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So last year I posted that I thought my wife may have found a guy “friend” for doing things with but it never went anywhere because he never followed up on his end. He was her PT when she had shoulder surgery and she kind of dug him. He was 21 years younger than her. I won’t go into how I knew she liked him because it’s too long of a story. But they had a lot of mutual interests and I told he’d be perfect for her to have as a “friend” to kayak with etc etc.

This morning I brought it up again and asked if she’d be down for finding a friend for stuff like that and she didn’t say no. But the problem is finding a guy that she fancy’s. The choice of guys is up to her and her only. I mentioned to her that a young guy would be nice for safety reasons while kayaking (I hate kayaking and she knows it). But she also has the seed planted that if it went elsewhere I’d be perfectly fine with that also as I know I’m her guy and that it would not change that.

Has anyone had any luck finding an activity partner for their wife and if so where did you find him? I feel that unless the guy knows the husband is perfectly fine with it then they back off and I think that’s what happened with her PT guy maybe. She did tell him to call her to go kayaking if he wants but as said earlier he never did. She even went so far as following him on Instagram so that tells me how interested she was in him. He never followed her back and I don’t even think he gets in social media either any longer.

He was the best bet for her because she liked him. Another plus is that he lived like 5 miles from us. Really wish I could connect the two but no idea how as he is very private it seems.

JR1966 wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 05, 2025 4:48 am

So last year I posted that I thought my wife may have found a guy “friend” . He was her PT when she had shoulder surgery and she kind of dug him. ... ...

If he is a licensed physical therapist he can't date patients. He could lose his job and could put his license on suspension. If there's any chance that she would go back for additional PT appointments, she is still listed as one of his patients and he cannot have a personal relationship outside of work. I know that I quit going to my physical therapist, but they left my case open for a while in case I wanted to come back. She would have to make sure that her case with him is closed out, so she is officially no longer a patient. And, you would have to let him know in some way that you are okay with it.

If you had some way to run into him and have some kind of casual conversation like, "Hey, I know you. My wife went to you for physical therapy for a while sometime back. She said she really enjoyed her conversations with you when she was going. She mentioned that you're also into kayaking like her. Yeah, I feel bad that I'm not into it and don't do that with her. Hey, you should totally get together with my wife and go kayaking sometime. she would love to have it kayaking friend."

You would have to go out of your way to make him know that it's okay with you. Any licensed professional, who holds a license that is issued by the state, has to be careful about reports of impropriety. There's always the fear that if he spent time with a married woman, her husband would get mad and report him to the State Licensing board. That's how it often happens. She would have to be no longer a client, and he would have to know that there isn't anybody who's going to get angry and Report him.

Good point I never thought about that.