Vasectomy and the lifestyle.

[BD8280]

Hi all, very random one but a genuine situation to consider.

I’m 38 we have two kids and my wife is 35.
My wife had a pregnancy scare last week where she felt pregnant and the first test came back positive, it was a bit scary for us as we are not prepared at all for this or planning for it, my wife is on the pill. So the question has come up about me having the snip. We have both been mostly against this because there is a chance that if something happened to our relationship and I was to remarry there is still a chance I might want to have children with someone else who doesn’t have children.
This is a difficult decision for anyone I know but I would be genuinely interested to hear other people’s opinion on this. Obviously if i had the snip life would be easier for my wife and almost zero chance of her getting pregnant.
But there’s another issue. When I think about vasectomy it immediately feels like I am being emasculated a bit and makes me feel even more strongly about cuckolding.
We are not active in the lifestyle yet but I have been trying for years and my wife is fully aware of it, we play and laugh about it together i’m just waiting for the right guy to one day come along.

The thought of me having a vasectomy just makes me feel even stronger that she will have to have another man (who is fertile) who fucks her regularly, i feel strongly that me getting this procedure would push us further towards a cuckold relationship. I am not against this at all, its just an observation.

Any thoughts or experiences or opinions from others much appreciated as always.

[BD8280]

Sorry, it turned our she wasn’t pregnant.

[Guhunkadorn]

Don't. Maybe pick out some dildos to use during her fertile times...and/or slap on a chastity cage which could be fun and exploratory.

[Johnann2227]

I have had a vasectomy years ago and it hasn't been an issue. It was easier for me to get done and we definitely have finished having kids. In our swinger group of 6 couples, all of the hubbies have had the snip. We all play bareback so there is no chance of surprise pregnancies.
My wife's live in boyfriend has also had the snip since moving in with us. We both daily cum in and on her but just cannot get her pregnant. No issue for us.

[venus-can99]

Vasectomy can be reversed, the procedure is known as vasovasostomy. YMMV, success is not guaranteed, I would suggest discussing this with your PCP or Urologist - they should be able to provide a scientific unbiased opinion

[naivecuck2]

If you had a pregnancy scare, it seems to me that your wife should have a Tubal Ligation like my wife had before she cuckolded me?

[Buitenman]

You can put something on ice to solve the first issue.

[parklife]

Hi all, very random one but a genuine situation to consider.

I’m 38 we have two kids and my wife is 35.
My wife had a pregnancy scare last week where she felt pregnant and the first test came back positive, it was a bit scary for us as we are not prepared at all for this or planning for it, my wife is on the pill. So the question has come up about me having the snip. We have both been mostly against this because there is a chance that if something happened to our relationship and I was to remarry there is still a chance I might want to have children with someone else who doesn’t have children.
This is a difficult decision for anyone I know but I would be genuinely interested to hear other people’s opinion on this. Obviously if i had the snip life would be easier for my wife and almost zero chance of her getting pregnant.
But there’s another issue. When I think about vasectomy it immediately feels like I am being emasculated a bit and makes me feel even more strongly about cuckolding.
We are not active in the lifestyle yet but I have been trying for years and my wife is fully aware of it, we play and laugh about it together i’m just waiting for the right guy to one day come along.

The thought of me having a vasectomy just makes me feel even stronger that she will have to have another man (who is fertile) who fucks her regularly, i feel strongly that me getting this procedure would push us further towards a cuckold relationship. I am not against this at all, its just an observation.

Any thoughts or experiences or opinions from others much appreciated as always.

Ummm.. you’re 38, have two kids and I presume you’re been together a while and she’s not even a hot wife yet… but also worry that if you don’t stick together, you might remarry and desire to have kids with someone else?!?! Sorry, but color me flabbergasted. I’ve got two kids… I can’t imagine having more… and contemplating divorce as a possible justification for current health choices? I get it at 25, but not at 38… I mean, unless you’re already teetering on the precipice of divorce (which I would suggest this isn’t the place to be or fantasy to have) you’re at least a couple years away from divorce and then a couple years from finding a new woman and knowing enough to marry. Are you really contemplating being a new dad at 44/45 yrs old?!? I know it’s possible, but that’s crazy to even think about let alone plan for.


I can attest, my second child was born when I was 38, I got the snip soon after. I can’t imagine having a third. Had the snip because the benefits outweighed the downside. Yes, tubal ligation is possible…. But far more intrusive. Vasectomies are easy…. It has had no negative on my sex drive and no side effects t on my orgasm or semen. So, no reason to link it with being emasculated. That’s a ‘you’ issue you need to deal with. And if you can’t, again… this shouldn’t be on you’re fantasy list. If you worry it pushes you to desire the fantasy more, again… a ‘you’ issue.

I’m fully in support of having it done… zero negative side effects and no pregnancy scare from your end. That ease of mind should give you all you need for now.

[Guhunkadorn]

Since 'side effects' has been mentioned mine was a roughly 25% loss in ejaculation force beginning with my first ejaculation after the procedure and it's just decreased with age. I'm otherwise a very healthy guy, if you're in my shape at 58 you're doing great...so my Dr. tells me.

So my position on whether or not to get the procedure is a firm: DON"T GO THERE!

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Mixed feelings, here.

I’m 56. She’s 53. Two kids (now in their 20s). I got snipped almost immediately after our youngest was born because my wife’s pregnancies were BRUTAL. Her body did ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to try to extract the children. Bed rest for eight months. It sucked to see her wrecked for so long. (We thought the first one was a one-off.) She gave vaginal birth to each, so no obvious opportunity for tubal ligation. We didn’t want to risk another brutal pregnancy, so I went to get snipped.

But the psychological side of being not-potent has had an occasional effect on me. I swear other guys can tell somehow….and then proceed to hit on my wife…right in front of me. I know it seems stupid, but I often wonder if getting the snip changed the way I behave, or something. (Is it in my head?)

Then, four years after my snip, she started playing with a boyfriend. He was still quite potent. So, she started taking the pill again. No scares for us, luckily. That would have been a difficult one to explain to the family. (They were aware.)

About 10 years ago, she developed some problematic lesions on her ovaries, so her doc went in and removed them laparoscopically (just three small incisions).

Obviously, no possibility of a pregnancy now.

She continues to play.