an krgasm so I stay turned on and in a state of arousal. So, we have also turned to denial although she’s not particularly good at it. She plays along as best she can and has at least finallly embraced the idea me not always wanting to fuck her after. I need to balance that with givingn in and having an orgasm as my wife really likes to feel like she’s taking care of me too.
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namitha157
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Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
Do guys also have this problem when jerking of?
Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
In my experience, no. Or I’ve got much more self control to edge to the precipice and stop which I don’t have with my wife.
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namitha157
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Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
I've seen most guys don't last as long when having sex with me (anally), compared to the guys that jerk off or if I give them a blow job.
Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.
Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.
Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.
Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.
Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
I’m not exactly sure that’s what BD8 and I are referring to unless you mean that metaphorically and not literally. I don’t last long, but I certainly last long enough to get it out of my pants. But, my wife doesn’t have any problem with it as she’s already had her orgasm… the issue is more on my own end.namitha157 wrote: ↑Wed May 07, 2025 9:22 am
Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.
Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.
And I can’t say when I’m had more stamina I came any faster anally than normal. I’ve had some girlfriends that really enjoyed anal but I don’t think it was any faster or slower for me.
Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
PE is when a guy cant last more than a few strokes. Sometimes the first penetration stroke.
It is usually because he is too sensitive (new cock), too excited, or you are too tight/textured.
I remember you telling me you have only been having anal? So you can't really compare it to pussy sex. Hand jobs and blow jobs aren't as stimulating usually, so they are not a good comparison. Most of the guys I've been with usually cant last long in my ass. Mind you, my pussy is loose from all the fisting when i was in my teens. But generally i find guys cant last in the ass long, from the tightness and excitement. So the boys are going to loooove that you give them ass!
I actually think its kind of sweet when a guy cant last. It means i gave them an overload of pleasure.
They way they are embarrassed and disapointed that its all over is so cute.
It is usually because he is too sensitive (new cock), too excited, or you are too tight/textured.
I remember you telling me you have only been having anal? So you can't really compare it to pussy sex. Hand jobs and blow jobs aren't as stimulating usually, so they are not a good comparison. Most of the guys I've been with usually cant last long in my ass. Mind you, my pussy is loose from all the fisting when i was in my teens. But generally i find guys cant last in the ass long, from the tightness and excitement. So the boys are going to loooove that you give them ass!
I actually think its kind of sweet when a guy cant last. It means i gave them an overload of pleasure.
They way they are embarrassed and disapointed that its all over is so cute.
namitha157 wrote: ↑Wed May 07, 2025 9:22 amI've seen most guys don't last as long when having sex with me (anally), compared to the guys that jerk off or if I give them a blow job.
Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.
Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.
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Shadnaster
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Re: Who embraces their premature ejaculation?
I'm not sure embrace is the right word but, we've learned that it's part of it now. If my wife and I just have sex, I can last pretty well. If she had just come home from a date and is telling me about it, all bets are off. She doesn't mind though because sometimes she is just exhausted.