Shaun89 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 15, 2020 9:50 am
I don't know guys, I'm not unhappy, but certainly not happy. Talking to other women helps, but you know sometimes when you think, why the fuck did I get into all this for? Why do I have this kink? She has given the indication that she wouldn't give him up if I asked, so I think the only option is to ride out the NRE until she comes to her senses and chalk it as a lesson learned. I'm not sure I'm even asking for advice anymore. It.... is what it is? Hmm.
Shaun
First, a big thank you for giving us this update. I assume it wasn't that easy.
You seem to be a "good guy" therefore it pains me to see that you obviously don't recognize that you're on the way of loosing your wife, if that not already has happened. Your wife suggestion that you could or should meet with other women is maybe her way to ease your pain before she will leave you once and for all. For you I hope I'm wrong about this, but it could very well the way I said.
You said this is mainly NRE and you think it's best to ride it out until she comes to her senses and chalk it as a lesson learned. Maybe that's the case, but I doubt this. Again you seem to be a sympathic guy and I don't want to offend you, and it pains me to say it but it's quite naive of you to think this.
Allow me a question how often in a week does she actually meet with this guy you never answered this? You say she spend this week with him when is she scheduled to be home again?
I'm absolutely astonished that you agreed she could stay a complete week with him. You shouldn't be surprised if the hammer falls down on you after this week once and for all, she say to you the famous words:" We need to talk", and that's it.
One other thing, why in hell, did you agree to wear condoms? Never ever you should have agreed to this. Don't be appear so weak. I know you don't ask for advice, but first you should have sex with her way more often than just once a week including anal sex. And you should make clear to your wife of she loves you and your marriage means anything to her and then you will have never wear a condom again, instead rather her lover boy should wear them.
Generally, if you want to keep your wife start finally fighting for her and don't be so damn passive. Actually you should call her and tell her it's very, very serious and she should come home your marriage is at stack. And even if it's risky you should confront her and ask her who is actually more important to her: you or him? How much dies she actually loves you? I know this could cause you maybe a lot of pain, but to drag this on will cause you probably even more pain in the longterm.
Look this all is of course only my opinion, what you finally do is only your business. Excuse me that my thoughts were maybe a bit in disarray. Believe me I really hope, like others, everything works out for you, even if some words are harsh. I hope you keep us updated.