Not a Cuckold, but Thought I'd Share My Situation

[drstrangelove]

She just said maybe and rolled onto her back, using her hand to guide my mouth to her breast. I took my time sucking on both her nipples before she worked her way out of her pants and I dropped my head lower to start gently licking her pussy. I said "thank you" without thinking and she just muttered "good boy" under her breath.

Your wife’s attitude is so hot! Slays me. Hearing that would have made me want to lick her dripping, molten pussy all night. Love your updates.

It’s hard to evaluate living through it—jumping from porn, it seems so tame, but all things considered, I feel like we’re making progress and she’s getting into my kinks more.

[Rogueuser1]

She’s not on birth control anymore—we made the decision a little after our second child. Birth control was messing with her and she couldn’t find one that wasn’t an issue. Ultimately, it seemed silly to have her taking a drug for it—I might get a vasectomy at some point, but not eager to do it.

I had one --- it is not bad at all and it sure is nice to know that you are firing blanks so you don't have to worry and can just blast away inside. You might actually get inside more if she didn't have to stress about you remembering to pull out.

Just remember if you do get one that it takes a bit before you are actually firing blanks --- don't be the guy who doesn't provide the samples to the doctor and finds out the hard way the doc either missed a duct or one of them managed to heal! It is definitely a strange feeling having the doctor call and confirm you are sterile and being both happy and a little sad about it though.

[jratt85]

she was so wet and loose.

Yeah... uh from everything I've read and all the youtube videos I've watched.. women don't just suddenly become loose without getting something big in them. Either she has a huge toy you don't know about or you're already getting cuckolded and don't know about it. I know what you say about her past but everything's pointing to her already getting a big cock. You should just come out and say that you want her to cuckold you and want to watch her take a WAY bigger cock than you.

[drstrangelove]

So we're back from Miami.

We were a disappointed in our hotel, so arrival was a bit of a bummer. But while out to eat we planned a new hotel for the next day and had a great meal, so things brightened up. I paid for the meal.

Back at the room, she changed into black lingerie and we started fooling around. But she wouldn't take any of it off and kept jerking me off and kissing my neck. I told her I wanted to fuck and she flatly said: "Not tonight; you just get my hand."

I know we teased about it back home, but I didn't think she was serious, but she carried it through. I finally got her to take off her panties, but she told me I could only look at it--I wasn't even allowed to lick it. She kept jerking me off despite my protest and eventually I came all over myself. She was pleased with herself though.

I told her afterward it was sexy and all, but we're in Miami and I wanted to have a fun sex session with her. She didn't seem to care, and just laughed and said too bad.

Of note, she never wears lingerie, so this was an orchestrated plan on her part.

The next day we went to the new hotel, which was incredible. I was luckily able to get a great deal last minute to keep it relatively affordable.

Had a good day at pool and another great meal, leading us to the next evening. We started fooling around and she was jerking me off as part of foreplay. I asked if I could fuck her tonight and she just replied maybe.

Unfortunately, the way she was working her hand, hit me just the right way and I came super fast, shooting on her stomach before I got inside her. She was a bit disappointed and noted how quick I came (2-3 minutes). She definitely wanted to fuck.

Then the next day, we got some rain, so we came inside in the afternoon and it led to some playtime. This time we were both using our hands on each other. I was getting close and was trying to hold out, but couldn't stop using my hand on her. Eventually, we both came from each others' hands at the same time. I expressed my frustration at losing my last chance to fuck her on the trip--but she just laughed and said it was my fault for cuming so fast.

That brings us to later that same day, following dinner. I was spent, but really wanted to fuck, so I initiated again. It led to sex, but she was drunk and not into it and I wasn't feeling it either because I had cum earlier that day (and three days in a row). It was sex, but not really enjoyable for either of us.

[severin]

It's exciting that she's taking control of your orgasms, and not just indulging you. My wife and I have been role-playing with denial, but she's still deferential to my needs. We both know she'd let me fuck her if I asked nicely, or frankly, if I just went ahead and fucked her. It's extremely hot that she's denying you so arbitrarily. Thinking about a vacation where the most disappointing sexual experience was getting to fuck your wife till you both came.

[drstrangelove]

So it was a slow week--I was kind of spent from the trip and haven't tried for anything. I felt like the other night my wife wanted to fool around, but I just went to bed.

But then last night, we got into bed and I was planning to just roll over and get some sleep, but she just flatly blurted out: "so, how about you eat me out?"

And for the first time ever, I wasn't that enthused, but replied, "how about we just have some quick sex?"

"Absolutely not. And I'm going to get my period soon, so just eat my pussy."

She was on her phone initially, but I pulled down her pants and went to work. I ate her out for about 20 minutes and she had a long intense orgasm and came in my mouth. I was close to cuming in my pants because I hadn't cum in so long, but wasn't able to time my orgasm.

After she came down from her orgasm, she asked if I came and I told her I didn't and she got really annoyed with me. I apologized and told her it was all good and I didn't need to cum.

She just said, "no, come on," ushering me on top of her. So I positioned my dick and was ready to fuck her, but she just said, "what are you doing? No sex, just cum on my stomach."

So she wrapped her hand around my dick and I fucked her hand and inch above her pussy (as we've done before) until I cam on her in about 30 seconds. She cleaned up and went to bed, but it felt like she was extra bitchy, annoyed with me.

I called her out on it, but she just went to bed.

Looking back, it was erotic, but she's definitely fallen into the role of prioritizing her orgasm, which is fine I guess.

[severin]

Am I correct in thinking this is approaching a good dynamic for you?

It could either be incredibly hot or just frustrating, depending on your state of mind. It feels like it might be frustrating for you in the moment, but hot in retrospect. I'm just wondering what you'd change or what you'd like to work toward.

[dabully]

sir theres a dude re-arranging your wife's guts right under your nose. I doubt you dont know about it but if you say you dont then ok but believe me she is getting her cervix hammered very often. A wife I once knew used to tell me the stories she would spin to her hubby and they were almost to the letter, if you wanted to be a cuckold, congratulations.

[jratt85]

am I the only one that notices that she's ALWAYS on her phone right before initiating any kind of sex stuff? Either she's reading/watching porn or talking to someone else that's turning her on..

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum dabully.

[drstrangelove]

am I the only one that notices that she's ALWAYS on her phone right before initiating any kind of sex stuff? Either she's reading/watching porn or talking to someone else that's turning her on..

Probably poorly described on my end. I was referring to her checking her phone for like 20 sec before plugging it in for the night.

sir theres a dude re-arranging your wife's guts right under your nose. I doubt you dont know about it but if you say you dont then ok but believe me she is getting her cervix hammered very often. A wife I once knew used to tell me the stories she would spin to her hubby and they were almost to the letter, if you wanted to be a cuckold, congratulations.

A hot thought, and she knows I think it's hot, but it's not in the cards right now. Never say never though.

Am I correct in thinking this is approaching a good dynamic for you?

It could either be incredibly hot or just frustrating, depending on your state of mind. It feels like it might be frustrating for you in the moment, but hot in retrospect. I'm just wondering what you'd change or what you'd like to work toward.

It can be frustrating in the moment, but in the long run, it's hot.

[Rogueuser1]

Sorry to hear you weren't into it that night. It has already been quite a journey for you guys and I hope you are still happy with all that has happened. Her being extra bitchy and demanding sounds normal for a woman close to her period though . Best of luck making it through the next few days... don't worry, she'll be ovulating again before you know it

[drstrangelove]

Sorry to hear you weren't into it that night. It has already been quite a journey for you guys and I hope you are still happy with all that has happened. Her being extra bitchy and demanding sounds normal for a woman close to her period though . Best of luck making it through the next few days... don't worry, she'll be ovulating again before you know it

Yup, she let me eat her out last night, haha.

[drstrangelove]

So I thought I'd give this update on a few nights ago. It had been about a month since we last had sex (in Miami), so I was hoping I'd get a shot at least once this month, but I didn't say anything, I just asked if she wanted to fool around.

She said: "Sure, you can go down on me."

So I replied smiling, "Of course, that's what we do."

So she took off her pants and I went down, focused on her completely, making her cum in about 20 minutes.

She told me it was so great and asked if I came, so I told her I didn't, and she got really annoyed--which isn't unusual, but this was more so than usual. I apologized and told her I was just focused on her, but honestly, I was hoping to get sex after she came.

So I asked her if we could have sex and she replied: "Can't you just cum while you're down there?"

"You mean just grind into the bed?"

"Yea."

"Should I keep eating you out?"

"Doesn't matter, just cum."

So I start grinding into the bed, but now she's just staring down at me between her legs as I fuck the bed. I fuck the bed for like 30-40 seconds and she starts laughing and tells me to just come up and cum on her stomach like usual.

So I do, but my dick is right next to her pussy, so I ask again: "Please babe, can I put it in? We haven't had sex all month."

So she takes my dick and guides it in and it felt fucking incredible. I pumped a few times and then pulled back out and came on her stomach. She told me to clean her up, so I did and that was that.

I think I wasted my sex opportunity for the month, but it felt incredible for those few seconds. I'm also thinking it's probably annoying for her if I'm begging for sex, but it was just so hot seeing her spread like that.

[Rogueuser1]

It is a bit of a catch 22 where she probably does annoy her when you beg like that... but she also isn't likely to offer you sex so you are left to beg.

On the bright side at least you did get to enjoy a few seconds of pussy and a few thrusts which is definitely better than no pussy at all! At least she trusted you to pull out in time.

[TinyTim]

Your wife is quite the domme. Love her style. Maybe I missed something in old posts but is cleanup a typical part of your repertoire or is this new?

[drstrangelove]

Your wife is quite the domme. Love her style. Maybe I missed something in old posts but is cleanup a typical part of your repertoire or is this new?

Sorry, I should have been more clear--I wasn't cleaning with my tongue; she just asks that I get a wet towel to clean her, so that's not new.

[drstrangelove]

So there wasn't much to update, just several sessions of eating her out and cuming in my boxers, the last time being last Friday night.

However, we both woke up early on Saturday and she was horny, so she initiated sex. She ended up cowgirl until we both came (she almost never rides me). Because I had just cum a few hours earlier, I lasted about fives minutes, so it was the most complete/satisfying sex session we've had in a very long time.

However, she was really sore the next day and I felt bad about it. It's just from lack of penetration as for most part, I've been inside her for about a minute a month, so a session like this was a lot of her lol.

I told her I felt bad and that it was silly to have her be in pain--we both enjoy when I give her head, so I'm fine having less sex. She said I was sweet and that she still enjoys sex sometimes.

I said great, but emphasized that sex could just be on her terms and I prefer giving her oral more anyway.

She seemed a bit surprised and noted how it doesn't make sense since I'm the one that always ends up asking for sex, but I told her that was just when I'm caught in the moment and enjoy when she denies me her pussy even more. And that I didn't want her to ever feel pressure of guilt into having sex with me.

She just laughed and said, "I don't know if this is reverse psychology, but be careful what you wish for..." and gave me a kiss.

That was on Sunday and I caught a cold, so no playtime since Saturday morning. But we'll see how this plays out.

[drstrangelove]

It's been a bit since my last update and 2-3 weeks since we had the sex session described in my last post. I had a cold, so I was out of commission for a week, but we started fooling around again last weekend. We fooled around 3x this week though.

The first session I ate her out and timed my orgasm at same time as she came in my mouth. I thanked her as usual and that was that.

The next time she was tired, but felt my hard on and quickly jerked me off until I came all over myself.

Then the other night, we played again. She felt my hard on and was going to give me another hj. I was going to cum quickly from it, so I asked if I could have her pussy for a quickie. She didn't respond and kept going, which is usually her way of indicating I'm out of luck. So I begged a bit, asking if I could please just go down on her for a bit before I came.

She said fine and took off her pants and I dove down. I was completely focused on her until I made her explode in my mouth. I rolled over and thanked her. She asked if I came and I told her I didn't.

She then begrudgingly said I could have a quickie with her, but the tone was pure pity. I told her that it was ok because I knew she didn't want to. I told her I was about to cum anyway.

So she reached her hand out and started stroking me again and said: "Ok, but don't blame me, I offered you sex and you turned it down."

I said, "I know, but I know what you want....this is so humiliating..."

Her: "It really is. I haven't been able to get away with giving a guy a hj to get him off since high school."

Me: "Seriously?"

Her: "Yea, every other guy just sticks it in--you're so sweet--now cum for me," and she started moaning a bit.

I shot a huge load all over my chest.

Her: "mmmm, good boy. Now go wash your face."

So that was that...then the next day she got her period, so I'll be cut off for a week or so probably.

[Guhunkadorn]

and the journey goes on....thanks for update.

[drstrangelove]

Another quick update.

On Friday, she was still on her period, but when we got into bed, she definitely felt some pity for me because we hadn't played in a week or so. She actually offered a BJ, but I immediately turned it down, telling her I she didn't have to do it and I knew she didn't like it.

She told me how sweet I was, and then said, well at least let me do this...and she reached her hand out and started stroking me. She has it down now where she strokes the base for a bit until I squirm, usually 30-60 sec, then as soon as she sees me squirm, she moves her hand up the head to stroke, and I cum immediately.

However, of note, this time she kept stroking after I'd finished cuming, so I kept squirming because it was so sensitive (I've seen femdom porn like this, so now I can relate lol). I told her I had cum and she can stop and she just laughed and apologized.

Then the next night, we got into bed and I was under the impression she was still on her period. However, she backed into me with a cuddle, pressing her butt into my crotch--something she typically does when she wants to fool around. So I took the cue and started feeling her breasts and I told her how badly I wish I could eat her out.

She told me to suck on her breasts, so I did, while also working my hand down to notice she no longer had a pad. I sucked on her nipples a bit and then she told me to eat her out, so I quickly obliged.

We were both really into it and she was grinding back on my face while I licked her and played with her nipples. I often want to be more verbal, but it's hard while focused on licking her, but this time I made the effort to talk dirtier. I was more or less begging her to cum in my mouth and telling her please. She would reaffirm she was getting closer until finally she exploded in my mouth as I licked and swallowed it all.

I was able to time it perfectly so I came in my boxers at the same time. So I just gently licked her down from her orgasm and then got up and said thank you. She didn't even have to ask if I came as it was obvious because I just got up and took off my boxers.

She just rolled over and went to bed while I went and washed up.

It was also interesting her sleeping naked, something she's been doing on occasion lately. It might be nothing, but it feels like it's her way of letting her guard down--like she's no longer worried that I'll try to initiate sex, so it's no big deal to her.

[Rogueuser1]

Turning down a BJ.... wow you are a stronger man then me!

I just recently reread the start of your amazing thread and saw this in your first post: "we'd probably have actual sex once a month, with another 2-3 BJ's mixed in -- and perhaps 8-10 sessions like the ones I've described in a month"

So much for 2-3 BJs per month!

[Guhunkadorn]

Same thought. # of times I"ve turned down BJ in my 28 years of marriage: 0.

Always enjoy updates.

Seems there is a giant gulf between where you are now and where you hope to be......based on fact your posting in Cuckold forum.....and I don't see how you are going to bridge that w/o more specific communication. I have seen accounts where couples got away from PIV sex for so long that it was just no longer considered a viable option in the marriage, it was completely off the table so to say, and the wife sought that elsewhere.

Your current 'sex' life is highly erotic and I wouldn't consider yours a 'sexless' marriage per se, just a PIV-less marriage.

[drstrangelove]

Another quick update as we had this unspoken standstill last night. We got into bed and we’re cuddled together. I got hard immediately, but I wasn’t sure if she wanted to fool around.

At one point she turned to tell me something and her hand hit into my crotch area over the covers—so she could feel I was Rick hard—but she immediately moved it. She then finished what she was saying and rolled back over.

This time, pressing her butt back into me, but saying nothing. So I asked if I could go down on her and she just let out a sexy exhale and took off all her cloths, smiling at me.

She moved my head to her nipple and I started to lick it while her hand gently gripped the base of my dick, leading me to instinctively jump her hand.

I worked my way down to her pussy with my mouth and she guided my hands to each of her nipples. I licked her for about 10 minutes until I couldn’t hold back and I quietly came in my boxers. A couple minutes afterward she reached a thundering orgasm and I licked her until she finally pulled away.

I thanked her and told her how good it was and she was glowingly satisfied.

So more of the same basically, but there are two other big picture thoughts I had.

For one, she new I was aroused and did nothing about it—it was certainly purposeful. It’s been gradual, but it feels like she’s now waiting for me to ask permission to eat her out. It’s subtle, but also clear. And it’s a transition from her looking to avoid me to ask for sex to her now (barely) teasing me to ask to lick her.

Lastly, I also decided last week to shorten my masterbation sessions. Well, I’m actually just trying to masterbate a lot less, this way I’m extra horny when we do play. But when I do masterbate, I’m no longer sitting in front of my computer screen for an hour or two browsing porn. Instead I’m making it a point to try and cum in a few minutes.

I had read a bit about the “prejac” community and it seems appropriate for me. My wife has always complained when I took too long to cum—one of her biggest points of anger would always come from a 45-minute bj.

I’m also trying to use use two fingers to cum, so it feels better when I get to feel my wife’s entire hand. It’s probably too soon to tell, but in the lat two weeks, I’ve certainly been coming faster—her HJ made me cum in under two minutes over the weekend, when a few weeks ago it took closer to four minutes probably. I also almost always am able to hold out from cuming until she cums while eating her out, but not last night.

It’s also, rather quickly, changed the dynamic of expectations. Now eating her out is standard and the HJ is a special occasion. It’s perhaps too soon to call that the trend, but it’s certainly the current normal.

[drstrangelove]

Same thought. # of times I"ve turned down BJ in my 28 years of marriage: 0.

Always enjoy updates.

Seems there is a giant gulf between where you are now and where you hope to be......based on fact your posting in Cuckold forum.....and I don't see how you are going to bridge that w/o more specific communication. I have seen accounts where couples got away from PIV sex for so long that it was just no longer considered a viable option in the marriage, it was completely off the table so to say, and the wife sought that elsewhere.

Your current 'sex' life is highly erotic and I wouldn't consider yours a 'sexless' marriage per se, just a PIV-less marriage.

I haven’t fully fleshed out my thoughts on this, so I hadn’t posted it yet. I will say that my visiting this forum initially years ago wasn’t because I wanted to be a cuckold, it’s because cuckolding turned me on—and still does. However, the idea of my wife fucking another guy seems way too real and harmful. Ultimately, it felt like the erotic fantasy wouldn’t ever work as a full-time reality.

I started posting my story as I felt my situation was also erotic and thought I could share it—it’s now become a journal of sorts. I don’t know that my sex life will ever get more extreme, but everything written thus far is an honest account of my journey.

All that said, over the last few weeks, the thought of my wife fucking someone else does seem slightly more in the realm of reality—im not saying im comfortable with it, but it does feel like I could get there maybe.