Kill Bill...Asking wife to dump BF?!?!

[afagehi7]

"...If she called him, why would he not talk to her and see what he can get, still why would you seek to destroy him for that?..."

He is very concerned about me talking to his wife. He does not want that. I don't want that. My wife does not want that. As a result of this "heat of the moment threat" he basically told my wife that he's out.

In other words, giving an ultimatum had the exact result that was intended, which was probably good for everyone. Sort of like how the "mutually assured destruction" threats the super-powers made to each other during the Cold War worked. They kept both sides from hurting each other.

Ulimatums are a little unpleasant, but have a place in the world. One reason that we choose to seek married men was because we did want guys that were not looking for a wife and had something to lose if they did get jump off the tracks.

Excellent reading! I think you actually dodged a potentially larger problem with those 2. The sneaking and lying wouldn't have gotten better, only worse.

Sometimes you have to be an asshole. It's the only way for them to hear you clearly and cut through the bullshit. It's unfortunate but a fact of life. Like you, I give 3 strikes before the asshole comes out. I try nice first. Funny, after asshole comes out they're like "you could have asked nice" reaffirming that asshole was the only way to be heard. Luckily in my marriage, it's rare this has to happen.

Bump

I was just thinking of SM, any idea if he's still around?

Yes, read his thread about being double cucked. He had a GF and his wife a BF but he ended up sharing the GF too so he was being double cucked! He is living our dream

[veub]

They were back with Bill within weeks. All his blustering meant nothing.
They did eventually break up with him but it was a long time later.

[afagehi7]

They were back with Bill within weeks. All his blustering meant nothing.
They did eventually break up with him but it was a long time later.

Well smack me and call me Sally. So much for that.

[Iamtheman]

Pretty sure that Samanthasman pulled the nuclear option and went to Bill's family to rat out his escapades. Bill divorced his wife, but peaced out of the relationship with Samantha. Not sure what Samanthasman or Samantha are up to anymore. Right before he dropped off this board, Samanthasman had taken on a lover of his own. So it seemed like Sam'sMan and Samantha were in more of a polyamorous relationship. Which, if that is the case, would explain why he's not here anymore. I get the feeling that Samantha enjoyed her time as a hotwife, but really was just looking for one or two main BFs outside of her marriage. Sam'sMan wanted her to have more casual arrangements. No idea where they're all at now. This just how I know it played out at the end.

[veub]

There were two follow-up threads about the recurring relationship with Bill that were deleted.
Apparently from a post 2 years ago his girlfriend moved in with them and both she and Samantha are now pursuing extra-curricular activities.

[Iamtheman]

I'm sure that Samantha has a boyfriend. She wasn't content in the marriage, but preferred a boyfriend rather than casual lovers. SamsMan's girlfriend is thoroughly a part of their life and business. I'm not sure if she's seeing other men or not. I know he talked about wanting it but I'd be surprised if that's the case. I haven't seen them in years.

[veub]

He just posted the other day.

[Samanthasman]

There were two follow-up threads about the recurring relationship with Bill that were deleted.
Apparently from a post 2 years ago his girlfriend moved in with them and both she and Samantha are now pursuing extra-curricular activities.

The other posts were not deleted. Unfortunately, on this site, any thread where nobody comments for over 6 months gets automatically deleted. Those threads just timed out. This one was saved because it was posted/moved into the library. This was the original post and really shows all that we went though when we started this lifestyle.

[Samanthasman]

I'm sure that Samantha has a boyfriend. She wasn't content in the marriage, but preferred a boyfriend rather than casual lovers. SamsMan's girlfriend is thoroughly a part of their life and business. I'm not sure if she's seeing other men or not. I know he talked about wanting it but I'd be surprised if that's the case. I haven't seen them in years.

Hey IAM… Yes, Samantha kinda has a BF… it turns out that she has always been a one at a time girl. She has actually had many BFs over the last several years. The only times she sees multiple guys is between BFs.

Life is good. I feel lucky to have a loving wife and a loving GF. My GF is actually my wife’s best friend (other than me). They are both super hotties too - which does not hurt . I feel like I have more than any one man deserves.

In some ways I guess we are now poly. I did not really plan for this - it just kinda evolved. I still love my hotwife and hot girlfriend fantasies and we live out all sorts of these fantasies at times.