My Wife and her Ex Husband

[ilovetobecuckolded]

OMG!!!!
I want your life!!!!!

[Chrislydi]

OMG!!!!
I want your life!!!!!

Have you heard as I'm not sure if it's all that good now?

Chris

[ilovetobecuckolded]

I’ve read the entire thread. It sounds awesome!!! I’d love to have that arrangement!!! Fantasize about it constantly.

[Chrislydi]

Yeah agree it's getting a little worrying now as it'll soon be entering the second month since the last meaningful post, hope you're ok

Chris

[john jasson]

Good luck. Far too heavy for me. I would never ever sleep!

[gordon921]

There was a thread on here, tried to find it, but a while ago. It's a bit rusty but went something like... A guy suspected his wife was having an affair, she eventually fessed up and they worked it out (too quickly), then she got her friend to fuck him and guess what dropped the bomb very soon afterwards, but by arranging the friend to fuck her husband, narrowed his options for divorcing her, she divorced him, the good thing was he come back here to explain the shit shower he was going through, very few do.
Personally I struggled with this right from the beginning SC gave up so much without a fight and his wife never fought his corner or discussed this with him, so much for love, I suspect she has lost all respect for him and moved on with the ex.

[Chrislydi]

Personally I struggled with this right from the beginning SC gave up so much without a fight and his wife never fought his corner or discussed this with him, so much for love, I suspect she has lost all respect for him and moved on with the ex.

I'm not saying that's happened, but let's just say if it had few would be surprised.

Chris

[Des 31]

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years. She was married once before and has remained in good terms with her ex husband. Just last week she told me that her ex husband was going through a rough time since he was laid off from work in mid March and doesn’t know when he will be back to work again. She suggested allowing him to move in with us until things get better. Thinking she just wanted to help him, I didn’t hesitate. She later told me she was looking forward to having sex with him again. We enjoy the cuckold lifestyle but being cuckolded by her ex husband both excites me and makes me nervous at the same time.

If we still lived in my wife's hometown, I would have enjoyed her fucking every guy who came before me. She wasn't married before I met her but if she was, I wouldn''t mind her ex fucking her brains out whenever the two wished.

[Chrislydi]

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years. She was married once before and has remained in good terms with her ex husband. Just last week she told me that her ex husband was going through a rough time since he was laid off from work in mid March and doesn’t know when he will be back to work again. She suggested allowing him to move in with us until things get better. Thinking she just wanted to help him, I didn’t hesitate. She later told me she was looking forward to having sex with him again. We enjoy the cuckold lifestyle but being cuckolded by her ex husband both excites me and makes me nervous at the same time.

If we still lived in my wife's hometown, I would have enjoyed her fucking every guy who came before me. She wasn't married before I met her but if she was, I wouldn''t mind her ex fucking her brains out whenever the two wished.

Yes but hardly like with like is it? Denied and permanently caged 24/7 for two years, getting nothing while he fucks her in your bed every single night and your permanent room is the guest room - she's also with her ex who she has an ok emotional relationship with to start with but maybe much more now. Be virtually replaced completely and then compare and say you like it.

Chris

[Des 31]

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years. She was married once before and has remained in good terms with her ex husband. Just last week she told me that her ex husband was going through a rough time since he was laid off from work in mid March and doesn’t know when he will be back to work again. She suggested allowing him to move in with us until things get better. Thinking she just wanted to help him, I didn’t hesitate. She later told me she was looking forward to having sex with him again. We enjoy the cuckold lifestyle but being cuckolded by her ex husband both excites me and makes me nervous at the same time.

If we still lived in my wife's hometown, I would have enjoyed her fucking every guy who came before me. She wasn't married before I met her but if she was, I wouldn''t mind her ex fucking her brains out whenever the two wished.

Yes but hardly like with like is it? Denied and permanently caged 24/7 for two years, getting nothing while he fucks her in your bed every single night and your permanent room is the guest room - she's also with her ex who she has an ok emotional relationship with to start with but maybe much more now. Be virtually replaced completely and then compare and say you like it.

Chris

You're right in that way. Those circumstances are one of many reasons my wife and I wouldn't recommend our way of life to others. An otherwise normal and stable marriage with trust and good communication are - in our opinions - essential for this to work. Others at these boards have been able to navigate the troubled waters that come with open marriages, but it certainly isn't for everyone.

~ Des

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years. She was married once before and has remained in good terms with her ex husband. Just last week she told me that her ex husband was going through a rough time since he was laid off from work in mid March and doesn’t know when he will be back to work again. She suggested allowing him to move in with us until things get better. Thinking she just wanted to help him, I didn’t hesitate. She later told me she was looking forward to having sex with him again. We enjoy the cuckold lifestyle but being cuckolded by her ex husband both excites me and makes me nervous at the same time.

If we still lived in my wife's hometown, I would have enjoyed her fucking every guy who came before me. She wasn't married before I met her but if she was, I wouldn''t mind her ex fucking her brains out whenever the two wished.

Yes but hardly like with like is it? Denied and permanently caged 24/7 for two years, getting nothing while he fucks her in your bed every single night and your permanent room is the guest room - she's also with her ex who she has an ok emotional relationship with to start with but maybe much more now. Be virtually replaced completely and then compare and say you like it.

Chris

Chris, you have read my mind...and I don't think this is the first time you've done so. LOL! And the other thing is, is when you go back and read the first postings on this...this was supposed to be TEMPORARY. To help the Ex-husband get on his feet after being laid off; and no more than 6 or 7 months. Well, at the risk of being Captain Obvious, it's apparently turned into PERMANENT, and the current husband has been relegated to the guest room, with apparently no intimate contact with his wife. He's been replaced as a husband, in every sense, except legally.

[Chrislydi]

I really don't get when it goes this extreme, whether voluntarily (which to an extent is at least your choice) or by coercion and even a gradual, even half subliminal pressure exerted which in effect gives no choice at all but for you but to enter a subspace and embrace the unwanted, either that or lose your wife altogether. Sometimes the deep love you have for your wife forces you down roads her lover always wanted you to go. He enters takes over and you are forced to learn to love where he sends you (even if it's subspace) He decides not you.

Chris

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

I really don't get when it goes this extreme, whether voluntarily (which to an extent is at least your choice) or by coercion and even a gradual, even half subliminal pressure exerted which in effect gives no choice at all but for you but to enter a subspace and embrace the unwanted, either that or lose your wife altogether. Sometimes the deep love you have for your wife forces you down roads her lover always wanted you to go. He enters takes over and you are forced to learn to love where he sends you (even if it's subspace) He decides not you.

Chris

That's the other problem that I have with this. (Granted, it's certainly not my life), IMHO, the Husband decided that the ex-husband could move in, sleep with his Wife, etc. But now the ex-husband seems to have displaced him in every sense of the word "husband" except legally. But if the current husband is okay with it, I guess we should be as well.

[Chrislydi]

He's a husband in legal terms only for me, there's not even, at least not really from what we read, an awful lot of effort that goes into denying him.

I read a brilliant post only this morning which described perfectly both the eroticism and intimacy that can go alongside denial, denial itself can become the ultimate sex act but it takes hard work and effort from both the cuckoldress and the cuckold, the hard yards if you like have to be put in to give it it's full impact. Here just seems entirely different, almost as if he's been dumped and forgotten about sexually, there's no effort or engagement, its as if he's an afterthought or not even that, dumped in the guestt bedroom and told to stay there for two years while my ex sends me to heaven and back every night. Don't worry just switch to subspace mode and enjoy, or don't for all I care, because i know I certainly will.

There's three people involved in this scenario and to put it all on the OP is wrong, the cuckoldress his wife is hugely at fault too.

Chris

[germancuck-1]

There's three people involved in this scenario and to put it all on the OP is wrong, the cuckoldress his wife is hugely at fault too.

Chris

You seem to want to insist that someone must be at fault because you can´t understand it. Maybe no one is to be blamed because this is exactly what SoFLCuck, his wife and her ex want. Your inability to wrap your head around it, or events in his life not resonating with your personal phantasies is your issue, not his.

[Chrislydi]

There's three people involved in this scenario and to put it all on the OP is wrong, the cuckoldress his wife is hugely at fault too.

Chris

You seem to want to insist that someone must be at fault because you can´t understand it. Maybe no one is to be blamed because this is exactly what SoFLCuck, his wife and her ex want. Your inability to wrap your head around it, or events in his life not resonating with your personal phantasies is your issue, not his.

Yes if he wants to be replaced entirely then he's going about it the right way and then it's nobodies fault because he's achieving his aims. The ex husband seems quite happy to once again be her de facto husband and the wife quite happy to let that happen. It's not so clear yet whether the ex husband will tolerate SC still tagging along indefinitely and instead move the couple away from him completely. It's certainly the direction of travel and maybe the ultimate fantasy.

Chris.

[germancuck-1]

Yes if he wants to be replaced entirely then he's going about it the right way and then it's nobodies fault because he's achieving his aims. The ex husband seems quite happy to once again be her de facto husband and the wife quite happy to let that happen. It's not so clear yet whether the ex husband will tolerate SC still tagging along indefinitely and instead move the couple away from him completely. It's certainly the direction of travel and maybe the ultimate fantasy.

Chris.

You´re making assumptions not supported by SoFLCuck´s posts. You can continue to force your personal projections onto this thread, or you can just give it a rest after having made your point multiple times. Either way won´t change how SoFLCuck´s relationship develops, I´m more concerned it may change whether he continues to write about it.

[4herpleasure89]

Yes if he wants to be replaced entirely then he's going about it the right way and then it's nobodies fault because he's achieving his aims. The ex husband seems quite happy to once again be her de facto husband and the wife quite happy to let that happen. It's not so clear yet whether the ex husband will tolerate SC still tagging along indefinitely and instead move the couple away from him completely. It's certainly the direction of travel and maybe the ultimate fantasy.

Chris.

You´re making assumptions not supported by SoFLCuck´s posts. You can continue to force your personal projections onto this thread, or you can just give it a rest after having made your point multiple times. Either way won´t change how SoFLCuck´s relationship develops, I´m more concerned it may change whether he continues to write about it.

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

[Chrislydi]

Yes if he wants to be replaced entirely then he's going about it the right way and then it's nobodies fault because he's achieving his aims. The ex husband seems quite happy to once again be her de facto husband and the wife quite happy to let that happen. It's not so clear yet whether the ex husband will tolerate SC still tagging along indefinitely and instead move the couple away from him completely. It's certainly the direction of travel and maybe the ultimate fantasy.

Chris.

You´re making assumptions not supported by SoFLCuck´s posts. You can continue to force your personal projections onto this thread, or you can just give it a rest after having made your point multiple times. Either way won´t change how SoFLCuck´s relationship develops, I´m more concerned it may change whether he continues to write about it.

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

Exactly this

I definitely didn't mean he actually wants to be replaced but wrote it in a more hypothetical way by including the 'if' he was....meaning that what may eventually happen could well be one and the same as if he did, not that he ACTUALLY does as it's clear he doesn't want anything of the sort. Mine was a warning of the dangers and where this could easily lead to.

Chris

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

Yes if he wants to be replaced entirely then he's going about it the right way and then it's nobodies fault because he's achieving his aims. The ex husband seems quite happy to once again be her de facto husband and the wife quite happy to let that happen. It's not so clear yet whether the ex husband will tolerate SC still tagging along indefinitely and instead move the couple away from him completely. It's certainly the direction of travel and maybe the ultimate fantasy.

Chris.

You´re making assumptions not supported by SoFLCuck´s posts. You can continue to force your personal projections onto this thread, or you can just give it a rest after having made your point multiple times. Either way won´t change how SoFLCuck´s relationship develops, I´m more concerned it may change whether he continues to write about it.

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

Exactly this

I definitely didn't mean he actually wants to be replaced but wrote it in a more hypothetical way by including the 'if' he was....meaning that what may eventually happen could well be one and the same as if he did, not that he ACTUALLY does as it's clear he doesn't want anything of the sort. Mine was a warning of the dangers and where this could easily lead to.

Chris

Chris,

I'm thinking...that you and I are thinking the exact same things. (GMTA!) The point that I keep returning to is that when this started (or before this started) the Ex was supposed to stay with them for six months- max- to help him get back on his feet after economic difficulty as a result of COVID.

Well, that was TWO YEARS AGO. I'm not great at math, but that's a lot longer than two years. At this point, he's been replaced in every conceivable way accept legally.

I see your earlier point about this thing possibly ending in disaster. Frankly, I'm thinking the same.

Here's my take, and remember, it's worth what you are paying for it, so listen up ------->

People grow, change and mature. It's possible that both his Wife and her ex may have grown and matured to where the things that drove them apart in the first place, now, aren't things that drive them apart, and that they have learned to reconcile their differences. (After all, they have been back together for TWO YEARS now) If that's the case, it's only a matter of time before he's served with papers and the (legal) marriage is over.

OR.....

Maybe all three of them continue this, status quo, indefinitely. People are sometimes very, very adaptable to certain situations, and at this point, everyone seems to be getting what they need. She has her bf and husband, both under one roof. Everyone seems to be contributing to household expenses, and three can sometimes live as cheaply as two.

BUT.....

I really wonder how long that is sustainable. It might be sustainable until one of them drops dead. We never really know in these situations. Or, as is more likely, the husband eventually loses respect for his wife, and loses respect for himself that he has let this get to this extreme. He gives his wife an ultimatum- the ex-husband goes or he goes. But by then, the Ex-husband and the Wife have reconciled to the point where they can see a life together, where they don't need the Husband around, and are okay with him leaving.

Sometimes our friend, Mr. Law of Unintended Consequences, shows up in these situations. And we didn't expect him to. That's why he's Unintended.

Just my thoughts...

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

Yes if he wants to be replaced entirely then he's going about it the right way and then it's nobodies fault because he's achieving his aims. The ex husband seems quite happy to once again be her de facto husband and the wife quite happy to let that happen. It's not so clear yet whether the ex husband will tolerate SC still tagging along indefinitely and instead move the couple away from him completely. It's certainly the direction of travel and maybe the ultimate fantasy.

Chris.

You´re making assumptions not supported by SoFLCuck´s posts. You can continue to force your personal projections onto this thread, or you can just give it a rest after having made your point multiple times. Either way won´t change how SoFLCuck´s relationship develops, I´m more concerned it may change whether he continues to write about it.

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

Exactly this

I definitely didn't mean he actually wants to be replaced but wrote it in a more hypothetical way by including the 'if' he was....meaning that what may eventually happen could well be one and the same as if he did, not that he ACTUALLY does as it's clear he doesn't want anything of the sort. Mine was a warning of the dangers and where this could easily lead to.

Chris

Chris,

I'm thinking...that you and I are thinking the exact same things. (GMTA!) The point that I keep returning to is that when this started (or before this started) the Ex was supposed to stay with them for six months- max- to help him get back on his feet after economic difficulty as a result of COVID.

Well, that was TWO YEARS AGO. I'm not great at math, but that's a lot longer than two years. At this point, he's been replaced in every conceivable way accept legally.

I see your earlier point about this thing possibly ending in disaster. Frankly, I'm thinking the same.

Here's my take, and remember, it's worth what you are paying for it, so listen up ------->

People grow, change and mature. It's possible that both his Wife and her ex may have grown and matured to where the things that drove them apart in the first place, now, aren't things that drive them apart, and that they have learned to reconcile their differences. (After all, they have been back together for TWO YEARS now) If that's the case, it's only a matter of time before he's served with papers and the (legal) marriage is over.

OR.....

Maybe all three of them continue this, status quo, indefinitely. People are sometimes very, very adaptable to certain situations, and at this point, everyone seems to be getting what they need. She has her bf and husband, both under one roof. Everyone seems to be contributing to household expenses, and three can sometimes live as cheaply as two.

BUT.....

I really wonder how long that is sustainable. It might be sustainable until one of them drops dead. We never really know in these situations. Or, as is more likely, the husband eventually loses respect for his wife, and loses respect for himself that he has let this get to this extreme. He gives his wife an ultimatum- the ex-husband goes or he goes. But by then, the Ex-husband and the Wife have reconciled to the point where they can see a life together, where they don't need the Husband around, and are okay with him leaving.

Sometimes our friend, Mr. Law of Unintended Consequences, shows up in these situations. And we didn't expect him to. That's why he's Unintended.

Just my thoughts...

[germancuck-1]

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

Your assumption about me is wrong. I have concerns, but if SoFLCuck repeatedly says they are in a happy place I take his word for it. Chrislydi is not expressing concern, he is convinced only his perception of the situation is correct.

Expressing concern or even criticising is Ok, continuous insistence against assertions to the contrary is not. We are guests on SoFLCuck´s turf, nothing more.

[Chrislydi]

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

Your assumption about me is wrong. I have concerns, but if SoFLCuck repeatedly says they are in a happy place I take his word for it. Chrislydi is not expressing concern, he is convinced only his perception of the situation is correct.

Expressing concern or even criticising is Ok, continuous insistence against assertions to the contrary is not. We are guests on SoFLCuck´s turf, nothing more.

Of course I'm expressing concern that's why I've posted. I'm not arrogant enough to think I'm correct every time as I know I'm as fallible as anyone else. I've stated more than once since SF last posted that he's perfectly happy with the current situation if you care to read back to when SF last posted. The dangers are there for all to see but I don't for one minute think SF wants his wife to leave him for his ex, he has said he wants the status quo and I've reiterated this point on more than one occasion since the last time he posted around a month ago.

LawyerWouldbeCuckold should be listened to as he's far more accurately reflected my position.

Chris

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

Over and over again we see these extreme situations end in disaster yet there is always a few people in denial that there is any cause for concern. There is always cause for concern even if all of the facts are unknown. The risk is high in these situations. That said I don’t agree that his aim is to be completely replaced by the ex and he still desires sex with his wife. That we know. Whether he will assert himself or not remains to be seen.

Your assumption about me is wrong. I have concerns, but if SoFLCuck repeatedly says they are in a happy place I take his word for it. Chrislydi is not expressing concern, he is convinced only his perception of the situation is correct.

Expressing concern or even criticising is Ok, continuous insistence against assertions to the contrary is not. We are guests on SoFLCuck´s turf, nothing more.

Of course I'm expressing concern that's why I've posted. I'm not arrogant enough to think I'm correct every time as I know I'm as fallible as anyone else. I've stated more than once since SF last posted that he's perfectly happy with the current situation if you care to read back to when SF last posted. The dangers are there for all to see but I don't for one minute think SF wants his wife to leave him for his ex, he has said he wants the status quo and I've reiterated this point on more than one occasion since the last time he posted around a month ago.

LawyerWouldbeCuckold should be listened to as he's far more accurately reflected my position.

Chris

Chris, I'm starting to get the feeling that you and I are twins, who got separated at birth! LOL!

[germancuck-1]

Of course I'm expressing concern that's why I've posted. I'm not arrogant enough to think I'm correct every time as I know I'm as fallible as anyone else. I've stated more than once since SF last posted that he's perfectly happy with the current situation if you care to read back to when SF last posted. The dangers are there for all to see but I don't for one minute think SF wants his wife to leave him for his ex, he has said he wants the status quo and I've reiterated this point on more than one occasion since the last time he posted around a month ago.

LawyerWouldbeCuckold should be listened to as he's far more accurately reflected my position.

Chris

Nowhere did I write either you or me expressed any belief that he wants or desires his wife to leave him for her ex. I addressed your repeated insistence the course of events in his marriage allow only for one conclusion, and that is his wife separating from him, despite his comments to the contrary.

I stand by what I wrote, all of it. I made my point. And with that I´m out of this part of the discussion.