Is this the start or the end?

[2wheel]

Hi 2Wheel I’m So sorry to hear that. It must be very difficult.

She would have been in no doubt that you loved her very very much. Your actions and care for her clearly demonstrated that.

I hope you’re doing okay.

Thank you.

[2wheel]

2wheel

i'm sorry to hear that. i hope she didn't suffer.

i'm waiting for a call from my DIL, my wife (see signature) is headed to hospice as soon as they can find her a spot.

same issue; i series of strokes & diabetes. she is 74.

I hope everything goes well for your wife also dh

Thank you.

[2wheel]

Very sorry for your loss 2Wheel. Thank you for being so open about the journey you and your wife shared. You all had some wild adventures but it was always clear that the love, trust and respect you had for each other was at the forefront. Again my sympathies from a lowcountry neighbor.

Thank you.

[2wheel]

I've been away from here for a while, and I'm just now seeing this. I enjoyed your thread and I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Please accept my condolences.

Thank you.

[2wheel]

I am so sorry to hear this devastating news. My condolences. You shared with us such a personal side your relationship, one could feel that she had such a passion for all that life had to offer.

Thank you.

[Jeff111]

As someone else mentioned, go easy on yourself 2Wheel.

Make sure you talk to someone you feel comfortable with. Even to vent on. a pm to someone you know here.

You were together a very long time. Take each day as it comes. Please be kind to yourself.

[dickhurts472]

2wheel

i'm sorry to hear that. i hope she didn't suffer.

i'm waiting for a call from my DIL, my wife (see signature) is headed to hospice as soon as they can find her a spot.

same issue; i series of strokes & diabetes. she is 74.

Thank you.

So sorry for the trial your loved ones are going through. Be strong but don't be afraid to show your feelings.

Thank you, 2wheel she left us at 6:05 this morning. i appreciate your thoughts.

[Wistful]

Sorry to hear of another wife passing. Condolences to you, dickhurts472

[2wheel]

2wheel

i'm sorry to hear that. i hope she didn't suffer.

i'm waiting for a call from my DIL, my wife (see signature) is headed to hospice as soon as they can find her a spot.

same issue; i series of strokes & diabetes. she is 74.

Thank you.

So sorry for the trial your loved ones are going through. Be strong but don't be afraid to show your feelings.

Thank you, 2wheel she left us at 6:05 this morning. i appreciate your thoughts.

So very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain.

[dickhurts472]

Sorry to hear of another wife passing. Condolences to you, dickhurts472

Thank you, Wistful.

[dickhurts472]

2wheel

i'm sorry to hear that. i hope she didn't suffer.

i'm waiting for a call from my DIL, my wife (see signature) is headed to hospice as soon as they can find her a spot.

same issue; i series of strokes & diabetes. she is 74.

Thank you.

So sorry for the trial your loved ones are going through. Be strong but don't be afraid to show your feelings.

Thank you, 2wheel she left us at 6:05 this morning. i appreciate your thoughts.

So very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain.

Thank you, 2wheel.

Even though we could see this coming, it doesn't make it any easier to accept.

[goodtimes2]

I am very sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace and may you stay strong at this difficult time

[Jeff111]

Sorry for your loss also dh

[our_mmann]

Very sorry for your loss.
M&C

[dickhurts472]

Sorry for your loss also dh

thank you, jeff.

[2wheel]

Thank you.

So sorry for the trial your loved ones are going through. Be strong but don't be afraid to show your feelings.

Thank you, 2wheel she left us at 6:05 this morning. i appreciate your thoughts.

So very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain.

Thank you, 2wheel.

Even though we could see this coming, it doesn't make it any easier to accept.

We knew it was coming, neurosurgeons & neurologists told us so, just didn't know when.

[2wheel]

I am very sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace and may you stay strong at this difficult time

Thank you

[2wheel]

Very sorry for your loss.
M&C

Thank you.

[dickhurts472]

Thank you, 2wheel she left us at 6:05 this morning. i appreciate your thoughts.

So very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain.

Thank you, 2wheel.

Even though we could see this coming, it doesn't make it any easier to accept.

We knew it was coming, neurosurgeons & neurologists told us so, just didn't know when.

Donna had had a series of strokes & was really deteriorating over the last year. after a severe fall, she ended up in the hospital.

from there to a nursing home/physical therapy facility. of course, due to covid, she hasn't seen any family members face-to-face during the four months she was there.

her eyesight was almost gone & she lost the ability to form words or sentences.

she finally just gave up. she stopped eating, stop taking her meds & unhooked the IV.

my D-I-L,an oncology nurse, called me on Sunday morning & said she was in bed asleep. we, then, knew that it was just a matter of hours. Sunday was torture waiting for the call. it came monday morning at 8:00AM & it was over.

2wheel, i want to thank you for letting me participate in your thread. i didn't start out to hi-jack. i'm just letting you know i appreciate letting me tell my story.

DH

[Jeff111]

It didn’t read like a hijack and a shared experience is a shared pain..

There’s little we can do from here but our thoughts and prayers are with you both

[dickhurts472]

It didn’t read like a hijack and a shared experience is a shared pain..

There’s little we can do from here but our thoughts and prayers are with you both

thank you, jeff.

[2wheel]

So very sorry for your loss. I feel your pain.

Thank you, 2wheel.

Even though we could see this coming, it doesn't make it any easier to accept.

We knew it was coming, neurosurgeons & neurologists told us so, just didn't know when.

Donna had had a series of strokes & was really deteriorating over the last year. after a severe fall, she ended up in the hospital.

from there to a nursing home/physical therapy facility. of course, due to covid, she hasn't seen any family members face-to-face during the four months she was there.

her eyesight was almost gone & she lost the ability to form words or sentences.

she finally just gave up. she stopped eating, stop taking her meds & unhooked the IV.

my D-I-L,an oncology nurse, call ed my Sunday morning & said she was in bed asleep. we, then, knew that it was just a matter of hours. Sunday was torture waiting for the call. it came monday morning at 8:00AM & it was over.

2wheel, i want to thank you for letting me participate in your thread. i didn't start out to hi-jack. i'm just letting you know i appreciate letting me tell my story.

DH

You didn't hi-jack it, you participated. Relating, retelling, talking, writing, is very cathartic.

I am talking to a grief counselor each week (twice now) by video. It helps to get to talk it out. I can only tell some of our life together to others, but can open completely to her.

My wife's entire family: sister, brother, mother (98), niece, nephews are in California. I have no children. My brother lives less than 1 mile away and he has been there for me, but he has his own life. Due to CV19 there is no physical mourning, no family, no friends, no acquaintances. We did a Zoom memorial Sunday for her cousins. Basically I'm mourning in solitary, alone except for my brother. I have received 200-300 e-mails, texts, phone calls & cards each helps prop me up.

I was able to be with her to the bitter end making sure she wasn't alone.

There is no scale to measure the sadness I feel. And I know DH, how you feel, my thoughts are with you as we simultaneously mourn.

2wheel

[dickhurts472]

i am also alone. i am in NC, my son, DIL & grandkids are in NY. my sister lives about an hour from here & that is it.
this thread has helped me, immensely. thank you, 2wheel & everyone who participated.
DH

[afagehi7]

2wheel and DH,

It makes me sad to think about this. Maybe it's better if I go before my spouse so I don't have to face such an insurmountable challenge.

Sorry for your losses. I wish there was more I could do

[2wheel]

And the unanswerable question both DH & I have is, What is the path forward for us?