Jane' adventure

[rypmar7]

I talked to that guy a couple times, but nothing much came of it. Saturday afternoon i have a meeting with a new guy. I'm very nervous, and not sure if my husband is coming along or not. Probably just a first meeting, and nothing more. He seems to have a nice personality, very flirty. He's tall, athletic, black ,and he says he played football in college.

How did you find this one to meet with?

[bubbajack]

My heart rate just zoomed - can't wait to hear more!!

All the best

[jane]

LOL. your must have a delicate heart.
I met him on ashley madison.

[Aynsley]

Probably just a first meeting, and nothing more. He seems to have a nice personality, very flirty. He's tall, athletic, black ,and he says he played football in college.

I'm guessing Hubby is on pins and needles as well.
Good luck and have fun.

[rypmar7]

I met him on ashley madison.

Good to hear. Lynda refuses to use any such sites or the internet at all for that purpose.

[jane]

I met a guy for lunch yesterday. We were supposed to meet for drinks, but he wanted lunch, so i decided that was fine. I left my husband at home, which i usually don't. He was as nice as he had seemed. He listened when i talked, asked me questions. We didn't hug or kiss, but he traced my fingertips with his. He's very flirty, smiles a lot, and had me blushing a bit. He's got big arms, very muscular, and tall , about 6'2''.
When i got home my husband was very interested, so i just cuddled up in his lap. Lots of kissing
Then to bed for some, well...

[allengt]

I met a guy for lunch yesterday. We were supposed to meet for drinks, but he wanted lunch, so i decided that was fine. I left my husband at home, which i usually don't. He was as nice as he had seemed. He listened when i talked, asked me questions. We didn't hug or kiss, but he traced my fingertips with his. He's very flirty, smiles a lot, and had me blushing a bit. He's got big arms, very muscular, and tall , about 6'2''.
When i got home my husband was very interested, so i just cuddled up in his lap. Lots of kissing
Then to bed for some, well...

That was a good start Jane, when are you meeting him again and will it be for another dinner date or more.

[jane]

Possibly next weekend. He's very interested, but i'll have to see how much he pursues me this week, and if i decide to see him. I'm a little conflicted. I know, i think too much..

[jrandmustang]

Sounds like a very good day for all concerned, Jane. Good for you, and, I hope, for your husband!

Does the new guy know that your husband knows?

[jane]

Yes he does. He asked about my husband a little. I asked if he had been with a married woman, and he said he worked with one about a year ago and had an affair. He said it had intrigued him ever since, and after he put an ad out he stumbled into the hotwife lifestyle. That was one of the things we flirted about. i smiled and asked if it turns him on to be with another man's wife and he grinned real big and said "yes it's real hot ."

[jrandmustang]

That's excellent. I always think its best when everyone knows the full story and no one is operating under a misconception. But beyond that, I think its much hotter when the "other guy" does actually get an extra kick out of knowing that he's "taking" another man's wife. I mean, if the only reason he's seeing a married woman is because married women don't make him have Sunday dinner with their mothers, he's just taking advantage of the situation -- and missing half the fun!

[jane]

I saw another man who said his first experience was with a coworker. I guess that's pretty common though.
yes, i did get the impression he got an extra charge out of married women. I'll have to feel him out on that to see how big of a charge, lol.

[wifewatcher1001]

if the only reason he's seeing a married woman is because married women don't make him have Sunday dinner with their mothers, he's just taking advantage of the situation

LOL

[cum4me2]

Indeed this like a very promising new adventure and this phase is usually our favorite part. The courting and flirtation that comes along with meeting a potential new lover. That energy and excitement is what makes this such an amazing game of cat and mouse even for hubby to watch as it unfolds and see if or how a guy starts to get into his wife's head. Sometimes I can just look at Donna and know she's thinking about her lover or lover to be. There comes a point when it's clear even for the husband for me sometimes even before she knows that he's got her and that it's been taking or has gone to the next level as in intimacy.

[pasadena95]

Yes, some men love to know they are "taking" another man's wife. I knew one man who made it his goal to bed the wives of of his male friends and co-workers. He had no ehtical hangups at all about this. He was quite successful and he just relished screwing married women, especially when he knew the husbands that were being cuckolded It was somewhat of a power trip for him although I am sure there are other psychological factors that were involved in this behavior.

[bubbajack]

Hey Jane! Any message from the new guy yet?

(In his place I would probably have burned up both our respective cellphones by now!)

Best,

BJack

[jane]

My husband and i are having dinner with him tomorrow.

[Arctus]

Perhaps this one may become a more frequent and long term FB, especially if you can integrate your husband into the scenario for his erotic pleasure. Perhaps your husband could help prepare you for your date when you first bed this new man. Perhaps your husband could watch you and him engage in a tryst from beginning to end... he could look into your eyes, and you into your husband's eyes, as you enjoy your first orgasm with this new FB... etc. By including your husband directly or indirectly and using the erotic energy of the hotwife/cuckold dynamic (as much as I find the label "cuckold" somewhat distasteful) with the new black athlete as the Third (the Bull), the erotic benefits to your marriage may be more fully enjoyed. Perhaps depriving your husband for a period of time before the tryst or whispering in his ear how it feels to have him inside you after you were so recently taken by the Bull would arouse erotic energy for both of you!!! Most importantly, enjoy... both of you, enjoy!!!

[Janes Husband]

I get to meet him tonight, which, well i have to ask other husbands: don't you find it odd at all to meet a man that potentially is going to screw your wife? Will i ever get to feeling that's normal?

[allengt]

I get to meet him tonight, which, well i have to ask other husbands: don't you find it odd at all to meet a man that potentially is going to screw your wife? Will i ever get to feeling that's normal?

While maybe not being exactly normal it should excite you to know that you are meeting a man who can take your wife to much higher sexual bliss than you can and that should be something that you really really want for her.

[rypmar7]

I get to meet him tonight, which, well i have to ask other husbands: don't you find it odd at all to meet a man that potentially is going to screw your wife? Will i ever get to feeling that's normal?

I agree. It is odd, but at some point my feelings changed. Until then, I often felt like the all-time loser or very embarrassed. My attitude changed with time until I felt like I was in charge and I was giving the gift of wife. It almost changed too much because one or two potential playmates thought I was forcing my wife to do this for my own pleasure. That cost them a lot of pleasure.

[groovy9]

... giving the gift of wife.

[Arctus]

Jane's Husband:

When my partner and I discuss the hotwife/cuckold fantasy (I'm not into humiliation but there are other aspects of the "cuckold" role that entice even though, one-on-one, I also enjoy playing the Dom role and she most commonly enjoys the submissive role), she recognizes that part of the fantasy is my enjoyment of her enjoyment and erotic pleasure. During monogamous sex in a marriage, a great deal of pleasure is derived from giving one's partner intense pleasure. So, why not extrapolate that same principle to the hotwife fantasy. Giving Jane the pleasure of sex with the Bull (perhaps on a regular basis) is erotic generosity toward her in its most selfless form. The trick is figuring out how to fully enjoy her pleasure and to use your erotic generosity as a tool to deepen the bond and commitment (and erotic energy) between you and Jane.

Those are my thoughts... but bear in mind, my partner and I are still in the fantasy stage, and the closest we have come to reifying the fantasy was to visit a swingers' club in Seattle where we got to watch a lot of women enjoying men other than their spouses and where we made love amongst them - a very erotic experience. My partner told me recently that watching one M/F couple (who were not a couple, just two people enjoying sex with each other based upon what they said to each other before and after sex) was particularly erotic for her. She wants to be the woman below such a man with his muscular ass moving up and down as he penetrates her. I have to admit that the fantasy of her enjoying such a moment is very arousing to me which is the essence of erotic generosity and cuckoldish secondary erotic pleasure from partner's (hotwife) primary pleasure with a Third.

[Arctus]

Also, Jane's Husband, we'd love to see some photography of Jane. Fine to heave her face out. See Mrs. Palmetto's photos for some creative ideas !!! Jane is HOT!!!

[Arctus]

And finally, Jane's husband , is it possible that you will go home alone tonight and Jane will go home with him?