Our Journey - First Time and ongoing
Posted: Tue Aug 12, 2025 6:26 am
Hi,
I wanted to describe the first time my lovely wife explored having sex with another man, and then explain how we came to try this lifestyle.
Rather than one long story, I will break this up into several parts, and appreciate any comments you are willing to share.
My wife Linda and I (Jim) are in our mid-thirties, and have been into the life-style for about three years. Things have progressed over that time, but I still think fondly about our first experience, and the steps leading up to my becoming a cuck.
We decided to put out feelers on a number of the websites that can be used to find men willing to train a couple trying to learn about the lifestyle.
We were looking for someone who was experienced, would not push us too fast, would share some of our interests - hiking, biking, music, etc.
As we looked at the responses, most were not a match, but we would email back and forth with those who seemed to "fit the bill". If the emails indicated a fit, both of us would meet the prospect for lunch.
Sam was the first gentleman we invited for lunch. We chose a nice restaurant in a major hotel. There was no thought of getting a room in the hotel, but we wanted to meet on neutral ground. Linda and I both really liked Sam. Linda talked about how tall and handsome he is, and I particularly appreciated the fact that his interests paralleled ours.
Sam, who was a bit older than we are, maybe mid-forties, was divorced with no children, and worked at the nearby college as an Assistant Professor. The most important thing was that he had introduced several couples to the lifestyle, and said that he always wants to take things slowly. That was music to our ears. Both Linda and I were a bit unsure, and wanted to test out the waters slowly. I'm not sure which of us was more reluctant, but we needed to go slowly! Linda and I sat on the same side of the booth, with Sam by himself on the other side of the booth. We told Sam that to start, we both wanted to be present as things progressed, to which he replied that he felt that it was important that the husband participates as his wife explores her sexuality outside the marriage.
After lunch, I shook Sam's hand, Linda gave him a quick hug, and I said that we would be in touch.
Linda and I talked a long time that evening. We were both impressed with Sam, and wanted to continue to build the relationship!
I called Sam about three days later, and suggested lunch. Sam had some conflicts, but we met about a week later. Sam arrived first, and left plenty of room for someone to sit beside him. I remember asking Linda if she wanted to sit beside Sam, to which she said "Why not?". I felt a twinge of I guess it was jealousy, but said "Go ahead". Linda slid over beside him, and gave him a little peck on the cheek. The first kiss.
Lunch went really well. Sam was charming, and included both of us in the conversation. We touched on the subject of new relationships, and Sam mentioned that he did not want to get too emotionally involved at this point in his life, still recovering from his divorce, and his rule is that after six months, he moved on. That sounded good to us, as we were not interested in a long term relationship at that point.
As we stood up to leave, Sam gave Linda a kiss that was more than a peck, but considering that we were in a very public area, was not inappropriate. I felt that tinge again.
That's enough for now. At the next lunch, Linda dresses a little more provocatively.
If you want to hear more, let me know!
I wanted to describe the first time my lovely wife explored having sex with another man, and then explain how we came to try this lifestyle.
Rather than one long story, I will break this up into several parts, and appreciate any comments you are willing to share.
My wife Linda and I (Jim) are in our mid-thirties, and have been into the life-style for about three years. Things have progressed over that time, but I still think fondly about our first experience, and the steps leading up to my becoming a cuck.
We decided to put out feelers on a number of the websites that can be used to find men willing to train a couple trying to learn about the lifestyle.
We were looking for someone who was experienced, would not push us too fast, would share some of our interests - hiking, biking, music, etc.
As we looked at the responses, most were not a match, but we would email back and forth with those who seemed to "fit the bill". If the emails indicated a fit, both of us would meet the prospect for lunch.
Sam was the first gentleman we invited for lunch. We chose a nice restaurant in a major hotel. There was no thought of getting a room in the hotel, but we wanted to meet on neutral ground. Linda and I both really liked Sam. Linda talked about how tall and handsome he is, and I particularly appreciated the fact that his interests paralleled ours.
Sam, who was a bit older than we are, maybe mid-forties, was divorced with no children, and worked at the nearby college as an Assistant Professor. The most important thing was that he had introduced several couples to the lifestyle, and said that he always wants to take things slowly. That was music to our ears. Both Linda and I were a bit unsure, and wanted to test out the waters slowly. I'm not sure which of us was more reluctant, but we needed to go slowly! Linda and I sat on the same side of the booth, with Sam by himself on the other side of the booth. We told Sam that to start, we both wanted to be present as things progressed, to which he replied that he felt that it was important that the husband participates as his wife explores her sexuality outside the marriage.
After lunch, I shook Sam's hand, Linda gave him a quick hug, and I said that we would be in touch.
Linda and I talked a long time that evening. We were both impressed with Sam, and wanted to continue to build the relationship!
I called Sam about three days later, and suggested lunch. Sam had some conflicts, but we met about a week later. Sam arrived first, and left plenty of room for someone to sit beside him. I remember asking Linda if she wanted to sit beside Sam, to which she said "Why not?". I felt a twinge of I guess it was jealousy, but said "Go ahead". Linda slid over beside him, and gave him a little peck on the cheek. The first kiss.
Lunch went really well. Sam was charming, and included both of us in the conversation. We touched on the subject of new relationships, and Sam mentioned that he did not want to get too emotionally involved at this point in his life, still recovering from his divorce, and his rule is that after six months, he moved on. That sounded good to us, as we were not interested in a long term relationship at that point.
As we stood up to leave, Sam gave Linda a kiss that was more than a peck, but considering that we were in a very public area, was not inappropriate. I felt that tinge again.
That's enough for now. At the next lunch, Linda dresses a little more provocatively.
If you want to hear more, let me know!