Cuckolding / Hotwifing / Chastity and everyday life

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How does it all fit together for you?
Considering the dynamic of a cuck / HW, certainly from the porn perspective, it all seems rather intense and all encompassing, however life is rarely like that. If you are partakers in the lifestyle, how does it fit into your everyday life? Does the HW tease constantly commenting on guy she sees? Is the cuck more subservient generally, or is it an escape from their normal dominant personality?
Regarding chastity – I read that a lot of it revolves around the tease and denial of the chaste. Given that libido fluctuates, how does this work for you? IS it a 24/7 thing regardless of how horny you are, or does it come and go?
Curious to know your thoughts…

[Filou]

All of those things are good examples why you should not try to learn anything from porn.^^

Cuckolding, Chastity as well as a FLR are part of our life, so I might share a thing or two about that.

To share the most hidden secret first: If you are reasonable you make those things so that they fit your day to day life and your needs - no matter what you see in porn or might read about what other people are doing.

How do we make it fit our life ?
Chastity: I wear the CB 24/7, but compared to what you can read there are some more lockups for cleaning, sports or travel (have to do that on a regular basis due to business). But as we see chastity as trustbased anyway those lockups in between are no problem for us.
As well as mentioning your libido... it might depend on that you two want to make out of chastity and what you agree to. For us my wife acknowledges my needs and takes care of them in her own way. So I can not complain. However that does not mean that I get what I want when I awnt it. At least for us chastity so some small amount is also about sacrifice - so get to live with it.

FLR: That one is easy - as in almost every relationship she will have the last say. We discuss things and naturally I can voice objections, but once she has set her mind it's done her way.

Cuckolding: Well - more than anything else that one is dependent on our day to day life. We might be in a very privileged position to choose when we are working and whether we work from home or office, but we are very busy never the less for most time. So it might be that if she is in the mood and should find the time to meet with one of her playpartners up to 2-3 times a week (though that is very rarely done), but on the other hand there might be no 'date' for some weeks...

[submissivedanny]

I've been in a cuckold relationship for over 25 years. I was a cuckold with my first wife and now with my second wife. I am locked in chastity 24/7. Well when I say 24/7 it might not be accurate. My wife insists on my cage coming off every night for cleaning then it goes back on.

My wife doesn't use tease and denial on me although I don't have sex at all with her because that's saved for her boyfriend. Let me explain, I don't have intercourse with her but I am required to take care of her orally almost every night unless she's with her boyfriend.

My wife makes all the decisions in the home. She will ask my opinion and listen to me but she always has the final say. I am expected to follow the rules of the house and to complete my assigned chores on time and to her standards. Yes I do get spanked if I break the rules or don't get my chores done on time.

My wife usually spends the entire weekends with her BF. Sometimes they go away or sometimes she goes to his house and sometimes he stays at our house for the weekend. They do go away on a trip a couple times a year. When they are away on weekends or a trip I always have a sitter who comes and stays with me to make sure my chores are dome properly and to help me shave my entire body which I'm required to do every evening and the sitter has to clean my cage.

We have a great relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way.

[ticklemang]

I’m in 24/7 chastity but it gets unlocked all the time for cleaning and she also unlocks me almost every day for edging

[Cdncuck]

It's like anything else. You fit it in where you can. It would be great to play all the time but I suspect it would eventually become boring. We both worked so we had to make a living. When one or both of us came home from a busy day, neither of us was in the mood. Most of our play was done on weekends. Don't imagine it's much different than someone who's passionate about golf. They can't play golf all the time. They fit it in where they can.

When the kids were young I'd take them to the park or the movies when my wife was at home playing with a lover. I didn't get to watch as much back then but there were plenty of hot stories and cream pie.

[Cdncuck]

It's like anything else. You fit it in where you can. It would be great to play all the time but I suspect it would eventually become boring. We both worked so we had to make a living. When one or both of us came home from a busy day, neither of us was in the mood. Most of our play was done on weekends. Don't imagine it's much different than someone who's passionate about golf. They can't play golf all the time. They fit it in where they can.

When the kids were young I'd take them to the park or the movies when my wife was at home playing with a lover. I didn't get to watch as much back then but there were plenty of hot stories and cream pie.

[tosaintsfan]

Things evolve, change as life goes on. I've been in a cuckold relationship for 10 years, initially I was in chastity, but i am rarely in chastity these day's nor are we in a FLR.

There is no one size fits all and things evolve as I said. In the beginning, I wore a cage often, never 7/24, but frequently when we were apart or when she had a date. I never wanted humiliation in those days, now I like it to a degree. I was always there and often fluffed, now I am not usually involved. She used to sissify me, now never. She dated frequently, now only when the mood strikes, which isn't very often.

So don't rely on porn sites. They are a turnoff for many of us because of the extremes. Some on here, actually like being physically beated up by the bull, pissed on etc. That stuff turns me totally off, but if that's their jam, go for it. If you read this site as I have from the beginning of my cuckold life, you will see all types of variations. Pick what works for you and disregard the stuff that doesn't. There is excellent content here to guide you, and members that care. But at the end of the day choose what works for you and your cuckoldress

TO

[D+D]

I am a cuckold, sometimes in chastity, sometimes not. When not I get intercourse. When caged it changes me a lot. I become more attentive to her and much more obedient to her. We make major decisions together and equally but she has become dominant in our personal relationship. She exercises the right to see other men at her leisure, whenever and whoever. I usually know but it’s totally her decision. I never met many of the men that she has had relationships with which is quite a large number. Of the 70 or more men that she’s had some sort of sexual relationship or affair with, I might have known or met 10. I have participated as the cuck with a few of those 10, fluffing, sucking, and cleaning.When locked in chastity I provide lots of oral and receive lots of ball busting. None of our friends or family know about our lifestyle and appear publicly as just another happy couple (which we are), we’re just a little different is all.

[surry]

I've been in a cuckold relationship for over 25 years. I was a cuckold with my first wife and now with my second wife. I am locked in chastity 24/7. Well when I say 24/7 it might not be accurate. My wife insists on my cage coming off every night for cleaning then it goes back on.

My wife doesn't use tease and denial on me although I don't have sex at all with her because that's saved for her boyfriend. Let me explain, I don't have intercourse with her but I am required to take care of her orally almost every night unless she's with her boyfriend.

My wife makes all the decisions in the home. She will ask my opinion and listen to me but she always has the final say. I am expected to follow the rules of the house and to complete my assigned chores on time and to her standards. Yes I do get spanked if I break the rules or don't get my chores done on time.

My wife usually spends the entire weekends with her BF. Sometimes they go away or sometimes she goes to his house and sometimes he stays at our house for the weekend. They do go away on a trip a couple times a year. When they are away on weekends or a trip I always have a sitter who comes and stays with me to make sure my chores are dome properly and to help me shave my entire body which I'm required to do every evening and the sitter has to clean my cage.

We have a great relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I like the sitter part. My wife calls me her boy-husband, and her BF her Husband. My wife made up my bedroom as a boy's bedroom with Buzz Lightyear stuff. This is my bedroom. Sometimes I can sleep in my old marriage bedroom, but she likes her privacy. My wife is the boss, too. She will spank me, send me to my room, or make me stand in the corner. She does go away on trips with her BF using my RV. She does stay with him on some weekends. She has hired a babysitter for me, but not lately. I do chores for our home and her BF's place. Right now, it is 4 AM, and her BF is staying over since Friday evening. I will make breakfast for them. Sometimes I watch his kids when they visit.

[submissivedanny]

I also have a separate room that I stay in when my wife's Bf stays over. My wife has never allowed me to watch them having sex. She feels it private between her and her BF Yes I also do corner time before a spanking then again after the spanking to reflect on what I did wrong. After she calls me from the corner I have to kneel before her and explain why I had to be spanked and tell her how sorry I am and promise to be good.

My sitter is usually my mother in-law unless she's not available then it might be her sister or one of her friends. I really like it when my MIL is my sitter. Sometimes she will help me with my chores so we can watch a movie together. I also prefer my MIL shaving my private parts rather that one of her friends. I don't mind my sister in-law shaving me but a couple of times when my MIL was shaving me my little dick got hard and she jerked it off.

[Kate88]

I've been in a cuckold relationship for over 25 years. I was a cuckold with my first wife and now with my second wife. I am locked in chastity 24/7. Well when I say 24/7 it might not be accurate. My wife insists on my cage coming off every night for cleaning then it goes back on.

My wife doesn't use tease and denial on me although I don't have sex at all with her because that's saved for her boyfriend. Let me explain, I don't have intercourse with her but I am required to take care of her orally almost every night unless she's with her boyfriend.

My wife makes all the decisions in the home. She will ask my opinion and listen to me but she always has the final say. I am expected to follow the rules of the house and to complete my assigned chores on time and to her standards. Yes I do get spanked if I break the rules or don't get my chores done on time.

My wife usually spends the entire weekends with her BF. Sometimes they go away or sometimes she goes to his house and sometimes he stays at our house for the weekend. They do go away on a trip a couple times a year. When they are away on weekends or a trip I always have a sitter who comes and stays with me to make sure my chores are dome properly and to help me shave my entire body which I'm required to do every evening and the sitter has to clean my cage.

We have a great relationship and I wouldn't have it any other way.

How did she instruct you to do the chores, has she given you a to-do list or something similar? Does she spank you with a hand? It sounds like a great relationship. I'm thinking to be more assertive with my husband. He's not been very submissive but I feel like he should be working more at home, do some cleaning and chores. Also thinking about caging him and his little cock. We haven't done it before but we really should look into it. I'd prefer to decide on when his cage comes off and other than necessary cleaning he should stay always locked, with me having the key.

[submissivedanny]

My wife from the beginning made a list of chores that I am responsible for. The list has the day of the week she wants them done and they have to be done to her standards. .My chores have to be done on the day on the list or I will get a spanking plus extra chores to do. When she goes away on weekends she leaves me a list of extra chores to do to keep me busy while she is gone and she will check them when she gets home and they better all be complete or I will be spanked.

I wasn't real submissive at first but after a few spankings I became more submissive. She also have rules of the house I have to follow and if I break any of the rules I get a spanking along with corner time.