A Guide - So you want to be a hot wife?

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Unread post by Truckstar » Sat Dec 24, 2016 3:47 am

Continued....

If You Are Thinking of Standing Someone Up

If you are thinking of standing someone up…don’t! It’s a shit thing to do . You’re basically saying that you would rather give someone else an entire evening of discomfort instead of taking just one minute of discomfort you would feel by calling them and canceling.

If you are uncomfortable with the date for some reason, just change the parameters of the date until you are comfortable. If that means changing dinner and a movie to 15 minutes over a cup of coffee, so be it. If it was to be you and him, but now you want hubby too, tell him, he knows why you are in this, so will likely understand.

If you have decided you don’t want to meet them at all, instead of standing them up contact them beforehand. Let them know that you’ve decided you’re not comfortable with meeting and apologise that you are backing out. Text message is not great, email is worse, phone call is best but do something. If you want to drop off the face of the earth at this point, fine. But don’t put them through a painful process when you have no intention of showing up. It is rude.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Tue Dec 27, 2016 7:41 am

8. Realise you will meet liars, cheats and players. Oh and other people's husbands, that also might be liars cheats and players. There will be some nice guys too.

Girls - You have entered the lifestyle, please don't treat your new 'friends' the same as you would have treated a vanilla one. You don't have to go to a singles bar or cheesy nightclub to know a line of crap when you hear it. The same holds true in the world of internet sex dating, social media sex dating and personal ads. Men who cheat and lie, as well as women who do the same are scouring the internet dating sites, so caution and reasonable suspicion is a must.

A quality potential fuck buddy or Friends with benefits should know better than to feed you verbal and written bullshit, but you might not always be able to decipher the true meaning or intentions of the experienced VSS verbal shite spewer. I have a list of common lines and lies and am continuing to gather more for your reading and learning.

Before I put the list in. Beware of those that say, my wife knows but doesn't want to be involved with any contact. This maybe true. However my wife knows and when I met with the wonderful OurCass from this site, my wife not only communicated with OurCass, she also communicated with OorMann, Cass's husband, also cutting down any suspicions of Cass playing with a cheating husband, which is against her rules.

OurCass, what a wonderful memory. I will take a break now, too be continued .......

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Unread post by Truckstar » Tue Dec 27, 2016 10:31 am

Continued......
1. People are usually 20% less rich than they say they are.

2. They often lie about their relationship status - Single can often mean - She doesn't know. Or I am just a little bit married. Top tip here If you are cool with marrieds it is important to say so, if not say so.

3. The more attractive a photo, the more likely it is to be dated or fake. Top tip here don't worry too much about the profile photo, worry about the words. Also girls if you get an unsolicited cock picture; worry about that too.

4. Both women and men exaggerate their heights, single men on dating websites have no clue how to measure their cocks. So don't believe that either.

5. Ladies trying to be 35 or forever under 50, is great on Facebook but in reality, unless you have had a lot of work done, it maybe tough to pull it off in reality, if you are going to lie about your age, please don't expect him to be truthful with you. Top tip here If you are pretending to be 15 years younger, your tastes and culture will be older built on the 15 years of experience you have shaved off. Your chances of a second meet are severely reduced. Guys really do love you older girls, have you not heard of the resurgence of the cougar.

6.If a guy is single, he will have no problem adding you on Facebook or similar. If he won't add you on social media. Red flag. This works also if he is playing with wife's consent.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Tue Dec 27, 2016 11:01 am

Continued......

Finding a fuck buddy on line is tough because you are not seeing or feeling their personality, you are finding their impression of what their personality is. So planning to fuck on a first date is a tough one for you girls as the guy could be hopeless looking and a liar.

Men that use dating sites often share something in common: They all play the numbers game. They each send out many messages, emails, and chats to lots of different types of women, resulting in many email exchanges and chat sessions, and ironically a few dates — the goal of which is to end up having sex with that woman as soon as possible often with the minimum expense and/or effort. Some girls might want this, but they are in the minority here.

So how do players stand out?
Trust their actions over their words, check continuity with their messages.

If you're not sure of someone's intentions, then ask. Are you a single meet type guy? do you have a STI check cert? Do you mind my husband being present during our sex sessions? If you aren't comfortable asking these type of questions then maybe you're not ready for HWing yet.

If you don't know how you feel about all this sex talk, remember these guys want to meet you and when they do they will be wanting to fuck you. You must remember that. If you are not happy with that thought then stop, reflect and re-evaluate. Also just because you meet, it doesn't mean he gets to fuck you. The green light remains in your control.

If someone says they don't know how they feel, or if they can’t make a date or if they disagree with your boundaries or limits then assume the answer is "no" and drop him.

People will string you along to get what they want (validation, sex, companionship, a BF style relationship). Learn to spot this as it will be the best skill you can develop.

Sex isn't bad, it is the goal of HWing, just because you want to have sex with someone doesn't mean you only want to have sex. If you want the GF experience then say so. My wife likes the wham bam stuff, but it isn't for everybody. Mutually enjoyable, mutually meaningless sex is a fantastic way to pass the time.

Take responsibility for your own contraception and STI prevention. At all times. Without fail.

Decoding someone's priorities are the closest you'll get to mind-reading. Once you work out where you are on their list of priorities you will understand how they feel about you, sometimes even better than they do. Spot a player and use him accordingly, don't let him spoil your day. When two people have mutually enoyable sex one person isn't "using" the other unless they were expecting something other than mutually enjoyable sex. You can't be used if your expectations are in line with what's being offered.

People who say they were "used" for sex are those that were not clear in their own expectations AND/OR were with someone who was lying about their motives. Don't be either of those people.


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Unread post by Truckstar » Tue Dec 27, 2016 11:01 am

This is bigger than i thought it woold be ha ha. Two more to do.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Wed Dec 28, 2016 4:52 am

I wonder if people are reading this...

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Unread post by terrycat » Wed Dec 28, 2016 7:21 am

Dear Truckstar,

Please keep the good information coming. I, for one have been reading this, as if it were a legal document!

Thanks, and I do hope this valuable information becomes a sticky, so it is not lost.

Terry

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Unread post by txchaparrita » Wed Dec 28, 2016 7:44 am

Reading and sharing with my wife. Thank you!

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Unread post by PeachesHubby » Wed Dec 28, 2016 11:43 am

Please continue. Just found the thread and are really lovin' it. You and MrsTruckstar are two of the several gurus or mentors on this board. We definitely rely on you for insight and good information. Please don't stop!
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Unread post by Truckstar » Wed Dec 28, 2016 12:39 pm

9. Understand that if you like it your emotions and sex life will never be the same again. Your sexual rollercoaster has moved from kindergarten to xxx.

You have decided to have a man (or men) in your life that is in addition to hubby. Big deal? No, Massive fucking deal. You must have this conversation regularly.

Firstly with yourself (a short one), am I doing this for me and for the right reasons?

Second, with hubby, are we still enjoying this and is nobody close to us getting hurt?

Girls, you will need to keep your feet firmly on the floor. I read here often that wifey is getting enough sex from BF that 'cucky' doesn't get a sniff anymore. This doesn't ring true with me, not saying it isn't but extramartial sex is so addictive, you will find that you are fucking hubby more than before and additionally fucking BF too.

So how does a BF fit in? You have got to know what and where does a BF fit in your life. They are the men in your life with whom you share a spark. As spark that is enough for you to want to have sex with them; that warm feeling of camaraderie that comes from common interests, shared experiences and now that you have this 'HW deal' HOT SEX and lots of it.

The best BFs tickle your fancy on demand and in turn are captivated by you. It's extraordinary when there is a smoldering attraction and super fun when you are flirting with each other. Great feelings when there is witty banter, and that "essential for most women" physical affection. BFs can be whatever you want them to be they can be the wonderful highlights in your life, making you feel so special with attention and mutual positive energy. Boyfriends are also meant to be platonic. How? Because they are play things for you to play with. They must not interfere with your private life. There is no mortgage, no dirty laundry, not kids groups, no normal relationship crap. They are fun times without the bullshit of normal living. but please bear in mind if you leave hubby for him, all you do is move the baggage and add some more. Please give hubby some credit here, it was him that agreed to this deal, so he must get some credit for why you feel so good. If your reading this Mrs Truckstar, rewards can be given via wholesome blow jobs, MFF threesomes or letting me bang your arse when you return from a date. If you don't ask you don't get

My wife values men as friends with benefits or fuck buddies, she is trying to avoid long relationships now but we will see.

OK the sensible bit, you are a woman and nature has equipped you to be able to love more than one man, but culture has educated you to ditch a cheat and have only one love in your life. Culture never beats nature, or how would a mother be able to love her children equally. Nature has equipped her.

The secret to having boyfriends successfully is not carrying a torch for any of them. The torch is for your spouse, even if it's sputtering at the moment. If you feel the torch leaning toward a boyfriend, consider this a red flag, give your hubby the benefit of the doubt and make sure yu tend to the home fires, ASAP. Put BF on hold, the back burner or ditch him. Address the connection that's lacking in your home life so you can get back on track and make clean connections with your boyfriends.

Never discuss your husbands failings with a BF.

Another part of the secret is that you and your boyfriends must be able to draw that line between emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. Emotional intimacy with your boyfriends can involve limited sharing of thoughts and feelings, sexual ideas, relationship hopes, and some dreams to a degree and even in some cases bodily fluids. play the game, ride the wave and enjoy the fun but focus on your goal and keep hubby in mind. Take responsibility for your own contraception and sexual health,

A foolish woman would have sex with a boyfriend and turn it into love without limits, or interpret it as true love, because the BF, no matter what will always remember how he met you and what labels that often brings. Hubby got you here, please respect that. If fantastic sex is the magic ingredient that places your extramarital relationship above and beyond all others, once you've become sexually intimate with the other man, you've sown the seeds of your HW lifestyle, you must learn to control it and not it control you. You must remember that it will be hot, a head rush and please remember to keep your feet on the floor.

Perhaps you have other rituals that are between you and hubby, like recounting adventures or eating ceampies or having sex whilst the BF is leaking out of you, sounds gross to some sounds heavenly to others. Whatever it is that maintains your connection make sure you exercise it and put your primary relationship "above and beyond everything," put reunion/reclaiming/post adventure sex definitely at the top of your list, that is the secret of success for most people.

Be good to each other, this is a risky business and all you newbie HWs, if you do this for more than once and last at it for more than six months, that love thing will stir in your loins, if it does, take a check pace, ask yourself, why are you having so much fun, most of you will say because of my hubby. Stop the BF, rekindle your marriage and find a new adventure. Go back to the questions at the start of this passage.

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Unread post by starbuckslvr » Wed Dec 28, 2016 2:51 pm

Very insightful. Thank you!

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Unread post by Truckstar » Sun Jan 01, 2017 12:31 pm

10. Most of all be doing it because you want to for you.

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Make sure you’re both absolutely sure that you know what you want out of this. Do NOT do this to just get it out of your system, do not just go along with it for the other partner, because it will go wrong if you are not doing this for you. Remember once you have been fucked, you stay fucked, you cannot be unfucked. I hope that makes sense.

Analogy; you understand in life how awkward it is when you both go to visit somebody and the wife was planning on just "making an appearance," but the husband was planning to make a whole night out of it? You think this will cause friction. Because fights about leaving your mum and dad's pace early, whilst the game was still on are one thing, fights about a wife giving a blow job to a total stranger when she didn’t know she was supposed to be only on a coffee meet and greet date are quite another.

So you are now at the point where the wife in the relationship reaches the point where she is willing for her own reasons to admit she would like to fuck another man. Guys warning, this is a major big deal for a woman in a healthy marriage, give her the space to get her head around the idea. Don't be setting up CL profiles 2 minutes later.

So then she is 'on board' as a 'potential' HW. Before she gets to the part where she usually seeks her husband's help and support in choosing a suitable candidate to take her 'HW virginity.' She gets massively into research, she will at this stage be relying on the husband for security and a familiar comfort level. Men, honesty is key at this point. Also she may swing in and out of being on board for a little while, especially if potential beaus are dicks. It could take days, or months before she actually goes full bore.

How you develop the relationship from there is up to you as a couple. Wife and I play fairly and equally, others are into very one sided relationships. AS LONG AS EVERYBODY IS CONSENSUAL and enjoying it fully then have fun and go back regularly and evaluate your couple relationship and the reasons you do this.

Have fun, look after one and other and stay safe.

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Unread post by CdnHotWife7 » Tue Jan 03, 2017 11:54 pm

This has been incredibly helpful as a new hotwife. Thank you!

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Unread post by jane76HW » Mon Mar 27, 2017 7:44 am

Thank you - I've just got to find enough courage to make the first step x

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Unread post by SamWarrens » Mon Mar 27, 2017 3:01 pm

Take a deep breath and do it. Just follow the advice here.
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Unread post by Truckstar » Wed Mar 29, 2017 5:07 pm

CdnHotWife7 wrote:This has been incredibly helpful as a new hotwife. Thank you!
thank you, that was always my aim

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Unread post by sweetashley712 » Fri Apr 21, 2017 9:34 am

Truckstar wrote:Or maybe you think your wife wants to be one.

The girl must
1. Get over her fear of rejection. No matter how you look, some guys don't want to share.
2. Realise that you have to do some chasing, instead of the stereotypical boy Pursues girl.
3. Expected to be "onced" from time to time. Some guys will fuck you because you are easy. Then never see you again. Don't take this to heart.
4. Maybe not expect to be as choosey as you once were. Not all men are equal. Not all men live up to the dream.
5. Expect to have fun, but will need an open mind for that.
6. Expect your heart to be broken at least once, or your emotions confused. You are only human after all.
7. Expect to be let down by players and no shows.
8. Realise you will meet liars, cheats and players. Oh and other people's husbands, that also might be liars cheats and players. There will be some nice guys too.
9. Understand that if you like it your emotions and sex life will never be the same again. Your sexual rollercoaster has moved from kindergarten to xxx.
10. Most of all be doing it because you want to for you.

If you are interested I will explain each level in detail

Thank you so much for posting this guide...really truly good stuff :)
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Unread post by stevens62 » Sat Sep 16, 2017 11:09 am

This has been a long-running thread. And a fun one, too. We've met the liars over the years, - mainly about their marital status or he'll tell my wife he's had a vasectomy... :-)))) One young lover (he 24, she about 38 at the time) my wife enjoyed for a couple of years started off by telling her he'd had an injury to his testicles paying high-school football, and was sterile. :-)))) We all knew that wasn't true, but my wife enjoyed the sex with him so much that we just let it slide - there was no graceful way for loverboy to walk it backwards. We were aware from the start that we'd need to be very careful with the timing.

Early in our marriage, no-shows were the biggest challenge. We just concluded they were married guys who lost their nerve. As our relationship evolved, we found co-workers were her most reliable source of rewarding extra-marital trysts. That wouldn't work for some people, but it worked well for us as she often traveled with coworkers, or worked with them in the field on overnights or week long trips.

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Unread post by MrsTruckstar » Thu Oct 26, 2017 3:42 pm

I just read this over, my hubby did a real good job... I love him dearly and he is really this thoughtful in all he does.
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Unread post by Zona » Thu Oct 26, 2017 10:22 pm

MrsTruckstar wrote:I just read this over, my hubby did a real good job... I love him dearly and he is really this thoughtful in all he does.
I could not agree more Mrs T. Do you think he will rejoin us sometime in the near future?

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Unread post by MrsTruckstar » Sun Oct 29, 2017 6:03 am

Zona wrote:
MrsTruckstar wrote:I just read this over, my hubby did a real good job... I love him dearly and he is really this thoughtful in all he does.
I could not agree more Mrs T. Do you think he will rejoin us sometime in the near future?

His wisdom, too, is missed.
He said he will. He is away with his work at the moment. Perhaps I should tell him that I am posting again. Xx
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Unread post by HWJRJ18 » Mon Jun 18, 2018 1:35 pm

Bookmarked and will make re-reading this a regular thing as we negotiate this lifestyle together

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Unread post by Joveisbeta » Tue Aug 07, 2018 10:09 pm

Thank you. I read this entire article... And have it bookmarked. I plan on sharing this with my wife. She is considering getting into HWing, and this is great advice.

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Unread post by hoosierhotwifeboots » Fri Aug 10, 2018 5:43 pm

thanks for all the info

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