Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[JoannaLegs]

The porn movies are tricks. You can watch videos where porn stars talk about how they do it, they are either peeing, or they fill the vagina with fluid during a cut scene, then when they start filming again, she squeezes it out. Some women can release a little fluid here and there, but these huge flows are not real.

I squirt like they do in porn. The first time was with my Mr. Marcus dildo inside and my magic wand on my clitoris. You would not believe what happened if I told you...Lol!

[Husbands Kandi]

Do any of you VHW's "squirt"? If not, have you consciously tried to to see if you could? If you have or do, is it like some kind of mind bending orgasm. I've never tried to make my wife squirt by intention. I always am just trying to give her an orgasm. Personally, I'd dig it if I could make her spasm uncontrollably and squirt all over herself just for my own selfish indulgence. What's your take on squirting?

Yes – squirt and gush.
Sometimes it’s just getting the right spot at the right time, doesn’t always have to be hard fucking. I have a few videos where I just gush all over! Clear fluid (not pee) spraying all over my lover! So good! And I can squirt/gush over and over.
Other times its mind blowing! We always we have to put something down or I’ll soak the bed (so much so that we now have a waterproof bed sheet AND a lover gave me a waterproof blanket as a gift. I love how the guys are ready with towels when I come over )
When we meet new guys, I’ll tell them I’m a squirter. And then when it doesn’t happen with them (mostly because the sex wasn’t great) I have to lie to not bruise their egos and say I was tired!

I can stop it, but I have to take myself out of the pleasure of what’s going on. If I’m enjoying it, it’s waterworks!

[Husbands Kandi]

How hard is it to deal with a bad experience, or flakes, or other general disappointments? If you have a regular or regulars (I'm thinking Farmgirl here) I would guess this takes care of itself mostly. Since your husband isn't that much of a factor in controlling these things, how does he handle knowing you're dissatisfied? Do you always let him know if something wasn't good? I would imagine that I would jump up and try to solve everything while not being completely aware of all the nuances and be more of a pain than help. I'll hope to have to remember I said that. I have a feeling most of you dust yourself off and go again and take it in stride.

Farmgirl, you lucky duck you! I’ve had one guy (who I referred to as Opera man because 3-inch dick was just too rude) who’s little dick kept popping out and he couldn’t keep it in my cunt. He was good with words, but not his cock. I’ve had a couple guys who were too nervous to get/keep hard AND didn’t have a clue that they could use their fingers and/or mouth. None got 2nd dates.

How deal with it – at the beginning of hotwifing it was like vanilla dating. Hurt my feelings and did the “what’s wrong with me,” crap we’re brainwashed to think. Now, it’s not hard to deal with because it just IS what it IS. Plus, like you mentioned, once you have regulars – those are the guys who know what’s up! And wouldn’t be regulars if they were not getting the job done! And if they have to cancel or postpone, it’s not a big deal too, I know they are good for it

If I’m disappointed, Kentros is also disappointed. But he’ll just encourage me to have a date with someone who’s awesome to make up the where the bad date guy lacked. And yes, ALWAYS let Kentros know how the date went. It’s our thing.

[swexy]

I'm new here. My husband has asked me to consider the hot wife lifestyle, I am hesitant to comply to this request, however I would like to know more about it before entering this type of lifestyle. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[swexy]

Me again, new here, at the risk of sounding ridiculous I have to ask, what is a hot wife?

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum swexy. She can enjoy other cocks but you can't have pussy.

[Husbands Kandi]

Me again, new here, at the risk of sounding ridiculous I have to ask, what is a hot wife?

A hotwife is a wife who has other sexual partners besides her husband. The husband is aware, even encouraging. Her side of the marriage is open, while the husband remains monogamous. If the husband’s side of the marriage is also open, that’s vixen/stag (or swinging). When “love/feelings” gets involved, you’re leaning more towards polyamory. And cuckold is where the husband is humiliated by the wife’s lover(s) and even the wife. We have separate forums for each of these lifestyles (LS) due to the variation and interests of our members. The lines certainly can blur, and you can make your LS fit any formula that’s right for you and your husband.

Ask all the questions you can think of – the forum is a GREAT start for couples who have opened this discussion. 5 years ago we came to this site, after my husband shared his fantasy with me – it is a wealth of information and encouraging members. Check out some of the threads and read about other’s journey as you get answers to your questions.

And welcome again!

[afagehi7]

Me again, new here, at the risk of sounding ridiculous I have to ask, what is a hot wife?

A hotwife is a wife who has other sexual partners besides her husband. The husband is aware, even encouraging. Her side of the marriage is open, while the husband remains monogamous. If the husband’s side of the marriage is also open, that’s vixen/stag (or swinging). When “love/feelings” gets involved, you’re leaning more towards polyamory. And cuckold is where the husband is humiliated by the wife’s lover(s) and even the wife. We have separate forums for each of these lifestyles (LS) due to the variation and interests of our members. The lines certainly can blur, and you can make your LS fit any formula that’s right for you and your husband.

Ask all the questions you can think of – the forum is a GREAT start for couples who have opened this discussion. 5 years ago we came to this site, after my husband shared his fantasy with me – it is a wealth of information and encouraging members. Check out some of the threads and read about other’s journey as you get answers to your questions.

And welcome again!

I know this is VHW posts only but this is a great definition and the best I've seen yet. Maybe the active VHWs can collaborate on the "accepted" definition as it pertains to OHW and put a sticky thread somewhere. That question keeps coming up over and over almost as much as the penis size question.

[swexy]

Me again, new here, at the risk of sounding ridiculous I have to ask, what is a hot wife?

A hotwife is a wife who has other sexual partners besides her husband. The husband is aware, even encouraging. Her side of the marriage is open, while the husband remains monogamous. If the husband’s side of the marriage is also open, that’s vixen/stag (or swinging). When “love/feelings” gets involved, you’re leaning more towards polyamory. And cuckold is where the husband is humiliated by the wife’s lover(s) and even the wife. We have separate forums for each of these lifestyles (LS) due to the variation and interests of our members. The lines certainly can blur, and you can make your LS fit any formula that’s right for you and your husband.

Ask all the questions you can think of – the forum is a GREAT start for couples who have opened this discussion. 5 years ago we came to this site, after my husband shared his fantasy with me – it is a wealth of information and encouraging members. Check out some of the threads and read about other’s journey as you get answers to your questions.

And welcome again!

Thank you this is very helpful.

[Farmgirl]

Me again, new here, at the risk of sounding ridiculous I have to ask, what is a hot wife?

A hotwife is a wife who has other sexual partners besides her husband. The husband is aware, even encouraging. Her side of the marriage is open, while the husband remains monogamous. If the husband’s side of the marriage is also open, that’s vixen/stag (or swinging). When “love/feelings” gets involved, you’re leaning more towards polyamory. And cuckold is where the husband is humiliated by the wife’s lover(s) and even the wife. We have separate forums for each of these lifestyles (LS) due to the variation and interests of our members. The lines certainly can blur, and you can make your LS fit any formula that’s right for you and your husband.

Ask all the questions you can think of – the forum is a GREAT start for couples who have opened this discussion. 5 years ago we came to this site, after my husband shared his fantasy with me – it is a wealth of information and encouraging members. Check out some of the threads and read about other’s journey as you get answers to your questions.

And welcome again!

Hey girl!

I always think of a hotwife husband and a stag as the same thing, though I can see a difference with what you said, and maybe there is a difference. I just considered the husband being able to play as a swinging LS. And, HWH and Stag as the same item.

[Husbands Kandi]

Me again, new here, at the risk of sounding ridiculous I have to ask, what is a hot wife?

A hotwife is a wife who has other sexual partners besides her husband. The husband is aware, even encouraging. Her side of the marriage is open, while the husband remains monogamous. If the husband’s side of the marriage is also open, that’s vixen/stag (or swinging). When “love/feelings” gets involved, you’re leaning more towards polyamory. And cuckold is where the husband is humiliated by the wife’s lover(s) and even the wife. We have separate forums for each of these lifestyles (LS) due to the variation and interests of our members. The lines certainly can blur, and you can make your LS fit any formula that’s right for you and your husband.

Hey girl!

I always think of a hotwife husband and a stag as the same thing, though I can see a difference with what you said, and maybe there is a difference. I just considered the husband being able to play as a swinging LS. And, HWH and Stag as the same item.

You're so right. These relationships can take on all kinds of variation. Kentros (my husband) doesn't play. So we don't think of him as a stag but a hotwife hubby (we did a bit of a swap when we were in Denmark with the Niels, but that's all he's ever done with another hotwife). He's been part of MFM with me - but no cuck stuff happens either. No way are we into the humiliation or the guys interacting - I'm the center of attention, lol! But back to your point - we make this LS what works for us, right. And it may be a bit diferent from the next, but as long as it works, it's fantastic!! XOXO to you Farmgirl!

[Farmgirl]

You're so right. These relationships can take on all kinds of variation. Kentros (my husband) doesn't play. So we don't think of him as a stag but a hotwife hubby (we did a bit of a swap when we were in Denmark with the Niels, but that's all he's ever done with another hotwife). He's been part of MFM with me - but no cuck stuff happens either. No way are we into the humiliation or the guys interacting - I'm the center of attention, lol! But back to your point - we make this LS what works for us, right. And it may be a bit diferent from the next, but as long as it works, it's fantastic!! XOXO to you Farmgirl!

Oh so true, my friend!

[unexpectedcuck]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

[Farmgirl]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

Why try to feed her modern liberal koolaid? The other two items I highlighted; Why were you not prepared to answer her questions?
If she can't trust you to have answers for her questions regarding something you want, how or why would she trust you in something like this. If you can't answer simple questions about the benefits of hotwifing and why you want her to be a hotwife, you are far from ready, and she knows that.

[unexpectedcuck]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

Why try to feed her modern liberal koolaid? The other two items I highlighted; Why were you not prepared to answer her questions?
If she can't trust you to have answers for her questions regarding something you want, how or why would she trust you in something like this. If you can't answer simple questions about the benefits of hotwifing and why you want her to be a hotwife, you are far from ready, and she knows that.

At that time we were still dating. So, I told her we both can experience how sex would be like with others before settling in. And her answer was that, just because we have a threesome we don't gain much. I could have said, then let's sleep with 10 different people, lol. But, she would have been really pissed off. Now that we are married and been married for two years, if I were to ask her for a MFM, what should be my line and how should I pitch the benefits? Also, is MFM a good first step into her becoming a hotwife?

[Farmgirl]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

Why try to feed her modern liberal koolaid? The other two items I highlighted; Why were you not prepared to answer her questions?
If she can't trust you to have answers for her questions regarding something you want, how or why would she trust you in something like this. If you can't answer simple questions about the benefits of hotwifing and why you want her to be a hotwife, you are far from ready, and she knows that.

At that time we were still dating. So, I told her we both can experience how sex would be like with others before settling in. And her answer was that, just because we have a threesome we don't gain much. I could have said, then let's sleep with 10 different people, lol. But, she would have been really pissed off. Now that we are married and been married for two years, if I were to ask her for a MFM, what should be my line and how should I pitch the benefits? Also, is MFM a good first step into her becoming a hotwife?

You need to do a lot of reading here. Not knowing those simple answers, again says that you aren't even close to being ready.
The only good first step in her maybe becoming a hotwife is for the two of you to communicate with you being prepared to answer her questions with good honest answers. Finding answers for this is like anything else, read and study.

[unexpectedcuck]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

Why try to feed her modern liberal koolaid? The other two items I highlighted; Why were you not prepared to answer her questions?
If she can't trust you to have answers for her questions regarding something you want, how or why would she trust you in something like this. If you can't answer simple questions about the benefits of hotwifing and why you want her to be a hotwife, you are far from ready, and she knows that.

At that time we were still dating. So, I told her we both can experience how sex would be like with others before settling in. And her answer was that, just because we have a threesome we don't gain much. I could have said, then let's sleep with 10 different people, lol. But, she would have been really pissed off. Now that we are married and been married for two years, if I were to ask her for a MFM, what should be my line and how should I pitch the benefits? Also, is MFM a good first step into her becoming a hotwife?

You need to do a lot of reading here. Not knowing those simple answers, again says that you aren't even close to being ready.
The only good first step in her maybe becoming a hotwife is for the two of you to communicate with you being prepared to answer her questions with good honest answers. Finding answers for this is like anything else, read and study.

Any specific resources you recommend to get started? I spend lot of time on Reddit. But, that spoiled me to just expect the wife to go fuck someone. LOL. But, how do you get a wife to agree to it? May be some of it has to do with her worrying about how the husband would suddenly think she is a whore or something. I will read the forum and spend time. But any recommendations you have can go a long way.

[2inUPMichigan]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

I would have answered the same way she did because I don't see how a threesome would help both of you get more experience with others before committing to each other. A threesome is bringing someone else into your dynamic so how much experience would both of you be getting with other people? No that logic would have fallen flat with me too.

"Modern liberal koolaid" wow with that viewpoint and her being a career woman who is a strong individual.....you don't think she will see through the fact that you are handing her a line you don't believe in?

Why don't you tell her the truth? Stop trying to feed her lines or making up fake reasons for why you really want her to do this. Be honest and see what happens. It will be a relief to get it out in the open.

You asked Farmgirl "how to you get a wife to agree to it?"
Guess what? You don't! That's the simple answer. The more complex is that ultimately it is her decision whether or not she will be comfortable with this situation enough to where she can accept it and go forward whether that be fantasy role play in the bedroom or actually living it out in real life.

Please keep in mind that once this stops being just a thought in your head (a fantasy) and becomes reality it will not look exactly as you pictured it. There will be other people involved with their own thoughts and ideas so be prepared for some changes if it happens.

[unexpectedcuck]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

I would have answered the same way she did because I don't see how a threesome would help both of you get more experience with others before committing to each other. A threesome is bringing someone else into your dynamic so how much experience would both of you be getting with other people? No that logic would have fallen flat with me too.

"Modern liberal koolaid" wow with that viewpoint and her being a career woman who is a strong individual.....you don't think she will see through the fact that you are handing her a line you don't believe in?

Why don't you tell her the truth? Stop trying to feed her lines or making up fake reasons for why you really want her to do this. Be honest and see what happens. It will be a relief to get it out in the open.

You asked Farmgirl "how to you get a wife to agree to it?"
Guess what? You don't! That's the simple answer. The more complex is that ultimately it is her decision whether or not she will be comfortable with this situation enough to where she can accept it and go forward whether that be fantasy role play in the bedroom or actually living it out in real life.

Please keep in mind that once this stops being just a thought in your head (a fantasy) and becomes reality it will not look exactly as you pictured it. There will be other people involved with their own thoughts and ideas so be prepared for some changes if it happens.

I am slowly learning that this is a long road and a lifestyle choice. I have spent too much time on Reddit and I may have developed a narrow view of the open relationships.

I will try to take both of your advice to heart and have a more heart felt discussion with my wife.

And the liberal koolaid thing I talked about, I may have come across as non-believer. But, I truly believe women are free spirited creatures and they are no less than men in any way. All that I was saying was that my wife is a liberal and she likes my gentle nudges of how woman can be as strong in bed as they are in the meetings at work. To be honest, this talk has been my single best and only way to get her to be open to bringing in toys into our bedroom.

[2inUPMichigan]

What is the best way to introduce a wife to hot wife lifestyle? I wonder if some women are more confident and easily accommodating of their husband's request. My wife has shutdown my request for a threesome when we were dating. I haven't raised it with her again. At that time her answer was, how will threesome help? She basically shut me down with a question. I told her we need more experience with others before committing to each other. She comes back with the same question. How does a threesome suddenly help with that?

She is a career woman and has a strong individuality. So, that makes it even harder for me I guess. I try to feed her the modern liberal koolaid about how woman can enjoy their sex life and how they don't need to be held back etc. I think that works partially. She has taken initiatives in bedroom and revealed two of her kinks to me. But, I don't know when I should bring up sharing with her again.

I would have answered the same way she did because I don't see how a threesome would help both of you get more experience with others before committing to each other. A threesome is bringing someone else into your dynamic so how much experience would both of you be getting with other people? No that logic would have fallen flat with me too.

"Modern liberal koolaid" wow with that viewpoint and her being a career woman who is a strong individual.....you don't think she will see through the fact that you are handing her a line you don't believe in?

Why don't you tell her the truth? Stop trying to feed her lines or making up fake reasons for why you really want her to do this. Be honest and see what happens. It will be a relief to get it out in the open.

You asked Farmgirl "how to you get a wife to agree to it?"
Guess what? You don't! That's the simple answer. The more complex is that ultimately it is her decision whether or not she will be comfortable with this situation enough to where she can accept it and go forward whether that be fantasy role play in the bedroom or actually living it out in real life.

Please keep in mind that once this stops being just a thought in your head (a fantasy) and becomes reality it will not look exactly as you pictured it. There will be other people involved with their own thoughts and ideas so be prepared for some changes if it happens.

I am slowly learning that this is a long road and a lifestyle choice. I have spent too much time on Reddit and I may have developed a narrow view of the open relationships.

I will try to take both of your advice to heart and have a more heart felt discussion with my wife.

And the liberal koolaid thing I talked about, I may have come across as non-believer. But, I truly believe women are free spirited creatures and they are no less than men in any way. All that I was saying was that my wife is a liberal and she likes my gentle nudges of how woman can be as strong in bed as they are in the meetings at work. To be honest, this talk has been my single best and only way to get her to be open to bringing in toys into our bedroom.

When you start reading pay attention to the answers given by the VHW'S (verified hotwives) all of their names - except mine - are in bright blue to stand out. That might be helpful for you and we think it is an added value of this site

For many couples this is a marathon not a sprint......but whatever the path don't forget to enjoy each step along the way.

[Farmgirl]

Any specific resources you recommend to get started? I spend lot of time on Reddit. But, that spoiled me to just expect the wife to go fuck someone. LOL. But, how do you get a wife to agree to it? May be some of it has to do with her worrying about how the husband would suddenly think she is a whore or something. I will read the forum and spend time. But any recommendations you have can go a long way.

You have spent way too much time on Reddit. We VHW's don't live a fantasy, we live real life. Like 2inUP said, there is not a getting your wife to agree to it. First, you have to know what you want, why you want it. Not the fantasy crap, real life. This is your marriage we're talking about, your future, and your wife's future.
To even get her to think about it, you have to be able to make her comfortable with the idea of it. Comfortable with you and comfortable in her marriage. So far, you've been more interested in your fantasy than in her getting what she might want. And, she might not even want to be a hotwife. There is a whole lot of learning for you yet, before you ask "How do I?"
The best resource is this forum. Read, learn. Some couples and threads you will identify with, some not. Pay attention to the ones you identify with, the ones that sound like what you and your wife would like. Talk to them, read their whole journey, soak it up and learn. Then, tell your wife about the site, read to her the threads of the couples that fit. Discuss with her and learn her likes and dislikes, listen to her. Have answers for the questions she might have.

[unexpectedcuck]

Any specific resources you recommend to get started? I spend lot of time on Reddit. But, that spoiled me to just expect the wife to go fuck someone. LOL. But, how do you get a wife to agree to it? May be some of it has to do with her worrying about how the husband would suddenly think she is a whore or something. I will read the forum and spend time. But any recommendations you have can go a long way.

You have spent way too much time on Reddit. We VHW's don't live a fantasy, we live real life. Like 2inUP said, there is not a getting your wife to agree to it. First, you have to know what you want, why you want it. Not the fantasy crap, real life. This is your marriage we're talking about, your future, and your wife's future.
To even get her to think about it, you have to be able to make her comfortable with the idea of it. Comfortable with you and comfortable in her marriage. So far, you've been more interested in your fantasy than in her getting what she might want. And, she might not even want to be a hotwife. There is a whole lot of learning for you yet, before you ask "How do I?"

The way I ask might sound I just want to video tape my wife gang banged in 15 days. While, I would totally love that, please don't think I am superficial. We are both well educated and building a shared life based on shared values. If there is one thing that made me attracted to her and wanting her as my wife, it is her values and how she loves all humans. There is so much to that woman than her body. But, of course any man would appreciate a fit and sensual woman. Luckily, she is that woman for me.

I went through some stories in the forum, and here is what I learnt. It looks like we need to make the wife enjoy being herself while having sex. We need to know what makes her go crazy with orgasms. Then, slowly introduce her to appreciate how other men view her sexuality. And then may be one fine day talk about another man and her together. I will work on these steps.

I think I am lucky that I have introduced her to some toys and we are having fun in the bed. I am looking to fulfill two of her fantasies that came out due to a sex quiz we took.

[Farmgirl]

Any specific resources you recommend to get started? I spend lot of time on Reddit. But, that spoiled me to just expect the wife to go fuck someone. LOL. But, how do you get a wife to agree to it? May be some of it has to do with her worrying about how the husband would suddenly think she is a whore or something. I will read the forum and spend time. But any recommendations you have can go a long way.

You have spent way too much time on Reddit. We VHW's don't live a fantasy, we live real life. Like 2inUP said, there is not a getting your wife to agree to it. First, you have to know what you want, why you want it. Not the fantasy crap, real life. This is your marriage we're talking about, your future, and your wife's future.
To even get her to think about it, you have to be able to make her comfortable with the idea of it. Comfortable with you and comfortable in her marriage. So far, you've been more interested in your fantasy than in her getting what she might want. And, she might not even want to be a hotwife. There is a whole lot of learning for you yet, before you ask "How do I?"

The way I ask might sound I just want to video tape my wife gang banged in 15 days. While, I would totally love that, please don't think I am superficial. We are both well educated and building a shared life based on shared values. If there is one thing that made me attracted to her and wanting her as my wife, it is her values and how she loves all humans. There is so much to that woman than her body. But, of course any man would appreciate a fit and sensual woman. Luckily, she is that woman for me.

I went through some stories in the forum, and here is what I learnt. It looks like we need to make the wife enjoy being herself while having sex. We need to know what makes her go crazy with orgasms. Then, slowly introduce her to appreciate how other men view her sexuality. And then may be one fine day talk about another man and her together. I will work on these steps.

I think I am lucky that I have introduced her to some toys and we are having fun in the bed. I am looking to fulfill two of her fantasies that came out due to a sex quiz we took.

You do sound better now. I edited my post to include more info.

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You do sound better now. I edited my post to include more info.

I am trying to come up with a plan on how to take it forward. I assure you that I want to do it with absolute approval of her. I asked it in this thread.

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[mamipapi79]

A question from the wife for the most experience hotwife.
She had her first experience last weekend. She said the day after she had a good feeling. That good feelings only lasted a day or two. After that, she just felt normal again.
Her question is it is normal for that good feeling subside after a day or two?
Thank