Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[Farmgirl]

Merry Christmas everyone!
Thank you to all who wished us happy holidays

Merry Christmas!

[M in NC]

I cannot imagine how disappointed you were to postpone the test drive of mrs_reese Hotwife 2.0.

I sincerely hope it will be everything you imagine, and I also sincerely hope reese can enjoy the experience equally.

Christmas Blessings to you. I am looking forward to the details. Thank You both for sharing your continued journey.

Mr GILF

I had mr Reese inside me
I never thought of being disappointed!
Thankyou Mr. GILF, you are always so sweet.

I posted a picture from last night in hotties for anyone interested!

Anyway you can name your thread title in the hotties? I'd love to see your picture!

[mrs_reese]

Merry Christmas everyone!
Thank you to all who wished us happy holidays

Merry Christmas!

Thank you Farmgirl
Wishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas

[54321]

Post by mrs_reese » Thu Dec 22, 2022 3:55 pm

I’m trying to avoid the roller coaster
It’s such a pain in my butt

Would a poly situation in which Mr Reese is the primary be a better label?

Being in love with two nice men, both of whom are in love with you and eager to please you in every way?
Doesn't sound half bad!

54321

[mrs_reese]

Post by mrs_reese » Thu Dec 22, 2022 3:55 pm

I’m trying to avoid the roller coaster
It’s such a pain in my butt

Would a poly situation in which Mr Reese is the primary be a better label?

Being in love with two nice men, both of whom are in love with you and eager to please you in every way?
Doesn't sound half bad!

54321

Thanks a great question.
Mr has a difficult time giving me up for more than one night for now! It really comes down to mental conditioning at times for me.
Right now we both are not working, we’re laying in bed after showers and a long Christmas Day celebration.

At 4pm - really soon, I will be leaving to spend the early evening and into the late night with my Jeff.
Mr R will be at a sporting event and strip bar with a client.
Not sure when he’ll be home.
Not sure when I’ll be home or if I’ll be home

[54321]

At 4pm - really soon, I will be leaving to spend the early evening and into the late night with my Jeff.
Mr R will be at a sporting event and strip bar with a client.
Not sure when he’ll be home.
Not sure when I’ll be home or if I’ll be home

OMG! Thrilling NRE for you and a gut churning sleighride for Mr R.
It's just as well the guy has balls of steel. Ho Ho Ho!

54321

[mrs_reese]

Getting dressed now, I haven’t had sex since Xmas eve with hubby. I can’t wait to see my crush.
Hubby is in the room while I’m getting ready.
Not saying much, but I know he must be hard already

[54321]

Christmas TV v. a wild night of butterflies, passionate French kissing and intense, romantic fucking... what's a girl to do?

54321

[mrs_reese]

Hi
I went to Jeff’s house, unexpectedly his son and daughter was coming to spend the week with him.
They are 10 and 8.
We talked a lot, I feel more of a crush with him each time I visit him.
I didn’t want to rush things, but we made out, kissing a lot.
He pulled off my top and started kissing my breasts,
I told him no sex tonight since his kids will be over soon .
He pulled down my spandex pants and touched me, I came close to orgasm but I felt too rushed.
He jacked off on my belly again-
I didn’t suck him though.
I wanted too.
I am happy where this is going.
I’m developing strong feelings for him.
I explained to hubby, this is something that I want to continue to do my way!
To trust me!
Hubby owns my heart

[Open2it]

Glad to hear you’re having the time of your life. Jeff must be getting desperate after all that teasing (along with you and Mr. R.). I’m sure when you finally get some adult alone time together it’ll be epic!

[mrs_reese]

Jeff has been texting me.
I am happy, finally he understands me.
Mr R is getting a little impatient, I remind him and ask him for confirmation, is this what he wants?
I am doing this for us!
We talked again last night, I told him he’s listening to too many podcasts lol!
He confirmed this is the life he truly wants from us.
He’s just learning to adapt and share me all over again!
I have to admit, I do have a huge crush on jeff, and that feeling is getting stronger.
Sex with him is something I really want right now.
It just feels amazing!
I want to see him often.
We are planning Friday, all night I hope

[Dazedandconfused71]

I think that in the 'earlier stages' of hwing, there is a lot of chaos, confusion and upset.
Reconnecting one on one often gets partially neglected with all of the 'new energy' in the relationship. Part of the journey is reestablishing and deepening the intimacy between the couple. You have to find the groove..sounds like you're working on it.

I can resonate with this. I too am on an emotional roller coaster of excitement, jealousy and anxt. My wife recently took her first lover and is doing so completely solo. My struggle is coming from the lack of reconnecting. I feel sidelined and replaced - at least in the physical and romantic ways. We are rock solid elsewhere and I am 100% sure she won’t leave me for him. I just wish I was getting some of what he’s getting from her right now. Feeling neglected….I’m communicating this to her but not sure she’s hearing me. I think she’s consumed with the NRE.

Sadly for me, the negative emotions are over-running the excitement right now.

[Dazedandconfused71]

Jeff has been texting me.
I am happy, finally he understands me.
Mr R is getting a little impatient, I remind him and ask him for confirmation, is this what he wants?
I am doing this for us!
We talked again last night, I told him he’s listening to too many podcasts lol!
He confirmed this is the life he truly wants from us.
He’s just learning to adapt and share me all over again!
I have to admit, I do have a huge crush on jeff, and that feeling is getting stronger.
Sex with him is something I really want right now.
It just feels amazing!
I want to see him often.
We are planning Friday, all night I hope

Good to see the wife’s perspective. Tell me something, please: When consumed with NRE like this, do your sexual/romantic feelings for hubby get diminished or clouded by your thoughts of Jeff? Does your desire for Mr. R get out on the back burner or does it have the opposite effect (or none)?

[mrs_reese]

Jeff has been texting me.
I am happy, finally he understands me.
Mr R is getting a little impatient, I remind him and ask him for confirmation, is this what he wants?
I am doing this for us!
We talked again last night, I told him he’s listening to too many podcasts lol!
He confirmed this is the life he truly wants from us.
He’s just learning to adapt and share me all over again!
I have to admit, I do have a huge crush on jeff, and that feeling is getting stronger.
Sex with him is something I really want right now.
It just feels amazing!
I want to see him often.
We are planning Friday, all night I hope

Good to see the wife’s perspective. Tell me something, please: When consumed with NRE like this, do your sexual/romantic feelings for hubby get diminished or clouded by your thoughts of Jeff? Does your desire for Mr. R get out on the back burner or does it have the opposite effect (or none)?

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, I hope husband reads his post I can share some of his thoughts other than with me personally.

This is the thing, maybe your wife is like me, I don’t like to be controlled or told what to do, I tried it this way for a few years and deep down. I just was not happy. There’s nothing genuine about it. I felt like I was objectified by my husbands, insane, intense desire

So as things heat it up, they would end, new romantic interest would occur again. They would end again any of as your name says, dazed, and confused joy, excitement, anger, sadness, confusion.

So we took a break even though our marriage was solid, we went back of a vanilla marriage.

Recently, hotwife talk started again, the fact that my husband said the greatest joy he had was watching me have a boyfriend I said no way I don’t wanna go back to that lifestyle and he said trust me this time I will be completely changed, I will give you this gift of sexual freedom, and I will not interfere.

Hubby is battling different feelings as you explain, feeling left out neglected he has honored his promise to me. It’s truly not interfering.

Hopefully this will give you some help with your questions, this is the first time I’ve been truly on my own. It’s the first time all decisions are made by me, hubby, and I are absolutely amazing at communicating,

We have three basic and I don’t like to say rules, but truths I would like to call them And they are the most important fact hobby can end this or any relationship immediately and I will honor that, I will always wear my wedding ring as a symbol that I am a hot wife to my husband, and at the end of the day, he is my number one, and no overnights as of now I sure hope to change his mind on that one lol.

I think you truly need to communicate to your wife tell her how you feel. Tell her that you feel neglected and left out and these are normal feelings. Tell her you do not want her to end this hot wife, new relationship that she has right now but you need to feel included NOT minimized.

Some hotwives like myself, do not like being told what to do so don’t make too many rules, but try to have a couple things that are absolute , NO negotiating.

I can’t lie to you the new relationship energy as most call it is amazing with a capital A.

I’m so turned on by Jeff . Everything is brand new the way he kisses the way he touches me. When his cock is inside of me. It feels completely different than being with husband and this is the gift that he gave me and now I don’t think I would ever wanna turn back and go vanilla, so I really want to make sure that he and I are always working together on this and eventually hopefully it becomes more consistent. Much less difficult for him to have to deal with.

[reese]

Good morning everyone, this morning, I decided to share some thoughts with you all……
It’s been a crazy month, many moments of adrenaline rushes, major jealousy pangs, lots of amazing sex where I think I’ve lost 5 lbs from too much sex, feelings of loss and being minimized as my wife wrote about earlier and lots of confusion.

Can we go back to vanilla?
We did!
For a few years, all hotwife discussions and play ended.
As we discussed, we settled into a world of committed marriage focusing on our roles with family friends and each other. I didn’t think we could love each other more than we did years ago and it happened….. our love consumes us!
It’s a very secure love!
As that developed, sex diminished! The intensity was gone!
I do believe it is the way I came out of the womb.
I love the thrill of reclaiming…. When my wife comes back to me after playing with others.
We all know the feeling…. Like a drug….. we always strive for that euphoria high…. That toe curling orgasm… full of lust and insane desire!
Of course as you may all know, the first time around with hotwife play, I was very controlling with too much mental conditioning to make this fun for my wife!

So we stopped… we moved past hotwife play.
Move forward to 3 months or so ago, I told my wife during sex, I’d love for her to play again.
I said find a boyfriend who you can have great sex with from time to time and i promised her that I’d be different…
No more control…. It’s all about her!
She sets up the dates!
She plays alone!
So far so good….. she’s into jeff…. And I see this developing into the relationship she’s always wanted with hotwife play.
Yes, she reports that jeff is a work in progress..
But he doesn’t understand hotwife and the husbands role.
He won’t be able to handle that per my wife.

So he believes we have open relationships…
And I have no idea who he is…..
“So why is it too difficult for me?”
Ironic eh? I wrote this thread in 2008 and I still feel this way 14 yrs later but this time it is 100% more real that ever!
I know it’s because I’ve lost all control,
When I pushed the buttons ( sorry it sounds disrespectful but it wasn’t Like that) i didn’t feel so alone!
That is how I feel now…. All the buildup, the texting, her attention focused on HIM…. I still have a hard time dealing with this! A thought…………
The word cuckold means basically when a man allows his wife to have sex outside the marriage and he is monogamous.
The rest is the grey area…. Men being submissive, not having sex with his wife, cleansing her pussy filled with cum…
All that is amazing for the man who wants that in his life…
But I don’t….. I just want my wife to have amazing sex with a man of her choice and come home and allow me to enjoy her with reclaim and have the best sex ever!

But it’s the feeling of being replaced,,,, the feelings of losing her that never leaves me!
I do believe that time will help me… consistent behavior from me and my wife…. As long as we remain focused that his is always about US…. Our pleasure, our marriage………
It is just difficult trusting that that will never change!

[54321]

You guys are amazing!
It takes a lot of courage to reveal one's true feelings
but you guys do it so bravely.
This thread has always been exciting and interesting
but it has also been enlightening. You have taught us all
so much.

Thank you.

54321

[mrs_reese]

You guys are amazing!
It takes a lot of courage to reveal one's true feelings
but you guys do it so bravely.
This thread has always been exciting and interesting
but it has also been enlightening. You have taught us all
so much.

Thank you.

54321

Thanking you too….. for the time to share your feelings

[mrs_reese]

Good morning everyone, this morning, I decided to share some thoughts with you all……
It’s been a crazy month, many moments of adrenaline rushes, major jealousy pangs, lots of amazing sex where I think I’ve lost 5 lbs from too much sex, feelings of loss and being minimized as my wife wrote about earlier and lots of confusion.

Can we go back to vanilla?
We did!
For a few years, all hotwife discussions and play ended.
As we discussed, we settled into a world of committed marriage focusing on our roles with family friends and each other. I didn’t think we could love each other more than we did years ago and it happened….. our love consumes us!
It’s a very secure love!
As that developed, sex diminished! The intensity was gone!
I do believe it is the way I came out of the womb.
I love the thrill of reclaiming…. When my wife comes back to me after playing with others.
We all know the feeling…. Like a drug….. we always strive for that euphoria high…. That toe curling orgasm… full of lust and insane desire!
Of course as you may all know, the first time around with hotwife play, I was very controlling with too much mental conditioning to make this fun for my wife!

So we stopped… we moved past hotwife play.
Move forward to 3 months or so ago, I told my wife during sex, I’d love for her to play again.
I said find a boyfriend who you can have great sex with from time to time and i promised her that I’d be different…
No more control…. It’s all about her!
She sets up the dates!
She plays alone!
So far so good….. she’s into jeff…. And I see this developing into the relationship she’s always wanted with hotwife play.
Yes, she reports that jeff is a work in progress..
But he doesn’t understand hotwife and the husbands role.
He won’t be able to handle that per my wife.

So he believes we have open relationships…
And I have no idea who he is…..
“So why is it too difficult for me?”
Ironic eh? I wrote this thread in 2008 and I still feel this way 14 yrs later but this time it is 100% more real that ever!
I know it’s because I’ve lost all control,
When I pushed the buttons ( sorry it sounds disrespectful but it wasn’t Like that) i didn’t feel so alone!
That is how I feel now…. All the buildup, the texting, her attention focused on HIM…. I still have a hard time dealing with this! A thought…………
The word cuckold means basically when a man allows his wife to have sex outside the marriage and he is monogamous.
The rest is the grey area…. Men being submissive, not having sex with his wife, cleansing her pussy filled with cum…
All that is amazing for the man who wants that in his life…
But I don’t….. I just want my wife to have amazing sex with a man of her choice and come home and allow me to enjoy her with reclaim and have the best sex ever!

But it’s the feeling of being replaced,,,, the feelings of losing her that never leaves me!
I do believe that time will help me… consistent behavior from me and my wife…. As long as we remain focused that his is always about US…. Our pleasure, our marriage………
It is just difficult trusting that that will never change!

Baby, I know all this about you.
As i promised many times, you own my heart.
I’m still not so sure with jeff, I am trying to make him
More comfortable, but he’s emotionally disconnected.
I know he’s trying.
Don’t you like it when I have feelings for other men?
I know when you’re horny you love the chase!
I know when you’re ready for sex you ask me who’s pussy and you like when I say it’s Jeff’s.
But it’s sex talk baby
Last time with him, sex was really good
Don’t you like that?
Baby, I want to cum for him.
I want to try to have feelings for him but
I love you.

[il2sw]

Will,
Allow me to just simply say….. relax!
Take a break! Don’t talk about it!
Maybe when the timing is right, supply suggest that sex was the best ever when she was in Hotwife mode!
But you realized you needed more self control and if she ever wants to play again, that you promise to be more restrained and allow her to make all the decisions!
Some Husbands/ men always need to be in control and that takes the spontaneity and fun away from the game!

Hi Mrs. Reese,
I’m glad you’re hotwifing again and back here, posting. It gives me hope that my wife will eventually find a BF again (she hasn’t played for 3 years). This advice you gave is very useful. Although I had already let her be in control before, I was insistent on having reclaiming sex when she came back from a date, but she was usually already sore and tired. So, it was more like a burden. I’d give up same-day reclaiming if that would make it easier for her to have a BF again.

Looking forward to seeing how your relationship with Jeff develops how Mr Reese deals with this new arrangement.

[mrs_reese]

Will,
Allow me to just simply say….. relax!
Take a break! Don’t talk about it!
Maybe when the timing is right, supply suggest that sex was the best ever when she was in Hotwife mode!
But you realized you needed more self control and if she ever wants to play again, that you promise to be more restrained and allow her to make all the decisions!
Some Husbands/ men always need to be in control and that takes the spontaneity and fun away from the game!

Hi Mrs. Reese,
I’m glad you’re hotwifing again and back here, posting. It gives me hope that my wife will eventually find a BF again (she hasn’t played for 3 years). This advice you gave is very useful. Although I had already let her be in control before, I was insistent on having reclaiming sex when she came back from a date, but she was usually already sore and tired. So, it was more like a burden. I’d give up same-day reclaiming if that would make it easier for her to have a BF again.

Looking forward to seeing how your relationship with Jeff develops how Mr Reese deals with this new arrangement.

I’m happy you read my post.
Good for you!
Your going to let her play with you when she’s ready.
You know for worked for me? Hubby said many times I’m
Like the sexy car everyone wants to drive, and he enjoys showing me too to other men, let them test drive the sexy car that everyone wants. At the end of the day, it’s still his car and he can drive it any day he wants.

Yes reclaiming when you’ve been fucked silly for hours is too much sometimes.
I told hubby to be prepared sometimes to jack off and lick me and he loves my feet- do his thing smelling my scent.

[BallSpanking]

You know for worked for me? Hubby said many times, I’m like the sexy car everyone wants to drive, and he enjoys showing me too to other men, let them test drive the sexy car that everyone wants. At the end of the day, it’s still his car and he can drive it any day he wants ...

As long as those big cocks don't 'wreck' that sweet pussy ...

[BallSpanking]

As long as those big cocks don't 'wreck' that sweet pussy ...

Hmmm ... Would that be such a bad thing ...?

[mrs_reese]

As long as those big cocks don't 'wreck' that sweet pussy ...

Hmmm ... Would that be such a bad thing ...?

Oh Ballspanking
You know I’m shy

[mrs_reese]

Happy New Year everybody!

I had some unexpected family issues the past few days.
But jeff reached out to me today and made my day.
We will be meeting Sunday night the first day of the new year and he WILL be fucking me

[BallSpanking]

Glad to hear it ... Lucky, lucky Jeff!