Not a Cuckold, but Thought I'd Share My Situation

[coolhandluke11]

Sounds like our sex life for,the last few years. Can't remember last time I was inside my wife.
We did the denial thing after I asked to be left frustrated and she found she likes me not to cum so this eventually led to my chastity and I've been locked since since March 2016 and only get to cum every 4 or 5 weeks generally.
My wife doesn't take part in the locking, she doesn't like the look of the cage (mature metal Jailbird) bit likes it's results and keeps the keys hidden away.
It's all me going down on my wife, occasionally face sitting, last time I came as she slapped my balls gently while she sat on my face. That was incredible.
When I'm allowed to cum, she may ruin it.
She knows I'd like to be a cuckold, she's bought me panties to wear too but doesn't often make me wear them,
My chastity suits us both, I just think she only likes an orgasm at a certain point in her cycle? and I like being denied sex and orgasms.

[Someofallthings]

Hi - I've been reading this thread on and off, so I apologize if what I'm about to ask is off the mark or has already been discussed and I missed it. Reading about drstrangelove's wife's attitude and earlier negative experiences and associated self-esteem, I can't help but wonder if she has some kind of sexual abuse history. It's certainly not uncommon for people with those kinds of experiences to later become very promiscuous, but at the same time, feel bad about it because of the associations. Even the recent posts about her using sex to get what she wants in terms of intimacy and conversation. That suggests someone who sees sex as a way to get something else or avoid something else. And also someone who separates intimacy and sex. And the fact that she is more comfortable with oral than face to face (putting aside any D/S or cuckolding or even just personal preference ), also makes me wonder if being able to just be in her own head makes it easier to put aside memories, associations, or even flashbacks. I wonder if this is something you've ever discussed with her - I get the sense that she might not be open to a conversation like that - or maybe you've already had that conversation.
I'm just throwing this out because when I read all the things you've said about her attitude, emotional reactions, avoidance of too much discussion - I can't help but think there is something pretty serious and pretty old that has not been dealt with. If that is the case, it's going to be pretty hard to improve things in the present without addressing the past. Not to mention that I'm sure you'd want her to be able to open up and not keep such a heavy secret.

Again - sorry if this is totally wrong, but I've had partners with abuse history and I recognize some cues.

[drstrangelove]

Hi - I've been reading this thread on and off, so I apologize if what I'm about to ask is off the mark or has already been discussed and I missed it. Reading about drstrangelove's wife's attitude and earlier negative experiences and associated self-esteem, I can't help but wonder if she has some kind of sexual abuse history. It's certainly not uncommon for people with those kinds of experiences to later become very promiscuous, but at the same time, feel bad about it because of the associations. Even the recent posts about her using sex to get what she wants in terms of intimacy and conversation. That suggests someone who sees sex as a way to get something else or avoid something else. And also someone who separates intimacy and sex. And the fact that she is more comfortable with oral than face to face (putting aside any D/S or cuckolding or even just personal preference ), also makes me wonder if being able to just be in her own head makes it easier to put aside memories, associations, or even flashbacks. I wonder if this is something you've ever discussed with her - I get the sense that she might not be open to a conversation like that - or maybe you've already had that conversation.
I'm just throwing this out because when I read all the things you've said about her attitude, emotional reactions, avoidance of too much discussion - I can't help but think there is something pretty serious and pretty old that has not been dealt with. If that is the case, it's going to be pretty hard to improve things in the present without addressing the past. Not to mention that I'm sure you'd want her to be able to open up and not keep such a heavy secret.

Again - sorry if this is totally wrong, but I've had partners with abuse history and I recognize some cues.

No need to apologize! You're not off the mark and I think I've covered this a bit before."Abuse" is a bit of a grey area regarding her past and she hasn't been comfortable to tell me about anything that sounds like rape, though I strongly suspect that line was blurred many times in her past.

She had sex with 30+ people in her early college days and none of them were romantic relationships. No boyfriends or even friends/fuck buddies. The guys she slept with more than once largely were guys that shared the same floor of her dorm rooms and would just show up in her room if they struck out at the bars--and all of the others were one-night stands.

Even the few guys she slept with after we met (but before we were together) were all bad experiences while she was feeling down about herself. Her recollection of her sexual experiences are all negative, yet she ultimately concedes it still often felt good. Her first orgasm came from me giving her oral--she had been with dozens of guys but never had a romantic/intimate sexual experience.

Early in our relationship I'd often press her for sex stories because they turned me on, but she hated sharing it, though she shared a few before cutting me off (and to be fair to her, it did seem like reliving them was very unenjoyable to her). Anyways, one of them was her sophomore year in college and her roommate was sleeping with someone on the football team and he came to their room/apt with one of his buddies. The friend was on the offensive line and was huge--250-300 lbs. The other guy went into her roommate's room fairly quickly and before long the friend made his move on her. It progressed to the bedroom and they fucked and all she remembers from it was how big he was (everywhere) and how long it lasted. He rode her for like 45 minutes and she said it mostly hurt. She felt like she couldn't ever stop a sexual situation--it would be rude or uncool or something. She was constantly being used as a sex toy for guys just trying to get a nut and she just went with it because she was so down on herself.

Which is just crazy for me to comprehend because she's so hot. It's hard to be objective now, but looking back, the only potential knock on her is her small tits. But her ass is perfect and she's ranged between 100-115 lbs her whole adult life. She was easily a 7-8/10 in college and always had guys looking to fuck her. Even when we met, I didn't even realize how easy she was. The first time we met we spent the whole night talking and she acknowledged afterward that it peaked her interest that I didn't fuck her that first night when she was more than willing.

Anyway, I suspect some variation of the abuse in her history has shaped her entire sexual outlook.

[drstrangelove]

So a quick update on my end. She's been on her period, but the other night she asked me if I wanted a hj before bed (it had been several days since we played or I came at all). I slyly responded that a bj would be better. She laughed at me and said "no thanks" and gave me the hj, which quickly devolved to her holding her hand while I humped up at it. I came quickly, all over myself, and she went to bed.

[residueS]

Thanks for the background information. Basic on your description, she seems to be rather submissive to the point of not be able to say no to many sexual advances. And people take advantage of her because of that. And these experiences leave scars and she would not want to relive these memory.

Regarding lack of sex drive after having kids. I think that quiet common, after hearing kids screaming all day, the last thing on your mind is sex. I think you guys probable do it more often than many couple already

Hi - I've been reading this thread on and off, so I apologize if what I'm about to ask is off the mark or has already been discussed and I missed it. Reading about drstrangelove's wife's attitude and earlier negative experiences and associated self-esteem, I can't help but wonder if she has some kind of sexual abuse history. It's certainly not uncommon for people with those kinds of experiences to later become very promiscuous, but at the same time, feel bad about it because of the associations. Even the recent posts about her using sex to get what she wants in terms of intimacy and conversation. That suggests someone who sees sex as a way to get something else or avoid something else. And also someone who separates intimacy and sex. And the fact that she is more comfortable with oral than face to face (putting aside any D/S or cuckolding or even just personal preference ), also makes me wonder if being able to just be in her own head makes it easier to put aside memories, associations, or even flashbacks. I wonder if this is something you've ever discussed with her - I get the sense that she might not be open to a conversation like that - or maybe you've already had that conversation.
I'm just throwing this out because when I read all the things you've said about her attitude, emotional reactions, avoidance of too much discussion - I can't help but think there is something pretty serious and pretty old that has not been dealt with. If that is the case, it's going to be pretty hard to improve things in the present without addressing the past. Not to mention that I'm sure you'd want her to be able to open up and not keep such a heavy secret.

Again - sorry if this is totally wrong, but I've had partners with abuse history and I recognize some cues.

No need to apologize! You're not off the mark and I think I've covered this a bit before."Abuse" is a bit of a grey area regarding her past and she hasn't been comfortable to tell me about anything that sounds like rape, though I strongly suspect that line was blurred many times in her past.

She had sex with 30+ people in her early college days and none of them were romantic relationships. No boyfriends or even friends/fuck buddies. The guys she slept with more than once largely were guys that shared the same floor of her dorm rooms and would just show up in her room if they struck out at the bars--and all of the others were one-night stands.

Even the few guys she slept with after we met (but before we were together) were all bad experiences while she was feeling down about herself. Her recollection of her sexual experiences are all negative, yet she ultimately concedes it still often felt good. Her first orgasm came from me giving her oral--she had been with dozens of guys but never had a romantic/intimate sexual experience.

Early in our relationship I'd often press her for sex stories because they turned me on, but she hated sharing it, though she shared a few before cutting me off (and to be fair to her, it did seem like reliving them was very unenjoyable to her). Anyways, one of them was her sophomore year in college and her roommate was sleeping with someone on the football team and he came to their room/apt with one of his buddies. The friend was on the offensive line and was huge--250-300 lbs. The other guy went into her roommate's room fairly quickly and before long the friend made his move on her. It progressed to the bedroom and they fucked and all she remembers from it was how big he was (everywhere) and how long it lasted. He rode her for like 45 minutes and she said it mostly hurt. She felt like she couldn't ever stop a sexual situation--it would be rude or uncool or something. She was constantly being used as a sex toy for guys just trying to get a nut and she just went with it because she was so down on herself.

Which is just crazy for me to comprehend because she's so hot. It's hard to be objective now, but looking back, the only potential knock on her is her small tits. But her ass is perfect and she's ranged between 100-115 lbs her whole adult life. She was easily a 7-8/10 in college and always had guys looking to fuck her. Even when we met, I didn't even realize how easy she was. The first time we met we spent the whole night talking and she acknowledged afterward that it peaked her interest that I didn't fuck her that first night when she was more than willing.

Anyway, I suspect some variation of the abuse in her history has shaped her entire sexual outlook.

[drstrangelove]

Regarding lack of sex drive after having kids. I think that quiet common, after hearing kids screaming all day, the last thing on your mind is sex. I think you guys probable do it more often than many couple already

Yea, that's exactly it...dealing with kids all day leaves her drained for sure.

She has been face sitting a bit more lately and getting increasingly annoyed if i don't cum by the time she gets off. I've even asked her for sex and she'll just say--"you don't even like sex, this is better for both of us" and then she'll straddle my mouth. It's a bit weird and dismissive, but it does kind of turn me on in the moment, I'm just adapting still I guess.

It has increased my internal acceptance of the idea of her one day cucking me though. I don't think she'll ever do it, but for the first time it feels like I might be ok with it on my end, which is interesting to wrap my head around.

[realcucklife]

How are you guys getting on?

[scsteelerfan]

Regarding lack of sex drive after having kids. I think that quiet common, after hearing kids screaming all day, the last thing on your mind is sex. I think you guys probable do it more often than many couple already

Yea, that's exactly it...dealing with kids all day leaves her drained for sure.

She has been face sitting a bit more lately and getting increasingly annoyed if i don't cum by the time she gets off. I've even asked her for sex and she'll just say--"you don't even like sex, this is better for both of us" and then she'll straddle my mouth. It's a bit weird and dismissive, but it does kind of turn me on in the moment, I'm just adapting still I guess.

It has increased my internal acceptance of the idea of her one day cucking me though. I don't think she'll ever do it, but for the first time it feels like I might be ok with it on my end, which is interesting to wrap my head around.

How about an update drstrangelove.

[drstrangelove]

Sorry for lack of updates! I just felt like I was getting a bit repetitive with my posts. Our sex life has mostly stayed the same, though the face-sitting is less frequent than my last post--it's mostly just usual oral with her on her back. We've had sex here and there over the months, but it always ends negatively with her frustrated/not enjoying it, so it's still very uncommon.

Last night was a bit of a new thing, so I thought I'd post. She's on her period and offered to help me out. I told her a bj wasn't necessary as I know she doesn't love giving them and hates getting cum in her mouth. So she just started giving me a hj, her on her side leaning toward me and me on my back.

I asked her teasingly if I'd get her mouth at all, and to my surprise, she played along, saying, "you don't get my mouth...you don't get my pussy...you just get to cum all over your chest."

Needless to say, I came all over myself quickly. Not necessarily progress on anything, but it was hot to hear her run with intentional dirty talk a bit--in the past, all the hot things she's said are always just innocent comments that have turned me on--in this case, she knew what she was doing, which was fun.

[FNQLivin]

Great to hear from you again.

[jratt85]

Sorry for lack of updates! I just felt like I was getting a bit repetitive with my posts. Our sex life has mostly stayed the same, though the face-sitting is less frequent than my last post--it's mostly just usual oral with her on her back. We've had sex here and there over the months, but it always ends negatively with her frustrated/not enjoying it, so it's still very uncommon.

Last night was a bit of a new thing, so I thought I'd post. She's on her period and offered to help me out. I told her a bj wasn't necessary as I know she doesn't love giving them and hates getting cum in her mouth. So she just started giving me a hj, her on her side leaning toward me and me on my back.

I asked her teasingly if I'd get her mouth at all, and to my surprise, she played along, saying, "you don't get my mouth...you don't get my pussy...you just get to cum all over your chest."

Needless to say, I came all over myself quickly. Not necessarily progress on anything, but it was hot to hear her run with intentional dirty talk a bit--in the past, all the hot things she's said are always just innocent comments that have turned me on--in this case, she knew what she was doing, which was fun.

I'd suggest watching porn and letting her catch you, but instead of regular porn have it be cuckold porn or real women pegging their men instead of pornstars.. Pornhub has plenty of those videos. Let her see how much you'd love to have her take you further, or let her see you watching vids of women enjoying cool toys.. When she asks tell her how hot it'd be to watch her enjoy herself with a toy that's bigger and better than you.

[Whosbeensleeping]

Just wanted to say that I enjoy your updates.

[drstrangelove]

Sorry for lack of updates! I just felt like I was getting a bit repetitive with my posts. Our sex life has mostly stayed the same, though the face-sitting is less frequent than my last post--it's mostly just usual oral with her on her back. We've had sex here and there over the months, but it always ends negatively with her frustrated/not enjoying it, so it's still very uncommon.

Last night was a bit of a new thing, so I thought I'd post. She's on her period and offered to help me out. I told her a bj wasn't necessary as I know she doesn't love giving them and hates getting cum in her mouth. So she just started giving me a hj, her on her side leaning toward me and me on my back.

I asked her teasingly if I'd get her mouth at all, and to my surprise, she played along, saying, "you don't get my mouth...you don't get my pussy...you just get to cum all over your chest."

Needless to say, I came all over myself quickly. Not necessarily progress on anything, but it was hot to hear her run with intentional dirty talk a bit--in the past, all the hot things she's said are always just innocent comments that have turned me on--in this case, she knew what she was doing, which was fun.

I'd suggest watching porn and letting her catch you, but instead of regular porn have it be cuckold porn or real women pegging their men instead of pornstars.. Pornhub has plenty of those videos. Let her see how much you'd love to have her take you further, or let her see you watching vids of women enjoying cool toys.. When she asks tell her how hot it'd be to watch her enjoy herself with a toy that's bigger and better than you.

Oh I’ve thought of that! My hesitancy has been that she really hates porn (I’ve tried watching very soft stuff with her in the past and she finds it gross). She also still swears she’s never masterbated, so the whole scene will very likely turn her off.

I’ve also considered just mentioning pegging to her, but haven’t built up the courage. I feel like it’s too big of a step from where we are.

[drstrangelove]

So I thought I’d give another update. I had sex in early April for my bday and it was incredible. She was super into it, took the top for a bit, and I got to finish with her on her stomach (my favorite position). No sex rest of month though as we went back to oral—not really even a discussion anymore, I just go down on her once we get intimate.

Then she had her period and just got off it last night. So I was pushing for sex again—I told her I have been thinking about it all month. She just smiled and kissed me more. After a couple of minutes, she took off her pants, and we both know what that means now, so I sluggishly made my way down.

She just muttered: “mmhmm...”

I started licking and noticed she was perfectly smooth, so I commented on it, reiterating how badly I wanted to fuck her.

She replied: “you like it this smooth don’t you? ...just keep licking, baby.”

So I did and after a few minutes, she came hard in my mouth and I came in my pants.

Afterward, she said “oh no, did you cum, babe?”

So I said of course, and she replied: “Aww, I thought you were going to fuck me tonight?”

So I said: “That’s unfair—you always get upset with me if I don’t cum while I’m down there and then I have to jerk off instead.”

She replied: “Yea, I know, but I was going to let you put it in tonight,” as she moved her hand lower and spread her legs a bit.

I told her how unfair it was again because I couldn’t go again after cuming, so she smiled and said: “Yea, I know, babe, it’s ok.”

And then I saw her perfect naked body just get dressed again and roll over while I had to go wash her cum off my face.

Just brutal torture.

[Rogueuser1]

Wow what a savagely hot tease night for you. She's really gotten into this!

[drstrangelove]

Another fun update. Mostly just oral sex about twice a week since the last post, however, I had a unique session last night. She knows her period is coming (sensitive nipples), so I made hints I was interested in sex with her throughout the day so I could at least get it in once this period cycle.

Then we got into bed at night, and she said, “Why don’t you just go down on me instead?”

So I was quiet at first, because I genuinely did want to fuck her and I knew it was my last chance, so I told her, “But babe, this is my last chance to fuck you before your period.”

“Just your tongue instead, babe, but please be very gentle on my nipples.”

So I slithered down and took her pants off and worked my hand up to gently massage her nipples while my tongue went inside her.

She really got into it and started talking a bit more than usual—moaning and encouraging, one point even saying, “mmm, make me cum in your mouth…”

I was doing my best to hold out, hoping after she came I’d get a shot to stick it in. She came hard, exploding her orgasm into my mouth and I swallowed and licked everything up as she expects.

So she asked if I came, and I just said that I had been focusing on her.

She asked if I wanted to jerk off on her, so I asked if she’d be ok because I know she hates the mess when I cum on her, and I was about to suggest I just stick it in, but didn’t get a chance before she said, “you’re right, just lie back.”

So I did and she started jerking me off. So I asked if that’s all I was going to get, and she just said, “mmhmm.”

So then I reiterated again that this was my last chance to get laid before her period.

She leaned down and got fairly vocal, saying “that’s right, once you cum, you’ll have lost your chance to fuck me for the entire month. It’s not your fault your so much better with your tongue than your dick.”

At which point I almost burst—couldn’t believe she was saying that. I just said, “fuck, babe…”

She added, “just cum all over yourself instead of fucking me.”

And I did.

She then grabbed one tissue and threw it on the puddle on my stomach and laughed, “See, it’s more to clean up when you don’t cum in your pants.”

I responded, “not to mention my face is also covered in your cum.”

“Well that’s normal, sweety.”

Needless to say, looks like I didn’t get laid this month. But it was a fun session!

[Guhunkadorn]

Thanks for update, always enjoy reading them.

Maybe ask her if she misses having a cock inside her and see where the convo goes.

[jacksonjones]

Another fun update. Mostly just oral sex about twice a week since the last post, however, I had a unique session last night. She knows her period is coming (sensitive nipples), so I made hints I was interested in sex with her throughout the day so I could at least get it in once this period cycle.

Then we got into bed at night, and she said, “Why don’t you just go down on me instead?”

So I was quiet at first, because I genuinely did want to fuck her and I knew it was my last chance, so I told her, “But babe, this is my last chance to fuck you before your period.”

“Just your tongue instead, babe, but please be very gentle on my nipples.”

So I slithered down and took her pants off and worked my hand up to gently massage her nipples while my tongue went inside her.

She really got into it and started talking a bit more than usual—moaning and encouraging, one point even saying, “mmm, make me cum in your mouth…”

I was doing my best to hold out, hoping after she came I’d get a shot to stick it in. She came hard, exploding her orgasm into my mouth and I swallowed and licked everything up as she expects.

So she asked if I came, and I just said that I had been focusing on her.

She asked if I wanted to jerk off on her, so I asked if she’d be ok because I know she hates the mess when I cum on her, and I was about to suggest I just stick it in, but didn’t get a chance before she said, “you’re right, just lie back.”

So I did and she started jerking me off. So I asked if that’s all I was going to get, and she just said, “mmhmm.”

So then I reiterated again that this was my last chance to get laid before her period.

She leaned down and got fairly vocal, saying “that’s right, once you cum, you’ll have lost your chance to fuck me for the entire month. It’s not your fault your so much better with your tongue than your dick.”

At which point I almost burst—couldn’t believe she was saying that. I just said, “fuck, babe…”

She added, “just cum all over yourself instead of fucking me.”

And I did.

She then grabbed one tissue and threw it on the puddle on my stomach and laughed, “See, it’s more to clean up when you don’t cum in your pants.”

I responded, “not to mention my face is also covered in your cum.”

“Well that’s normal, sweety.”

Needless to say, looks like I didn’t get laid this month. But it was a fun session!

This is hot as hell but are you ok with this? I would be 100% on board myself, but would need to at least have an in depth conversation with the Mrs about it first.

[Rogueuser1]

I love how she worked you towards that and then made the denial of you so hot. I hope for your sake that you get to get inside her next month... but at the same time it is pretty hot if you don't.
As always - thanks for the great update.

[drstrangelove]

Another fun update as we seem to be heading further in the same direction. She had her period and it just ended, so our first chance to play was Monday. We also have a vacation to Miami planned for next week, so I had high hopes for this month.

I was horny, so I just initiated asking if I could go down on her and she happily agreed. I ate her out for 25-30 minutes and she had an orgasm in my mouth. She asked if I came, but I genuinely didn't because I was so focused on her. (I don't know if that happens to anyone else, but between twirling my tongue and working her nipples, it requires a lot of mental energy lol.)

I could tell she was surprised, but again, to avoid me cuming on her, I just lied on my back and she started jerking me off. I told her she could jump on, but she declined.

I then asked when I'd get to fuck her again, but she just said she wasn't sure. So then I specifically said, "what about in Miami?"

"Definitely not. But you can eat me out often."

So I said, " Wait, seriously? It's vacation sex, babe," as I reached out to touch her pussy.

She pulled her legs/body away from my touch and replied, "No no. No touching. You only get to touch my pussy with your tongue--and that definitely includes when we're in Miami. We both love when I cum in your mouth."

I couldn't believe what she was saying, and I'm sure part of it was her teasing and playing along, but there's also a genuine sincerity to it. She kept working my dick and I shot a huge load in my boxers.

Then the next night, Tuesday, we got into bed early and we were cuddled. I wasn't expecting anything because we just played the night before. But she casually stretched out, allowing her boobs to come out of her top and got the sense she might be looking for more.

So I let my hand brush her nipple and she purred. So I said, "two nights in a row?"

She just said maybe and rolled onto her back, using her hand to guide my mouth to her breast. I took my time sucking on both her nipples before she worked her way out of her pants and I dropped my head lower to start gently licking her pussy. I said "thank you" without thinking and she just muttered "good boy" under her breath.

I went really slow at first, like usual, building up and she came after about 15-20 minutes. It was a really explosive orgasm and I felt her juices flooding my mouth (probably the most liquid I ever noticed). I drank it up quickly.

She asked if I came and I told her I was really close. So I went to go on my back, but she said no, why don't you cum over here this time, while she caressed her tits and abs. I could tell she was really enjoying the post-orgasm glow and didn't seem to care about where my cum ended up.

So I positioned myself between her legs to jerk off, and she said, "mmm just put it in."

So I did, and she was absurdly wet and open, so there was virtually no friction, but she came again almost instantly, lifting her legs up on my shoulders. I got a few pumps in before pulling out and cuming on her tits.

So on one hand, I got sex for the first time in 1.5 months, but it barely lasted because I was so close already. I can't remember the last time she let me fuck her with her legs up on my shoulders though--it felt so fucking incredible even though she was so wet and loose.

[drstrangelove]

This is hot as hell but are you ok with this? I would be 100% on board myself, but would need to at least have an in depth conversation with the Mrs about it first.

Yea, it was hot!

The bottomline is she has better orgasms from my tongue than sex with me, but pretending that isn't true just leads to resentment on both our parts.

[drstrangelove]

I love how she worked you towards that and then made the denial of you so hot. I hope for your sake that you get to get inside her next month... but at the same time it is pretty hot if you don't.
As always - thanks for the great update.

Luckily, I didn't have to wait long!

[TinyTim]

She just said maybe and rolled onto her back, using her hand to guide my mouth to her breast. I took my time sucking on both her nipples before she worked her way out of her pants and I dropped my head lower to start gently licking her pussy. I said "thank you" without thinking and she just muttered "good boy" under her breath.

Your wife’s attitude is so hot! Slays me. Hearing that would have made me want to lick her dripping, molten pussy all night. Love your updates.

[Rogueuser1]

Wow that is hot --- congratulations on finally getting back in there after 1.5 months!

Did you pull out because that is her preference and/or for birth control purposes? Hopefully she lets you cum inside her at least occasionally!!

[drstrangelove]

Wow that is hot --- congratulations on finally getting back in there after 1.5 months!

Did you pull out because that is her preference and/or for birth control purposes? Hopefully she lets you cum inside her at least occasionally!!

She’s not on birth control anymore—we made the decision a little after our second child. Birth control was messing with her and she couldn’t find one that wasn’t an issue. Ultimately, it seemed silly to have her taking a drug for it—I might get a vasectomy at some point, but not eager to do it.