Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[tempus_fugit36]

A few of us Verified Hotwives have decided it might be fun to start a thread where the boys can ask us what's on their minds. The rules may change Here are a few of the rules.
1. No "Does size matter?" questions.(Do a search, there is 300 threads on the subject and that's in the last 3 pages )
2. Only VHW's can answer.
3. Try not to ask the same question twice.
4. Don't be a jerk.

If you want to PM your question to me that is fine.

Hello Hot wifes and hot girlfriends, I would like you to answer for few questions if possible:
1- How is it the feeling for you to make your husband a cuck and others knowing about it?
2- Any regret ever to be a hot wife?
3- How was you after night feeling when you became a hot wife or hot girl?
Thanks!

[Farmgirl]

Hello Hot wifes and hot girlfriends, I would like you to answer for few questions if possible:
1- How is it the feeling for you to make your husband a cuck and others knowing about it?
2- Any regret ever to be a hot wife?
3- How was you after night feeling when you became a hot wife or hot girl?
Thanks!

1. I don't see my husband as a cuck in the sense it is commonly used on OHW and many other sites. We both enjoy my being a Hotwife, it is an integral part of our lives so, I don't care that others know. We both answer any questions others may have about it.

2. I have No regrets about being a Hotwife, nor does my husband. It is who I am and he loves me for it. He loved me when I was a monogamous wife, but his devotion to me and adoration for me now, as a Hotwife, eclipses his prior love.

3. The first time and, its subsequent day after, was many years ago. But, at the time I was worried if my Number1 would really be okay with this, the reality of it. He was, and here we are happy and with a stronger marriage years later.

[tempus_fugit36]

Hello Farmgirl, thank you so much for your answers. I noticed I forgot to ask the main question, if you don’t mind to answer?
What are the risks for a girl / woman to get used or addicted to big cocks?
My point is, I have in mind of course my wife, because I am having some sexual issues after a ED I got due to a depression episode.
To make the long story short, I am trying us to resolve my problem where I suggested her to start playing with a dildo I bought for her (she never used one and this dildo have a normal shape of a large sized cock, nothing exaggerated).
So my question is: Can a woman get addicted to large cocks? I know I am talking about a dildo, but I feel that she will go for a real thing with time. My cock is just a regular one and I never got issues in making my wife to come, but she is small and in good shape, however I remember I had a girlfriend that was used to big cocks only, we had of course a sexual life since we were together for a few years, but she never omitted that she had a need for big cocks and I allowed her to have her affairs, mostly with her ex boyfriends. For me it was totally ok with that as long as I would know the details, so I didn’t feel cheated.
I wonder the risks for also my wife becoming addicted to large cocks as my ex girlfriend. I know it is a difficult answer but you, been a woman might have a better understanding to share, thank you.

[Farmgirl]

Hello Farmgirl, thank you so much for your answers. I noticed I forgot to ask the main question, if you don’t mind to answer?
What are the risks for a girl / woman to get used or addicted to big cocks?
My point is, I have in mind of course my wife, because I am having some sexual issues after a ED I got due to a depression episode.
To make the long story short, I am trying us to resolve my problem where I suggested her to start playing with a dildo I bought for her (she never used one and this dildo have a normal shape of a large sized cock, nothing exaggerated).
So my question is: Can a woman get addicted to large cocks? I know I am talking about a dildo, but I feel that she will go for a real thing with time. My cock is just a regular one and I never got issues in making my wife to come, but she is small and in good shape, however I remember I had a girlfriend that was used to big cocks only, we had of course a sexual life since we were together for a few years, but she never omitted that she had a need for big cocks and I allowed her to have her affairs, mostly with her ex boyfriends. For me it was totally ok with that as long as I would know the details, so I didn’t feel cheated.
I wonder the risks for also my wife becoming addicted to large cocks as my ex girlfriend. I know it is a difficult answer but you, been a woman might have a better understanding to share, thank you.

Some women like "big" dicks, some like small ones, and most like average ones, But, almost to a "t", we all like them on someone that knows how to treat a woman, someone that can first engage our minds. If he can't engage our minds to turn us on, we might as well get a dildo. At least it won't turn us off!
Truthfully, regardless of what the male fantasy is about big dicks, and the fantasy is VERY strong, dick size is not the be-all-end-all. There are way more important things for you guys to occupy your minds about. For most women, it is about the guy, not about his dick.
Example: I have a husband, my Number1, and two regular lovers.
Allen likes animalistic sex, he has approximately 6.5-7 " and thick! He is a great lover, rough enough for hard fucking .
Jack is young and likes naughty sex. He likes to cum in my mouth and on my face. He is 8"+-. I've not measured but both of my hands don't cover his length, but his cock is fairly thin.
My Number1 is a slow, steady lover with lasting power beyond belief. His dick is 6.5, average in width. But, he knows how to use his better. He knows how to short stroke and hit my G-spot every time sending me over the edge in freefall. He's also very naughty .
Each one has a different size and shape of dick, but it is the man I'm enjoying because he can turn me on.

[readytoexplore]

Hi there! I am new to the community and really trying to get an understanding to all of this as it is very new to me. For me, when my then fiancé brought up the subject of HW, I was immediately confused and thought I wasn't pleasing him in the bedroom. I am what I define as pretty vanilla, I mean I have had my moments, but for the most part the societal view of women being sexually exploritive did a good number on me young.

I guess my first question is how do you feel about the life and did you ever have feelings of guilt or shame correlated with the societal idea of shutting around? I am really stuck on this and even now, I struggle through it with my husband..

Kindest,
K

[Farmgirl]

Hi there! I am new to the community and really trying to get an understanding to all of this as it is very new to me. For me, when my then fiancé brought up the subject of HW, I was immediately confused and thought I wasn't pleasing him in the bedroom. I am what I define as pretty vanilla, I mean I have had my moments, but for the most part the societal view of women being sexually exploritive did a good number on me young.

I guess my first question is how do you feel about the life and did you ever have feelings of guilt or shame correlated with the societal idea of shutting around? I am really stuck on this and even now, I struggle through it with my husband..

Kindest,
K

I'm just vanilla with sprinkles , so you'll fit in just fine.
I've been at this for quite some time, but when I started, I did have some of the issues you're having. Society wants to force women to give up certain elemental parts of themselves, it has been that way pretty much forever.
I absolutely love being a Hotwife, being free to be myself. It did take me some time to embrace that even after I had started having sex with other men, societal expectations again. Most of my guilt early on prevented me from sharing everything with my husband, My Number1. He wanted it, but I wasn't sure that he could handle it, and then there was me actually admitting that I liked sex outside of my marriage. I had to come to grips with that for this to work for us.
One day after a rather tense discussion with my husband, I decided to be more open and honest, and see if he could handle what he said he wanted. When I got back from my lover's, I tried to be more honest and described what I had done and felt. The look on my husband's face of pure joy, and the love in his eyes was unmistakable. Then I had one of those epiphanies, why would I allow society's pressure to control how I love my husband and how I give him so much joy. The reverse is true just as well, He wants me to have joy and to experience being a sexual woman, as we were created. I won't let societal pressure and misunderstanding stop him from giving me this wonderful gift of love and trust.

K, I would urge you to become verified as a Verified HotWife, VHW, and join us ladies in the Ladies Lounge. There are some awesome women on this site! All of us VHW except 2inUP have bright blue names; hers is Gold.

[Wisher]

Have you given a newly turned 18 year old a birthday to remember?

[readytoexplore]

Hi there! I am new to the community and really trying to get an understanding to all of this as it is very new to me. For me, when my then fiancé brought up the subject of HW, I was immediately confused and thought I wasn't pleasing him in the bedroom. I am what I define as pretty vanilla, I mean I have had my moments, but for the most part the societal view of women being sexually exploritive did a good number on me young.

I guess my first question is how do you feel about the life and did you ever have feelings of guilt or shame correlated with the societal idea of shutting around? I am really stuck on this and even now, I struggle through it with my husband..

Kindest,
K

I'm just vanilla with sprinkles , so you'll fit in just fine.
I've been at this for quite some time, but when I started, I did have some of the issues you're having. Society wants to force women to give up certain elemental parts of themselves, it has been that way pretty much forever.
I absolutely love being a Hotwife, being free to be myself. It did take me some time to embrace that even after I had started having sex with other men, societal expectations again. Most of my guilt early on prevented me from sharing everything with my husband, My Number1. He wanted it, but I wasn't sure that he could handle it, and then there was me actually admitting that I liked sex outside of my marriage. I had to come to grips with that for this to work for us.
One day after a rather tense discussion with my husband, I decided to be more open and honest, and see if he could handle what he said he wanted. When I got back from my lover's, I tried to be more honest and described what I had done and felt. The look on my husband's face of pure joy, and the love in his eyes was unmistakable. Then I had one of those epiphanies, why would I allow society's pressure to control how I love my husband and how I give him so much joy. The reverse is true just as well, He wants me to have joy and to experience being a sexual woman, as we were created. I won't let societal pressure and misunderstanding stop him from giving me this wonderful gift of love and trust.

K, I would urge you to become verified as a Verified HotWife, VHW, and join us ladies in the Ladies Lounge. There are some awesome women on this site! All of us VHW except 2inUP have bright blue names; hers is Gold.

Thank you so much for the reply and input.. I like how you put that "vanilla with sprinkles"! I also worry about my husbands fantasies and desires overlapping with his jealousy and possessiveness. I know I understand the thrill because to be honest I love thinking about watching him with other women, but in the same moment it enrages me as well. It is such an odd space to be in. With all of this being such a new topic, I know we have more talking and I have more exploring to do. I would hate for this desire to jeopardize our marriage.

It sounds like you got to a point where it became evident that talking about it wasn't going to help and you needed to just try it and see the reaction. The leap of faith so to speak, lol!

How do I go about getting verified? I have struggled to even get my initial introduction post approved on the Hotties forum and I do not get responses back from Admin on assistance.

Thank you again!
K

[tempus_fugit36]

I would like a Hot Wife to answer, if possible, why is there a wish from a Hot Wife to shrink or atrophy her husbands cock? I find hard to understand that, even knowing that different people have different preferences, but I been cucked already in the past, but my girlfriends had intercourse with me as a normal part of a man to woman relationship. The fact that they preferred bigger cocks, and which I was fully in agree with them to have side intercourses as much as they like, didn’t at any point implied in my member to be shrinked or whatever. I was damn hard and either I got handjobs before they went for a dating or I have to satisfy myself, sometimes even after my girlfriend was breeding with another guys.

[2inUPMichigan]

Hi there! I am new to the community and really trying to get an understanding to all of this as it is very new to me. For me, when my then fiancé brought up the subject of HW, I was immediately confused and thought I wasn't pleasing him in the bedroom. I am what I define as pretty vanilla, I mean I have had my moments, but for the most part the societal view of women being sexually exploritive did a good number on me young.

I guess my first question is how do you feel about the life and did you ever have feelings of guilt or shame correlated with the societal idea of shutting around? I am really stuck on this and even now, I struggle through it with my husband..

Kindest,
K

I'm just vanilla with sprinkles , so you'll fit in just fine.
I've been at this for quite some time, but when I started, I did have some of the issues you're having. Society wants to force women to give up certain elemental parts of themselves, it has been that way pretty much forever.
I absolutely love being a Hotwife, being free to be myself. It did take me some time to embrace that even after I had started having sex with other men, societal expectations again. Most of my guilt early on prevented me from sharing everything with my husband, My Number1. He wanted it, but I wasn't sure that he could handle it, and then there was me actually admitting that I liked sex outside of my marriage. I had to come to grips with that for this to work for us.
One day after a rather tense discussion with my husband, I decided to be more open and honest, and see if he could handle what he said he wanted. When I got back from my lover's, I tried to be more honest and described what I had done and felt. The look on my husband's face of pure joy, and the love in his eyes was unmistakable. Then I had one of those epiphanies, why would I allow society's pressure to control how I love my husband and how I give him so much joy. The reverse is true just as well, He wants me to have joy and to experience being a sexual woman, as we were created. I won't let societal pressure and misunderstanding stop him from giving me this wonderful gift of love and trust.

K, I would urge you to become verified as a Verified HotWife, VHW, and join us ladies in the Ladies Lounge. There are some awesome women on this site! All of us VHW except 2inUP have bright blue names; hers is Gold.

Thank you so much for the reply and input.. I like how you put that "vanilla with sprinkles"! I also worry about my husbands fantasies and desires overlapping with his jealousy and possessiveness. I know I understand the thrill because to be honest I love thinking about watching him with other women, but in the same moment it enrages me as well. It is such an odd space to be in. With all of this being such a new topic, I know we have more talking and I have more exploring to do. I would hate for this desire to jeopardize our marriage.

It sounds like you got to a point where it became evident that talking about it wasn't going to help and you needed to just try it and see the reaction. The leap of faith so to speak, lol!

How do I go about getting verified? I have struggled to even get my initial introduction post approved on the Hotties forum and I do not get responses back from Admin on assistance.

Thank you again!
K

I just approved a post for you in the Hotties forum. (The one that still had pictures) Since we are volunteers it can take a day or two at times to get through all the notifications if we are backed up with requests.

I'm sorry if I missed responding to a message from you!

As far as becoming a VHW - We require at least 10 posts before someone can request a photo verification assignment from armyguyot1.

**I'm glad you decided to sign up and join our community This is definitely a great place to learn and ask questions!

[2inUPMichigan]

I would like a Hot Wife to answer, if possible, why is there a wish from a Hot Wife to shrink or atrophy her husbands cock? I find hard to understand that, even knowing that different people have different preferences, but I been cucked already in the past, but my girlfriends had intercourse with me as a normal part of a man to woman relationship. The fact that they preferred bigger cocks, and which I was fully in agree with them to have side intercourses as much as they like, didn’t at any point implied in my member to be shrinked or whatever. I was damn hard and either I got handjobs before they went for a dating or I have to satisfy myself, sometimes even after my girlfriend was breeding with another guys.

No idea as that isn't something that I am at all interested in.
At the same time I don't have a preference for bigger cocks. I enjoy men that know how to work with what they have.
I never have not, nor will I ever ask for a dick pic prior to meeting a man.

[Farmgirl]

I would like a Hot Wife to answer, if possible, why is there a wish from a Hot Wife to shrink or atrophy her husbands cock? I find hard to understand that, even knowing that different people have different preferences, but I been cucked already in the past, but my girlfriends had intercourse with me as a normal part of a man to woman relationship. The fact that they preferred bigger cocks, and which I was fully in agree with them to have side intercourses as much as they like, didn’t at any point implied in my member to be shrinked or whatever. I was damn hard and either I got handjobs before they went for a dating or I have to satisfy myself, sometimes even after my girlfriend was breeding with another guys.

Don't get too caught up in the fantasy nonsense that is rolled out way too often.
Men like to talk about their wives "doing" things to them, and sometimes we wives talk about "doing" things to our husbands. But, in a healthy, loving relationship, it is more of a mental thing.
In a healthy relationship, wives and husbands do things for their spouse, not to them. It works like this: the husband wants his wife to treat him in certain ways, it could be denial, humiliation, etc. When she does that, she is actually doing it for him, and to fulfill the role, she and he take on that aspect of play up to and including living it.
But, no one is being taken advantage of. It is by mutual consent, and almost always initiated by the husband. That is not to say that many women don't find it fun, but the fun comes mostly from providing what they know their husbands want.
Read and study here using some common sense and you'll begin to see the reality from the outlandish fantasy.
We push their buttons, we don't do damage.

[readytoexplore]

Hi there! I am new to the community and really trying to get an understanding to all of this as it is very new to me. For me, when my then fiancé brought up the subject of HW, I was immediately confused and thought I wasn't pleasing him in the bedroom. I am what I define as pretty vanilla, I mean I have had my moments, but for the most part the societal view of women being sexually exploritive did a good number on me young.

I guess my first question is how do you feel about the life and did you ever have feelings of guilt or shame correlated with the societal idea of shutting around? I am really stuck on this and even now, I struggle through it with my husband..

Kindest,
K

I'm just vanilla with sprinkles , so you'll fit in just fine.
I've been at this for quite some time, but when I started, I did have some of the issues you're having. Society wants to force women to give up certain elemental parts of themselves, it has been that way pretty much forever.
I absolutely love being a Hotwife, being free to be myself. It did take me some time to embrace that even after I had started having sex with other men, societal expectations again. Most of my guilt early on prevented me from sharing everything with my husband, My Number1. He wanted it, but I wasn't sure that he could handle it, and then there was me actually admitting that I liked sex outside of my marriage. I had to come to grips with that for this to work for us.
One day after a rather tense discussion with my husband, I decided to be more open and honest, and see if he could handle what he said he wanted. When I got back from my lover's, I tried to be more honest and described what I had done and felt. The look on my husband's face of pure joy, and the love in his eyes was unmistakable. Then I had one of those epiphanies, why would I allow society's pressure to control how I love my husband and how I give him so much joy. The reverse is true just as well, He wants me to have joy and to experience being a sexual woman, as we were created. I won't let societal pressure and misunderstanding stop him from giving me this wonderful gift of love and trust.

K, I would urge you to become verified as a Verified HotWife, VHW, and join us ladies in the Ladies Lounge. There are some awesome women on this site! All of us VHW except 2inUP have bright blue names; hers is Gold.

Thank you so much for the reply and input.. I like how you put that "vanilla with sprinkles"! I also worry about my husbands fantasies and desires overlapping with his jealousy and possessiveness. I know I understand the thrill because to be honest I love thinking about watching him with other women, but in the same moment it enrages me as well. It is such an odd space to be in. With all of this being such a new topic, I know we have more talking and I have more exploring to do. I would hate for this desire to jeopardize our marriage.

It sounds like you got to a point where it became evident that talking about it wasn't going to help and you needed to just try it and see the reaction. The leap of faith so to speak, lol!

How do I go about getting verified? I have struggled to even get my initial introduction post approved on the Hotties forum and I do not get responses back from Admin on assistance.

Thank you again!
K

I just approved a post for you in the Hotties forum. (The one that still had pictures) Since we are volunteers it can take a day or two at times to get through all the notifications if we are backed up with requests.

I'm sorry if I missed responding to a message from you!

As far as becoming a VHW - We require at least 10 posts before someone can request a photo verification assignment from armyguyot1.

**I'm glad you decided to sign up and join our community This is definitely a great place to learn and ask questions!

Thank you so much. I saw that one of them was posted, sorry for the multiple submissions of the same post, I thought I was doing something wrong, lol! With all the responses I received, I am sure I will be at the 10 post minimum in no time! Thank you for your assistance.

Kindest,
K

[long4her]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

[Kate88]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

This became fairly normal to us, but he often does the dishes and grocery shopping so that I can get some rest after coming back home.

[tempus_fugit36]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

This became fairly normal to us, but he often does the dishes and grocery shopping so that I can get some rest after coming back home.

Does your lovers uses condoms or you go bareback? How do you mitigate risks of pregnancy if I may ask? Or do you’ve intercourse sex with your hubby as well?

[Kate88]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

This became fairly normal to us, but he often does the dishes and grocery shopping so that I can get some rest after coming back home.

Does your lovers uses condoms or you go bareback? How do you mitigate risks of pregnancy if I may ask? Or do you’ve intercourse sex with your hubby as well?

There's one bull I've been seeing for a while now and we always use condoms. We've been thinking to go bareback for a while but haven't agreed on it yet for safety.

[Lookingforadventure]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

He does lots of things. He helps me plan what to wear or gives me feedback on different options. If I'm feeling extra flirty, I have him help to lotion my legs and butt so that my skin is smooth for my lover. While I'm away, he holds down the fort at home, taking care of the kids and the dog. And when I return... well that gets into more sexual things again

[tempus_fugit36]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

He does lots of things. He helps me plan what to wear or gives me feedback on different options. If I'm feeling extra flirty, I have him help to lotion my legs and butt so that my skin is smooth for my lover. While I'm away, he holds down the fort at home, taking care of the kids and the dog. And when I return... well that gets into more sexual things again

Lovely and exciting….what are the age of your kids, does they know their father is a cuckold or that you have “friends” or anybody from your family and friends pool? If so, how did you let them know, if not, how do you hide?

[NYCWifey1960]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

When I finish getting ready for my date my husband will always snap a few photos of me that he then sends to me and at some later date I sent to my boyfriend to remind him of the night we had together. Also, when I go down to the bar to meet with my boyfriend my husband prepares the room adjusting the lighting, getting ice for the ice bucket, leaving both mine and my boyfriend’s favorite drinks out for us. I love that. It makes me feel special and pampered

[long4her]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

He does lots of things. He helps me plan what to wear or gives me feedback on different options. If I'm feeling extra flirty, I have him help to lotion my legs and butt so that my skin is smooth for my lover. While I'm away, he holds down the fort at home, taking care of the kids and the dog. And when I return... well that gets into more sexual things again

Wow, that’s kind of what I’d like to have - except our kids are grown up. I’d love to help my wife get ready for a date, and reap all the rewards when she comes home, hopefully tired but happy.

[crystal]

Lovely Hotwives, what non sexual act(s) does your husband do for you before or after a date that shows you he still adores you?

Bill buys me a cake after date. Never ever missed it, it might in the next but never forgets

[long4her]

Lovely Hotwives, can you tell us how your husband helped you overcome any anxieties you may have had going into your first date with another man?

[Farmgirl]

duplicate, sorry

[Farmgirl]

Lovely Hotwives, can you tell us how your husband helped you overcome any anxieties you may have had going into your first date with another man?

Like most people, I have some anxiety when first getting ready for sex with a new person. That's just normal for almost all of us. I don't need my husband to get through it though.
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