Who embraces their premature ejaculation?

[BD8280]

Since being into this lifestyle, my ability to last inside my wife has diminished over time. I’ve tried to fight it and often been frustrated about it. But recently, I have learned to accept it and even embrace it. For me, the most important thing is that my wife is happy. I ask her if she minds If i cant last more than a minute and she says she is happy that she makes me finish. Unfortunately im not a cuck yet as my wife has never played with another guy. We play a lot with toys, she gets fucked long and hard with various dildos pretending they are different guys. We play with denial because “it’s no good” if i cant last longer than a few seconds.
I feel more comfortable embracing it and enjoying it than trying to fight it.
Interested to hear your thoughts:)

[parklife]

Not quite sure I ‘embrace it’ but I have accepted it and use it and use it as part of the fantasy.

I used to never have this problem but my wife kind of slurred it in and now it’s just too late to turn back (or so it seems). My wife is not multi orgasmic, so once she has her orgasm, she’s ready for sex to be over whenever I’m done. I can sense she’s finished and often she has her orgasm thru oral, so no penetration has occurred. (We’re both ok with that as I 100% love performing oral on her…. But no, she doesn’t reciprocate). She always wants me to also have the opportunity to orgasm, but because she’s done, she wants me to have it as quickly as possible. She’s very efficient that way. So, I’m n some sense, I was trained to be a quick cummer.

To be honest, I find it embarrassing and depressing (and I have no humiliation kink, so it turns me off to be frank). So, I would rather use denial to keep the euphoria of being turned on going. My wife doesn’t understand it… she’s very utilitarian about it… she thinks the only point of sex is to have an orgasm and she’s frustrated if she doesn’t. I try to explain that I hate ejaculating so quickly because the drop off from arousal is so steep and quick am that it leaves me feeling bad. I’d actually prefer not to have an krgasm so I stay turned on and in a state of arousal. So, we have also turned to denial although she’s not particularly good at it. She plays along as best she can and has at least finallly embraced the idea me not always wanting to fuck her after. I need to balance that with givingn in and having an orgasm as my wife really likes to feel like she’s taking care of me too.

[namitha157]

Do guys also have this problem when jerking of?

[parklife]

Do guys also have this problem when jerking of?

In my experience, no. Or I’ve got much more self control to edge to the precipice and stop which I don’t have with my wife.

[namitha157]

I've seen most guys don't last as long when having sex with me (anally), compared to the guys that jerk off or if I give them a blow job.

Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.

Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.

[parklife]

Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.

Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.

I’m not exactly sure that’s what BD8 and I are referring to unless you mean that metaphorically and not literally. I don’t last long, but I certainly last long enough to get it out of my pants. But, my wife doesn’t have any problem with it as she’s already had her orgasm… the issue is more on my own end.

And I can’t say when I’m had more stamina I came any faster anally than normal. I’ve had some girlfriends that really enjoyed anal but I don’t think it was any faster or slower for me.

[sana9889]

PE is when a guy cant last more than a few strokes. Sometimes the first penetration stroke.
It is usually because he is too sensitive (new cock), too excited, or you are too tight/textured.

I remember you telling me you have only been having anal? So you can't really compare it to pussy sex. Hand jobs and blow jobs aren't as stimulating usually, so they are not a good comparison. Most of the guys I've been with usually cant last long in my ass. Mind you, my pussy is loose from all the fisting when i was in my teens. But generally i find guys cant last in the ass long, from the tightness and excitement. So the boys are going to loooove that you give them ass!

I actually think its kind of sweet when a guy cant last. It means i gave them an overload of pleasure.
They way they are embarrassed and disapointed that its all over is so cute.

I've seen most guys don't last as long when having sex with me (anally), compared to the guys that jerk off or if I give them a blow job.

Not sure how I would feel about a guy who just starts cumming as soon as he gets his dick out his pants.

Can't say I've encountered this before. But I've been told that guys feel more pleasure when having sex with a butt hole- so maybe it is natural or normal for them not to last as long.

[Shadnaster]

I'm not sure embrace is the right word but, we've learned that it's part of it now. If my wife and I just have sex, I can last pretty well. If she had just come home from a date and is telling me about it, all bets are off. She doesn't mind though because sometimes she is just exhausted.

[CTHotwifeHusband]

I can't exactly explain the correlation, but ever since my wife and I began discussing cuckolding (several years ago), my stamina has steadily declined, finally getting to the point (when roleplaying that she was fucking someone else) that I would come within minutes of entering her. Now that I am her cuckold, I have no control whatsoever--the other night I ejaculated before she had finished uncaging me. It was an intense orgasm (!!!) but underscored my uselessness as a lover.

I've also begun leaking in my cage every day, at all hours -- have others experienced this?

[Mr JnJ Doe]

I read this somewhere and sent it to my wife. I'm now on a 1 minute clock, if I can't cum within a minute I have to wait until next month.

Don't think about lasting, think the opposite. I...I want you to be quick.

I mean it," she said. "I mean it. It's not premature; it's exactly what you should do. It's premature for a man, not for you. The quicker the better. Don't try to be the man. Don't worry about that. Ever. Just...just let yourself go and accept it.

You want me to be premature?
She nodded. Just think, every time you're inside me, not how long can you last but how quickly can you squirt.

You mean that?
Embrace being feminine. We'll work on it.

How? I asked.
Trust me," she said, we'll make sure as soon as you're inside me, you finish. That's our goal, not to last longer like a man but to embrace premature ejaculation. Be feminine, not masculine."

I'll encourage you, I'll praise you.

[Jujube]

So does your wife want you to become a sissy while she makes you her cuckold? Does that excite you?

[Gmor]

I initially didn’t think applied to me but after reflection this is probably spot on of my situation.
A couple of things:

Im just a ‘wannabe’ (although I was cuckolded in a prior relationship and my now wife has had an affair – we have since reconciled).
I don’t think naturally, or at least earlier in my life I actually suffered from premature ejaculation. While I never had great stamina I would last around the low side of average – say 3-5 minutes of actual intercourse (and I would make up for this by being a very enthusiastic, regular and lengthy performer of cunnilingus).

While we are now successfully and happily reconciled the one area our marriage has always suffered (and hence her affair) is in the bedroom. Ive known from very early on that my wife was unsatisfied in bed and after much effort even my extensive oral sex attempts only resulted in boredom and frustration. She would later describe the problem as a ‘fit’ issue. When we reconciled my wife expressed tremendous remorse but also warned me that our sex life was almost certainly never going to resemble her affair sex and that we will likely resort back to what we were had pre her affair. This was very limited sex with me getting a hand job maybe 1x per week and her telling me a ‘story’ (she was aware of my cuckolding fantasy and would tailor her stories accordingly).

Even our limited attempts at actual intercourse became a negotiation. She knew I had needs, and perhaps she some sort of ‘duty’, but at the end of the day this was outweighed by her preferences which was for giving a handjob over intercourse. On the occasions I was able to convince her to have sex I would have to promise to be ‘very fast’. By this time we had already restricted all sex to missionary and I was always able to make sure I climaxed very quickly.

What started off as a joke about my ‘time limit’ of two minutes or less quickly became no joke but rather a hard requirement where she actually made me stop the one time I wasn’t fast enough. I soon became lightning fast, never lasting over a minute to where we are today. We now only having sex a handful or two per year and I literally only last a couple of pumps. She has joked that Im now ‘two-pump timmy’.

Twice in the last year on ‘special’ occasions (my birthday and our anniversary) she gave me a ‘hall pass’ and said I could go as long as I wanted (pump away to my hearts content were her words) and on both occasions, notwithstanding my real effort and focus to last a more normalized amount of time I was still only able to go my 2-4 strokes. This didn’t escape my wife’s attention and she commented that she thought I now a permanent premature ejaculator.

[Jujube]

I’m interested in how she described her “affair sex”. Do you two ever talk about it?

[Little96Jon]

Unfortunately I have a very small penis and I suffer from premature ejaculation. I feel completely inadequate when I cum within seconds of entering her. She often tells me how disappointed she is, which used to make me feel worse but nowadays turns me on because I know she can then justify having sex with another man.

[troilusand]

I absolutely embrace my PE! I have an average size dick, but a boy's size balls. So that, and my PE are much of what led to my feelings of sexual inferiority.

I'm so bad that when my wife Cressida said "Yes" to my proposal, she was saying to herself, "I love him, but he's so bad in bed I know I'm going to cheat on him eventually..." When she told me about that during pillow talk when I was trying to get her to be a hotwife, I asked what was so bad about fucking me? "You have PE. You cum so quick -- usually 2-3 minutes -- I can never orgasm. That's why I've cheated on you so much."

So I LOVE my PE! It allowed my wife to accept her whorish nature and cheat on me, which led to her hotwifing, which led to her polyamory. All of which embellishes my cuckold tendencies and makes me happy to be the pussyfree jagoff that I am!

I get all the pussy I deserve. NONE!

Troilus

[Tamilcuck]

I absolutely embrace my PE! I have an average size dick, but a boy's size balls. So that, and my PE are much of what led to my feelings of sexual inferiority.

I'm so bad that when my wife Cressida said "Yes" to my proposal, she was saying to herself, "I love him, but he's so bad in bed I know I'm going to cheat on him eventually..." When she told me about that during pillow talk when I was trying to get her to be a hotwife, I asked what was so bad about fucking me? "You have PE. You cum so quick -- usually 2-3 minutes -- I can never orgasm. That's why I've cheated on you so much."

So I LOVE my PE! It allowed my wife to accept her whorish nature and cheat on me, which led to her hotwifing, which led to her polyamory. All of which embellishes my cuckold tendencies and makes me happy to be the pussyfree jagoff that I am!

I get all the pussy I deserve. NONE!

Troilus

Hi Troilus. I fully agree with you. As a very fat husband with a slim and sexy wife I already had many strikes against me. Add in my 3 inch penis and cumming within a minute and mostly slipping out during sex, it allowed me to convince my wife to get her first bull and now, a long term boyfriend. It has allowed her to experience great sex and I am honoured to watch them during their lovemaking these past 12 years.

Many times while watching them, I have cum in my pants. It's funny for the 2 of them when that happens but I have told them that it is a tribute how good they are together that when watching them, I can't control myself.

[Aussiem]

The way I look at it, your tongue doesn't cum before your wife is satisfied. Use it. Then you can ejaculate .lick her to orgasm, it's an art worth mastering. Even when going for 2nds , go down get her off. Nothing beats feeling her orgasm on your face. Then you can slide in to a hot wet pussy and fill her

[Drakebelg]

My wife and now embrace my pe and total submission to her. I've gone through all my embarrassing sex moments and told her about them.

In september 2023 i m50 told my wife of 21 years about my cuckold wish because I knew i wasn't really able to satisfy her f54 properly.

Then it all came out. In short, from the very first time we had sex was disappointed due to me being too fast, submissive, not very skilled and a beta. Damn. I was already really fast but this made it much worse and she teased me about it.

So 1.5 years later I've been on and off in long term chastity, denial, flr, pussy free and close to her fucking other guys. We even did a few months pe training to totally destroy my stamina.

I feel sooo much better now and love that my wife is getting more comfortable and even starting to tell friends about my pe and her wanting to fuck others.
Life has been challenging but I'm very happy where we are.

[Drakebelg]

My wife and now embrace my pe and total submission to her. I've gone through all my embarrassing sex moments and told her about them.

In september 2023 i m50 told my wife of 21 years about my cuckold wish because I knew i wasn't really able to satisfy her f54 properly.

Then it all came out. In short, from the very first time we had sex was disappointed due to me being too fast, submissive, not very skilled and a beta. Damn. I was already really fast but this made it much worse and she teased me about it.

So 1.5 years later I've been on and off in long term chastity, denial, flr, pussy free and close to her fucking other guys. We even did a few months pe training to totally destroy my stamina.

I feel sooo much better now and love that my wife is getting more comfortable and even starting to tell friends about my pe and her wanting to fuck others.
Life has been challenging but I'm very happy where we are.

[Tamilcuck]

There are many good comments here from us who have PE. I think it is good that we come to terms with it. In most of our cases there is likely another who will help us by satisfying our wives for long periods. I only wish to last longer so that I am able to enjoy watching for longer without making a mess.

[Little96Jon]

There are many good comments here from us who have PE. I think it is good that we come to terms with it. In most of our cases there is likely another who will help us by satisfying our wives for long periods. I only wish to last longer so that I am able to enjoy watching for longer without making a mess.

I'm the same. My wife never let's me wank/jerk when she is having fun. Regardless of this I sometimes cum from just watching. I often wear a condom to avoid the mess.

[Tamilcuck]

There are many good comments here from us who have PE. I think it is good that we come to terms with it. In most of our cases there is likely another who will help us by satisfying our wives for long periods. I only wish to last longer so that I am able to enjoy watching for longer without making a mess.

I'm the same. My wife never let's me wank/jerk when she is having fun. Regardless of this I sometimes cum from just watching. I often wear a condom to avoid the mess.

That is a good suggestion. I have tried to wear a condom but not possible as my size is very small. I will use a small plastic bag next time. Same thing happend today when he came over. They were making love in missionary and their passion was so good I came in my shorts again and had to excuse myself