Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[Long Lurker 34]

SW accompanied me on a trip to see my mom and other family members, this week. She was a great support, coming along. She was hoping to see my mom and say goodbye but my mom is too far gone at this point and left strict instructions to not let anyone see her except her husband, my sister, and me. It was rough on me, she was in a bad state, but was able to mumble a little something just before I left to return home yesterday morning. So SW ended up revising her purpose of the trip to be supportive of me, and the other family members around.

SF - Very sorry to learn about your Mom.
Very glad SW was there to support you and other family members. This is what having a partner is really about.

[slenderfish]

SW accompanied me on a trip to see my mom and other family members, this week. She was a great support, coming along. She was hoping to see my mom and say goodbye but my mom is too far gone at this point and left strict instructions to not let anyone see her except her husband, my sister, and me. It was rough on me, she was in a bad state, but was able to mumble a little something just before I left to return home yesterday morning. So SW ended up revising her purpose of the trip to be supportive of me, and the other family members around.

SF - Very sorry to learn about your Mom.
Very glad SW was there to support you and other family members. This is what having a partner is really about.

So Mom passed yesterday morning, peacefully. SW and I hanging together, leaning on each other. I'll check in here from time to time but will be quite involved in handling the broader family matters over the next week or two.

[afagehi7]

SW accompanied me on a trip to see my mom and other family members, this week. She was a great support, coming along. She was hoping to see my mom and say goodbye but my mom is too far gone at this point and left strict instructions to not let anyone see her except her husband, my sister, and me. It was rough on me, she was in a bad state, but was able to mumble a little something just before I left to return home yesterday morning. So SW ended up revising her purpose of the trip to be supportive of me, and the other family members around.

SF - Very sorry to learn about your Mom.
Very glad SW was there to support you and other family members. This is what having a partner is really about.

So Mom passed yesterday morning, peacefully. SW and I hanging together, leaning on each other. I'll check in here from time to time but will be quite involved in handling the broader family matters over the next week or two.

Sorry for your loss.

[canberraguy4fun]

Very sorry to hear of your loss SF. Please take all the time that you need. We will get along fine until you feel comfortable to return!

[solstice]

The hotwife lifestyle is fluid, and ever evolving, yours's is steadier than most, something to be appreciated.

[rickyg]

So Mom passed yesterday morning, peacefully. SW and I hanging together, leaning on each other. I'll check in here from time to time but will be quite involved in handling the broader family matters over the next week or two.

Terribly sorry to hear about your loss SF. Wishing you lots of strength and patience during this difficult period.

[setv4]

SW accompanied me on a trip to see my mom and other family members, this week. She was a great support, coming along. She was hoping to see my mom and say goodbye but my mom is too far gone at this point and left strict instructions to not let anyone see her except her husband, my sister, and me. It was rough on me, she was in a bad state, but was able to mumble a little something just before I left to return home yesterday morning. So SW ended up revising her purpose of the trip to be supportive of me, and the other family members around.

SF - Very sorry to learn about your Mom.
Very glad SW was there to support you and other family members. This is what having a partner is really about.

So Mom passed yesterday morning, peacefully. SW and I hanging together, leaning on each other. I'll check in here from time to time but will be quite involved in handling the broader family matters over the next week or two.

Sorry for your loss SF, may your Mom Rest In Peace.

[Long Lurker 34]

SF - Sorry for your loss. May peace be with you.

[Nycadmanx]

Recently lost my dad a few months ago -- similar hospice situation. Emotionally draining. My condolences to you and your family.

[slenderfish]

Thanks, guys. Muddling through it all.

SW continues to take it rather hard. She has been over-serving herself with her wine habit the past few weeks. Last Tuesday, then Friday, then this past Monday night. When she's like this, she keeps me up just about all night. She could not get herself up yesterday to attend the couples intimacy therapy session. I did tell her it's becoming a problem and that she needs to find a way to limit this.

The funeral is on Friday and the burial service on Saturday. If her binging is associated with the short-term situation with the passing of my mother, then it should subside.

SW asked me to attend the therapy session by myself, which I did.

Therapist asked me about our sexual activity, which has been essentially none for a couple of weeks. I used this as an opportunity of an on-ramp to discuss SW's hotwife activities, to see if the therapist's curiosity would drive the conversation down that path. I mentioned that SW's former hotwife lover Mr. S had commented to SW that she is "stingy" with her body and her sex. That I'd been put off (as was SW) when I heard that, but more and more I've become of a mind that he is not off the mark.

And I mentioned I'd been more stern last night (Monday night) when SW was suffering from the spinning feeling and went from happy drunk to sad drunk to angry drunk and then I had to hold her hair (if you know what I mean) and clean her up, etc. When SW started becoming maudlin I stopped her and said what we have here is a simple case of over-serving and that she should just focus on breathing and drinking water, and that she should feel better in about a half an hour and then might be able to sleep it off.

Finally, I observed that when I am stern like this, and when SW feels guilty or bad about her behavior, she without fail throws herself at me the next day. Sort of as a reparation for her behavior. Therapist did not love that approach and I agreed, but also said that I'm not going to reject SW in such a time.

The rest of the session proved that the solo session was a good development, in that the therapist was able to ask me, and I did answer, a lot more about me and SW and how the hotwife dynamic developed, etc. We revisited Mr. B, and also went through the history with Mr.. M, and did a quick overview on Mr. S. Also how she really went in big that November/December of 2020 with a "bonus" of seducing Mr. M while she was on hotwife visit to Mr. S.

I also observed to the therapist how SW's perspective when she tells her version of these is markedly skewed i a manner that them seem distasteful and that she got no personal satisfaction of pleasure from them. I reiterated my theory about her aversion to seeming like any kind of dirty or slutty girl.

Therapist remarked on SW's patterns in some of these things, and also how her patterns of not sharing and hiding things seems to be consistent also with how she approaches other habits where she feels guilty but acts out nonetheless (e.g. spending money on her clothes, etc.).

And then she dropped the bomb. She said, rather, she guaranteed that this is the woman's version of the Madonna/Whore complex and that SW certainly has the capacity and an alter ego who is a very dirty girl, and this dirty girl is powerful and waiting to emerge. And that she, the therapist, is going to help SW to come to grips with her desires and sexuality, to embrace and not fear this part of herself.

Time was up, so I skedaddled out of there.

And SW threw her body at me when I arrived home.

[afagehi7]

Thanks, guys. Muddling through it all.

SW continues to take it rather hard. She has been over-serving herself with her wine habit the past few weeks. Last Tuesday, then Friday, then this past Monday night. When she's like this, she keeps me up just about all night. She could not get herself up yesterday to attend the couples intimacy therapy session. I did tell her it's becoming a problem and that she needs to find a way to limit this.

The funeral is on Friday and the burial service on Saturday.

SW asked me to attend the therapy session by myself, which I did. It was a good development, in that the therapist was able to ask me, and I did answer, a lot more about me and SW and how the hotwife dynamic developed, etc. We revisited Mr. B, and also went through the history with Mr.. M, and did a quick overview on Mr. S. Also how she really went in big that November/December of 2020 with a "bonus" of seducing Mr. M while she was on hotwife visit to Mr. S.

I also observed to the therapist how SW's perspective when she tells her version of these is markedly skewed i a manner that them seem distasteful and that she got no personal satisfaction of pleasure from them. I reiterated my theory about her aversion to seeming like any kind of dirty or slutty girl.

Therapist remarked on SW's patterns in some of these things, and also how her patterns of not sharing and hiding things seems to be consistent also with how she approaches other habits where she feels guilty but acts out nonetheless (e.g. spending money on her clothes, etc.).

And then she dropped the bomb. She said, rather, she guaranteed that this is the woman's version of the Madonna/Whore complex and that SW certainly has the capacity and an alter ego who is a very dirty girl, and this dirty girl is powerful and waiting to emerge. And that she, the therapist, is going to help SW to come to grips with her desires and sexuality, to embrace and not fear this part of herself.

So she confirmed the existence of pinky... We've suspected but now it's verified.

[slenderfish]

So she confirmed the existence of pinky... We've suspected but now it's verified.

Good observation. I didn't tell the therapist about our Pinky. Not quite enough time.

Speaking of which, let's get into last Friday night.

SW finally agreed to do a double date with us and Mr. Italian, plus his date Ms. K (pantygate fame). We agreed to meet at a fancy place quite close to where we live. Ms. K is known to run very late so I asked them to meet us at 7:30 (45 min ahead of the 8:15 reservation) at an even fancier place around the corner, for cocktails. And, true to form, Ms. K was late but even more than I'd anticipated, so they were 30 minutes additionally late arriving at 8:45. Our dinner reservation was for 8:15 and we finally got seated at 9:15. By this point we had been at the bar and had a couple of drinks in us. SW was unhappy and subtly engaged with Ms. K. It was entertaining to watch them sparring. Two blonde hotties that everyone could not help but watch.

And SW was dressed to kill.

A friend of mine Mr. V, who also has met Mr. Italian and Ms. K (at our house parties during summer of 2020) was in the area and stopped by for a hello and joined us for dessert. It was his birthday party last year where SW (Pinky) jumped in the pool. He is well connected in the area and asked us where we might go next. He is a member of a private social club right by the dinner restaurant, so he took us over there. Ran into people he knows, of course, and SW was really trying to show up Ms. K and was therefore very social an bubbly and engaging. She was acting extra sexy and provocative. Men were hitting on her like bees to the honey.

Mr. Italian and Ms. K left at around 1:00.

At about 1:30 a.m., SW was flying with her wine etc. and they shut the place down. On our way out, someone joked about an after-party. It usually falls to Mr. V to host. SW said to everyone "after party at our house" and off we went with about 10 extra people we'd never met before, over to our house. Mr. V was shocked but happy. He knows that SW can get fired up and is great fun in this mode.

More wine, beer, and then I broke out the nice tequila. Music, dancing, and I was monitoring the new people to be sure nothing went sideways. A group of people disappeared for about 20 minutes downstairs, and I saw SW follow them down so I let that out of my peripheral vision and focused on the people around me, upstairs.

Everyone ran out of steam about 4:00 a.m. and got Ubers, etc. SW was not at all sleepy, and while I went to sleep she went back downstairs and watched television for another hour or two.

She slept all day Saturday and I got up around 10:00 for coffee and a breakfast burrito, and met up with Mr. V who was also recovering from the night. He'd actually gone to another party after leaving our house, and stayed out until 6:30 a.m.

When I got home at around 4:00, SW was just getting up. She remarked how she could not sleep after everyone went home. That she was too energized. She remarked that perhaps someone put something in her drink?

She also mentioned that the group of people she followed downstairs in our house had gone down there to sniff some white powder they apparently had with them. Not my thing, and I'm kind of pissed about it.

Doesn't that white powder act as a stimulant? Hmmm....

[Tryn]

Nose candy would have certainly kept her up, but probably for longer than that unless she did it a while before they left. Perhaps she was texting a guy from that group after they had departed, maybe even sexted. Did you check on things at all while she away to see what shenanigans might be happening? Sounds like a missed lap dance opportunity! Dang!

[afagehi7]

So she confirmed the existence of pinky... We've suspected but now it's verified.

Doesn't that white powder act as a stimulant? Hmmm....

It absolutely does and 100% explains her energy and inability to sleep. I was a frequent snowbird back in the day, it counters the down of the booze so you can drink more without passing out or getting too drunk. It also makes chicks really horny if in a sexual atmosphere.

Putting in her drink would have little to no effect. The amount needed to get a buzz via ingesting would be prohibitively expensive.

A few white lines, the right atmosphere, and the right guy she would have been fucking someone and I mean pornstar fucking

[slenderfish]

So she confirmed the existence of pinky... We've suspected but now it's verified.

Doesn't that white powder act as a stimulant? Hmmm....

It absolutely does and 100% explains her energy and inability to sleep. I was a frequent snowbird back in the day, it counters the down of the booze so you can drink more without passing out or getting too drunk. It also makes chicks really horny if in a sexual atmosphere.

Putting in her drink would have little to no effect. The amount needed to get a buzz via ingesting would be prohibitively expensive.

A few white lines, the right atmosphere, and the right guy she would have been fucking someone and I mean pornstar fucking

She maintains she has never tried nor does she have any interest in trying it. But not sure at this point. I'm sure I'll ask her if she did partake, when I have a bit of time and the situation is right.

[TheHammer]

The cocaine may have a been a Pinky thing to try it. May be a positive showing she is trying new things and being more carefree.

[afagehi7]

So she confirmed the existence of pinky... We've suspected but now it's verified.

Doesn't that white powder act as a stimulant? Hmmm....

It absolutely does and 100% explains her energy and inability to sleep. I was a frequent snowbird back in the day, it counters the down of the booze so you can drink more without passing out or getting too drunk. It also makes chicks really horny if in a sexual atmosphere.

Putting in her drink would have little to no effect. The amount needed to get a buzz via ingesting would be prohibitively expensive.

A few white lines, the right atmosphere, and the right guy she would have been fucking someone and I mean pornstar fucking

She maintains she has never tried nor does she have any interest in trying it. But not sure at this point. I'm sure I'll ask her if she did partake, when I have a bit of time and the situation is right.

Honestly, it's not the big deal it's made out to be. Crack is different story but C is pretty safe compared to other substances. It's just expensive. It's certainly an instant panty dropper

[slenderfish]

The cocaine may have a been a Pinky thing to try it. May be a positive showing she is trying new things and being more carefree.

I don't really mind it, if she is curious etc. But not sure why she should hide it.

Having written that, I chuckle at myself. Of course that's her way.

At the same time, her way also is that it all eventually comes out.

[rickyg]

Although I don't think C is a big deal I can completely understand why someone would not want it in their home.

C is very common amongst the social circles I interact in. Even people I work with. But there are many that don't touch it.

My perspective on this is that if she tried it then that's okay but this wouldn't be the first time she would've kept something from you. I honestly don't know how you can ask her to be more open with you. Truth is she is not completely okay with herself about certain aspects of her life. She judges herself so it makes it harder for her to get over the fact that you would not judge. The therapist is right about the Madonna complex.

[slenderfish]

The therapist is right about the Madonna complex.

Love this concept.

(re)-invigorating!

[slenderfish]

The cocaine may have a been a Pinky thing to try it. May be a positive showing she is trying new things and being more carefree.

Yes. Trying new things and being more carefree.

[slenderfish]

We are back from the family stuff. Was heavy but also freeing in many respects. So many people from the past, etc. Gratifying.

Trying to get back to normal, whatever that is to us.

More time to resume the adventures.

Looking forward to the sex-positive therapy on Thursday. Wonder what might be on the mind of the therapist that day.

[slenderfish]

We had therapist today. Talked mostly about communication, etc. Important but not the sex fireworks conversations.

But the therapist did drop a teaser on our way out of her office. She said she is running out as the invited guest speaker at a private home with a group of 30- and 40-something housewives who want to reinvigorate their libidos and orgasms (including g-spot techniques, etc.).

SW's eyes got really large at that disclosure and she said she wants to hear the summary of it, next week.

[afagehi7]

We had therapist today. Talked mostly about communication, etc. Important but not the sex fireworks conversations.

But the therapist did drop a teaser on our way out of her office. She said she is running out as the invited guest speaker at a private home with a group of 30- and 40-something housewives who want to reinvigorate their libidos and orgasms (including g-spot techniques, etc.).

SW's eyes got really large at that disclosure and she said she wants to hear the summary of it, next week.

Wouldn't it be awesome if she convinced them to fuck hot hung young studs whilst their husbands watched and joined in. I'd pay handsomely to send my wife to such a seminar...

[CuriousUK]

We had therapist today. Talked mostly about communication, etc. Important but not the sex fireworks conversations.

But the therapist did drop a teaser on our way out of her office. She said she is running out as the invited guest speaker at a private home with a group of 30- and 40-something housewives who want to reinvigorate their libidos and orgasms (including g-spot techniques, etc.).

SW's eyes got really large at that disclosure and she said she wants to hear the summary of it, next week.

Wouldn't it be awesome if she convinced them to fuck hot hung young studs whilst their husbands watched and joined in. I'd pay handsomely to send my wife to such a seminar...

There’d be a very long list applying from this board