Figuring it out

[Matureone2560]

Glad you had a wonderful Valentines Day, you have a lot of admirers on here too

Well aren't you sweet. Maybe one Valentine's Day I should invite all the admirers to join me at the same hotel, line them up, and show them my appreciation

(I'm totally kidding. My husband knows I have a bit of a gang bang fantasy, but I also could never go through with it in real life. Threesomes already challenge me mentally because I want to make sure everyone is having a good time. Adding more to the mix just wouldn't work for me. But the fantasy is a fun one).

I love your thinking

But we are able to at least enjoy you by those sexy pics you put up beautiful lady

[Lookingforadventure]

I love your thinking

But we are able to at least enjoy you by those sexy pics you put up beautiful lady

Maybe I'll have to post more

[Matureone2560]

I love your thinking

But we are able to at least enjoy you by those sexy pics you put up beautiful lady

Maybe I'll have to post more

Oh yes please!!!!! don't tease us "Luscious" you sexy thing

[Lookingforadventure]

I have some news. First, "Sir" has finally committed to a date for playing in person. I was re-reading my thread and realized that I've been worried about his lack of excitement to get together since December. Maybe I should cut him loose, but I genuinely believe that he's just been really busy with work and life. Our virtual play sessions continue to be amazing, and he seems very excited to play in April. So, I'm trusting my gut and going with it.

Adventurer and I have booked the BDSM play space for this play date, so I'm starting to plan my "Wench Wish List" of activities. Do I want to try the sex swing? Should we try fisting while I'm in the medical stirrups? I wonder if I would look good chained to the spanking bench? So many possibilities.

My second bit of news is that Adventurer and I have met another couple. It is a bit ironic because I had just been talking to him about wanting to take a break from meeting new people. There are some personal things going on in our lives that are taking up a lot of mental and emotional energy, and I don't have a lot left to give to someone new. Plus, a few guys (including Rick, from our recent couple experience) have reached out lately with an unexpected and no-context, "hey, want to get together to fuck this week" kind of messages that just made me feel cheap and disrespected.

I suggested that we take a break...except, I do feel a deep desire to find a kink-friendly couple that we can be friends with. I don't even care if we never have sex with them. I just want to have people that we can get dinner or drinks with and talk about the lifestyle, our experiences, and give each other advice. If we stumbled upon such a contact, I'd love to add that to my list of people that I plan regular get togethers with.

No sooner did I mention that to Adventurer, then he found a great couple to introduce me to. Truthfully, I think he had already been chatting with them for a bit on AFF, but he thought they would meet my desire. He was right!

We've been chatting for a few days now. They are new to the lifestyle and aren't sure that they want to do anything in person with anyone, but they'd love to have friends to talk to about it. They have been married for 18 years, love playing with each other, and have very similar kinks to ours. They are also open to online flirting and there has been excellent chemistry all around. Maybe I'm setting myself up for disappointment (the last couple that I felt this much friend potential with ghosted us when we suggested a meeting), but I'm really excited about them. AND...we are going to have dinner tomorrow!

[Mr1SexyGILF]

I have some news. First, "Sir" has finally committed to a date for playing in person. I was re-reading my thread and realized that I've been worried about his lack of excitement to get together since December. Maybe I should cut him loose, but I genuinely believe that he's just been really busy with work and life. Our virtual play sessions continue to be amazing, and he seems very excited to play in April. So, I'm trusting my gut and going with it.

Adventurer and I have booked the BDSM play space for this play date, so I'm starting to plan my "Wench Wish List" of activities. Do I want to try the sex swing? Should we try fisting while I'm in the medical stirrups? I wonder if I would look good chained to the spanking bench? So many possibilities.

My second bit of news is that Adventurer and I have met another couple. It is a bit ironic because I had just been talking to him about wanting to take a break from meeting new people. There are some personal things going on in our lives that are taking up a lot of mental and emotional energy, and I don't have a lot left to give to someone new. Plus, a few guys (including Rick, from our recent couple experience) have reached out lately with an unexpected and no-context, "hey, want to get together to fuck this week" kind of messages that just made me feel cheap and disrespected.

I suggested that we take a break...except, I do feel a deep desire to find a kink-friendly couple that we can be friends with. I don't even care if we never have sex with them. I just want to have people that we can get dinner or drinks with and talk about the lifestyle, our experiences, and give each other advice. If we stumbled upon such a contact, I'd love to add that to my list of people that I plan regular get togethers with.

No sooner did I mention that to Adventurer, then he found a great couple to introduce me to. Truthfully, I think he had already been chatting with them for a bit on AFF, but he thought they would meet my desire. He was right!

We've been chatting for a few days now. They are new to the lifestyle and aren't sure that they want to do anything in person with anyone, but they'd love to have friends to talk to about it. They have been married for 18 years, love playing with each other, and have very similar kinks to ours. They are also open to online flirting and there has been excellent chemistry all around. Maybe I'm setting myself up for disappointment (the last couple that I felt this much friend potential with ghosted us when we suggested a meeting), but I'm really excited about them. AND...we are going to have dinner tomorrow!

I hope you and adventurer have a wonderful dinner date with this couple and find some kindred spirits you can enjoy an ongoing friendship with.

Mr GILF

[Lookingforadventure]

I hope you and adventurer have a wonderful dinner date with this couple and find some kindred spirits you can enjoy an ongoing friendship with.

Mr GILF

Thank you. There is a reason you are one of my favorite ohw men... and it is because you are awesome.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

You guys a gonna have a great time! Ms Curious and I send warm wishes for a good connection with new friends.

[Lookingforadventure]

You guys a gonna have a great time! Ms Curious and I send warm wishes for a good connection with new friends.

Thank you so much! I hope your adventures are going well too.

[rascalnvixen]

Hope your dinner with new friends is very rewarding beyond good food!!!! Looking forward to hear about your meeting with them!!! I'm already jealous of them because they get to see your beautiful smile (and lips) and your sexy breasts under your dress!!! I'd love to be a fly on the wall during dinner!!!

Rascal

[Lookingforadventure]

Hope your dinner with new friends is very rewarding beyond good food!!!! Looking forward to hear about your meeting with them!!! I'm already jealous of them because they get to see your beautiful smile (and lips) and your sexy breasts under your dress!!! I'd love to be a fly on the wall during dinner!!!

Rascal

Aw. Thank you. I'm really looking forward to it.

In the meantime, your comment reminds me that I need to figure out what to wear. I have a turtleneck sweater dress that showcases my breasts well and clings to my butt. With tights and knee high boots it looks pretty good.

The other option is a bit more cleavage bearing -- yoga pants to highlight my butt, a low cut camisole, and an open cardigan to make it decent. The cleavage option let's me tease whomever sits across the table from me. Will I, or won't I catch them looking?

[solstice]

I love the high spirited tone of your thread although I have mixed feelings regarding BDSM, the thought of violence against particularly a woman I find disturbing, the person handing out discipline really has to know what he is doing, and the thought of a relative stranger inflicting pain on you makes my blood run cold, although beating you over your bum with a feather duster might turn me on.

[Lookingforadventure]

I love the high spirited tone of your thread although I have mixed feelings regarding BDSM, the thought of violence against particularly a woman I find disturbing, the person handing out discipline really has to know what he is doing, and the thought of a relative stranger inflicting pain on you makes my blood run cold, although beating you over your bum with a feather duster might turn me on.

Thank you. I understand your hesitation. I'd feel the same way if my bdsm experiences were about beating me or violence. That might be some people's kink. I don't judge them. Mine is more about figuring out my body's limits. How many times can I orgasm in a row? How big of a toy can I insert? What happens if I use a vibrator on my clit while simultaneously pulling on my nipples?

A good bdsm session actually has the sub in charge. I set the limits and the general things I'd like to explore. The Dom uses his expertise to guide me through it.

But yes, it isn't for everyone. And a feather duster on my butt sounds like a great way to get to know you

[rascalnvixen]

Aw. Thank you. I'm really looking forward to it.

In the meantime, your comment reminds me that I need to figure out what to wear. I have a turtleneck sweater dress that showcases my breasts well and clings to my butt. With tights and knee high boots it looks pretty good.

The other option is a bit more cleavage bearing -- yoga pants to highlight my butt, a low cut camisole, and an open cardigan to make it decent. The cleavage option let's me tease whomever sits across the table from me. Will I, or won't I catch them looking?

I know you didn't ask for opinions about this but I have to say that form fitting sweaters on a beautiful woman has ALWAYS gotten my motor running hot and fast!! I'm quite sure that close fitting sweater dress will gather many many longing glances for you to catch!!! Is there a chance you would be able to post a pic of what you choose to wear tonight? I'd love to "glance" at you as well.

Of course the cleavage idea is certainly one that would do the job of gathering interest in your assets, but I think the sweater offers a bit more mystique of what may be available if all the cards are played well!!!

Rascal

[Lookingforadventure]

Thank you Rascal. I'm leaning that way myself.... and might even wear a bra that allows my nipples to be prominent if they so desire.

[solstice]

I will continue reading and enjoying your entertaining writing, I never doubted that you are ultimately in control of your lifestyle, and your personality captivates me in the pages of your journal.

[rascalnvixen]

Thank you Rascal. I'm leaning that way myself.... and might even wear a bra that allows my nipples to be prominent if they so desire.

As previously stated... I'M JEALOUS!!!!!!! Please consider the request for a pic of your outfit tonight for us less fortunate who can't be there to witness first hand. Or maybe that should be second hand, I imagine the first hand might be busy!!!

Rascal

[Lookingforadventure]

I will continue reading and enjoying your entertaining writing, I never doubted that you are ultimately in control of your lifestyle, and your personality captivates me in the pages of your journal.

Thank you. I just wanted to make sure I was representing bdsm well. There is a big spectrum of activities... and people have different interests and approaches.

And I'm glad my personality shines through. I want to show that regular folk with regular emotions are figuring this out too. Hopefully that can help others who are considering it.

[Lookingforadventure]

As previously stated... I'M JEALOUS!!!!!!! Please consider the request for a pic of your outfit tonight for us less fortunate who can't be there to witness first hand. Or maybe that should be second hand, I imagine the first hand might be busy!!!

Rascal

I'll see what I can do. It HAS been awhile since I posted a pic.

[solstice]

Lookingforadventure writes: I just wanted to make sure I was representing bdsm well.

bdsm could not have a more persuasive advocate. I might be enticed to allow you to skelp (Scottish slang) my bum

[Seekingmore12]

Hope your dinner with new friends is very rewarding beyond good food!!!! Looking forward to hear about your meeting with them!!! I'm already jealous of them because they get to see your beautiful smile (and lips) and your sexy breasts under your dress!!! I'd love to be a fly on the wall during dinner!!!

Rascal

Aw. Thank you. I'm really looking forward to it.

In the meantime, your comment reminds me that I need to figure out what to wear. I have a turtleneck sweater dress that showcases my breasts well and clings to my butt. With tights and knee high boots it looks pretty good.

The other option is a bit more cleavage bearing -- yoga pants to highlight my butt, a low cut camisole, and an open cardigan to make it decent. The cleavage option let's me tease whomever sits across the table from me. Will I, or won't I catch them looking?

I would go for the yoga pants and the camisole…….:-)

[Matureone2560]

Well i hope you go with the cleavage and then we may get to see your sexy cleavage

[Lookingforadventure]

Lookingforadventure writes: I just wanted to make sure I was representing bdsm well.

bdsm could not have a more persuasive advocate. I might be enticed to allow you to skelp (Scottish slang) my bum

I'll put on my black corset and highest heels to give you a bit of eye candy as I introduce you to the finer aspects of BDSM

[Lookingforadventure]

I would go for the yoga pants and the camisole…….:-)

Well you have seen both options in person....close up....so your opinion is appreciated.

[Lookingforadventure]

Well i hope you go with the cleavage and then we may get to see your sexy cleavage

Lol. I did post a pic of the cleavage outfit earlier (after a Valentine's Day date). But I have other cleavage bearing options. Hmmm....so many possibilities.

[rascalnvixen]

This is like dangling a string in front of kittens!!!!

Rascal