"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[SailorGuy]

Deep down, every man wants his wife to be a glamorous, seductive, adventurous, exciting, irresistible, sexually free and empowered woman, even if the reality of it terrifies him.

A hotwife husband has a wife who is all of these things.

In a poll I saw conducted among swingers, more than 80% of swinger men were more turned by their wives being with others than being with others themselves.

Of the remaining 20%, I assume some were 'equally turned on', which would leave an even smaller percentage who were' less turned on' by their wives' activities. Were those men still turned on to some degree or in denial of their feelings, dissatisfied with their wives, just swinging wannabes? Who knows?

The general trend definitely supports the opening statement.

54321

Exactly! I definitely want my wife to be all those things - AND the reality does indeed terrify me!
My wife was always reserved and conservative. When we first got together long ago I felt a need to spice her up a bit. I knew she had it in her, but she had always been a "good girl" growing up in her large family and a front-row straight-A student.
My previous girlfriend had been super-hot in bed, and I missed that element with my new girlfriend.
I arranged a night with a lesbian friend of hers; she was somewhat reluctant, but once she and her friend fell onto the bed my "reserved" girlfriend went at her lesbian friend with abandon, totally ignoring me. I was stunned, deeply deeply stunned.
And delighted.
Thus the beginning. Marriage and kids and me begging her to have another lover again. She eventually obliged, with another man, now for many years. And I am still deeply turned on by this AND terrified. Will she leave me after all? God I hope not! But she and her lover are very close and have a great sex life. I got what I asked for; too late to shut the barn door with the horse long-gone down the road.
Sometimes I wonder if she wouldn't have hooked up with her lover anyway, regardless of my fantasy? And then she'd perhaps be racked with the guilt of having a "secret affair"? SO many marriages fall prey to such a thing; at least our's is out in the open, with my admitted turn-on with my wife's affair.

[asudas1709]

I love seeing my GF fucked hard. She is horny. I am her third BF, but yet after so many years of fucking she has a good tight pussy. I want that to be loesen

[Gavriloprincep]

I think there are several psychological aspects involved. I dont get off on the cuck humiliation part. I have been a bull and have shared as a stag. When i am with my HW, i often pretend i am that "new guy" having sex for the first time with this smoking hot wife. And imagine what she feels if it were her first risque affair. Makes each time feel like the first. So we have sex on average of 5x per week (allowing for illness, kids, pregnancies, etc). And in over 12 years it has felt like 5x52x12 (>3000) firsts. Now, watching and seeing the real thing turbo charges that high. The key is that we know who we love and have loyalty, and longevity. We always put each other first and realize that the "sport" sex for fun is different than the "love" sex of a deeply connected couple. That is my perspective which may be at odds or different than others but it has worked for us.

[Steamboiler]

My wife is my favorite porn star. She has a regular now and they are very close. She has spent 2 nights with him ( something we never did before) but she shares every detail even making videos. As long as we keep it honest I’m good with it. This is her 11th lover since marriage. She will get bored soon and want fresh meat.

[Wife4spice]

My husband agrees, I am his favorite porn star

[calguy69]

Some people enjoy watching their ladies with another guys, like to see complete 'wild' side of their homely ladies and then there's other aspects like BDSM, Cuck..

[early-kink]

Some people enjoy watching their ladies with another guys, like to see complete 'wild' side of their homely ladies and then there's other aspects like BDSM, Cuck..

".......... homely ladies ........." ????? Yikes!!

[calguy69]

Some people enjoy watching their ladies with another guys, like to see complete 'wild' side of their homely ladies and then there's other aspects like BDSM, Cuck..

".......... homely ladies ........." ????? Yikes!!

I mean ladies who are mostly housewives or look more so like innocent:D

[early-kink]

I figured it was a slip of the typing fingers - not a deliberate, purposeful verbal assault on women!! "Homemakers" or "housewives" maybe would have been a better choice than "homely." I thought you'd be attacked from all angles with that word!! I understood what you MEANT, I was trying to give you a bit of cover in case the attackers jumped on you. All good.

[butterfly16kisses]

A man that gives his wife to another man. Is pure love to see her happy and having pleasure. I
Make him happy and content knowing, he can't full thoese needs due to health. One great guy .
I know been there, when I finally understood, why he wanted to be with other men. It was to late to say thank you , I love you .it was to late he passed.
So enjoy be safe be happy
Butterfly 16 kisses

This my first post .

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum butterfly16kisses.

[Claire Byrne]

To cover up his "short comings,down low. Aka., not hung enough.

[SailorGuy]

I cannot explain it, not at all. At least not in the abstract. But when I CAN say is that in all my years I have never felt something as powerful as this - my wife in the arms of another man. Nothing in all my experiences has made me feel so fully alive and awake. Sure there is some powerful darkness about it, but in the long run this is far outweighed by the beauty. It's erotic as hell; it is far far better than Viagra in getting me hard. And my wife comes home to me she looks so loved, so beautiful, and she melts back into my arms a happy happy woman. After over 30 years of marriage this is a helluva statement of our vitality.
This Friday night she will be spending the night with her lover. I will kiss her good-bye Friday morning; I will masturbate thinking about her that night, around 10pm when they go to bed together and begin making love. I will anticipate her homecoming Saturday evening and be glad to see her when she comes home.

[Mgcouplemn]

Because of two reasons. I am always present when my wife fucks someone so: One is because I love seeing her being pleasured. Two is I love to masturbate watching her being fucked.

[DavidTriState]

It’s a great feeling to be fucking a wife while her husband can’t stop stroking his own cock…or fucking the husband while the wife can’t stop playing with her own pussy

Because of two reasons. I am always present when my wife fucks someone so: One is because I love seeing her being pleasured. Two is I love to masturbate watching her being fucked.

[Curioushubby99]

To me it is very simple and obvious, either because he wants his wife to have as much pleasure as possible, or because it turns him on, or both.

We have great sex on our own, I am reasonably well endowed and can fully satisfy wife. However we both enjoy the extra excitement of having sex with new and multiple partners. And I particularly get aroused when my wife has sex with other men and want her to have as much fun as possible. I enjoy all aspects and scenarios, watching, joining in, listening, or hearing about it later.

I don't need to understand why I enjoy it, the fact that i do is why I want my wife to fuck other men

[feetuji]

I cannot explain it, not at all. At least not in the abstract. But when I CAN say is that in all my years I have never felt something as powerful as this - my wife in the arms of another man. Nothing in all my experiences has made me feel so fully alive and awake. Sure there is some powerful darkness about it, but in the long run this is far outweighed by the beauty. It's erotic as hell; it is far far better than Viagra in getting me hard. And my wife comes home to me she looks so loved, so beautiful, and she melts back into my arms a happy happy woman. After over 30 years of marriage this is a helluva statement of our vitality.
This Friday night she will be spending the night with her lover. I will kiss her good-bye Friday morning; I will masturbate thinking about her that night, around 10pm when they go to bed together and begin making love. I will anticipate her homecoming Saturday evening and be glad to see her when she comes home.

Its exciting to read that. I am just a wannabe but i identify myself with what you said

[tallflexbear39]

I have been watching porn since I was 12 for better or for worse (for worse). These desires do not come naturally in my experience. Porn introduces us to this kinks/fetishes/lifestyles. Even though I don't watch porn anymore, I still have these thoughts and desires. So I think it stems from porn. I am also monogamous in my relationship and have zero desire for poly, but I have come to the conclusion that some strange every now and then releases tension and stress from a marriage and can stoke those fires again so no judgement here. Watching for me has transformed to loving my partner (when I meet one) even more and makes me desire her even more. I have also gotten to a place where this isn't mandatory nor possibly even desired IRL, but I still have the thoughts...better or for worse. Trying to put Jesus first these days, but stumbling along the way. At the end of the day I know these thoughts are not natural.

[bham87uk]

I remember this thread after seeing my wife on the sofa getting it from behind in doggystyle from her stud. Seeing her beauty, her toned body, her thighs and slender feet from a few metres away. What a view. It is far more pleasure to see a thick 9 inch cock. I much prefer the view and taking it all in with the stud getting the opportunity to enjoy her.

To be fair taking all into account there are only 2 reasons why you would not want another guy to fuck your wife 1) She is not a drop dead stunner 2) The male is insecure.

[Retroboat]

It’s completely exciting and I love the thrill. We have a larger boat and I’m sent out ahead to clean up the inside and get new sheets ready for her lover. I make sure her lubes, ropes, water, snacks are all ready for their fun and I get rewarded with a few photos and texts while they play. It’s fantastic!
We also go dancing, we’ll we did until 2020/2021, but just started back up again and excited about that as well. I love watching her flirt with men and watch them squirm trying to figure out what’s going to happen next. She’s completely in control!
We’re hoping for maybe a boat date this weekend and I’ll have to get things ready for her. I can’t wait!

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Retroboat.

[lifeisfun]

My wife has done it with 3 guys so far (total 8-9 times).She loves it so much and I dont think anything else comes even closer. Seeing her so happy is my main motivation!

Besides she is very shapely and does great in bed. It's like she is born to do this. Her only thing is that she is extremely choosy and must have rejected 150+ guys so far

Also she does it all on her own, I never see the guy. She tells me everything she she is home

[Sub4her]

My wife has done it with 3 guys so far (total 8-9 times).She loves it so much and I dont think anything else comes even closer. Seeing her so happy is my main motivation!

Besides she is very shapely and does great in bed. It's like she is born to do this. Her only thing is that she is extremely choosy and must have rejected 150+ guys so far

Also she does it all on her own, I never see the guy. She tells me everything she she is home

She sounds alot like my wife. Very selective and does everything on her own. Any involvement from me and she starts feeling like she is being pimped out. She likes to meet guys out in the wild as opposed to online.

The downside to this approach is that it can make for some long dryspells. But, that's the way she wants it so that's how we roll.

[frenchpaddy]

I only what her to be happy and enjoy sex she is opening up more as time goes on , I have no interest in watching even though i have been with her twice the man thanked both of us each time and i thanked them , both did good and know when to leave , it is ,ot something We do often covid has put a stop to us but she is looking forward to the next and we are working on that , she would like to try out with a couple

[EddieM]

Nothing is more erotic... seeing her with someone else, animalistic nature of her moving from uncomfortable to give it to me. Seeing her body crave his cock and as he thrusts and especially as she cums and when he finally announces he will also.. you wonder...how bad does she want this mans sperm.. and seeing her reaction as he unloads in her.