Leggysandy Stepping Out

[FNQLivin]

With the connection to Anthony, is there any concern?

[leggysman]

With the connection to Anthony, is there any concern?

There was. Real talk now:

After their first encounter they were messaging all day, every day. I kept annoying her, asking whether it was anything interesting. No, it was just chitchat, nothing sexy, nothing I needed to hear about.

This went on for a couple of months before I had an epiphany that hit me like a ton of bricks late one evening: this is a relationship. This is what a relationship is. It wasn't just sexy talk or making plans - he was the first one to say "good morning" to her, and the last one she said goodnight to after I tucked her into bed. He was in her life all day, every day. I'd never known her to be in constant contact with anybody -- not her family, not her friends, not another living soul -- besides me. S did recognize this state of things before me, but I guess she wasn't worried about it.

This was never what I thought I was signing up for. I never wanted to share her this way. Sharing her body - yes. Sharing her - emphatically no.

But when we talked the next day, after my epiphany, we made a change immediately. S is really great, y'all. Whenever I talk to her about any concerns I have, I always come away feeling completely better. She told Anthony that they needed to stop, and they have. There's still sexy talk and plans-making, but it's all under control. Full credit to her.

[FNQLivin]

That’s great to hear. I’m glad for you both. I was worried with the question that it might offend you.

[Farmgirl]

With the connection to Anthony, is there any concern?

There was. Real talk now:

After their first encounter they were messaging all day, every day. I kept annoying her, asking whether it was anything interesting. No, it was just chitchat, nothing sexy, nothing I needed to hear about.

This went on for a couple of months before I had an epiphany that hit me like a ton of bricks late one evening: this is a relationship. This is what a relationship is. It wasn't just sexy talk or making plans - he was the first one to say "good morning" to her, and the last one she said goodnight to after I tucked her into bed. He was in her life all day, every day. I'd never known her to be in constant contact with anybody -- not her family, not her friends, not another living soul -- besides me. S did recognize this state of things before me, but I guess she wasn't worried about it.

This was never what I thought I was signing up for. I never wanted to share her this way. Sharing her body - yes. Sharing her - emphatically no.

But when we talked the next day, after my epiphany, we made a change immediately. S is really great, y'all. Whenever I talk to her about any concerns I have, I always come away feeling completely better. She told Anthony that they needed to stop, and they have. There's still sexy talk and plans-making, but it's all under control. Full credit to her.

In my unsolicited opinion , I think both of you are doing things very well. When we wives love our husbands, we have a knack for knowing when to slow things so our number ones remain our number ones. Mostly we can handle more emotionally but know to limit it for sake of y'all.
You have a good one in leggysandy and she has a loving supportive husband .

[afagehi7]

With the connection to Anthony, is there any concern?

There was. Real talk now:

After their first encounter they were messaging all day, every day. I kept annoying her, asking whether it was anything interesting. No, it was just chitchat, nothing sexy, nothing I needed to hear about.

This went on for a couple of months before I had an epiphany that hit me like a ton of bricks late one evening: this is a relationship. This is what a relationship is. It wasn't just sexy talk or making plans - he was the first one to say "good morning" to her, and the last one she said goodnight to after I tucked her into bed. He was in her life all day, every day. I'd never known her to be in constant contact with anybody -- not her family, not her friends, not another living soul -- besides me. S did recognize this state of things before me, but I guess she wasn't worried about it.

This was never what I thought I was signing up for. I never wanted to share her this way. Sharing her body - yes. Sharing her - emphatically no.

But when we talked the next day, after my epiphany, we made a change immediately. S is really great, y'all. Whenever I talk to her about any concerns I have, I always come away feeling completely better. She told Anthony that they needed to stop, and they have. There's still sexy talk and plans-making, but it's all under control. Full credit to her.

That is the recipe for success, keep the marriage first at all costs

[leggysandy]

Thank you all for the comments and questions

I think in a way, when we entered this lifestyle, we both had different ideas what it would look like maybe. I am not talking about anything huge, but maybe little details that we haven't discussed before really (such as the need to take photos, send enough messages/updates etc). In my head it looked like this: I go out, fuck the guy, A is sitting at home and waiting for me. When I come home, he fucks me while I tell him all about it.

In reality, I think it affected him also in more different ways. It wasn't all about being excited/horny, some anxiety and insecurity came with it too. To be fair, it was all probably caused by constant messaging with Anthony and while I didn't want to have completely meaningless sex with random strangers and feel used in a process, we have crossed the line. Of course, it was all good fun for me, but my biggest fear before all this was letting someone else into our marriage, and this is exactly what was happening. For some reason though, I was ignoring it, and it took A months to see what was happening!

However, if couple puts their marriage first, the problems that this lifestyle sometimes brings should be an easy fix. A and I are a constant - everything else (and everyone else) are variables and can change at any moment.

Day before we met I hinted to Anthony that I may need to slow down, or even make some cuts. I told him I am tired of all the demands which got even more tiring with huge amount of dates. After we had sex on Thursday, first thing he said to me: are you going to dump me? And basically begged me not to do it for the rest of the evening. I explained that I really need more time to myself and more sleep and do not want to report to him anymore. I want this lifestyle to be fun, and fun only - not a burden or chore in any way. He agreed to anything, just so we can stay in touch, even if it means that he would see me few times a year only (ok, we all know that's not gonna happen )

So, now we have to see where to go from here. I am wondering if I should keep Matt as well. It was fun, but he started writing me poems and stuff, and I just... can't Also, he is in the big city too and I am just wondering if finding someone closer to meet with occasionally would be better. A already mentioned a guy that's fairly close to us, so might be worth trying - even if it's more meaningless, which I am actually willing to try now, to keep things more simple for everyone.

[leggysman]

Am I a lucky husband, or am I a lucky bastard of a husband?

I love this little lady so much

[BDJ]

Let me be the first to confirm: you are a damn lucky bastard of a husband. But LeggySandy is beyond the pale; the perfect mate and a looker too! The best to be had of this lifestyle is experiencing the anticipation of what might happen, followed by honest communication after it does. That is the second best part of it: the shared excitement of recounting the event (and reclaiming, of course.)

That LeggySandy cut back on the relationship aspect of communication with Anthony, and now is stepping back from the rush of frequent liaisons--that's significant, and in a good way.

Reading you both honestly express your thoughts is why your thread is enjoyed by so many here. Just think, there are hundreds of views by people who do not comment. You're having a real, and positive, impact on those who are thinking about following you into the hotwife lifestyle.

BDJ

[afagehi7]

Am I a lucky husband, or am I a lucky bastard of a husband?

I love this little lady so much

If things don't work out I'll marry her! Absolutely perfect hotwife attitude

[leggysandy]

Am I a lucky husband, or am I a lucky bastard of a husband?

I love this little lady so much

If things don't work out I'll marry her! Absolutely perfect hotwife attitude

Send me your CV along with some photos, and I'll put you on my waiting list

[leggysandy]

Am I a lucky husband, or am I a lucky bastard of a husband?

I love this little lady so much

I love you too sweetheart!

[PlayboyFan]

Thank you all for the comments and questions

I think in a way, when we entered this lifestyle, we both had different ideas what it would look like maybe. I am not talking about anything huge, but maybe little details that we haven't discussed before really (such as the need to take photos, send enough messages/updates etc). In my head it looked like this: I go out, fuck the guy, A is sitting at home and waiting for me. When I come home, he fucks me while I tell him all about it.

In reality, I think it affected him also in more different ways. It wasn't all about being excited/horny, some anxiety and insecurity came with it too. To be fair, it was all probably caused by constant messaging with Anthony and while I didn't want to have completely meaningless sex with random strangers and feel used in a process, we have crossed the line. Of course, it was all good fun for me, but my biggest fear before all this was letting someone else into our marriage, and this is exactly what was happening. For some reason though, I was ignoring it, and it took A months to see what was happening!

However, if couple puts their marriage first, the problems that this lifestyle sometimes brings should be an easy fix. A and I are a constant - everything else (and everyone else) are variables and can change at any moment.

Day before we met I hinted to Anthony that I may need to slow down, or even make some cuts. I told him I am tired of all the demands which got even more tiring with huge amount of dates. After we had sex on Thursday, first thing he said to me: are you going to dump me? And basically begged me not to do it for the rest of the evening. I explained that I really need more time to myself and more sleep and do not want to report to him anymore. I want this lifestyle to be fun, and fun only - not a burden or chore in any way. He agreed to anything, just so we can stay in touch, even if it means that he would see me few times a year only (ok, we all know that's not gonna happen )

So, now we have to see where to go from here. I am wondering if I should keep Matt as well. It was fun, but he started writing me poems and stuff, and I just... can't Also, he is in the big city too and I am just wondering if finding someone closer to meet with occasionally would be better. A already mentioned a guy that's fairly close to us, so might be worth trying - even if it's more meaningless, which I am actually willing to try now, to keep things more simple for everyone.

Well played madam, well played.

PBF

[path22]

I think you are absolutely right to reduce communication with Antony, he must understand that you and your partner always come first. On the other hand, in my humble opinion you should continue seeing Matt and why not try the new guy nearby. I think that the HW should always have several boys and not just a lover.
Sorry for my english, it's not my native language..

[KyGrappler80]

Great thread. So much good sharing and wisdom too. I can see how these guys get over their skis for Mrs. Leggysandy. What kind of magic pussy prompts a grown man to write poetry. Good poetry?

[leggysandy]

Great thread. So much good sharing and wisdom too. I can see how these guys get over their skis for Mrs. Leggysandy. What kind of magic pussy prompts a grown man to write poetry. Good poetry?

Not particularly... and what kind of magic pussy? Mine, I guess

[leggysman]

what kind of magic pussy? Mine, I guess

It's pretty magical if you ask me!

I'm no poetry expert, but it seemed pretty lame.

OTOH he seems to make sweet music between the sheets with my wife, so he still gets my approval.

[leggysandy]

what kind of magic pussy? Mine, I guess

It's pretty magical if you ask me!

I'm no poetry expert, but it seemed pretty lame.

OTOH he seems to make sweet music between the sheets with my wife, so he still gets my approval.

Sweet music? Now you sound just like him

[leggysman]

he started writing me poems and stuff, and I just... can't

But I wrote a song about you honey, and you didn't dump me

Even though you probably had reasonable grounds to do so

[PlayboyFan]

I guess poetry means he’s got it bad….Ha

And then again, it could be worse…….there is the opposite end of that spectrum….

The guy who rocks your world in bed, literally makes you crave him….tells you you are the best fuck of his life…..wraps you around his finger…..and then ghosts you.

Only showing up on his whim, then vanishing again and leaving you wondering for weeks or even a month at a time….when or IF he will contact you again.

I would never have suspected it could happen, but believe me….it can and it does.


PBF

[RemMb36+]

I guess poetry means he’s got it bad….Ha

And then again, it could be worse…….there is the opposite end of that spectrum….

The guy who rocks your world in bed, literally makes you crave him….tells you you are the best fuck of his life…..wraps you around his finger…..and then ghosts you.

Only showing up on his whim, then vanishing again and leaving you wondering for weeks or even a month at a time….when or IF he will contact you again.

I would never have suspected it could happen, but believe me….it can and it does.


PBF

Sounds like a guy who thinks too highly of himself.

[PlayboyFan]

Fortunately, Sandy appears to be maintaining the upper hand here. As she should.

I was just pointing out that just the right guy can indeed flip that script. Trust me.

PBF

[RemMb36+]

Thankfully. So we'll look forward to many more sexy encounters of the Sandy kind.

[KyGrappler80]

There once was a woman from Surrey
Who suffered a cock went limp in a hurry
He took the blue pill
And proceeded to drill
Now he’s bounced cause he offered some poetry

[leggysman]

There once was a woman from Surrey
Who suffered a cock went limp in a hurry
He took the blue pill
And proceeded to drill
Now he’s bounced cause he offered some poetry

Oh dear

Dad, is that you?

[KyGrappler80]

Great thread. So much good sharing and wisdom too. I can see how these guys get over their skis for Mrs. Leggysandy. What kind of magic pussy prompts a grown man to write poetry. Good poetry?

Not particularly... and what kind of magic pussy? Mine, I guess

Her pussy is literally a muse. Lucky man, Mr. Leggysandy

Your lovely wife’s honey pot is launching ships