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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by bi-cuck » Wed Jan 20, 2010 5:44 am

Simply, I love my wife and feel the need to allow her to enjoy ultimate sexual fulfillment.
She loves me and we enjoy our sex life together but it is greatly enhanced by the addition of another suitable male or males.
He must be well endowed and able to get a good erection as well as being handsome, charming and intelligent and be able to maintain a sensible conversation and have a sense of humour.
There is nothing more satisfying to me than to see my wife orgasm while being made love to by her lovers and then being invited to add my sperm to theirs in her hot, wet vagina.
The silky smooth feel of her vagina after she has been fucked well is indescribably erotic and knowing that she has orgasmed already and now just wants me to add my cum to that of her lovers is such a turn on. :whip:

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by chris35 » Thu Jan 21, 2010 10:32 am

bi-cuck wrote:Simply, I love my wife and feel the need to allow her to enjoy ultimate sexual fulfillment.
She loves me and we enjoy our sex life together but it is greatly enhanced by the addition of another suitable male or males.
He must be well endowed and able to get a good erection as well as being handsome, charming and intelligent and be able to maintain a sensible conversation and have a sense of humour.
There is nothing more satisfying to me than to see my wife orgasm while being made love to by her lovers and then being invited to add my sperm to theirs in her hot, wet vagina.
The silky smooth feel of her vagina after she has been fucked well is indescribably erotic and knowing that she has orgasmed already and now just wants me to add my cum to that of her lovers is such a turn on. :whip:
[b]I agreed with you seeing my wife giving sexual pleasure and getting sexual pleasure from another man, brings me sexual pleasure. Watching as the other guy cock slid in and out of her wet pussy is awesome, and then watching as she takes his hot cum. I love fucking her pussy right after the other guy has cum in it, and asking her how did she enjoy it.[/b]

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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by myhotwife+1 » Fri Feb 26, 2010 9:49 am

InigoMontoya wrote:Why would a sane, rational man want his wife to fuck another man?

The above question is a commonly asked question to those who've just heard of this lifestyle. The uninitiated think the answers are simple. The husband is a latent homosexual. The husband doesn't love his wife and is hoping to "bait" her into a divorce by dumping her off on another man. Or maybe the husband wants to fuck other woman and this is the lever he will use to get his wife to allow that. These are the big three themes but in any event the primary assumption is that the husband is being anything but honest and merely using his wife's promiscuity as a deception-based tool for him to achieve some unstated goal that the wife would normally not be agreeable too.

The truth is that the above stated assumption is rarely the case. Is it sometimes? I've no doubt. If the internet tells us one thing it's that there are very few limits to the human experience. But again, those are the exceptions. The truth? Well, it's a bit more complicated than that....but is much less Machiavellian.

So what is the truth?

Well, the truth is that usually the husband really does want to see his wife fuck others. The truth is that the husband rarely has any significant interest in other women. As for that latent homosexuality thing? Eh, sometimes, but that's generally not a real motivator but rather a fringe benefit for those so inclined.

So what are the motivations? They are as varied as the people who enter into the lifestyle but there are common themes. Will I address these themes? Not directly. Rather than profess to speak for all what I endeavor to do here is express MY motivations (and they are both numerous and dependent upon my mood). Beyond that, I would invite other individuals in the lifestyle to present their observations and motivations with the thought that a more complete and meaningful consensus may be formed.

Why I encourage my wife to fuck other men... Sheesh! Typing that gives me flashbacks to 7th Grade English and assignments like "What I did on my summer vacation!" In any event, I'm going to give you, the reader, several thoughts of mine on this topic. My appologies if they are sometimes contradictory and/or not always organized. We're dealing with the human mind and emotions; contradictions and chaos go with the territory.

I like to see my wife fuck other men because I am voyeuristic in nature. The most common expression of my voyeuristic nature is watching porn. I like porn. Most guys do! But what's better than watching porn? Watching real life sex, of course. Why settle for crappy video with a terrible sound track if you can get real live people to have sex in front of you? Now what's even better than a live sex show? A live sex show with the most beautiful woman in the world, of course! And yes, I consider my wife the most beautiful woman in the world. Sure, I'm biased but it doesn't change the allure of watching that magnificent woman get off. What's that, you say? Why don't I just watch her while I have sex with her? It just doesn't work well for me. For starters, there are "camera angles" that a participant can never see. Too, the sensations running through my own body make it difficult (have you ever tried to watch and appreciate somebody else while YOU were having an orgasm?). OK, enough discussion of that angle.

It makes my wife feel beautiful/sexy. Let's face it, men, making your wife feel beautiful/sexy isn't easy after years of marriage. You may tell her that she's beautiful but does she really believe you? If you're me, you're biased and she knows it so hearing "you're beautiful" from me doesn't exactly convince her. What absolutely, positively convinces her that she's beautiful/sexy is some quasi-random guy pursuing her and fucking her brains out. Then she knows that other guys find her beautiful and sexy and that does great things for both her self esteem and her libido. Short version? She ends up feeling better about herself and I get laid a lot more. No losers there!

There are some things one guy simply can not do! I'm a considerate lover and I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have. Most men do, right? But what if it turns out that what really gets her motor running is a guy eating her out while another guy sucks her nipples? One guy simply can not do that; anatomy forbid it (baring siamese twins!). If your wife is such a woman (and mine is), then the only way to really rock her world is to accept help from an outside source. Not every man is confident/comfortable doing so, but I am. Thus another guy allows me to give her sexual experiences that she could otherwise never have.

But most of all, I encourage my wife having sex with others because it is fun.




And with that, I turn the podium over to others who may wish to add to my thoughts.
My husband and I have been married 25 years and we totally agree with what ou had to say, but it is not for everyone, a strong marriage and solid trust are the first things that have to be in place. Knowing neither one of you is looking for a replacement but just some added fun, and sometimes the fantasy is all you are really wanting, but the reality isn't bad either. As a 50 year old woman it never hurts to have another man think your still hot and sexy, and it is not from the lack of my husband saying it, he tells me all the time, my 30 year old step-daughter calls me his trophy wife (even though I'm older than him). He not only says it with words but he buys me beautiful lingerie, sexy clothes to go out in (he is quite proud of me) and knowing that is all we want in life isn't it? Anything else is just for fun.

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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by myhotwife+1 » Sun Mar 07, 2010 12:22 am

doomywife wrote:I wrote this story several years ago, about the "Joys of getting Sloppy 2nds" from my wife. Whether you call them "sloppy 2nds", or something else, the meaning behind the story is the same. It describes the "JOY" of watching "your wife fuck another man"! Check out what I wrote...

Since my wife, Brandie, and I, started swinging, we have had many fun, exciting, sexual experiences. Many of them were just new, fun ways of enjoying sexual activities that we had been doing for years with each other, but that were now “more fun” when enjoyed with others! Then there were the totally “new” experiences, the things that we had never done before and were only now able to try them out with our swinging friends. If I had to pick the “one thing” that I have enjoyed the most about swinging, it would be…. “Getting sloppy 2nd’s” from my wife, after another man has just filled her with a load of cum!

Getting sloppy 2nd’s is something that is indescribable! If you have never experienced it for yourself, you can’t fully imagine what it’s like. It can’t be “simulated”. If you want to know what it’s like to get a blow job from your wife while another man fucks her, (and you’re not swingers), you can “simulate it”, by doing her with a dildo while she sucks you off. You will get pretty much the same reaction and feelings as you would if she was really getting it from another guy and sucking you at the same time. But! You can’t simulate “sloppy 2nd’s”! There is just no way to do it! As I said a few sentences ago, “sloppy 2nd’s” is something that is hard, if not impossible, to describe, but I’m going to try to do my best to tell you what it’s like and why I love it so much!

Imagine this… Your wife is on the bed on her back and another man is between her legs, with his cock up her cunt and he’s giving her a good fucking! You are naked and sitting in a chair watching. Maybe you join in and let your wife suck you while she is getting fucked. Or, maybe you just get on the bed next to her, and she just fondles your cock and balls while he fucks her, and you kiss her, or suck on her tits. In any case, no matter whether you are watching, or participating, when he has dumped his load of cum up her hot snatch, you are “ready”! I mean your cock is as hard as it will ever get!

So, he’s done. He gets up and moves out of the way. You approach the bed, and as you do, you take in the image of this incredibly sexy sight before your eyes! On the bed lies “your wife”! She has just got done having sex with another man! You look at her face. She has sweat on her face and neck. Some of her hair is wet and sticking to her. She is licking her lips with her tongue, trying to get moisture on them. As you know, her mouth always gets dry while she’s having sex. She has that sexually satisfied look on her face that says she has enjoyed what she has just done, but she could still do more! Your gaze moves down to her chest. You can see that she is breathing hard from the physical exertion of the sex she’s just had. Her tits are heaving up and down with her every breath. Her nipples are standing up hard and erect, as they always do when she is sexually excited! You look further down her body to her legs. They are spread wide. Maybe she has the soles of her feet flat on the bed and her knees are up with her legs spread apart. You think to yourself that just a few moments ago, another man was there! Between her legs! You look at the inside of her thighs and you can see that they are all slick with a mixture of his cum and her juices! There is a puddle and big wet spot on the bed under her ass! Her pussy hair, (if she has any), is all wet and matted down. If she’s clean-shaven, you can see that her lower belly, pussy and whole crotch area, is slick with “their wetness”! Your gaze becomes riveted on her pussy. The lips are swollen, and they are that dark reddish color that they become when she’s sexually aroused. In their swollen state, and because they have just had a hard cock between them, they are slightly parted. You can just see the inside of her pussy. It’s completely wet and colored pink to reddish colors that tell you she’s HOT! At the very center of her swollen and slightly parted pussy lips, you can see her fuck hole! Right now it’s just a small oval shape and you can see a puddle of the other man’s cum in it! Some of it has run down her crack and dripped on to the bed! You think to yourself, that there isn’t anything in this world that is sexier than looking at a freshly fucked, full of cum, cunt! Especially, when it’s your wife’s, and the cum belongs to someone else!

You take in this whole scene! The sight of “your wife”, lying there on the bed, freshly fucked, and wanting more, is almost more than you can stand! It’s a wonder you don’t just cum right then and there, without ever getting anything! She is incredibly sexy! She is sexier right now, at this very moment, than you have ever seen her! She takes you by the hand and pulls you on to the bed. With her hands on your waist, she guides you between her legs and pulls you to her. She has just been fucked, but she wants more! She wants you!
As she pulls your pelvis towards hers, she whispers, “Come on, fuck me! Give me some more cock!”

The head of your cock easily slips between her wet pussy lips. In one quick, easy motion, you bury your cock into her cunt as far as it will go! As you slide into her, you can feel how HOT her cunt is! How wet it is! You can feel the other man’s cum being forced out around your cock. It wets your balls and runs down your wife’s crack. You lie there for a moment, motionless. You want to take in this feeling! The feeling of being deep inside your wife’s HOT, freshly fucked, cunt! The feeling of not only her juices making her wet and slippery, but it’s knowing that she is this HOT, and this wet, because her cunt is full of some other guy’s cum, and he just put it there a few moments ago! (This is a part of the experience that cannot be simulated!) The physical and emotional feelings almost overcome you and nearly make you cum! You have just gotten “in”, and already you are on the “edge”! (This is another reason why you lie there “motionless” for a few minutes! You are trying to stay in control! You don’t want this to all be over, too soon!) Finally, you begin to slowly fuck your wife. You move in and out of her well “used” fuck hole with ease!
You passionately kiss her, and as your lips part, she slides her mouth around to your ear and she says, “Come on Baby, let it feel good! Fuck me the way you want to! Give me some more cum up my cunt!”

Then you realize, this is probably one of the best parts of getting sloppy 2nd’s! She’s already been fucked and had her orgasms! This is all about you, now! You don’t have to worry about trying to fuck long enough to satisfy her. You can just concentrate entirely on how good this feels to you! As you begin to get a rhythm going, your wife starts to “fuck you” the best that she can. She moves her ass in “that way” that she knows you like. She starts “milking” your cock with the “squeezes” of her cunt! Your wife has always been the “best piece of ass” you have ever had! But, at times like this, when she isn’t concerned with getting herself off, she can give you a fucking that will never be forgotten! You know that she gave the other guy a great fuck. But! He was just that to her, “a fuck”. Right now, she is not just “fucking you”. She is putting her very sole into making this the best she can for you. She’s not only putting all her physical being into this, but you can also feel her love for you coming through as if your bodies were one, with only one heart!

So, you don’t have to try to “please her”. You can concentrate just on feeling good, yourself. She is trying to give you the best she can because she’s already had her orgasms. You can feel her love coming through in the way she moves her body. There is the eroticism of knowing that you are fucking “your wife” just moments after another man has, and in all likelihood, he is probably still there watching the two of you, or maybe he even joins in now like you were when he was fucking her. All of this combines to give you physical and emotional feelings that could NEVER be simulated! The feelings overcome you and it doesn’t take long before you add your own load of hot cum up your wife’s HOT cunt, to mix with what’s left of his, still inside her!

Once again, you bury your cock in her, and lie motionless on top of her, soaking in the feelings as your heart rate begins to return to normal! You have a few more passionate kisses with your wife, then, you pull your cock out and stand up next to the bed. You take one last look at the sexy image on the bed, which is “your wife”. She looks even more satisfied and sexier than she did before you started! A look at her pussy and you can see that she is now literally soaked all over in her juices, the other man’s cum, and yours! The puddle and wet spot on the bed has doubled in size. She looks so well fucked! So, nasty! So, sluttish! She IS a slut! Your slut! And you love her!

So! There it is! My best attempt at trying to describe what it’s really like to get “sloppy 2nd’s” and why I love it so much! If you have never had the pleasure of the experience yourself, I hope you have enjoyed the explanation. For those of you who have had “sloppy 2nd’s”, how did I do? Did I get it pretty close? Did I miss anything? Maybe you could add what you like most about “sloppy 2nd’s”?

A special note here to the women, who might be reading this…. Ladies, how about those of you who have done this with your husband, giving us your viewpoint on what you like or don’t like about “sloppy 2nd’s”? And…. To those women who have never been willing to do this for their husbands, I hope that my description of what it’s like for a man, (at least for me anyway), might encourage you to try it for your husband! I promise you, it’ll be something that he’ll always love you for!

From a women's point of view, your story was as close to an accurate description of what sharing your wife feels like as possible. You are 100% correct in saying it can't be simulated. I never doubt how my husband feels about me, our marriage is never in doubt and my own sensuality is never in question. My self-confidence has never been higher and our relationship just keeps getting stronger. I read your story to my husband and he whole heartedly agrees with the "sloppy 2nd's" viewpoint. We both really enjoyed your story and agree with you.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by Vera » Mon Mar 15, 2010 5:43 pm

Charles and I started in the Lifestyle back in about 1978.First we have been married since 1979.We love each other very much and we knew that each other were into the lifestyle before we tied the knot.The fact of the matter is that both partners have to be utterly secure in their relationship with each other and above all , honest.We've done about everything that there is to be done ,sexually with other partners.Charles and I have made many friends in the lifestyle over the years. At the age of 54 we are both still very active in the lifestyle.I(Vera ) consider myself a "Hotwife" using that terminolgy.I cannot count the number of partners but there all all sorts.To the original question ,"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man?", the answers can be many but for us , besides being healthy and great excercise , sex is what we live for as a species.We have had meetings where both couples are together in the same room to us taking multiple day vacations with some of our friends.For example , as a fantasy trip Charles sent me off with three of our men friends to Lake Tahoe for three days and nights.All spouses were good with that that were involved.This was about 6 years ago.Jason was 28 years old.Freddie was 23 and Jeremy was 35.I was 48 at the time.We stayed at Harrah's Stateline and had a wonderful sex filled weekend.The four of us in the hot tub was very wild and fullfilling for all of us.I enjoyed it very much pleasing three young men in various ways and they enjoyed me to their heart's content.If you can imagine it we did it.Of course the pictures and video that we shot were the best for Charles.He says that Porn never gets old , especially the home grown variety. In closing I just wanted to say that Charles knows about all of my encounters and I of his.Honesty is still the best policy.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by skiandflyguy4u » Sat Apr 17, 2010 7:38 am

Speaking as one who has enjoyed the company of "another men's wives" over the years, I can say that most men enjoy the idea of their wives being attractive to other men. Pretty simple. Watching their wife with another man is kind of the culmination of that idea. (If they want to watch, some don't.) It validates their choice of that woman as their wife, I think. Of the 3 married gals I see now, or have seen regularly over the past 2-3 years, I can say I am friends with each husband, too. Cordial, not buddy-buddy. I think the key to my success and enjoyment of this is that I know my place in the marriage equation.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by stanz » Mon Apr 19, 2010 4:50 am

cam2share wrote:Here is a link to an interesting study. It discusses how the penis is designed to remove semen from other men from the vagina. It also says men penetrate deeper and harder when they think their wives have been with other men. But I guess we knew that already!
http://tinyurl.com/yhkc9tc
I think the shape of the penis, the penetrating spear with a barbed end, and the shape and capacity of the vaginal chamber, combined with capillary action tends to squeeze out the previous guys (or guy's) sperm around the next shaft inside her... We've all seen the white ring of semen oozing out round the next guys cock as it fucks her, well some of us have I'm sure Lol...

I'm more inclined to believe the poison semen, or killer semen theory if there is a natural method of selection... Half your little sailors go in armed to the teeth Lol looking for the competition, spent bullet cases everywhere springs to mind...

As for the guy going harder at his woman after he's seen her with another guy or found she's been with one, well that's an inbuilt "I'll fucking show you who's the best fuck you whore" sort of thing...

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by playgirl4u » Fri Apr 30, 2010 10:17 am

Because it's hot!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by potterharry456 » Sun May 09, 2010 5:55 am

I enjoy reverse cowboy with fb inside wife I lick her clitty and lap all the way down to his balls. The best moment I ever had was with this awesome dude from detroit, my wife was on her knees sucking both of us then I went down and began playing with her clitty, kissing her ear neck and cheek and then she turned her head sideways with his beautiful cock in her mouth and kissed me. Then our group sucking of his cock began, tongues swirling, lips meeting, and then his cum over both our tongues. We do this alot now and the sweetest part is our kiss after we've been cummed on!!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by lovebigdickinme » Mon Jul 12, 2010 9:25 pm

I have always known that my wife always enjoyed guys with with big cocks before we were married from what she said, we have been married for over 25years without any extra extra marital activities but my ability to satisfy her had begun to wain even with the help of Viagra. I suggested that maybe to help me out she should have a lover on the side so the pressure would be off of me to preform. At first she was surprised but she told me that I must be nuts. But later after thinking it over she said you know if I do this I probably will get emotionally attached to the guy if we see each other on a regular basis. I thought about the jealousy thing but then she said how about a black guy. I knew she like guys with dark skin. She also agreed I would pick him out but she would have final say.
We decided on a guy we fount AFF and arranged to meet him for lunch. We agreed that if she didn't hit it off with him she would tell him up front. If she did she would invite him over to the house for diner. They hit it off but as I said earlier she wanted a guy with a big cock. Although his ad said he was hung and included pictures on the way to our vehicles she wanted to know if he was telling the truth. Earlier we had agreed that he come over for diner and he had agreed to that. So she asked him to show her his cock. He said OK but if he did she had to suck on it if it was as big as he had told her. So they got into our car and he fished it out and to her surprise it was bigger than she had ever imagined. She slurped on it for a few minutes then told him if he wanted more he had to come over later.
When he arrived I made us drinks and we talked for a while then I said the I was going to set up the BBQ and start diner and they could get better aquainted while I was gone. When I got back she was in the middle of a blow job. I stood ther amazed at her enthusiasm and watched as he came down her throat.
After dinner about nine o'clock I took the dog for a walk while they went into the bedroom and had sex. Around 1am he came out of the bedroom and sat down on the couch and said that my wife was asleep. We talked for a while and agreed to some rules but also agreed that he could have her whenever he liked as long as she was in agreement.
Since then we have shared my wife for the last three years. The have sex four of five nights a week and I fuck her once or twice a week. We have had three ways every so often and are good friends. She says she has strong feelings for him but I am her husband and she would stop seeing him if I ever asked her too. But she hopes I will not. He and I play golf together on Sundays and watch football together. We all get along very well together. Am I jealous of his ability to do it for long periods or multiple times a night, the answer is no. I know she enjoys it and I like her to be happy. When they have sex it's primal and he is very dominant and when she and I have sex it is more loving. He has ten an a half inches of very black cock and 25 years younger than her I am not as thick and only 6 and a half inches so he can do things for her I can't and I understand that and it doesn't bother me. He doesn't live with us he has his own place and they alternate his place and our place depending on the situation.
Since she has been with him she is much more passionate and lets me fuck her formally virgin ass when I want. His cock has made it much easier. So I have no complaints.
I do watch once and a while as she makes so much noise I am amazed the neighbors don't hear it. It's amazing to watch how he jackhammers to orgasm over and over again for up to an hour at a time and after he cums inside her he has her suck him hard again and does it again. I haven't been able to do that for a long time.
Oh and by the way I don't go down on her after he has cum in her as I am not a cuckold.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by startinover » Tue Jul 13, 2010 10:34 am

I am no cuckold either but a well used pussy is just so damned hot! How could you not want to lick and suck it?

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Unread post by bobby_v58 » Thu Jul 15, 2010 12:30 pm

Ok first let me say InigoMonyoya is about as accurate as it can get. But for me it is all about her pleasure. I know she fucked guys before me, and some with bigger dicks. I also know she liked them. We worked our way up to sharing. Ultimately it was her decision and one day she said i want to invite another guy to join us.

She also knew I had done some of this with my first wife, but her main motivation and ultimatly mine was a DP with real cocks. We had been using a dildo and me and it was time for the next step....so there ya have it. I wanted her to be happy and I enjoy it since it has opened me up to some experimentation as well.

I hope that all made sense but in the end it is all about having fun and being happy!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by MILFsoup » Fri Jul 23, 2010 9:51 am

Taking off from the office early today and stumbled upon this forum.. intriguing to say the least! My wife and I have been in the lifestyle since 2001. Some say we are swingers, some say we practice the "hotwife" lifestyle but regardless of the label we simply enjoy, and act out our fantasy life.

I found this interesting and hope it adds to this discussion:

Only 16 per cent of the 853 cultures on record actually prescribe monogamy as the norm in their culture, according to Helen Fisher's Anatomy of Love. It's no wonder then, that a significant portion of North Americans, who are taught monogamy as a social prerequisite for civilization seek to break away from the sexual restrictions imposed on them.
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by cmmg229 » Sat Aug 07, 2010 10:36 am

My wife was wondering, and often I too was wondering why I want her to be a HW. While everyone has different motivations - in chatting with one of the members here, I have come to the conclusion for me, the driving motive is "Firsts".

Don't know if you remember an old movie called "Mischief" with Kelly Preston. In it, the nerdy guy gets the hot girl, that is considered untouchable in his class. I remember being younger when watching the "love scene" where he loses his virginity to her. I think we have all seen our share of love scenes in Hollywood, but for whatever reason this one stuck with me. It was all the "firsts" in one scene. First touch of a naked breast, first view of a naked woman in that setting, of course, first time having sex. Especially when we are talking about a woman completely out of our class. On this site, we usually believe our wives are in a league of her own.

I notice when I dwell on memories, it is all about the firsts. The first time I saw my wife naked, the first time I felt her fingers touching me. The first time, how great it felt to be inside her. After marriage, its hard to reclaim the firsts. Yes, there are new adventures, positions etc. But nothing quite matches the firsts.

I can't see my wife's breasts for the first time anymore, but the new lover can. I can't feel how wet she is for the first time, but the other guy can. I can't feel how it is to cum into wife for the first time, but he can. I suppose it is living all the "firsts" vicariously again through another guy. That's my primary driving motive. YMMW :)

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by penitenziagite » Wed Aug 11, 2010 7:46 pm

derrinhart wrote:Some men are incapabale of pleasing a wife sexually. The reasons are different, some impotent, small in size, low testosterone etc etc. Others like to watch and enjoy the sexy woman they like best have great sex. People as a whole are jealous, but the husbands that like it are not. If you read my new book Our Dark Secret, A Modern Cuckolds Memoir, you will learn why our marriage was like it was in this very regard.



Times are not the same in the new era- wives and husbands are not like old school love. The wife is like a friend more so now doing alot on her own, so it's easier to open up to this sort of relationship.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by Geostone » Thu Aug 12, 2010 4:30 am

Hello to all,

My own personal reason are also varied and the emotions I feel are just as varied.

I love my wife like no other person I have met in my life. She is the mother of my only child and three step-children and the most beautiful woman in the world in my eyes. For whatever reason I have a hard time giving my wife an orgasm. Now with previous women I NEVER had this problem and this has been a sort of ego killer for me. It also bothers me that I can have one but my wife is left wanting-not fair in my opinion. I also love having sex with her after another man has cum in her. In my opinion there is nothing better than "sloppy seconds". I also believe that even though she knows I mean it when I tell her she is beautiful, it is always nice to hear it from someone else. I think every man enjoys knowing that other men find his wife attractive.

My emotions range from intense pleasure to jealousy. I know my wife loves me and will never leave me for another. I think it is a natural reaction and it is one I have to deal with. I am also intensely pleased that she is being pleased by another man.

This has never been an attempt on my part to have sex with another woman. I have and she knew about it or was there. She has talked about me having my own friend and although it may happen, I am in no rush. This has always been about her pleasure firstly, not mine, although I do get a certain degree of pleasure from it.

I, for one, do not like watching. We have had threesomes before and although I enjoyed it I believe it is best that this be something she does on her own. I do enjoy hearing about it afterwards and the talk always seems to intensify our sex. I do not like her doing things with her friends that she won't do for me, as a matter of fact, that is one of the rules we have set out. I think setting out grounds rules beforehand is very important and this is something I have just come to realize recently. It would have saved us some trouble in the past. I believe that some of our rules are fluid though depending on the guy and situation. I think I have to have a certain level of comfort with her friends, whether it be that I know them personally, meet them once or whatever. She is my wife and I want to know she is safe and being treated well.

It is nice finding this forum and I hope that she will create her own account here. It's nice knowing I am not the only "weirdo" around :lol: .

Geo

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by HerLittleGuy » Fri Aug 13, 2010 8:53 am

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Hey DH,
You've made just 14 posts in this forum, and 13 of these are promos for your books and your publisher's website. You may want to back off for a bit, okay? Do participate here, and enjoy exchanging your thoughts and ideas with the members, but (and I'm not a mod) please quit the sales-pitch. You can do your plug in your signature if you like. JMHO.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by rick181au » Fri Aug 13, 2010 1:15 pm

When we started mid 70’swe were mid 30’s young and vibrant and in the nudist club, their were lots of attractive swingers around and we were going to parties where their could be as many as 30 couples attending, at big parties it was a case of more or less kissing your wife bye as you walked in and then catching up with her when it was time to go home, sometimes either of us would meet another couple where we all hit it off and we would meet up with them for a private party or maybe three or four couples.
When the big nasty came out we put the brakes on and rethought our situation and decided that we would try and get a few couples we could rely on to just keep sex in our small group (all our sex was bare back sex and we did not want to change that) but we soon found out that it’s hard to keep a sexual relationship going with couples where the four of you all got along after the initial lust wore off and it was hard to keep it going long term, to be honest it was just not working out.
By this time we were mid 40’s or a bit older and after another rethink we decided to go down the M F M threesome road and give that a try, I really fell in love with the idea of watching the wife with another guy and joining in, she surprised me by suggesting that we only play with married guys, her logic “and rightly so” was that married guys had a wife to go home to so they had to look after their selves better and their was less chance of them running around with other women who were running around and sleeping with every Tom Dick and Harry (I thought she might have a hang up about playing with other woman’s husbands) but not so!
This was still BC (before computers) so we placed some ad’s in a local contact paper and vetted some guys out and it all worked out pretty well for us, their were still the odd occasions where we played out of the boundaries which were a lot of fun, and an example of one such time was.
We were at a 100% straight daytime private house BBQ, we only knew a few people there and after meeting the host the wife and I went our own ways me chatting with some guys I knew over a few beers and the wife with a girlfriend, after a while I noticed the wife chatting to a guy I did not know, I sort of kept an eye on them and they started looking over at me as well, this was getting intriguing, eventually the wife signaled for me to join them where she told me that they had the hot’s for each other and wanted to have it off (she knew it would be fine by me) the only trouble was the guy had already scouted around and could not find a suitable place for them to do the deed and they asked if I had any suggestions, I had a look around and the only place I could find was one of the two bathrooms which was not being used very much and I suggested that they try in there with me waiting out the door standing guard, they decided to go for it.
They went into the bathroom / toilet with me standing outside, a couple of people came to use it but I told them that my wife was inside with a bit of a problem and might be a little while and I directed them to the other bathroom. After a while they opened the door and it was all clear so we rejoined the party, the three of us were standing there having a drink and the guy could not get over the fact that not only had I OK d them fucking but had actually stood guard while they did the deed, while they were in the bathroom I heard a clicking noise coming from inside at times and asked what it was and was told that he was fucking her doggie with her holding onto the bathroom sink and she had a large bracelet on and it was clicking on the sink as he was fucking her, the wife went on to tell me that he had pumped a full load in her and she could start to feel it leaking into her knickers and that I had better be ready for a good time when we got home, which I was.
Hope I have not bored the tits off you with that true story but I love relating it.
All the best rick181au.
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by Les » Sun Sep 05, 2010 7:28 am

BUMMER ALERT!!

It’s just logical

As a guy, you will always have a wandering eye. You might be married to fuckin’ Elin Nordegren, but we will still scope out the next nice piece of ass.

Your woman might be the “love of your life”. A devoted wife, mother, possibly best friend. However after a few years (I’ve calculated seven), she has seen you entirely. Even in the first intoxication of love, she knew you had flaws. The female thinks she can change you. Mold a “Prince Charming” out of this belching, farting lump of maleness. After this seven years, a kid or two, she realizes the impossibility of it. Oh, she may still “love” you, in a very friendly sort of way. But brother, you ain’t never gonna be her “Prince Charming.”.

So she will cheat. Maybe a sin, but it is only human nature (dude, in your lascivious mind, you cheated a million times before and after saying “I Do”). Timid ladies will cheat with romance novels, vampire shows or cats. More full blooded lasses will find a real man. Another lump of maleness she can mold into her “Prince Charming”.

So why not head this whole sad cycle off at the pass? You love her, she “loves” you, why not give her a Prince Charming. Enjoy watching her fuck him with the enthusiasm she no longer shows fucking you. See how he can give her a good fucking like you can’t anymore.

Save each other the nasty break-up and divorce. Enjoy a new marriage and savor the “new” sex!

Yeah, I’m a bitter drunk.

This concludes our BUMMER ALERT

Procede with your sexy discussion - please!

bubbajack

Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by bubbajack » Sun Sep 05, 2010 9:23 am

Hey, Les -

Good summary of many of the "Why would ..." themes. But why is this collection of facts and circumstances a "bummer" or a cause for "bitter" feelings?

We all know that the marriage "deal" is fraught with misunderstandings and unrealistic expectations fueled by romantic illusions. And it hurts when those are exposed for what they are: a dirty trick played by nature/society on young, inexperienced fertile individuals for assuring the continued survival of the species/taxpayers. From a social perspective it is probably necessary. Also, in terms of a broad range of personal needs, the deal can be productive of much good in the way of companionship, deep mutual understanding and more or less graceful living conditions.

But after experiencing just how limited the deal really is with respect to sexual satisfaction, some women (bless them!) are able to make a critical distinction between the benefits of married life and the need to get themselves satisfyingly, excitingly, adventurously fucked from time to time.

Once a woman can make that distinction she may find that it is not all that foreign a concept to her husband, who, as you point out, does not easily understand why he shouldn't be allowed to fuck whomever he likes, although he tends to accept it as somehow important to retaining the other benefits referred to above.

The most discerning of these couples (upon the female part of which the aforesaid distinction has dawned) recognize that if she gets to fuck around, HE DOESN'T HAVE TO!!!

This is because he can get all the participatory thrills of sexual adventure he can handle, by simply waiting and fucking her afterwards, than he would get by engaging in the arduous and mostly unfulfilling competitive hell that goes by the deceptively innocuous name "dating."

I just think that, for a husband, this is a supremely elegant solution to the endless struggles of the sex-versus-marriage paradox, which is so aptly captured by our friend the supremely fortunate Jerry in the quotation with which he signs off his posts lately: "For every "Smokin' Hot" woman in the world, somewhere there's a boyfriend or husband plain old tired of fucking her."

I would add to this by pointing out that if there is fucking fatigue it is almost certainly mutual - what woman enjoys being boinked merely as a matter of course?

But back to "why would a man, etc ..." I think the typical jaded husband will not feel at all tired of it when she comes home with a pussy full of some other guy's jizz, plus some dried around her lips from her bye-bye blow job on him. Or them.

Also, there are endless varieties possible - what if he has ass-fucked her (which she hasn't done since college, maybe) or spanked her? Or shared her with his buddies?

Woo-hoo. I'm convinced. I don't say it's easy - but it is elegant.

So cheer up, Les. Far from being a bummer, it can be a very very good thing if done right. :whip:

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by FantasyLife » Wed Oct 13, 2010 8:48 am

This is a great thread. I'm glad we found this site and to know that I'm not the only freak out there. Its more common than I thought! I will post an introduction later, but right now I am enjoying reading the great threads.
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by HedonistHub » Sat Oct 16, 2010 10:38 am

This general question is a great topic for my first post. I think there are many different reasons or motivations for wanting one's wife to have sex with (I don't want mine to just "sleep"...LOL) with other men. One reason I'm aware of is that people try to increase their own pleasure and excitement. It is very stimulating to have that rush of emotions of desire, jealousy, fear, anger, humiliation, and other passions when we create a "hotwife" or "cuckold" situation. This excitement conquers the boredom and routine that can enter into any long-term relationship. Freud said that romantic love occurs during the chase of a potential partner, but passion declines when the sex object is obtained and secure. The hotwife or cuckold scenario starts the chase all over again. The wife is a desired sex object wanted and enjoyed by other men. The husband may be lagging behind his competitors. The wife is excited to be pursued and desired, and to have the power of choosing among her suitors. She can retain the security of the marriage while enjoying the variety and vanity of dating, knowing all the while that her husband loves her more for playing this game. Everyone wins the game, at least until someone finds it's not fun anymore.

I'm not saying that my interpretation above is the only motivation held by husbands, but I do think it's part of human nature that we all share. We try to build excitement and arousal. This game fits nicely with natural evolutionary drives, such as for men to be more aroused when the female partner also is aroused and when other men want her or have had her -- the "sperm wars" competition. This arousal can be further increased by adding other emotions to the mix, such as cuckold humiliation or bisexual desire for the other male.

My wife says there's more to the motivation when seen from a woman's viewpoint (like, higher self-esteem and narcissism when desired by many men, and the "Dating Years" being the high point in many women's lives), but she doesn't disagree with the idea that being a hotwife increases excitement for all involved.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by Mrs_Shadiest1 » Tue Oct 26, 2010 1:04 pm

I am in this very situation right now. I love my man. I do not necessarily want to be with anyone else, but the idea of being sought after is very exciting. I do not completely understand the humiliation aspect of it. I do not get why some guys like that or need to have it. There is one thing though that I would never want. I would never want my husband to ever stop wanting me more then all of my "fuck buddies". I would like to think of this as a challenge for him. He sees that there are multiple men out there vying for my attention, him included. I would think that if he sees this he would be the one trying the hardest to keep me. In this situation what would keep him from losing me if some "knight in shining armor" decides to come and sweep me off my feet? Obviously he does not want to lose me, he loves me. I am his best friend. So in turn he has to try harder to keep me happy in all aspects of our life. Yes, I can play the dominant role. I can make the decision to be with whomever I want, if they are lucky enough. I can cut him off if "I have a headache tonight". I can tell him that I want him to do certain things to me right now after I have been with one of my "fuck buddies". He will always be the one I come home to. He will always be my comfortable place. I do not ever want our sex life to be mundane and boring. I always want there to be this deeper level of excitement and passion. I want to learn new things and bring them home to him because at the end of the day he is mine and I his. So regardless of who I am with that day we will always have each other. It does not have to be a "bummer" it can be exciting and happy.
Being happy is learning to dance in the rain... Mrs_Shadiest1

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by jmsjmsus » Sun Oct 31, 2010 5:28 am

I think for the woman the excitement is being sought after once you've been in a secure relationship for a while. I have been with some other wives and this is one of the things I like, is just to know that after a long secure marriage you still can attract another woman. When my wife is out, I enjoy the fact that she is driving another guy crazy, plus visualizing it or watching is the best porn you can get-starring your wife of course. I enjoy nothing more than a threesome with my wife and BF at least on a sexual level.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

Unread post by 54321 » Mon Nov 08, 2010 8:05 am

Wow, rick181au!

You guys must now be in your seventies. Are you still active in the lifestyle?

Best regards,

54321

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