Hildasw wrote: ↑Mon Nov 01, 2021 12:27 pm
SailorGuy wrote: ↑Tue Nov 03, 2020 8:16 pm
I'm 60 and I've tried and had a LOT of "highs" in my life, and NOTHING compares to the high of my beloved beautiful wife making love to another man. It has been a win-win-win for us for over 20 years. The same lover for my wife all this time. He is a stud who gives her the best sex of her life hands down. It makes both of them happy and it makes me ecstatic. It has made our marriage stronger too. It's been wonderful, the best thing that's ever happened to us.
I agree - it is such a high. We and I get a bigger lick out of new guys and strangers than a regular - having tried both.
And it is so interesting that this should be so, when you consider the "script" of jealousy and monogamous faithfulness we are raised with about marriage and relationships. I mean, back in high school if one's girlfriend ( or boyfriend, whatever ) was seen even talking to another guy it was seen as a threat: he might try to steal your girl from you! And you go through all this for the high school and even college years, lots of relational highs and lows and drama and great sex, etc. THEN you "settle down" into a marriage and that one partner for the rest of your life, all safe and secure. And then you find yourself ( in my case ) wanting your safe and dependable wife to have sex with another man - what?? Where did THAT come from?? The very thing you feared in high school - heck, just even talking to another guy - and here you are wanting her to not only talk to another guy but go to bed with him? How can this be??
And yet there it was, true as True North on a compass. I was honest about the fantasy, even if I didn't understand it at all. And here in the safe environment of this forum I can express myself with total candor about how the reality has been for me - erotic and exciting as hell. As well as finding my true relational identity as a cuckolded man.
So in a way it's been an embracing of the one thing I feared most back in my teen years: losing "my" girl to another guy. I have indeed "lost" my wife to her lover ( we are celibate with each other by agreement ) and I really really like it and am at peace with it. And so in my early sixties now my sex life is akin to my sex life at 16: 100% masturbation fueled by fantasy. Back then it was mostly Playboy magazine, and then Penthouse - especially the Forums where the stories often were about swinging and wife sharing and the like and turned me on like crazy, much more than the pictures did - and now it is my wife being with another man. I consider my sex life as great!