Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Sharedherlots]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. My wife and I have vowed not to let emotions become involved. We recognize some emotions will exist, but we don’t permit either of us to have any type of relationship where it’s like dating or you start saying, “I love you” or anything like that. The idea is a fun romp, with as little interaction outside the bedroom as possible, and then come home to your spouse.

So far I’ve seen girls and had no trouble with this. It’s been just sex. My wife has also not shown me any actual evidence she’s had trouble with this either, however, largely with my encouragement, she’s now had sex with the same guy 25 times in less than 2 months and gone over to his house about twice a week. She’s been great to me and there’s no sign there’s a problem...at the moment anyway, but I am becoming a little concerned that I’m playing with Fire. Can she really see a guy this often and it not hurt us eventually? She said he’s super easy and they just have sex a couple times and she comes home and then we have great sex. Which is true. But I still am concerned! I can’t get it out of my head this guy fucks my wide as often as I do these days! That’s never what this was supposed to be in our minds and truth is she would never allow me to see the same girl this often. But again, I’ve been the one encouraging her! But now I’m not sure I should keep encouraging her. What do you think?

[Sophie]

Welcome to the forum glakes85. Not talking about her fantasies is not unique to your wife. Many women won't talk about it even though you know they have them. Mine opened up a lot when I was in Iraq and we were both horny as hell and on Skype.

Thank you.

It would be interested to hear a hotwife's perspective on some of the other points.

Thank you,

Ed

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

Sorry. I am not sure what happened.

Long story short. My wife was adventurous when we first got together (over 17 years ago), but shortly after we were married she became religious and kind of shut off from anything other than standard PIV - e.g., no fantasy talk, etc... Before marriage, she used to think talking about hotwifing was hot and got off on during sex. I am trying to figure out if it is even worthwhile trying to bring up again and how best to approach (I know it will have to go real slow).

glakes85, You could help us with a little bit more on what you mean by 'adventurous' as in this LS it has a wide ranging meaning, like having another guy to orgies. Not the best illustration, but I wanted to get my thoughts over to you.

Sophie.

[Sophie]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. My wife and I have vowed not to let emotions become involved. We recognize some emotions will exist, but we don’t permit either of us to have any type of relationship where it’s like dating or you start saying, “I love you” or anything like that. The idea is a fun romp, with as little interaction outside the bedroom as possible, and then come home to your spouse.

So far I’ve seen girls and had no trouble with this. It’s been just sex. My wife has also not shown me any actual evidence she’s had trouble with this either, however, largely with my encouragement, she’s now had sex with the same guy 25 times in less than 2 months and gone over to his house about twice a week. She’s been great to me and there’s no sign there’s a problem...at the moment anyway, but I am becoming a little concerned that I’m playing with Fire. Can she really see a guy this often and it not hurt us eventually? She said he’s super easy and they just have sex a couple times and she comes home and then we have great sex. Which is true. But I still am concerned! I can’t get it out of my head this guy fucks my wide as often as I do these days! That’s never what this was supposed to be in our minds and truth is she would never allow me to see the same girl this often. But again, I’ve been the one encouraging her! But now I’m not sure I should keep encouraging her. What do you think?

Sharedherlots, It would seem you are talking to your Lady, but how much are you talking and listening to what she says. If you ask a question, do you get a direct response or a change topic reply or even silence? These may indicate what is happening else where with him in her head.

How do you know 'she would never allow me to see the same girl this often', have you asked her or experienced it?

It can be strange when your Lady is finding her feet or a new way of being a HW. She is enjoying the new relationship by what you have said, this maybe her new way and you need to talk to her about your concerns.

Sophie.

[2wheel]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. My wife and I have vowed not to let emotions become involved. We recognize some emotions will exist, but we don’t permit either of us to have any type of relationship where it’s like dating or you start saying, “I love you” or anything like that. The idea is a fun romp, with as little interaction outside the bedroom as possible, and then come home to your spouse.

So far I’ve seen girls and had no trouble with this. It’s been just sex. My wife has also not shown me any actual evidence she’s had trouble with this either, however, largely with my encouragement, she’s now had sex with the same guy 25 times in less than 2 months and gone over to his house about twice a week. She’s been great to me and there’s no sign there’s a problem...at the moment anyway, but I am becoming a little concerned that I’m playing with Fire. Can she really see a guy this often and it not hurt us eventually? She said he’s super easy and they just have sex a couple times and she comes home and then we have great sex. Which is true. But I still am concerned! I can’t get it out of my head this guy fucks my wide as often as I do these days! That’s never what this was supposed to be in our minds and truth is she would never allow me to see the same girl this often. But again, I’ve been the one encouraging her! But now I’m not sure I should keep encouraging her. What do you think?

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

[Farmgirl]

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

2wheel, are you thinking of getting verified?

[Farmgirl]

Thank you.

It would be interested to hear a hotwife's perspective on some of the other points.

Thank you,

Ed

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

Sorry. I am not sure what happened.

Long story short. My wife was adventurous when we first got together (over 17 years ago), but shortly after we were married she became religious and kind of shut off from anything other than standard PIV - e.g., no fantasy talk, etc... Before marriage, she used to think talking about hotwifing was hot and got off on during sex. I am trying to figure out if it is even worthwhile trying to bring up again and how best to approach (I know it will have to go real slow).

glakes85, You could help us with a little bit more on what you mean by 'adventurous' as in this LS it has a wide ranging meaning, like having another guy to orgies. Not the best illustration, but I wanted to get my thoughts over to you.

Sophie.

glakes85, like Sophis said, we need a little more information to help. Her being religious is not the whole of it. I'm very religous and yet I immensely enjoy being a hotwife. One doesn't preclude the other.

[glakes85]

Thank you.

It would be interested to hear a hotwife's perspective on some of the other points.

Thank you,

Ed

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

Sorry. I am not sure what happened.

Long story short. My wife was adventurous when we first got together (over 17 years ago), but shortly after we were married she became religious and kind of shut off from anything other than standard PIV - e.g., no fantasy talk, etc... Before marriage, she used to think talking about hotwifing was hot and got off on during sex. I am trying to figure out if it is even worthwhile trying to bring up again and how best to approach (I know it will have to go real slow).

glakes85, You could help us with a little bit more on what you mean by 'adventurous' as in this LS it has a wide ranging meaning, like having another guy to orgies. Not the best illustration, but I wanted to get my thoughts over to you.

Sophie.

Sophie, that's a good point - I didn't think of that. I mean she was into oral, anal, light bondage, and fantasy talk about sharing. Sometimes she also liked to park our car and have sex in it when we were out. She also didn't wear clothing a lot when we were at home.

[Sharedherlots]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. My wife and I have vowed not to let emotions become involved. We recognize some emotions will exist, but we don’t permit either of us to have any type of relationship where it’s like dating or you start saying, “I love you” or anything like that. The idea is a fun romp, with as little interaction outside the bedroom as possible, and then come home to your spouse.

So far I’ve seen girls and had no trouble with this. It’s been just sex. My wife has also not shown me any actual evidence she’s had trouble with this either, however, largely with my encouragement, she’s now had sex with the same guy 25 times in less than 2 months and gone over to his house about twice a week. She’s been great to me and there’s no sign there’s a problem...at the moment anyway, but I am becoming a little concerned that I’m playing with Fire. Can she really see a guy this often and it not hurt us eventually? She said he’s super easy and they just have sex a couple times and she comes home and then we have great sex. Which is true. But I still am concerned! I can’t get it out of my head this guy fucks my wide as often as I do these days! That’s never what this was supposed to be in our minds and truth is she would never allow me to see the same girl this often. But again, I’ve been the one encouraging her! But now I’m not sure I should keep encouraging her. What do you think?

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

Yeah I’ve been grinding on this for some time now. I’m pretty much 100% sure I’m going to let her know she’s free to continue seeing him sometimes, but it’s going to be more like a once or twice a month deal at most. She’s been seeing him 2x per weeks for awhile now and I don’t like it. I don’t like the fact no matter what she says to me, I’ll never believe you can see someone that often and not get attached, furthermore, I’m just tiring of the situation myself. I’m not cool with literally splitting time with another guy in terms of how often we have sex with her. Plus I’m just tired of having this situation on my mind. This is supposed to be fun not a source of worry. I also don’t like the sexual dynamic it creates for me and my wife. She sees him so often now and they fuck for hours, so she’s sorta sexually spent and I’m noticing her less horny for me the past month. Less concerned if she has an orgasm too because she gets so many from him she’s never horny and pent up for me anymore. Half the sex we have now is right after she fucked him whereas before we’d have sex like 22-24 times a month, with only 2-3 being right after she was with someone else. The past 6 weeks it’s more about 50/50. I don’t like that ratio. I want this to be a naughty thing we have on the side for fun sometimes, not a big weekly ritual where it’s never more than a few days before she is seeing him again. I’m over it.

And I get angry about it when I think about it sometimes. But it’s me recommending it all the time so I can only be mad at myself. But I think I’ve finally reached the point where even if it sounds kinda fun, I’m not going to offer. I’ll see how long she goes until she says something about it. Eventually she’ll be like, “So, you haven’t brought up me seeing him in awhile...” then I’ll probably just tell her what I’m thinking. If she gets sad about not seeing him as much anymore, I’ll have my answer I made the right call and then might even just veto him entirely at that point if she gets sad.

[Farmgirl]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. My wife and I have vowed not to let emotions become involved. We recognize some emotions will exist, but we don’t permit either of us to have any type of relationship where it’s like dating or you start saying, “I love you” or anything like that. The idea is a fun romp, with as little interaction outside the bedroom as possible, and then come home to your spouse.

So far I’ve seen girls and had no trouble with this. It’s been just sex. My wife has also not shown me any actual evidence she’s had trouble with this either, however, largely with my encouragement, she’s now had sex with the same guy 25 times in less than 2 months and gone over to his house about twice a week. She’s been great to me and there’s no sign there’s a problem...at the moment anyway, but I am becoming a little concerned that I’m playing with Fire. Can she really see a guy this often and it not hurt us eventually? She said he’s super easy and they just have sex a couple times and she comes home and then we have great sex. Which is true. But I still am concerned! I can’t get it out of my head this guy fucks my wide as often as I do these days! That’s never what this was supposed to be in our minds and truth is she would never allow me to see the same girl this often. But again, I’ve been the one encouraging her! But now I’m not sure I should keep encouraging her. What do you think?

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

Yeah I’ve been grinding on this for some time now. I’m pretty much 100% sure I’m going to let her know she’s free to continue seeing him sometimes, but it’s going to be more like a once or twice a month deal at most. She’s been seeing him 2x per weeks for awhile now and I don’t like it. I don’t like the fact no matter what she says to me, I’ll never believe you can see someone that often and not get attached, furthermore, I’m just tiring of the situation myself. I’m not cool with literally splitting time with another guy in terms of how often we have sex with her. Plus I’m just tired of having this situation on my mind. This is supposed to be fun not a source of worry. I also don’t like the sexual dynamic it creates for me and my wife. She sees him so often now and they fuck for hours, so she’s sorta sexually spent and I’m noticing her less horny for me the past month. Less concerned if she has an orgasm too because she gets so many from him she’s never horny and pent up for me anymore. Half the sex we have now is right after she fucked him whereas before we’d have sex like 22-24 times a month, with only 2-3 being right after she was with someone else. The past 6 weeks it’s more about 50/50. I don’t like that ratio. I want this to be a naughty thing we have on the side for fun sometimes, not a big weekly ritual where it’s never more than a few days before she is seeing him again. I’m over it.

And I get angry about it when I think about it sometimes. But it’s me recommending it all the time so I can only be mad at myself. But I think I’ve finally reached the point where even if it sounds kinda fun, I’m not going to offer. I’ll see how long she goes until she says something about it. Eventually she’ll be like, “So, you haven’t brought up me seeing him in awhile...” then I’ll probably just tell her what I’m thinking. If she gets sad about not seeing him as much anymore, I’ll have my answer I made the right call and then might even just veto him entirely at that point if she gets sad.
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This is the "Ask a hotwfe" thread. Guys, take a reading comprehension class. If you're not a VHW, Don't Answer!!

[Abox]

Hello I need help How can I persuade my wife to have sex with My Friend at work My wife is her old39 Year We got married Ago6Years For some time now I have felt a great desire Watching my wife have sex with another man I am not bisexual I am a very normal person But I have a strong feeling Looking at my wife Fuck Another man or more at the same time The problem is that it is religious and conservative I don't know how to tell her about it Or where to start ...Since we got married we have been constantly having sex You feel good with me and how things happen But I feel I can provide it with more satisfaction

[Farmgirl]

Hello I need help How can I persuade my wife to have sex with My Friend at work My wife is her old39 Year We got married Ago6Years For some time now I have felt a great desire Watching my wife have sex with another man I am not bisexual I am a very normal person But I have a strong feeling Looking at my wife Fuck Another man or more at the same time The problem is that it is religious and conservative I don't know how to tell her about it Or where to start ...Since we got married we have been constantly having sex You feel good with me and how things happen But I feel I can provide it with more satisfaction

Start off by building real trust and intimacy with your wife and then you can talk to her about it.
Being religious and conservative is not the problem, if it were then I wouldn't be a Hotwife. Religion becomes too often the scapegoat for the husband's failure to meet the intimacy needs of the wife. With the intimacy, comes the trust. With the trust, comes the ability to discuss such things.
She still may not want to be a Hotwife, but you will be closer together with improved communication.

[glakes85]

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

Sorry. I am not sure what happened.

Long story short. My wife was adventurous when we first got together (over 17 years ago), but shortly after we were married she became religious and kind of shut off from anything other than standard PIV - e.g., no fantasy talk, etc... Before marriage, she used to think talking about hotwifing was hot and got off on during sex. I am trying to figure out if it is even worthwhile trying to bring up again and how best to approach (I know it will have to go real slow).

glakes85, You could help us with a little bit more on what you mean by 'adventurous' as in this LS it has a wide ranging meaning, like having another guy to orgies. Not the best illustration, but I wanted to get my thoughts over to you.

Sophie.

glakes85, like Sophis said, we need a little more information to help. Her being religious is not the whole of it. I'm very religous and yet I immensely enjoy being a hotwife. One doesn't preclude the other.

Farmgirl,

Thank you. She uses sex as an excuse to not engage in certain activities (she is Catholic, so she says no oral, cumming outside of her, toys, porn, etc...). She knows I have this fantasy; I talked to her about it a few times. She never said she didn't think it was hot or arousing. She said once that she didn't think she could do it or that it wouldn't happen but that is all. Since the whole Falwell thing was on the news, we have been together a few times when comedians talked about it, and she just was quiet - she didn't laugh or say anything at all.

She is ok with things like oral for foreplay but that is about it. For example, she really liked recently when I held her down on her stomach and rubbed her while I was inside until she cummed a few times, and she likes her nipples played with rather aggressively.

I personally think the religion thing is just a way to avoid the discussion about topics she's uncomfortable with. She isn't exactly an ideologue (for lack of a better term). I also think she is unhappy with her body. She is 36, and we have 4 children.

[Sophie]

I'm at a loss as to the other points, I haven't seen them, is something missing?

Sorry. I am not sure what happened.

Long story short. My wife was adventurous when we first got together (over 17 years ago), but shortly after we were married she became religious and kind of shut off from anything other than standard PIV - e.g., no fantasy talk, etc... Before marriage, she used to think talking about hotwifing was hot and got off on during sex. I am trying to figure out if it is even worthwhile trying to bring up again and how best to approach (I know it will have to go real slow).

glakes85, You could help us with a little bit more on what you mean by 'adventurous' as in this LS it has a wide ranging meaning, like having another guy to orgies. Not the best illustration, but I wanted to get my thoughts over to you.

Sophie.

Sophie, that's a good point - I didn't think of that. I mean she was into oral, anal, light bondage, and fantasy talk about sharing. Sometimes she also liked to park our car and have sex in it when we were out. She also didn't wear clothing a lot when we were at home.

glakes85, To be honest from how I see things, that's fairly vanilla for us in the UK.

I also see you have been with her from about 17 years old, trying not to put a damper on your plans but some Ladies play a game of catch the fish with everything involved only to drop the bits that do nothing for them after the security has been secured.

I see you have 4 children, that alone is hard work, even when they are older, perhaps you need time to yourselves to get the intimacy going.

As I have said before talking and listening in private without interruptions is key to working things out.

Sophie.

[Sophie]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. My wife and I have vowed not to let emotions become involved. We recognize some emotions will exist, but we don’t permit either of us to have any type of relationship where it’s like dating or you start saying, “I love you” or anything like that. The idea is a fun romp, with as little interaction outside the bedroom as possible, and then come home to your spouse.

So far I’ve seen girls and had no trouble with this. It’s been just sex. My wife has also not shown me any actual evidence she’s had trouble with this either, however, largely with my encouragement, she’s now had sex with the same guy 25 times in less than 2 months and gone over to his house about twice a week. She’s been great to me and there’s no sign there’s a problem...at the moment anyway, but I am becoming a little concerned that I’m playing with Fire. Can she really see a guy this often and it not hurt us eventually? She said he’s super easy and they just have sex a couple times and she comes home and then we have great sex. Which is true. But I still am concerned! I can’t get it out of my head this guy fucks my wide as often as I do these days! That’s never what this was supposed to be in our minds and truth is she would never allow me to see the same girl this often. But again, I’ve been the one encouraging her! But now I’m not sure I should keep encouraging her. What do you think?

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

Yeah I’ve been grinding on this for some time now. I’m pretty much 100% sure I’m going to let her know she’s free to continue seeing him sometimes, but it’s going to be more like a once or twice a month deal at most. She’s been seeing him 2x per weeks for awhile now and I don’t like it. I don’t like the fact no matter what she says to me, I’ll never believe you can see someone that often and not get attached, furthermore, I’m just tiring of the situation myself. I’m not cool with literally splitting time with another guy in terms of how often we have sex with her. Plus I’m just tired of having this situation on my mind. This is supposed to be fun not a source of worry. I also don’t like the sexual dynamic it creates for me and my wife. She sees him so often now and they fuck for hours, so she’s sorta sexually spent and I’m noticing her less horny for me the past month. Less concerned if she has an orgasm too because she gets so many from him she’s never horny and pent up for me anymore. Half the sex we have now is right after she fucked him whereas before we’d have sex like 22-24 times a month, with only 2-3 being right after she was with someone else. The past 6 weeks it’s more about 50/50. I don’t like that ratio. I want this to be a naughty thing we have on the side for fun sometimes, not a big weekly ritual where it’s never more than a few days before she is seeing him again. I’m over it.

And I get angry about it when I think about it sometimes. But it’s me recommending it all the time so I can only be mad at myself. But I think I’ve finally reached the point where even if it sounds kinda fun, I’m not going to offer. I’ll see how long she goes until she says something about it. Eventually she’ll be like, “So, you haven’t brought up me seeing him in awhile...” then I’ll probably just tell her what I’m thinking. If she gets sad about not seeing him as much anymore, I’ll have my answer I made the right call and then might even just veto him entirely at that point if she gets sad.

This is the "Ask a hotwfe" thread. Guys, take a reading comprehension class. If you're not a VHW, Don't Answer!!

Farmgirl, 100% support your comment.

This is the "Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!" Thread.

Sophie.

[2wheel]

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

2wheel, are you thinking of getting verified?

I really hadn't considered it.

[2wheel]

Are you playing with fire? Yes & no!

For us it's about the sex, nothing more. I was concerned about a connection with a 'partner' early on, we agreed that will not happen EVER. She cuts a guy loose when she feels a connection from either her or him, and certainly repeats can cause a bond to form, like it or not.

BUT

She has had a few 'regulars', one I labeled 'Mr commuter' was good for 2-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. Another 'the bartender' was good for once a week but would cum in/on her 3-4 times in a row.

She kept her emotional distance by compartmentalizing them. She didn't like the bartender but liked the sex and his perks. Mr commuter she says was OK and considered him a 'fill-in'.

So IMHO it's up to her whether there's fire or not, but the more contact the more chance of fire, sometimes the highway to hell is paved with the best intentions.

Disclaimer: During my 1st marriage I had a sex partner on the side, it was for sex only, for use both, nothing more ............................. we are now married!

Yeah I’ve been grinding on this for some time now. I’m pretty much 100% sure I’m going to let her know she’s free to continue seeing him sometimes, but it’s going to be more like a once or twice a month deal at most. She’s been seeing him 2x per weeks for awhile now and I don’t like it. I don’t like the fact no matter what she says to me, I’ll never believe you can see someone that often and not get attached, furthermore, I’m just tiring of the situation myself. I’m not cool with literally splitting time with another guy in terms of how often we have sex with her. Plus I’m just tired of having this situation on my mind. This is supposed to be fun not a source of worry. I also don’t like the sexual dynamic it creates for me and my wife. She sees him so often now and they fuck for hours, so she’s sorta sexually spent and I’m noticing her less horny for me the past month. Less concerned if she has an orgasm too because she gets so many from him she’s never horny and pent up for me anymore. Half the sex we have now is right after she fucked him whereas before we’d have sex like 22-24 times a month, with only 2-3 being right after she was with someone else. The past 6 weeks it’s more about 50/50. I don’t like that ratio. I want this to be a naughty thing we have on the side for fun sometimes, not a big weekly ritual where it’s never more than a few days before she is seeing him again. I’m over it.

And I get angry about it when I think about it sometimes. But it’s me recommending it all the time so I can only be mad at myself. But I think I’ve finally reached the point where even if it sounds kinda fun, I’m not going to offer. I’ll see how long she goes until she says something about it. Eventually she’ll be like, “So, you haven’t brought up me seeing him in awhile...” then I’ll probably just tell her what I’m thinking. If she gets sad about not seeing him as much anymore, I’ll have my answer I made the right call and then might even just veto him entirely at that point if she gets sad.

This is the "Ask a hotwfe" thread. Guys, take a reading comprehension class. If you're not a VHW, Don't Answer!!

Farmgirl, 100% support your comment.

This is the "Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!" Thread.

Sophie.

Sorry, I got so wound up in the conversation I lost that it was VHW.

[Sophie]

Yeah I’ve been grinding on this for some time now. I’m pretty much 100% sure I’m going to let her know she’s free to continue seeing him sometimes, but it’s going to be more like a once or twice a month deal at most. She’s been seeing him 2x per weeks for awhile now and I don’t like it. I don’t like the fact no matter what she says to me, I’ll never believe you can see someone that often and not get attached, furthermore, I’m just tiring of the situation myself. I’m not cool with literally splitting time with another guy in terms of how often we have sex with her. Plus I’m just tired of having this situation on my mind. This is supposed to be fun not a source of worry. I also don’t like the sexual dynamic it creates for me and my wife. She sees him so often now and they fuck for hours, so she’s sorta sexually spent and I’m noticing her less horny for me the past month. Less concerned if she has an orgasm too because she gets so many from him she’s never horny and pent up for me anymore. Half the sex we have now is right after she fucked him whereas before we’d have sex like 22-24 times a month, with only 2-3 being right after she was with someone else. The past 6 weeks it’s more about 50/50. I don’t like that ratio. I want this to be a naughty thing we have on the side for fun sometimes, not a big weekly ritual where it’s never more than a few days before she is seeing him again. I’m over it.

And I get angry about it when I think about it sometimes. But it’s me recommending it all the time so I can only be mad at myself. But I think I’ve finally reached the point where even if it sounds kinda fun, I’m not going to offer. I’ll see how long she goes until she says something about it. Eventually she’ll be like, “So, you haven’t brought up me seeing him in awhile...” then I’ll probably just tell her what I’m thinking. If she gets sad about not seeing him as much anymore, I’ll have my answer I made the right call and then might even just veto him entirely at that point if she gets sad.

This is the "Ask a hotwfe" thread. Guys, take a reading comprehension class. If you're not a VHW, Don't Answer!!

Farmgirl, 100% support your comment.

This is the "Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!" Thread.

Sophie.

Sorry, I got so wound up in the conversation I lost that it was VHW.

2wheel, I will confer with Farmgirl if we should let you off this time or punish you for your lack of control.

Sophie.

[Abox]

will tell you something I know good My Friend at work How does he think and how he looks at women And How to talk about women Who had previously had sex with them..I called him on many occasions Eat dinner at my house About an hour21:00I claimed that I should go to my grandmother's house And I told him he could wait for me at home And spend the night meaning So we go tomorrow To watch the match After about half an hour Several surreptitiously home With some hope and wish To find what I'm thinking to happen But the exact opposite happened They watch TV And a distance between them The problem is in my wife She does not wear attractive or short clothes I'm thinking of another way But I feel scared If things get out of control I would like to be honest My work buddy My imaginations And my desire to have sex with my wife Hoa knows women a lot He has his own way Then it can To be able to be honest with my wife...what do you think

[Boyyy]

Hi there!! Hope everyone is doing well and is safe.
A young (25) aspiring single cuck here wanted to know if anyone had this lifestyle before marriage and while they were young and are there single women out there who are looking for this kind of lifestyle have searched a lot of forums but all of them seem fake or they are in it for money no one seems genuine or wants to be in this for the long haul

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Boyyy. There are a lot of genuine people here and I have seen more guys wanting to marry into the lifestyle instead of trying to sell it. Probably a good place to be for that.

[Sophie]

Welcome to the forum Boyyy. There are a lot of genuine people here and I have seen more guys wanting marry into the lifestyle instead of trying to sell it. Probably a good place be for that.

armyguyot1, I agree OHW is a good place to start.

Boyyy, Welcome to OHW.

Sophie.

[Boyyy]

thanks a lot armyguyot1 and Sophie for the warm welcome look forward to getting to know some of the amazing people in the lifestyle and make some kinky friends and hope to meet a few singles in the lifestyle

[Sophie]

thanks a lot armyguyot1 and Sophie for the warm welcome look forward to getting to know some of the amazing people in the lifestyle and make some kinky friends and hope to meet a few singles in the lifestyle

Boyyy, You are very welcome.

Sophie.

[Boyyy]

Thanks a lot Sophie hope to learn a lot about this lifestyle

[Sophie]

Thanks a lot Sophie hope to learn a lot about this lifestyle

Boyyy, There are many threads on OHW, you may find very useful.

Sophie.