Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[slenderfish]

The therapist, during the session last week, was all smiles in that the conversation had finally returned to her specialty, sex and intimacy.

Short version is that the therapist returned to the subject of SW's sexual preferences, fantasies, etc. SW repeated that she does not have any of these. Therapist said that all humans have these, but either stifle them or just haven't opened their mind to find out. She encouraged SW (yet again) to take some time alone, with or without porn, with or without sex toy(s), and just let her mind wander to whatever turns her on.

[slenderfish]

This past Thursday morning, I dropped SW at the airport for a visit to her hometown. She returns late tomorrow. I'm thinking it's going to be (and so far has shown to be) a tame trip.

[BallSpanking]

SW seems reluctant to open up, skittish. My guess is she was hurt earlier in life, made her clam up her emotions and remain always 'in-control', so to speak.

[whosbeensleeping]

Thanks for the update. Did SW seem open to this?

[slenderfish]

SW seems reluctant to open up, skittish. My guess is she was hurt earlier in life, made her clam up her emotions and remain always 'in-control', so to speak.

Yes, there's something behind it all. I believe I know, and am continuing to encourage her to tackle the underlying stuff. Trying to avoid being an armchair psychologist, as that has too much a risk of a bad result. Best to let the professionals be the good or bad guys, as the case may become.

[slenderfish]

Thanks for the update. Did SW seem open to this?

This was homework given by this same therapist, about a year ago. SW did not do the homework.

Let's see how it goes this time around.

[Trickydicky69]

In a wider context, SW sounds very much like my wife - not just unwilling to discuss sexual matters but generally is very avoidant about any personal thoughts. So won’t open up at all and extremely reactive to discussing it. Yet comes from a loving family and has never mentioned any sort of abuse.
Definitely to the point of a psychological issue so simply hard wired that way. Tried amateur psychology and she threatened divorce if I ever suggested any sort of counselling/therapy etc.
Driven me mad over the years!

[slenderfish]

In a wider context, SW sounds very much like my wife - not just unwilling to discuss sexual matters but generally is very avoidant about any personal thoughts. So won’t open up at all and extremely reactive to discussing it. Yet comes from a loving family and has never mentioned any sort of abuse.
Definitely to the point of a psychological issue so simply hard wired that way. Tried amateur psychology and she threatened divorce if I ever suggested any sort of counselling/therapy etc.
Driven me mad over the years!

Comrade in arms! Thanks for sharing.

SW has avoided any personal counseling. Agreed to do it (not on my urging) many times, but never followed through.

[afagehi7]

Missed all of this. I lost my bookmarks. The thread is bookmarked again so I won't miss anything!

[superb101]

How are things progressing? Closely following

[Trickydicky69]

Yes, I think we have similar “secretive” wives.
Mine also opens up under alcohol, lets slip about something months/years down the line which she vehemently denied at the time, won’t admit to any sexual attraction yet denies she’s one of these people who are asexual (because that would be dreadfully non conformist- which is a major driver for her)..
I’ve not tried discussing sex with her recently, let alone anything experimental. But I did tell her 8 years ago that if she ever did get the urge to do anything, she should go for it but just not hide it.
That’s when she admitted she never wanted sex again. With anyone.
So at least SF does still have good sex with SW and became a hotwife, so he’s doing ok i think.
I’m jealous anyway!

[setv4]

Always looking forward to your continuing updates SF, of Your Wife's 'Pinky' Hotwife progress.

[couple20uk]

Always looking forward to your continuing updates SF, of Your Wife's 'Pinky' Hotwife progress.

This has always been my go-to thread, so another here, looking forward to an update.
Though I do appreciate you have a work project to finish.

[superb101]

I see you are back, SF! Welcome back!

[slenderfish]

I took on too many projects and one of them blew up in my face. To be more accurate, too many were pushed onto me by my partners. Of course, I do this mental triage and the most lucrative (present or future) to me seem to always get the priority. So the one that is gone was the least favorite of mine and the least potential, etc. to me. Yet some of my partners (including my most important longstanding partner) did get hurt financially. It is a big hit to him, no doubt. I don't play at that level, but I do watch and provide strategy and support.

The project didn't actually blow up because of me; it was starting to see real promise after about five years, and the New York-based financial partner was looking for a reason to taking a bigger piece of the pie, as a shark-type of move. My tardiness on a few things was part of the rationale. Would have used another rationale anyway. I still feel at least partially responsible. At the same time, when you knowingly swim with sharks, you gotta remain in a strong protective cage and expect the sharks to take shots at you from time to time.

I assisted my partner in developing a strategy to take it back, but it'll take time (1-2 years) to regain a position of strength in order to do so.

SW has continued her lack of empathy or awareness of this pressure on me. I suppose it's a coping mechanism.

But the good news is that we are reaching a breakthrough in our intimacy therapy. At least, SW is on the cusp of a breakthrough. The next few sessions will tell a lot.

More later. Though I will say that we are back to focusing on sex and sexuality and the therapist is really going through a door that SW finally opened into her past, etc.

[slenderfish]

The therapist reiterated the homework for SW. Literally told SW to find Pornhub online and browse to her heart's content.

I think I will finally be able to activate the iPad that I acquired over a year ago for SW. It's my thinking that she should keep it on her bedside table for convenience of browsing porn sites. Gonna do it today!

[Tryn]

Glad to see an update from ya! Looking forward to reading about what’s been discovered and how things are moving along!

[BallSpanking]

Good to hear from you, SF.
Look forward to your updates.

[Mr Mrs Cream]

The therapist reiterated the homework for SW. Literally told SW to find Pornhub online and browse to her heart's content.

I think I will finally be able to activate the iPad that I acquired over a year ago for SW. It's my thinking that she should keep it on her bedside table for convenience of browsing porn sites. Gonna do it today!

I’m thinking what kind about what kind of content can turn SW on.
Maybe an mainstream movie with erotic scenes.
In case of porn:
-women porn,
-lesbians with hot scenarios,
-taboo videos maybe with daddy scenario,
-gay porn which lots of women like,
-dominance

[slenderfish]

I’m thinking what kind about what kind of content can turn SW on.
Maybe an mainstream movie with erotic scenes.
In case of porn:
-women porn,
-lesbians with hot scenarios,
-taboo videos maybe with daddy scenario,
-gay porn which lots of women like,
-dominance

It will be fun to find out.

I think she will like girl-girl more than she knows. Just a hunch...

She did let out to the therapist that she really did get turned on by some of the bbc/hotwife videos we watched back when she was more into it. The ones she liked were those in which the wife really looked into it and the guy, as contrasted with the ones where she got the feeling the woman was only doing it as a request to please the husband, just going through the motions.

[Jujube]

The BBC angle is so hot! Have you two pillow-talked about it?

[Mr Mrs Cream]

I’m thinking what kind about what kind of content can turn SW on.
Maybe an mainstream movie with erotic scenes.
In case of porn:
-women porn,
-lesbians with hot scenarios,
-taboo videos maybe with daddy scenario,
-gay porn which lots of women like,
-dominance

It will be fun to find out.

I think she will like girl-girl more than she knows. Just a hunch...

She did let out to the therapist that she really did get turned on by some of the bbc/hotwife videos we watched back when she was more into it. The ones she liked were those in which the wife really looked into it and the guy, as contrasted with the ones where she got the feeling the woman was only doing it as a request to please the husband, just going through the motions.

Lets find out.
But I don't think she will let you hold your hand between her legs and check how wet she is going from each type of erotic/porn movie.

I think few of above mentioned type of sex is in the movie Crash (1996), so buttle of wine and let check what SW will tell you after it.

[slenderfish]

The BBC angle is so hot! Have you two pillow-talked about it?

She knows that's my biggest fantasy, and I overplayed it several years back.

To the point where she asked me to cease and desist. Which I did, hoping it may come back around through her request, if/when she is ready.

[GenerallySpeaking]

Xhamster has a section titled "Porn For Women" that has a great mixture of porn from about every genre.

[Mr Mrs Cream]

The BBC angle is so hot! Have you two pillow-talked about it?

She knows that's my biggest fantasy, and I overplayed it several years back.

To the point where she asked me to cease and desist. Which I did, hoping it may come back around through her request, if/when she is ready.

It make happen when you two (without friends) will go somehere.
How about going to swingers club just for watching?

I think you haven’t time to watch a erotic movies/porn with her to find out what kind is turning her on.
And if she is alone she will not reach out to you which one are more excited for her.