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[Sandman111]

Hi everyone, I am new here. We are mid 40’s good looking couple. A bit about us. Both easy going professional couple married 22 years. We have talked about trying some different things, but she is scared to take the step. We travel to the carribean to nude resorts and she enjoys that. We went to Desire one year had a lot of fun. She watched another wife suck me off and another stroke me. We did lite touching with a couple where she stroked his cock, but not for long. She said it was fun and turned her on, but didn’t want to do it again. We been talking about having a guy over to give her a nude erotic massage and she said maybe. We also talked about her giving a guy head and she was not ok. Although I asked if I could look for a guy and show her their pics and she said ok, but it’s not going to happen. We also do this thing where I send her pics through text of guys cocks and ask her if she likes it and she tells me yes or no. This talk and stuff has been going on for a couple years off and on, but never took that next step. How do I go about getting her to take that step? I know I can’t make her it is her decision. I’m just looking for advice on what I might try to make it easier. It’s not about her being with a huge one as I’m really large it’s just I would like to see her play with another guy. It doesn’t even have to be full sex. Anyway thanks in advance for any help you can offer.

[2inUPMichigan]

Welcome to OHW Sandman111

In reading your post I'm curious....is your wife going through with these things simply because it is what you want? Or does she want to do them?

For this to be successful it really has to be something that she isn't reluctant to participate in. Nothing worse than the day after regrets.

Would you consider yourselves swingers? Is the agreement going into this that both of you will be able to play with other people?

[Arrowmaker55]

Hello Sandman. I too am new here (only my second post), and keen to learn. My wife and I are a lot further back than you are, and are taking very small baby steps with these ideas. The one thing I have learned, however, is that pushing too hard or at all is counterproductive. All you can do is plant a seed and hope it grows. My wife was dead set against the idea of a MFM threesome, and told me to drop it, but I have noticed lately she has begun to express an interest in the thought, and asks me what it is that I like about the idea. As everyone in these forums suggests, it has to be something she herself wants. Everyone is different, but if there is a dance club nearby you could go to - it's a way of getting your wife to be comfortable with other males.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Arrowmaker55.

[Arrowmaker55]

Thanks Armyguy, I don't have a huge amount to offer to the veterans here (grandmothers, eggs) but I am thrilled to be part of the community. There's a lot of wisdom in the posts I have read, and the advice is thoughtful and respectful.

[Sandman111]

I’m not sure if she is just doing it for me or she is curious about it herself. She doesn’t really talk much about things like this she is rather shy. I know one thing she likes is mfm porn. I asked her if she likes it and she said yes. This is the type of porn we mostly watch. She says she thinks the idea of it would be fun, but wouldn’t do it. So it’s hard to say. She also doesn’t mind me showing pics of her as long as face isn’t in them.

[Sandman111]

Also I have told her I do not have to play with a women just because I want to watch her. I have told her it would be a turn on just to watch.

[2inUPMichigan]

I’m not sure if she is just doing it for me or she is curious about it herself. She doesn’t really talk much about things like this she is rather shy. I know one thing she likes is mfm porn. I asked her if she likes it and she said yes. This is the type of porn we mostly watch. She says she thinks the idea of it would be fun, but wouldn’t do it. So it’s hard to say. She also doesn’t mind me showing pics of her as long as face isn’t in them.

I agree with her about the porn. There are some types of porn I would watch that there is no way I would want any part of in real life.

[Sandman111]

I think what’s holding her back is she thinks I will get jealous and mad. I use to be pretty jealous when I was younger. I told her I’m not that way now, but I would want to be there to watch. I think she would go through with it if she was sure I wouldn’t get jealous. When we watch porn I will ask her if she likes the guys cock and she tells me. If she says she likes it she says that it would feel good. She prefers the thicker ones.