My Wife and her Ex Husband

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Szol.

[Des 31]

Had my wife been married to someone before me, I would have no problem with them fucking whenever they wish. I don't interfere with her choices. She has had sex a few times with a man who fucked her before we married.

[SoFLCuck]

Yesterday was my two year anniversary of being pussy-free. Early in the morning, he told me he knew being pussy-free was not easy for me but reminded me of how much of a turn on it is for him. I told him I had made lunch reservations at a nice waterfront restaurant to celebrate the occasion. They were both pleased. By 4pm yesterday, they were having sex like it was their first time again. Last time over drinks, he told me that he wanted my input. He asked me if I would prefer to increase the orgasm ratio from the current 25:1 to 50:1 or if I would prefer 2 more years of being pussy-free. My heart sank. He told me he really wanted to do both but the wife told him one or the other. I have until 9pm tonight to tell him what I prefer.

[storiespix]

Last time over drinks, he told me that he wanted my input. He asked me if I would prefer to increase the orgasm ratio from the current 25:1 to 50:1 or if I would prefer 2 more years of being pussy-free. My heart sank. He told me he really wanted to do both but the wife told him one or the other. I have until 9pm tonight to tell him what I prefer.

So, if you decide to pick the current 25:1, there is only a chance you'll be allowed inside your wife?

And if you pick 50:1, in two years you are guaranteed to be allowed inside your wife?

If my understanding is correct, I suppose I'd pick 50:1, because it seems that he and your wife are fucking pretty often anyway.

[Chrislydi]

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[Chrislydi]

Last time over drinks, he told me that he wanted my input. He asked me if I would prefer to increase the orgasm ratio from the current 25:1 to 50:1 or if I would prefer 2 more years of being pussy-free. My heart sank. He told me he really wanted to do both but the wife told him one or the other. I have until 9pm tonight to tell him what I prefer.

So, if you decide to pick the current 25:1, there is only a chance you'll be allowed inside your wife?

And if you pick 50:1, in two years you are guaranteed to be allowed inside your wife?

If my understanding is correct, I suppose I'd pick 50:1, because it seems that he and your wife are fucking pretty often anyway.

I absolutely understand storiespix logic and it makes sense. So much depends on what does it for you that it's impossible to recommend either action, it's such an individual and personal choice.

I've read ucaneffher's thread and many posts as well as Jezza's 'Being Replaced', and especially the former really got turned on by the thought of his girl being virtually entirely exclusive to others. If this does it for you then maybe permanent abstinence is very attractive?

Maybe you choosing 50:1 and permanent abstinence would even be your preference?

I suppose the telling phrase is after being told of the options you say 'my heart sank' which points to neither being very wanted. In which case the least worst, in the absence of being able to choose neither, is the better. Is there no way you can have any REAL choice in the matter or are you resigned to being forever so submissive?

I hope the direction this is going matches your fantasies, you write as if you're very happy so long may it continue.

[lookingiansa]

Absolutely, his dominance in the bedroom does have an impact on the daily things we do. Wife and I are both very happy with this arrangement. He has also become much more comfortable allowing me to be a sub to him.

An interesting social dynamic: He went from being her (ex-)husband to being her man, for you it´s the reverse route. He managed to claim most of the fun parts of living together in the process, while you are relegated to the duties that go with it. It would appear he is the social climber among the three of you.....

Yes the dynamic has been interesting to say the least. But having him around has worked well for all of us. Never in a million years would I have thought of giving up sex for someone else’s benefit. Yet, it has been over a year since the wife and I last fucked and I get much hornier now watching them then when I was having sex with her.

SoFl

My question is he pulling his weight financially or hs he still unemployed? And getting access to your wife's pussy without having to pay for it.

Just my question I got to this late. But up until now haven't seen heard anything about this.

Mr Lookingiansa

[FNQLivin]

I am not seeing the benefit to SoFL at all. No access to his wife, increasing time spent in the guest room and subsidising the ex husband, whilst permitting him to be more or less exclusive to his wife without an end in sight.

[Chrislydi]

I am not seeing the benefit to SoFL at all. No access to his wife, increasing time spent in the guest room and subsidising the ex husband, whilst permitting him to be more or less exclusive to his wife without an end in sight.

This for me too but then I'm not really wired thiat way so that's no shock. However I readily recognise others are very much turned on by submissiveness and extended, even permanent denial. The idea of the one who they love and is so special to them giving herself, not just sexually, but building an increasingly strong emotional bond as well. I think it's very much psychological, the thought of it as it happens is seductive in itself, you are regularly aroused and to far greater heights of arousal too. At least that's my understanding, everyone is different and SF writes as if it's working for all three of them.

[FNQLivin]

I understand the dynamic. I am wired that way. But this would have me using my safe word.

[lookingiansa]

SoFl

If you keep the 25:1 you will be pussy free for sure 2 more years if I'm getting this right.

But if you go to 50:1 every 50x you will get to have PIV with her or us it just a tease of possibly having sex with her. .

I don't see not going to 50:1 if your guaranteed sex every 50:1. But if no guarantee you will be pussy free for 2 years anyway and no release until 5:1. for 2 years the way things are evolving or turning out and still probably pussy free.

So on the 4th anniversary will you be guaranteed to fuck her? If so I would probably keepthe 25 :1 ratio

But my option truly would be to say I'm not fucking playing this game anymore. I would refuse to be caged and say you know it's his pussy but your not going to control when how and if I cum.

Nothing against guys who like caged just not my thing at all. I think he's being cruel controlling that when he has almost taken everything from you at your expense.you should have the freedom to jerk off how many times you want.

Maybe physcoohically deep down he wants to hurt you for taking his ex in the first place. And what better way of doing it. Just my thought not saying he is. Like Al Capone said. "keep your Freinds close but your enemies closer."

And I'm looking at this from the other side I'm not a cuck but have been hw cuck couples as the 3rd. Just sharing my thoughts after I binge read all 10 pages in an hour or so.

Mr. Lookingiansa

[Chrislydi]

I know I've commented but think this is important

The way I look at it is this, this all changes on a whim from one of them anyway, none of their promises can't be broken next week or changed entirely, you seem to have no real say or weight in any decision or argument. When you are given a choice, it's Hobson's Choice, that is a choice between two options of which both are far worse than the status quo (the situation as it is right now).

The only way to keep this dynamic going where you enjoy a certain loss of freedom and control, is to set some limits on how far they can go in a direction you're not happy with, without you having some keyword to stop it.

To quote FNQLivin

"I understand the dynamic. I am wired that way. But this would have me using my safe word."

You don't have one and you may be losing any rights at all, happy now but maybe sad, lonely, depressed and anxious for a long, long time afterwards

To bastardise a common saying...

Nothing they say or agree to now is worth the piece of paper it's NOT written down on anyway.

So you really should draw a line in the sand at this point and not let it drift into even deeper waters when it really has gone too far to ever pull back.

Tell them NEITHER option is acceptable and the whole arrangement should come under review, while taking legal steps on your own to protect your rights to money and property.

[sherulestherooster]

Wow, somehow I really thought that for the anniversary he’d get to reclaim his wife as a reward but it looks like they went to the other extreme. Interesting dilemma, curious what he chose.

I’m with most other posters, seems like this is a little getting out of hand. 50:1 is a crazy ratio. I was in an FLR where we kept track of our orgasm ratio and just found out it got to be not as fun beyond a certain point.

Interesting to see how this plays out.

[trecital]

Looking back over earlier posts it would seem that the ex had 25 orgasms in about three weeks, so 50 should take about six weeks. That's not that long. Personally I could never go without any release for more than a week, but SoFLCuck seems to be made of sterner stuff.
As well as making SoFLCuck wait for his release, I think the ex should add some extra conditions in to the mix. SoFLCuck to wear panties, to take some physical punishment (spankings etc) and such like. Just denying him sounds a bit too boring for everyone involved.

[Chrislydi]

My heart sank is the telling phrase, that alone says he wants it to go no further whatsoever

[WifeKnowsBest]

Did I miss something, because I'm a bit confused?

He is your wife's ex-husband for a reason, what has changed between the two of them that he is now her defacto husband?

My second question is where do you fit into her life? What is your value to her?

I try hard not to piss on somebody else's thread. However in my head I keep hearing the Precy Sledge song "When a Man Loves a Woman."

[germancuck-1]

My heart sank is the telling phrase, that alone says he wants it to go no further whatsoever

Not necessarily. It may mean orgasm and/or pussy denial is not his favorite part of the entire arrangement, but he´ll be happy to go further if it fits into the general scheme of things. It may also mean that you´re right, and he indeed does not wish for things to go further.

This thread is a good example of why general rules on what is to be considered good or healthy, or transgressing boundaries, etc. in this lifestyle are so hard to formulate, and usually end up being a double edged sword. A marriage may fail because things went to extremes, sometimes it thrives for the very same reason. Sometimes it fails because certain more "advanced" variants in this life were left untried, and sometimes it survives because the very same boundaries were not crossed. Which is which usually is identified only after the fact.

[Chrislydi]

My heart sank is the telling phrase, that alone says he wants it to go no further whatsoever

Not necessarily. It may mean orgasm and/or pussy denial is not his favorite part of the entire arrangement, but he´ll be happy to go further if it fits into the general scheme of things. It may also mean that you´re right, and he indeed does not wish for things to go further.

This thread is a good example of why general rules on what is to be considered good or healthy, or transgressing boundaries, etc. in this lifestyle are so hard to formulate, and usually end up being a double edged sword. A marriage may fail because things went to extremes, sometimes it thrives for the very same reason. Sometimes it fails because certain more "advanced" variants in this life were left untried, and sometimes it survives because the very same boundaries were not crossed. Which is which usually is identified only after the fact.

Yes a point well made which I have to agree with. For me the safety net of a key or safe word would guard against it going in an undesirable direction too far.

The safe word could just instigate a time out to discuss where all participants see this heading and still want to be part of it, alternatively it could put at least a temporary halt to it going any further, or finally it could even roll back some or all of the way. It's when one is lacking that things can get out of control very quickly, because there is a point where it's very hard to come back from.

[germancuck-1]

Yesterday was my two year anniversary of being pussy-free. Early in the morning, he told me he knew being pussy-free was not easy for me but reminded me of how much of a turn on it is for him. I told him I had made lunch reservations at a nice waterfront restaurant to celebrate the occasion. They were both pleased. By 4pm yesterday, they were having sex like it was their first time again. Last time over drinks, he told me that he wanted my input. He asked me if I would prefer to increase the orgasm ratio from the current 25:1 to 50:1 or if I would prefer 2 more years of being pussy-free. My heart sank. He told me he really wanted to do both but the wife told him one or the other. I have until 9pm tonight to tell him what I prefer.

Soooooo..... how did you decide? I´m sure we all are dying to find out.

[SoFLCuck]

Yesterday was my two year anniversary of being pussy-free. Early in the morning, he told me he knew being pussy-free was not easy for me but reminded me of how much of a turn on it is for him. I told him I had made lunch reservations at a nice waterfront restaurant to celebrate the occasion. They were both pleased. By 4pm yesterday, they were having sex like it was their first time again. Last time over drinks, he told me that he wanted my input. He asked me if I would prefer to increase the orgasm ratio from the current 25:1 to 50:1 or if I would prefer 2 more years of being pussy-free. My heart sank. He told me he really wanted to do both but the wife told him one or the other. I have until 9pm tonight to tell him what I prefer.

Soooooo..... how did you decide? I´m sure we all are dying to find out.

Hi all. Sorry for the delay in responding. I have been swamped at work. I decided to go for the 50:1 option. I have been assured that I will be allowed ro have sex with her again May 2024. I know some have been worried but this arrangement but it works well for us. I do enjoy orgasm denial and long term chastity.

[6inches]

Hell why bother to count!! i get squirrely after a couple weeks!!!

[Shogun2049]

So, as I understand it, you sleep in a separate room while the two of them sleep in the same bed every night, she only has sex with him since he moved in and you're "promised" to have sex with her one time in two years from now, and you're in chastity as much as possible. Tell us again, 1) why did she end up divorcing him and ending up with you and how is he all of a sudden the best thing for her?; and 2) how are you still considered the husband and not him? It sounds very much like you've been made the ex-husband and she's gone back to him as her new husband again.

Just curious about this dynamic as we've seen plenty of other husbands one day realize that they've been replaced and essentially are asked to leave. Are you positive this isn't going to be the next change coming up? You being asked to sign papers and leave so she and her husband can be alone?

[6inches]

SoFlcuck
Hell why would they want him to leave , they would have to start doing housework cleaning and all the other stuff. Besides they all seem to love it,

has he taking you anally yet?


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[SoFLCuck]

Hell why bother to count!! i get squirrely after a couple weeks!!!

I do too. After a few weeks I get squirrelly. On the current schedule it will be every 9 to 10 weeks for me.

[SoFLCuck]

SoFlcuck
Hell why would they want him to leave , they would have to start doing housework cleaning and all the other stuff. Besides they all seem to love it,

has he taking you anally yet?


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That is true, I do a lot of house chores.

Yes he has taken me anally.