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Hi All,

I posted this question in the “Wannabe” forum but thought maybe you all may have some insights and experiences you might be willing to share.

I have been silently interested in hotwifing and cuckolding for about 6 years. I have been with my fiancée since college, so for 11 years, and we are getting married soon. We’ve been very vanilla up to this point, although she has said she’d like to talk more about kinks.

I’ve tried to inform myself as much as I can about the lifestyle, but still nervous to begin the small steps of raising the conversation with her. Just wondering, has anyone gone to a lifestyle-friendly therapist, even on your own, to sort out your feelings prior to raising it with your significant other? What has your experience been?

I’m also interested if anyone has experience with a therapist since being active in the lifestyle.

Thank you for any insights you might have.

I heard about "Expansive Connections" on a few podcasts, mostly done on Zoom. Also, the podcast Hump Day Quickies just had on a lifestyle therapist on this weeks episode. On Apple and all podcast catchers. Maybe check the episode out and check the therapists out online?

If I might offer some advice. If you're going to talk to her about hotwifing, I suggest you do it before you get married rather than after.

Yes talk to her before you get married. That what I did with my current wife. I printed all kinds of material from the web and asked her to read it. She was against it before I gave her the materials and after she said maybe it could work and we've been in the lifestyle ever since.