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My wife and I are in Vegas, and she has hired a Dominatrix for tomorrow that specializes in cuckolding.

This Friday will be four months pussy free for me, as she has a boyfriend who fucks her much better than I do. (There's another thread if you want the convoluted details.) But she's been struggling with the humiliation aspects of it. Not the denial, she's good with that. But the daily, casual cruelty that I enjoy, the negative attention that comes with giving up PIV.

So she decided, unexpectedly, to hire a Dominatrix for a 90-minute session tomorrow. She wants this woman to show her how to take charge, to humiliate, to take our sexual dynamic to another level. This surprised me, it's been hard for her to take on this role, even as she has no issues with denying me sex. But she says she really wants to learn to do it better, so we shall see how it goes. I'm a little nervous, but excited as well.

I'll let everyone know how it goes, probably Wednesday.

What a nice gift from your wife. Her effort to become more adept at delivering the ingredients that feed you kink is very special.

I hope you both enjoy the session and are able to use it like a trampoline.

Tell us how it went, please.

Best luck!

Definitely interested in the details.

I've noticed that small penis humiliation is high on the list of services provided by dominatrices to their male clients.

LongTermHubby wrote: ↑

Tue Sep 30, 2025 4:50 am

I've noticed that small penis humiliation is high on the list of services provided by dominatrices to their male clients.

It is, and the Dominatrix that she chose to hire specializes in cuckolding and small penis humiliation. The thing is, I don't have a small penis, I'm a little above average. What turns me on is when something is true, something is real. If I know she's lying to me, or even if she's exaggerating a lot, it takes me right out of the moment.

When she re-started her hotwife journey about seven years ago, all she saw were men that had one very specific type: super, SUPER skinny, but with domineering personalities. That's not me in either capacity. I'm not skinny, and I've never been dominating. This drove me crazy at first, because every single guy she met was like that. There was no variety. She had her type, and that's what she was going after. But it became very, very clear to me that her type was just not... me.

The thing is, my wife is naturally just such a kind person. She has had a hard time being cruel, so she didn't want to admit for the longest time that I did not have the body type or personality in bed that she was naturally attracted to. But when presented with the evidence, she had to admit that I was correct. This was a hard conversation, with many tears shed on both sides.

But like a lot of cuckolds, I have one superpower: I can eroticize pain and jealousy. I can turn it from a negative to a positive. And so that's what I did, and we began to incorporate cuckoldry into our sexual dynamic. On June 3 of this year, our 24th anniversary, we fucked for the last time for the foreseeable future, and her pussy has belonged solely to her current boyfriend since then. I still eat her out (she says I'm much better than her boyfriend at doing that) but that's all. She gives my penis no love at all.

But what's been missing for me from this dynamic is the ongoing attention. The daily affirmations of what I like to call the "casual cruelty" of the situation. If I'm going to lose what had been such an important part of our life, possibly forever, I felt like I needed more from her on a daily basis, to remind me of both how much she loves me, but also the negative attention that I can turn into arousal and get something out of the dynamic. As is often discussed on these boards, the worst thing for many cuckolds is just to be ignored sexually.

But she's had a really hard time being cruel to me, she's been having a hard time internalizing that for me, being cruel is a kindness. So that's why she decided to hire a Dominatrix while we were in Vegas. She wants a 90-minute session where an experienced professional can show her just how to be cruel, how to take charge of the sexual relationship, and to see how much that turns me on. The hope for both of us is that this session will demonstrate to her how much power she can have, and hopefully to enjoy the mocking, teasing, taunting cruelty that I've come to crave.

She comes over in eight hours, at 3 pm Vegas time. Wish me luck, because I am nervous as fuck.

You are a cuckold, and this means you are beneath your wife and BF. This means SHE DECIDES what she likes, not you. You are ruling from the bottom. Your wife is at the top. She decides. Read a female-led marriage book. Once you give up your place in the marriage and put her in charge, you have no right to decide. You can ask, but she can say NO! And you have to accept it, or it is not going to work. Both of you read a book together.

surry wrote: ↑

Tue Sep 30, 2025 6:18 am

You are a cuckold, and this means you are beneath your wife and BF. This means SHE DECIDES what she likes, not you. You are ruling from the bottom. Your wife is at the top. She decides. Read a female-led marriage book. Once you give up your place in the marriage and put her in charge, you have no right to decide. You can ask, but she can say NO! And you have to accept it, or it is not going to work. Both of you read a book together.

Thank you for your opinions. However, we do not have a female-led marriage, not at all. This is only about sex and eroticism. She does not decide on her own; it has to work for both of us, or it does not work at all. Every marriage is different, and I am glad you found what works for you.

So it was legitimately pretty awesome. The Dominatrix we hired (Aubrey) was very friendly and kind, and spent a lot of time with us talking to us (mostly my wife), listening to what we (she) were looking for, and helping my wife to get more and more comfortable in her role. A lot of things came out of that conversation, while I mostly listened to the two of them talk.

My biggest surprise of listening to them was not that my wife felt uncomfortable humiliating me or being cruel to me (surprise, surprise) but that she didn't feel like she had the words or the style necessary to express what it was that she was feeling. The breakthrough point came at this part of the conversation, while I was lying naked and caged on the bed and the two of them were talking at the foot of the bed. I'm going to try to transcribe it the best I can recall it.

Aubrey: "So how would you feel if you never fucked your husband again?"
Wife: "I honestly would have no problem with that."
Aubrey: "Why not? Don't you love him?"
Wife (not looking at me at all): "Of course I do! More than anything. But I want to save myself for my Dom."
Aubrey: "And does your husband want you to be happy?"
Wife: "...Yes, that's why we're doing this."
Aubrey: "Your husband has already told you that he is good with just giving you pleasure. Don't you believe him?"
Wife: "...Yes."
Aubrey: "Then I think you should trust him. Do you like fucking him?"
Wife: "I mean, yes, but it's nothing like my Dom."
Aubrey: "Is your husband good at eating pussy?"
Wife: "Oh god yes, he's the best, much better than my Dom."
Aubrey: "Your husband has agreed to this. So trust him. He can always use a safeword if he needs to. I want you to look at your husband, straight in the eyes, and tell him that you will never, ever be touching his penis again."
Wife (hesitating, then turning to look at me): "Hon, I love you so much. But I will never, NEVER again, touch your cock. It does nothing for me, I'm sorry."
Aubrey: "Now I want you to straddle his chest, look him in the eye, and tell him that he will never fuck you again."
Wife (straddling my chest): "Hon..."
Me (interrupting her): "Only say it if you mean it. Don't say it because Mistress Aubrey is here. If you're going to tell me this, it needs to be true, it needs to be honest, it needs to be because YOU want it."
Wife (without hesitating, leaning her face down to be inches from mine): "Never. Never. You are never going to fuck me again. You are never, EVER going to put your cock inside me again. That is reserved for my [Dom/boyfriend's name]."
Me: "Do you mean it? Are you absolutely sure and serious?"
Wife: "100%"

So that was it, the breakthrough my wife needed. She needed someone else, besides me or her Dom, to give her permission to take ownership of her own body and needs. It was incredible, it was passionate, and I felt so close to and in love with my wife. There were lots of other things that happened (mostly around me being tortured and pegged, and my wife learning a lot of techniques) but I don't feel the need to recount the specifics of all of that.

I can't believe we are finally here after all these years.

Dear Mr_Slapdash,

Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your experience here with your (amazing!) wife and the dominatrix (Aubrey) in Las Vegas. Congratulations on what sounds like an amazing session for you both! How wonderful that your wife took the initiative to book the session with Aubrey, and that it worked out as well as it did, with her important (and really erotic) declaration!

Thanks as well for your deft formulation of the cuckold superpower. (Right on!)

Hoping and trusting that you will enjoy (more and more!) your status as your hotwife's pussy-free husband. (Yes ... I too am pussy free now, and like you a result of developments this past year.)

You experience hits home. Wife has denied me her pussy for several years,but no problem for bf. When we play I often suggest she allow me a treat and allow me in her pussy. Answer is always no. I suggest a birthday or anniversary and still no. When I ask if this means never she is silent. I would guess that if we added a third party providing her with moral support I would hear "never".

You experience hits home. Wife has denied me her pussy for several years,but no problem for bf. When we play I often suggest she allow me a treat and allow me in her pussy. Answer is always no. I suggest a birthday or anniversary and still no. When I ask if this means never she is silent. I would guess that if we added a third party providing her with moral support I would hear "never".

How are you doing in your newly realized role of pussy-free cuck? Would love an update!

CTHotwifeHusband wrote: ↑

Mon Oct 13, 2025 6:20 am

How are you doing in your newly realized role of pussy-free cuck? Would love an update!

Going great so far. We've fully embraced the roles and I think this is here to stay.

Our sex life has been totally reinvigorated by this, and it's a great feeling. We might not have PiV anymore, but all the rest of it has been dialed up to 11

How much do they charge?

BCiym wrote: ↑

Tue Oct 14, 2025 6:07 am

How much do they charge?

Do you mean to ask what a dominatrix would charge, or are you referring to this Las Vegas based Dominatrix called Aubrey? Basically Prodommes advertise, so it is really not very difficult to find out what they charge. I don't know Aubrey, but my guess is that it will be money well spent, comparing it to putting your money on the betting table.

mr_slapdash wrote: ↑

Tue Oct 14, 2025 3:56 am

CTHotwifeHusband wrote: ↑

Mon Oct 13, 2025 6:20 am

How are you doing in your newly realized role of pussy-free cuck? Would love an update!

Going great so far. We've fully embraced the roles and I think this is here to stay.

Our sex life has been totally reinvigorated by this, and it's a great feeling. We might not have PiV anymore, but all the rest of it has been dialed up to 11

What does your new normal look like? If she never touches your penis again and PiV is off the table, what does that look like? Does she peg you for your release? Are you left to take care of yourself after meeting her needs?

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE THROUGH THE LOOKING GLASS!?!?!

We paid $800 for a little over an hour. There was no nudity, no sex with her of course, but it was worth every penny.

As far as the new normal, she pegs me of course, and I usually pleasure myself while she uses a toy on me or licks my nipple. But yes, my needs are my own responsibility, though she is happy to assist in anyway she can to help me get there, as long as she does not have to touch my cock.

Wow. That is so exciting. The website has issues with finding users posts. Would you be able to add link to your other thread in your profile? Would love to read about your journey

bufaker wrote: ↑

Mon Oct 27, 2025 12:05 pm

Wow. That is so exciting. The website has issues with finding users posts. Would you be able to add link to your other thread in your profile? Would love to read about your journey

bufaker wrote: ↑

Mon Oct 27, 2025 12:05 pm

Wow. That is so exciting. The website has issues with finding users posts. Would you be able to add link to your other thread in your profile? Would love to read about your journey

Sure here you go. I'm glad there are some people who are interested in my journey. viewtopic.php?f=6&t=75847