Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Farmgirl]

I am a new cuckoldress. Before I was married and during marriage up until my second child I was very sexually active and I enjoyed and almost craved a good fuck every night. Maybe because of hormones or because of hubby’s performance in bed (Hence his desire to be a cuckold) coitus become less and less frequent over the years. With the start of cuckolding my sexual desires have been rekindled. The problem is the whole scene of making time, dressing up entertaining my lover and taking care of my husband’s needs afterward while very exciting can be quite exhausting. To be honest, twice a week is about all I can handle. But still, I really would like getting a good fuck every night before rolling over and going to sleep. I wonder if other hot wives have similar thoughts?

I've never found fucking men and especially my husband anywhere near exhausting, it's pure pleasure and just plain fun. If it's exhausting, maybe you shouldn't do it.

[EllenG1699]

I am a new cuckoldress. Before I was married and during marriage up until my second child I was very sexually active and I enjoyed and almost craved a good fuck every night. Maybe because of hormones or because of hubby’s performance in bed (Hence his desire to be a cuckold) coitus become less and less frequent over the years. With the start of cuckolding my sexual desires have been rekindled. The problem is the whole scene of making time, dressing up entertaining my lover and taking care of my husband’s needs afterward while very exciting can be quite exhausting. To be honest, twice a week is about all I can handle. But still, I really would like getting a good fuck every night before rolling over and going to sleep. I wonder if other hot wives have similar thoughts?

I've never found fucking men and especially my husband anywhere near exhausting, it's pure pleasure and just plain fun. If it's exhausting, maybe you shouldn't do it.

I envy you. I no longer fuck my husband. His desire as a cuckold. I was refering to the whole scene of before and after a date with one of my boyfriends. It is exciting and fun but it is difficult to do more than twice a week along with the reat of my life outside of the bedroom.

[Farmgirl]

I am a new cuckoldress. Before I was married and during marriage up until my second child I was very sexually active and I enjoyed and almost craved a good fuck every night. Maybe because of hormones or because of hubby’s performance in bed (Hence his desire to be a cuckold) coitus become less and less frequent over the years. With the start of cuckolding my sexual desires have been rekindled. The problem is the whole scene of making time, dressing up entertaining my lover and taking care of my husband’s needs afterward while very exciting can be quite exhausting. To be honest, twice a week is about all I can handle. But still, I really would like getting a good fuck every night before rolling over and going to sleep. I wonder if other hot wives have similar thoughts?

I've never found fucking men and especially my husband anywhere near exhausting, it's pure pleasure and just plain fun. If it's exhausting, maybe you shouldn't do it.

I envy you. I no longer fuck my husband. His desire as a cuckold. I was refering to the whole scene of before and after a date with one of my boyfriends. It is exciting and fun but it is difficult to do more than twice a week along with the reat of my life outside of the bedroom.

Well, then I would quit doing the whole scene before and after. Instead, enjoy the sex and the time spent.
I don't do a scene before or after. When I want to meet a lover, I send him a text; we meet and enjoy some hot sex and we send each other off quite happy and content.
Later that night, I tell my husband all about the things I did and I enjoy hot steamy sex with him.

If the "whole scene" is tiring and exhausting, you are doing some things that don't need to be done. Identify what you need to cut out and then enjoy the sex.

[SSQ]

I am a new cuckoldress. Before I was married and during marriage up until my second child I was very sexually active and I enjoyed and almost craved a good fuck every night. Maybe because of hormones or because of hubby’s performance in bed (Hence his desire to be a cuckold) coitus become less and less frequent over the years. With the start of cuckolding my sexual desires have been rekindled. The problem is the whole scene of making time, dressing up entertaining my lover and taking care of my husband’s needs afterward while very exciting can be quite exhausting. To be honest, twice a week is about all I can handle. But still, I really would like getting a good fuck every night before rolling over and going to sleep. I wonder if other hot wives have similar thoughts?

I've found scenes are only a lot of effort when I'm not into them. Are you actually being a cuckoldress, or are you being a service Top? Because absolutely, being a Top is a lot of effort when you're working to meet someone else's needs instead of your own.

If what you want is a good fuck every night, tell your husband that.

[Liese]

Do any you amazing Hotwives use the lifestyle as an opportunity to just act like a total slut?

When I think about my wife and wanting to watch her I just want to see her cut loose totally and just be really really slutty in front of me… I don’t want the humiliation aspect of it.. I just want to see her be totally slutty with another guy, does anybody else have a husband who feels this way?

I love that the lifestyle facilitates me being absolutely unashamed of my desires, my kinks, my body, my actions. I can happily show that I'm an aroused woman and I celebrate that fact. And take that opportunity to do what I want, with other likeminded people.

I know my husband loves this about me, and loves to see me enjoying myself. But I do it for me, and secondarily for us, because it's so positive for me that it makes our relationship better.

Talk to your wife about how she feels about 'cutting loose'. Not all women are ready/able to do that.

[kethikas]

My gf is still shy and very possessive of me. She also expects me to be very possessive of her. I love her to the moon and she loves me like crazy. We are still in college. I am senior to her by 1 year. I will be moving abroad next year and she will join me after an year. So, we will be in a LDR for 1 year.

I am trying to plant some thoughts in her about enjoying her sexuality. I want to ask the hot wives here one question:

When is a girl ready to hear from her boyfriend that he loves seeing her with other men? I don't want to tell her until she is ready.

[DrewandMelissa]

I’ve just told my Wife Melissa about how I feel the other night and she was 100% receptive and even said she isn’t against the idea. I told her it’s been a major turn on for me for a lot of years thinking about her having sex with another man or men. The thoughts of threesomes with another man is a major turn on. She was receptive to everything I told her. She even told me some of her fantasies and that she finds women very attractive. I told her if she ever wants to experience another women I would fully support her.

Now I’ve given it a day to sink in and before bed last night I thanked her for talking with me about this and that I actually felt a deeper connection with her now. I’ve just sent her 3 article on non manogsmy and stag vixen relationships. She said she would read them tonight !

I’m so excited that it’s heading in the right direction?

[2inUPMichigan]

I’ve just told my Wife Melissa about how I feel the other night and she was 100% receptive and even said she isn’t against the idea. I told her it’s been a major turn on for me for a lot of years thinking about her having sex with another man or men. The thoughts of threesomes with another man is a major turn on. She was receptive to everything I told her. She even told me some of her fantasies and that she finds women very attractive. I told her if she ever wants to experience another women I would fully support her.

Now I’ve given it a day to sink in and before bed last night I thanked her for talking with me about this and that I actually felt a deeper connection with her now. I’ve just sent her 3 article on non manogsmy and stag vixen relationships. She said she would read them tonight !

I’m so excited that it’s heading in the right direction?

This thread is specifically designed to ask questions of our VHW'S (verified hotwives).
What specifically would you like to ask our VHW'S? (I didn't see a question directed to them in your post)

None of us can tell you if you are headed in the right direction as each journey is different and depends on what the two of you want.

[2inUPMichigan]

My gf is still shy and very possessive of me. She also expects me to be very possessive of her. I love her to the moon and she loves me like crazy. We are still in college. I am senior to her by 1 year. I will be moving abroad next year and she will join me after an year. So, we will be in a LDR for 1 year.

I am trying to plant some thoughts in her about enjoying her sexuality. I want to ask the hot wives here one question:

When is a girl ready to hear from her boyfriend that he loves seeing her with other men? I don't want to tell her until she is ready.

Some are never ready, others are ready when the subject is brought up and the rest are ready long after he brings it up.
There is no magic to figuring it out ahead of time what her reaction will be.

Planting thoughts? No, she has to make this decision herself or it could come back to haunt you when she regrets it.
After bringing up the subject you answer her questions and give her a lot of support and reassurance. Then give her space to figure things out for herself but available I'm case she has questions.

She is ready when she is ready and not before. No two women are ready at the same time so there isn't a way to predict.

[kethikas]

Some are never ready, others are ready when the subject is brought up and the rest are ready long after he brings it up.
There is no magic to figuring it out ahead of time what her reaction will be.

Planting thoughts? No, she has to make this decision herself or it could come back to haunt you when she regrets it.
After bringing up the subject you answer her questions and give her a lot of support and reassurance. Then give her space to figure things out for herself but available I'm case she has questions.

She is ready when she is ready and not before. No two women are ready at the same time so there isn't a way to predict.

I meant "ready" to hear that I have this kink of seeing her as a hotwife. I am sure it's a whole another story of when she is ready to try out other men.

As of today, I am worried she will kick me in the butt if I tell her I would love to see her with other men.

[2inUPMichigan]

Some are never ready, others are ready when the subject is brought up and the rest are ready long after he brings it up.
There is no magic to figuring it out ahead of time what her reaction will be.

Planting thoughts? No, she has to make this decision herself or it could come back to haunt you when she regrets it.
After bringing up the subject you answer her questions and give her a lot of support and reassurance. Then give her space to figure things out for herself but available I'm case she has questions.

She is ready when she is ready and not before. No two women are ready at the same time so there isn't a way to predict.

I meant "ready" to hear that I have this kink of seeing her as a hotwife. I am sure it's a whole another story of when she is ready to try out other men.

As of today, I am worried she will kick me in the butt if I tell her I would love to see her with other men.

Start reading some of the threads written by the VHW'S which will give you some ideas of common objections or barriers that many of us have dealt with and how we have overcome them. Being prepared for your initial conversation is key.

How will you present it, and will you be able to answer her initial questions? Learn what being a hotwife means for the women of this site and why some of us made the transition from monogamous married woman to non-monogamous hotwife. Information like this will help you when you explain your fantasy to her.

And yes being angry is common, but that passed for me as I came to accept and understand what this was all about.
If you only tell her you would love to see her with other men you have missed an important part the conversation.
There is a lot of valuable information on this site that can help you figure out how to communicate with your gf about this. Always remember that the two of you are together on this journey.

A word of caution - this life isn't for everyone and it can definitely be challenging! Make sure that you have a strong foundation and good communication skills that will see you through the ups and downs before you think about moving forward. Also make sure you are ready for where this could take you. Once this fantasy leaves your head it will never be quite the same as other people will have their own ideas.

Good luck!

[kethikas]

Start reading some of the threads written by the VHW'S which will give you some ideas of common objections or barriers that many of us have dealt with and how we have overcome them. Being prepared for your initial conversation is key.

I am reading your story, also Des31 story.

Any other stories you recommend?

[Orson2]

Kethikas writes: “ As of today, I am worried she will kick me in the butt if I tell her I would love to see her with other men.”

The wise man tells her only what she needs to know. Feel free to share your worries here! But keep your goal(s) to yourself. Be mature and tell yourself to keep counsel to yourself (and trustworthy ally’s, such as you will find here).

Kethikas again:” When is a girl ready to hear from her boyfriend that he loves seeing her with other men? I don't want to tell her until she is ready.” Let her discover this Truth later, by herself.

Then she will see what a great and good gift you and your dirty mind are for her! And she’ll love and adore you all the more for it.

Your goal requires maturity and for her to develop more by trusting in you.

A man’s role is, traditionally, very much about teaching females to become open to erotic pleasures and feel safe to express their needs. This way, we empower them. (Men, mature sexually at a much younger age; our sexual organs are more external and we learn to enjoy them sooner than they do.)

I’ll only add that you ought to teach your GF to masturbate for you. Then she can self-focus and fantasise when she is alone. Then she is free to discover and own what makes her horny by herself.

Buy her a small battery powered vibrator to use. Share in using it on her! This is a rich, Royal Road to more and greater pleasures; you can start her on her way with such a small “toy.”

[Farmgirl]

Kethikas writes: “ As of today, I am worried she will kick me in the butt if I tell her I would love to see her with other men.”

The wise man tells her only what she needs to know. A wise man wouldn't make such statements : Feel free to share your worries here! But keep your goal(s) to yourself. Be mature A mature man would be a wise man (see above) and tell yourself to keep counsel to yourself (and trustworthy ally’s, such as you will find here).

Kethikas again:” When is a girl ready to hear from her boyfriend that he loves seeing her with other men? I don't want to tell her until she is ready.” Let her discover this Truth later, by herself.

Then she will see what a great and good gift you and your dirty mind are for her! And she’ll love and adore you all the more for it.

Your goal requires maturity and for her to develop more by trusting in you.

A man’s role is, traditionally, very much about teaching females to become open to erotic pleasures and feel safe to express their needs. A man's role traditionally has been in controlling a woman's sexuality. If men hadn't done that, being a Hotwife could be second nature. This way, we empower them You can't empower a woman, you can support her in empowering herself.. (Men, mature sexually at a much younger age; our sexual organs are more external and we learn to enjoy them sooner than they do Not true at all!.)

I’ll only add that you ought to teach your GF to masturbate for you. Then she can self-focus and fantasise Many of us women have no need to fantasize. We live in reality. when she is alone. Then she is free to discover and own what makes her horny by herself.

Buy her a small battery powered vibrator to use. Share in using it on her! This is a rich, Royal Road to more and greater pleasures; you can start her on her way with such a small “toy.”

Orson,
If you get verified as a woman, you can become a VHW. Then you can comment here and answer questions.
Also, I took the time to clear up some of your misconceptions in your misplaced post.

[false-abroad]

My wife is quite shy and she never had any other man beside me. I want to ask other wives, that were or still are shy: before engaging in the lifestyle, did you get embarrassed by sex scenes in movies? Maybe you still are? I mean regular movies, not porn. Embarrassed enough, that even if you would be by yourself you would fast-forward the scene.

[SSQ]

My wife is quite shy and she never had any other man beside me. I want to ask other wives, that were or still are shy: before engaging in the lifestyle, did you get embarrassed by sex scenes in movies? Maybe you still are? I mean regular movies, not porn. Embarrassed enough, that even if you would be by yourself you would fast-forward the scene.

No. But some women would find that embarrassment erotic, and some would not.

We are all different. Why not just talk to your wife if you're wondering about her thoughts and feelings?

[nks]

I have a question to VHWs. Sorry if the question has already been answered, but I gave up reading everything in this thread.

There are many different kind of hotwife-cuckold relationships, I’ll just ask about one particular type. Often cuckolding implies a quite humiliating position for the husband. He might be less capable, maybe even less manly than the bull. Perhaps the bull’s penis is much thicker and the sex way more satisfying. Perhaps you also fall in love with a much manlier, and much more capable man, who can last longer than your husband and maybe even more satisfying in a romantic way.

So, can you keep loving your husbands? Can you still find him attractive next to the alpha male? Women usually gravitate towards the stronger male (understandably), so what keeps you loving your husbands? What are the things about him that makes you happy to be married to him?

Thanks!

[Farmgirl]

I have a question to VHWs. Sorry if the question has already been answered, but I gave up reading everything in this thread.

There are many different kind of hotwife-cuckold relationships, I’ll just ask about one particular type. Often cuckolding implies a quite humiliating position for the husband.Generally, when there is a humiliating position for the husband it is because that is what he wants and desires. His wife is providing what he wants. He might be less capable, He may very well be more capable. maybe even less manly than the bull.A bull is not manly at all, he is a male bovine used for breeding cows. Perhaps the bull’s penis is much thicker Actually, a bull's penis is very thin, long but thin. and the sex way more satisfying The cows do seem satisfied after mating.. Perhaps you also fall in love with a much manlier There aren't any., and much more capable manNone more capable., who can last longer than your husband Nope, they don't last longer than my husband. and maybe even more satisfying in a romantic way Nope.

So, can you keep loving your husbands? Can you still find him attractive next to the alpha male What is an alpha male besides just fantasy BS?? Women usually gravitate towards the stronger male The stronger male is the one that can share his wife. (understandably), so what keeps you loving your husbands? Because I am in love with him. What would keep you loving your wife? What are the things about him that makes you happy to be married to him?

Thanks!

You seem to spend way too much time in fantasy land.

[nks]

I have a question to VHWs. Sorry if the question has already been answered, but I gave up reading everything in this thread.

There are many different kind of hotwife-cuckold relationships, I’ll just ask about one particular type. Often cuckolding implies a quite humiliating position for the husband.Generally, when there is a humiliating position for the husband it is because that is what he wants and desires. His wife is providing what he wants. He might be less capable, He may very well be more capable. maybe even less manly than the bull.A bull is not manly at all, he is a male bovine used for breeding cows. Perhaps the bull’s penis is much thicker Actually, a bull's penis is very thin, long but thin. and the sex way more satisfying The cows do seem satisfied after mating.. Perhaps you also fall in love with a much manlier There aren't any., and much more capable manNone more capable., who can last longer than your husband Nope, they don't last longer than my husband. and maybe even more satisfying in a romantic way Nope.

So, can you keep loving your husbands? Can you still find him attractive next to the alpha male What is an alpha male besides just fantasy BS?? Women usually gravitate towards the stronger male The stronger male is the one that can share his wife. (understandably), so what keeps you loving your husbands? Because I am in love with him. What would keep you loving your wife? What are the things about him that makes you happy to be married to him?

Thanks!

You seem to spend way too much time in fantasy land.

Thanks for the answer. I’m glad to hear that your love is firm towards your husband. As I mentioned in my question, there are many types of relationships. My question seems not to be really aimed at someone like you. If possible, I would like to hear from someone whose husband is not as strong and capable as the men they see. (Maybe they don’t exist. I don’t know). I wonder if other wives agree that only strong men can share their wives. I don’t deny that you’re right, but I’d like to hear from others too.

[ez456]

Question for the verified hotwives...

Well...the ones who've had a cuck 'clean them' after a bull.

How did you feel the first time a cuck cleaned you? I'm curious what went through your mind. Like a feeling of power? Lust? Any awkwardness at what was happening? Did how you see the cuck change in that moment (e.g. did you view him differently from that point on?)

Also...totally separate question....did you ever have an experience where you got with a guy soon after being with another guy, in the scenario where the second guy didn't know about it? Wonder about what that situation was like too.

Thanks

A bull is a male of either Bos Taurus or Bos Indicus. I own some but, I'm not into bestiality . I have been cleaned after sex, but not by a "cuck" >
Perhaps learning a little about the women you are addressing might ease you away from the fantasies in your head.

Now, to answer what you should have asked:
My husband does often clean me after I have been fucked by a lover. It is a loving, bonding act. It shows that he loves me and appreciates me and who I am.
I have been with one lover after I enjoyed another lover. Either situation allows me to enjoy being naughty, and I love to be naughty .

I just use the terms that most people in that lifestyle on here and elsewhere use. I don't have any particular attachment to them.

Nice, about the loving/bonding act. Can you remember what it felt like first time you got cleaned? Also curious as to how it felt for other hotwives. I still wonder how my ex felt the first time I cleaned her after she'd gone and fucked her ex fwb.

[SSQ]

I have a question to VHWs. Sorry if the question has already been answered, but I gave up reading everything in this thread.

There are many different kind of hotwife-cuckold relationships, I’ll just ask about one particular type. Often cuckolding implies a quite humiliating position for the husband.Generally, when there is a humiliating position for the husband it is because that is what he wants and desires. His wife is providing what he wants. He might be less capable, He may very well be more capable. maybe even less manly than the bull.A bull is not manly at all, he is a male bovine used for breeding cows. Perhaps the bull’s penis is much thicker Actually, a bull's penis is very thin, long but thin. and the sex way more satisfying The cows do seem satisfied after mating.. Perhaps you also fall in love with a much manlier There aren't any., and much more capable manNone more capable., who can last longer than your husband Nope, they don't last longer than my husband. and maybe even more satisfying in a romantic way Nope.

So, can you keep loving your husbands? Can you still find him attractive next to the alpha male What is an alpha male besides just fantasy BS?? Women usually gravitate towards the stronger male The stronger male is the one that can share his wife. (understandably), so what keeps you loving your husbands? Because I am in love with him. What would keep you loving your wife? What are the things about him that makes you happy to be married to him?

Thanks!

You seem to spend way too much time in fantasy land.

Thanks for the answer. I’m glad to hear that your love is firm towards your husband. As I mentioned in my question, there are many types of relationships. My question seems not to be really aimed at someone like you. If possible, I would like to hear from someone whose husband is not as strong and capable as the men they see. (Maybe they don’t exist. I don’t know). I wonder if other wives agree that only strong men can share their wives. I don’t deny that you’re right, but I’d like to hear from others too.

Strong, manly, and capable does not come in only one flavour. You might want to think about that.

[Farmgirl]

Question for the verified hotwives...

Well...the ones who've had a cuck 'clean them' after a bull.

How did you feel the first time a cuck cleaned you? I'm curious what went through your mind. Like a feeling of power? Lust? Any awkwardness at what was happening? Did how you see the cuck change in that moment (e.g. did you view him differently from that point on?)

Also...totally separate question....did you ever have an experience where you got with a guy soon after being with another guy, in the scenario where the second guy didn't know about it? Wonder about what that situation was like too.

Thanks

A bull is a male of either Bos Taurus or Bos Indicus. I own some but, I'm not into bestiality . I have been cleaned after sex, but not by a "cuck" >
Perhaps learning a little about the women you are addressing might ease you away from the fantasies in your head.

Now, to answer what you should have asked:
My husband does often clean me after I have been fucked by a lover. It is a loving, bonding act. It shows that he loves me and appreciates me and who I am.
I have been with one lover after I enjoyed another lover. Either situation allows me to enjoy being naughty, and I love to be naughty .

I just use the terms that most people in that lifestyle on here and elsewhere use. I don't have any particular attachment to them.

Nice, about the loving/bonding act. Can you remember what it felt like first time you got cleaned? Also curious as to how it felt for other hotwives. I still wonder how my ex felt the first time I cleaned her after she'd gone and fucked her ex fwb.

I would not say that most people in the lifestyle use the term "bull". Some do. Many who fantasize use it. But many actual Hotwives and their husbands do not use it, rather they detest it.

The first time my husband licked me clean after a lover had cum inside of me, I felt loved, cherished, and honored. I also knew without a doubt that he liked who I am and what I had done. You might say, a wonderful feeling of approval mixed with support and love.

[nks]

I have a question to VHWs. Sorry if the question has already been answered, but I gave up reading everything in this thread.

There are many different kind of hotwife-cuckold relationships, I’ll just ask about one particular type. Often cuckolding implies a quite humiliating position for the husband.Generally, when there is a humiliating position for the husband it is because that is what he wants and desires. His wife is providing what he wants. He might be less capable, He may very well be more capable. maybe even less manly than the bull.A bull is not manly at all, he is a male bovine used for breeding cows. Perhaps the bull’s penis is much thicker Actually, a bull's penis is very thin, long but thin. and the sex way more satisfying The cows do seem satisfied after mating.. Perhaps you also fall in love with a much manlier There aren't any., and much more capable manNone more capable., who can last longer than your husband Nope, they don't last longer than my husband. and maybe even more satisfying in a romantic way Nope.

So, can you keep loving your husbands? Can you still find him attractive next to the alpha male What is an alpha male besides just fantasy BS?? Women usually gravitate towards the stronger male The stronger male is the one that can share his wife. (understandably), so what keeps you loving your husbands? Because I am in love with him. What would keep you loving your wife? What are the things about him that makes you happy to be married to him?

Thanks!

You seem to spend way too much time in fantasy land.

Thanks for the answer. I’m glad to hear that your love is firm towards your husband. As I mentioned in my question, there are many types of relationships. My question seems not to be really aimed at someone like you. If possible, I would like to hear from someone whose husband is not as strong and capable as the men they see. (Maybe they don’t exist. I don’t know). I wonder if other wives agree that only strong men can share their wives. I don’t deny that you’re right, but I’d like to hear from others too.

Strong, manly, and capable does not come in only one flavour. You might want to think about that.

This is exactly what I would like to ask about. What flavors are there? While the mythical alpha male, as it was pointed out by Farmgirl, is clearly just a fantasy, there are certain traits that attract women and there are other traits that tends not to, even being a turn-off (romantically or even sexually).

It is difficult to generalize, and there are many tastes for each woman, but there are general things that women might not find attractive (nagging, whiny men, maybe crossdressing, submissiveness, lack of masculinity, etc.). For instance, a man who want to be humiliated might be a turnoff for some women. Likewise an indecisive, unassertive man with some annoying traits for example can be a turnoff. I accept that other positive traits of the same indecisive man might balance things out, but what if a much better person comes along without most of the turn-off traits, with many attractive traits. Will a wife feel less attracted to the husband next to the lover? What are the key traits that keeps him attractive? How can he counterbalance things?

[nks]

Question for the verified hotwives...

Well...the ones who've had a cuck 'clean them' after a bull.

How did you feel the first time a cuck cleaned you? I'm curious what went through your mind. Like a feeling of power? Lust? Any awkwardness at what was happening? Did how you see the cuck change in that moment (e.g. did you view him differently from that point on?)

Also...totally separate question....did you ever have an experience where you got with a guy soon after being with another guy, in the scenario where the second guy didn't know about it? Wonder about what that situation was like too.

Thanks

A bull is a male of either Bos Taurus or Bos Indicus. I own some but, I'm not into bestiality . I have been cleaned after sex, but not by a "cuck" >
Perhaps learning a little about the women you are addressing might ease you away from the fantasies in your head.

Now, to answer what you should have asked:
My husband does often clean me after I have been fucked by a lover. It is a loving, bonding act. It shows that he loves me and appreciates me and who I am.
I have been with one lover after I enjoyed another lover. Either situation allows me to enjoy being naughty, and I love to be naughty .

I just use the terms that most people in that lifestyle on here and elsewhere use. I don't have any particular attachment to them.

Nice, about the loving/bonding act. Can you remember what it felt like first time you got cleaned? Also curious as to how it felt for other hotwives. I still wonder how my ex felt the first time I cleaned her after she'd gone and fucked her ex fwb.

I would not say that most people in the lifestyle use the term "bull". Some do. Many who fantasize use it. But many actual Hotwives and their husbands do not use it, rather they detest it.

The first time my husband licked me clean after a lover had cum inside of me, I felt loved, cherished, and honored. I also knew without a doubt that he liked who I am and what I had done. You might say, a wonderful feeling of approval mixed with support and love.

Well, to be honest, I’m happy to hear that someone points out the ridiculousness of the term. I understand why someone would not like the word bull. It does remind me of the animal and personally I don’t feel that it would be arousing. Lover sounds much better. I, as well as others I guess, simply use it because it is being thrown around on this forum and other places.

[SSQ]

You seem to spend way too much time in fantasy land.

Thanks for the answer. I’m glad to hear that your love is firm towards your husband. As I mentioned in my question, there are many types of relationships. My question seems not to be really aimed at someone like you. If possible, I would like to hear from someone whose husband is not as strong and capable as the men they see. (Maybe they don’t exist. I don’t know). I wonder if other wives agree that only strong men can share their wives. I don’t deny that you’re right, but I’d like to hear from others too.

Strong, manly, and capable does not come in only one flavour. You might want to think about that.

This is exactly what I would like to ask about. What flavors are there? While the mythical alpha male, as it was pointed out by Farmgirl, is clearly just a fantasy, there are certain traits that attract women and there are other traits that tends not to, even being a turn-off (romantically or even sexually).

It is difficult to generalize, and there are many tastes for each woman, but there are general things that women might not find attractive (nagging, whiny men, maybe crossdressing, submissiveness, lack of masculinity, etc.). For instance, a man who want to be humiliated might be a turnoff for some women. Likewise an indecisive, unassertive man with some annoying traits for example can be a turnoff. I accept that other positive traits of the same indecisive man might balance things out, but what if a much better person comes along without most of the turn-off traits, with many attractive traits. Will a wife feel less attracted to the husband next to the lover? What are the key traits that keeps him attractive? How can he counterbalance things?

I think you are still not understanding me.

There are women out there who are into these kinks. If you're concerned about that, then date people who are interested in men with those specific personality traits/kinks/interests. This isn't that difficult.

Not everyone is attracted to the same personality types. I, for one, and completely turned off by the type of man who proclaims himself to be "alpha", for many, many reasons.

Be yourself. Find people who are attracted to you. I read something yesterday that really does bring it home that no matter how niche you are, there are loads of potential partners for you. There are a LOT of people in the world. Find your people.