Wife shocks me with BBC...Ch.2.Admits to more

[BBCfan]

So I've been away for a few days on business, And she had been Messaging back and forth with him a little bit.

As I said she had sent me a couple screenshots and told me what they talked about but I haven't seen it.

When I got back first thing we did was go for dinner. I had been a little anxious being away from her and knowing they were talking a bit.

After sitting down at the table and ordering she handed me her phone and said I know you want to read this.

I read through their communication and she was initiateing all of the interactions. I saw her flirting with him, saying she missed her special friend, then sent him provocative emojis, telling him his cock was the biggest pussy stretcher she's ever had.

He was very surprised by her replies...He said he missed her, then she asked if he missed her naughty girl or nice girl side. He said both.

She saw that I was smiling as I read it over a few times then asked me to stand up in the restaurant.

She obviously knew I was hard and I said you know I can't over a shared laugh.

When we got back we had amazing intense sex, which she said was some of the best we've ever had, and then asked why haven't we been doing this for years?


I think at this point they are playing a bit of a cat and mouse, she wants to tease him but also wants him to pursue her as well.

Will be interesting to see if he takes the bait.

[Long Lurker 34]

So I've been away for a few days on business, And she had been Messaging back and forth with him a little bit.

As I said she had sent me a couple screenshots and told me what they talked about but I haven't seen it.

When I got back first thing we did was go for dinner. I had been a little anxious being away from her and knowing they were talking a bit.

After sitting down at the table and ordering she handed me her phone and said I know you want to read this.

I read through their communication and she was initiateing all of the interactions. I saw her flirting with him, saying she missed her special friend, then sent him provocative emojis, telling him his cock was the biggest pussy stretcher she's ever had.

He was very surprised by her replies...He said he missed her, then she asked if he missed her naughty girl or nice girl side. He said both.

She saw that I was smiling as I read it over a few times then asked me to stand up in the restaurant.

She obviously knew I was hard and I said you know I can't over a shared laugh.

When we got back we had amazing intense sex, which she said was some of the best we've ever had, and then asked why haven't we been doing this for years?


I think at this point they are playing a bit of a cat and mouse, she wants to tease him but also wants him to pursue her as well.

Will be interesting to see if he takes the bait.

BBCF - Well we already have!!

[BBCfan]

Will be interesting to see if he takes the bait.

BBCF - Well we already have!!

This thread has been helpful and somewhat cathartic.

I appreciate you being baited along with me!!
☺

[Long Lurker 34]

Will be interesting to see if he takes the bait.

BBCF - Well we already have!!

This thread has been helpful and somewhat cathartic.

I appreciate you being baited along with me!!
☺

BBCF - So when your wife goes out dressed up you know that's her fishing gear.

[Trickydicky69]

You could be in for quite a ride!
But your girl sounds like she’s very sensible and won’t let it get out of control once it happens.

[BBCfan]

You could be in for quite a ride!
But your girl sounds like she’s very sensible and won’t let it get out of control once it happens.

Thank you for the input!
I agree if/when it happens, I'm sure we BOTH will be in for an insane ride.
Her in a completely different way than me.

I appreciate that she does seem very sensible with it all.
Does take an immense amount of trust and honest communication which I believe we have.

[Trickydicky69]

Still having those sexy, teasing discussions?

[BBCfan]

Still having those sexy, teasing discussions?

Last few weeks not as much. We both been busy with life, her more than I.

I don't want to push things so trying to wait till she has news or brings it up. I don't believe she has had a chance to talk to him in more detail.
I think he believed she was just teasing him, as he knows she's in a relationship. Next time they talk she has said she'll bring up the hall pass thing and see how he responds.

I think the last time we talked was a couple weeks ago and I think I banged her 3 times in one day cause she was teasing me about it. Telling me to get her ready for his huge dick.

I am missing it greatly though

[Trickydicky69]

Probably wise to play it slowly or she might just think you’re obsessed with cuckold porn and couldn’t really handle it..
But stay cool and consistent and it’ll probably happen

[BBCfan]

Probably wise to play it slowly or she might just think you’re obsessed with cuckold porn and couldn’t really handle it..
But stay cool and consistent and it’ll probably happen

Sage advice, thanks.

Well...I do enjoy hotwife/cuckold porn but playtime with her is way hotter.

Not sure how I will handle it if it happens though.

[Trickydicky69]

Have you thought about how to handle it? Obviously, reading this forum helps a lot- some can’t handle it and some love it!
I think you need to discuss a game plan with her and stick to it. A lot get caught up in the thrill and go too far too quickly.
In your case, maybe say it’s a one off. If after reflection, at least a few weeks, then a second could be arranged. But I think the most sage advice on this is essentially, both of you have a veto which Must be adhered to. If either party is uncomfortable then it’s a timeout. No argument. No guilt tripping.
If not, you lose trust

[BBCfan]

Have you thought about how to handle it? Obviously, reading this forum helps a lot- some can’t handle it and some love it!
I think you need to discuss a game plan with her and stick to it. A lot get caught up in the thrill and go too far too quickly.
In your case, maybe say it’s a one off. If after reflection, at least a few weeks, then a second could be arranged. But I think the most sage advice on this is essentially, both of you have a veto which Must be adhered to. If either party is uncomfortable then it’s a timeout. No argument. No guilt tripping.
If not, you lose trust

Thanks for your insights.
We kinda have a plan. Basically she is gonna feel it out with him and see how it goes. We have agreed either can veto anytime before or after.

He has contacted her a few times but she hasn't replied.
She is busy but also says she is feeling a little hesitant.  Wants to feel comfortable and feel a fun easy flow to it.

I think I had been putting to much pressure on the idea. Has to be on her terms which I fully agree with.

I have backed off quite a bit and for awhile was wondering if I should even show interest in her going forward with it. Maybe I won't like it.

But I realized I need a little kink like this in my life, so I definitely have recently shown my support and excitement for her pursuit of it when she's ready.

We has some super hot sex a couple days ago and she was asking if I was ready to have her stretched out by him again and would I be ok helping with getting her wet and ready for him beforehand. I did nothing but show love and encouragement for the idea.  She said I looked harder than she's ever seen me, I was so aroused by her talk.

She has a party she's going to next week that he's invited to. She invited me but I scheduled  client travel for that day so I won't be home till next morning.

That way if he goes she is free to interact without my presence potentially hindering her comfort level With him.

I'm still very unsure how much I'll enjoy it when it happens, but we both agree talking and fantasizing about it has ignited our passion and sex life to better than it's ever been.

I hope I have some more  exciting news to share soon!
Thanks again for your feedback.

[Trickydicky69]

The stars might be aligning for you!
Probably a good idea not to be around for that party - she may just want to sexy chat with him, without an audience waiting to hear from the room next door! She’ll be more relaxed.
Don’t expect anything else to happen that night, she might want to test the waters with him and see what your reaction is. She may well just kiss him to see if she has a spark for him still and tell you that. See if you can handle that….
But it’s possible the desire will overtake her and given the opportunity and your previous encouragement, it might happen.
So be prepared.
If you can’t handle it afterwards though, be honest and say so. Just don’t try to shift the blame- just admit it’s a hot fantasy but reality is too much but you hope she enjoyed it this one time but not again.
Your lady sounds sensible though and will understand that.

[BBCfan]

The stars might be aligning for you!
Probably a good idea not to be around for that party - she may just want to sexy chat with him, without an audience waiting to hear from the room next door! She’ll be more relaxed.
Don’t expect anything else to happen that night, she might want to test the waters with him and see what your reaction is. She may well just kiss him to see if she has a spark for him still and tell you that. See if you can handle that….
But it’s possible the desire will overtake her and given the opportunity and your previous encouragement, it might happen.
So be prepared.
If you can’t handle it afterwards though, be honest and say so. Just don’t try to shift the blame- just admit it’s a hot fantasy but reality is too much but you hope she enjoyed it this one time but not again.
Your lady sounds sensible though and will understand that.

It would be nice for the stars to align In that aspect.
Would truly like to find out if I can handle it And how exciting the reality would be for both of us.

I want to ask her if she's going to let him know that I'm not going and encourage him to go.
But that would be me trying to control things for her. I'm not going to even bring it up or say anything about it and let her say anything if there's anything to say.

I think i'd made it fairly clear that she doesn't have to ask for permission or tell me anything unless she's comfortable telling me.

It would be nice if I hear that he is going or that he is there as a tease, but I don't expect that nor do I think she would do that, She might be worried I would bother her about what's going on LOL.

I was thinking of saying something like, "if He doesn't keep you up all night, will you be able to pick me up at the airport next day?"

I think I'll refrain from saying anything though, as that is again suggesting my hopes for what unfolds

[Dream Weaver]

It would be nice for the stars to align In that aspect.
Would truly like to find out if I can handle it And how exciting the reality would be for both of us.

I want to ask her if she's going to let him know that I'm not going and encourage him to go.
But that would be me trying to control things for her. I'm not going to even bring it up or say anything about it and let her say anything if there's anything to say.

I get why you are worried about seeming too pushy. That is a very real thing.. but you can't clam up at the wrong moment. Obviously she knows, but I think you need to give her EXPLICIT permission about the situation because she may very well think you are pussing out and can't handle it, or worse, she does something and sort of hides it from you (my wife did this and didn't tell the truth for about 10 years.... major mixed feelings on that, I really wish she'd been honest because things could have been much different).

[BBCfan]

It would be nice for the stars to align In that aspect.
Would truly like to find out if I can handle it And how exciting the reality would be for both of us.

I want to ask her if she's going to let him know that I'm not going and encourage him to go.
But that would be me trying to control things for her. I'm not going to even bring it up or say anything about it and let her say anything if there's anything to say.

I get why you are worried about seeming too pushy. That is a very real thing.. but you can't clam up at the wrong moment. Obviously she knows, but I think you need to give her EXPLICIT permission about the situation because she may very well think you are pussing out and can't handle it, or worse, she does something and sort of hides it from you (my wife did this and didn't tell the truth for about 10 years.... major mixed feelings on that, I really wish she'd been honest because things could have been much different).

That's a very good point.
I know a few weeks ago she was going to call him and then thought she had to get an okay with me first and then didn't end up doing it. Kind of lost the spontaneity.

I took that time to remind her if she's inspired to do something I trust her judgment and have given her the okay, so please just go ahead without worrying about me.

I like your idea though, and perhaps just before the event I could say if he is there and anything unfolds just know that you have my full support and no need to fill me in on anything.

I would hope she would understand that by now but perhaps a idea for a loving reminder.

So in your situation were you and your wife able to move past it?
Must have been very difficult to hear that.

[Dream Weaver]

That's a very good point.
I know a few weeks ago she was going to call him and then thought she had to get an okay with me first and then didn't end up doing it. Kind of lost the spontaneity.

I took that time to remind her if she's inspired to do something I trust her judgment and have given her the okay, so please just go ahead without worrying about me.

I like your idea though, and perhaps just before the event I could say if he is there and anything unfolds just know that you have my full support and no need to fill me in on anything.

I would hope she would understand that by now but perhaps a idea for a loving reminder.

So in your situation were you and your wife able to move past it?
Must have been very difficult to hear that.

Exactly. Spontaneity is great, but it shouldn't be an overriding factor. It's like anything in life: You want a good job? Train for it. Sell yourself. You want a good meal? Go to the store. Buy the right ingredients. Use the right recipe. You want your wife to fuck another guy and tell you about it? Put in the legwork, and when the moment comes, try to get over the finish line.

And I'd be even more direct. I wouldn't say "If anything should happen.... or If you feel like..." Tell her. Hell, text her before you get on the plane. Be direct: Honey, I love you. It's hard for me to say live, so I wanted to text you. You and X, reach out to him again and say you hope he goes to the party. I want this. It's my fantasy. So if you want this, go for it, and let's have fun together.

I think your wife would understand and would have no reason to give you grief. If she does, then it's just not meant to be, IMO.

[BBCfan]

That's a very good point.
I know a few weeks ago she was going to call him and then thought she had to get an okay with me first and then didn't end up doing it. Kind of lost the spontaneity.

I took that time to remind her if she's inspired to do something I trust her judgment and have given her the okay, so please just go ahead without worrying about me.

I like your idea though, and perhaps just before the event I could say if he is there and anything unfolds just know that you have my full support and no need to fill me in on anything.

I would hope she would understand that by now but perhaps a idea for a loving reminder.

So in your situation were you and your wife able to move past it?
Must have been very difficult to hear that.

Exactly. Spontaneity is great, but it shouldn't be an overriding factor. It's like anything in life: You want a good job? Train for it. Sell yourself. You want a good meal? Go to the store. Buy the right ingredients. Use the right recipe. You want your wife to fuck another guy and tell you about it? Put in the legwork, and when the moment comes, try to get over the finish line.

And I'd be even more direct. I wouldn't say "If anything should happen.... or If you feel like..." Tell her. Hell, text her before you get on the plane. Be direct: Honey, I love you. It's hard for me to say live, so I wanted to text you. You and X, reach out to him again and say you hope he goes to the party. I want this. It's my fantasy. So if you want this, go for it, and let's have fun together.

I think your wife would understand and would have no reason to give you grief. If she does, then it's just not meant to be, IMO.

Ok...thanks.
I like how you approached it, direct and loving but clear in my desires.

I will take your advice on this.

[Dream Weaver]

Ok...thanks.
I like how you approached it, direct and loving but clear in my desires.

I will take your advice on this.

Edit - Just realized you asked me a question. LOL. I won't hijack it, but here's the gist. I told her since the first month I met her (she was 19, and I was 22... 29 years ago) that if she ever wanted to fuck anybody else, especially on a whim, to go for it. I was her first. By her late 20's, guys were very flirtatious with her, but she was picky, and long story short, she ended up giving a guy a handjob at a company hotel drinking/dancing event. Now, during this time she definitely fell for two guys hard, and for various reasons they turned her down. I knew about that, and she kept me in the loop. But she never told me about the handjob (and who knows what else, I kind of doubt he kept his hands off her. I found this out 10 years later, in our late 30's, when she DID finally bang a mutual friend. And then she turned it off again and frankly, our 20's and 30's and the social events and people related to that time are never coming back.

Enjoy it while you can.

[BBCfan]

Ok...thanks.
I like how you approached it, direct and loving but clear in my desires.

I will take your advice on this.

Edit - Just realized you asked me a question. LOL. I won't hijack it, but here's the gist. I told her since the first month I met her (she was 19, and I was 22... 29 years ago) that if she ever wanted to fuck anybody else, especially on a whim, to go for it. I was her first. By her late 20's, guys were very flirtatious with her, but she was picky, and long story short, she ended up giving a guy a handjob at a company hotel drinking/dancing event. Now, during this time she definitely fell for two guys hard, and for various reasons they turned her down. I knew about that, and she kept me in the loop. But she never told me about the handjob (and who knows what else, I kind of doubt he kept his hands off her. I found this out 10 years later, in our late 30's, when she DID finally bang a mutual friend. And then she turned it off again and frankly, our 20's and 30's and the social events and people related to that time are never coming back.

Enjoy it while you can.

Did you watch when she banged the friend?

We're not young, but a good reminder such opportunities don't often come around.

Your wife could still get back into it if the right opportunity arose perhaps?

Maybe she'll get adventurous when life slows down a bit.

[Dream Weaver]

Did you watch when she banged the friend?

We're not young, but a good reminder such opportunities don't often come around.

Your wife could still get back into it if the right opportunity arose perhaps?

Maybe she'll get adventurous when life slows down a bit.

Don't worry about me. I do have a very badly placed video (I had a camera hooked up to a VCR in the closet, that tells you where tech was then.... I knew they would be there, had to set it to long play, and pray for the best). Life is already slow and she's practically in grandma mode. If I didn't love her, I'd divorce.

[Trickydicky69]

Always difficult to know how pushy your permission needs to be. Usually best seen in hindsight!
Yes, sometimes you have to be explicit “if you want to fuck him this time, you have my permission to go for it and have some fun.”
But if you overdo it, she might think it’s an obsession that she shouldn’t be encouraging and go off the idea.
And yes, sometimes spontaneously react too. But you have, because you are choosing not to be there at the party.
I think you’re doing well- you’ve talked about it, set a few ground rules, not gone on about it too much, it’s enhanced your sex life already and you’ve given her an easy opportunity to take it to the next level at her own pace.

[BBCfan]

Always difficult to know how pushy your permission needs to be. Usually best seen in hindsight!
Yes, sometimes you have to be explicit “if you want to fuck him this time, you have my permission to go for it and have some fun.”
But if you overdo it, she might think it’s an obsession that she shouldn’t be encouraging and go off the idea.
And yes, sometimes spontaneously react too. But you have, because you are choosing not to be there at the party.
I think you’re doing well- you’ve talked about it, set a few ground rules, not gone on about it too much, it’s enhanced your sex life already and you’ve given her an easy opportunity to take it to the next level at her own pace.

Thanks for the positive encouragement.

I did send her a message of support and encouragement but also making sure too Focus on how great things have been and how much I love her regardless of the outcome and that she doesn't have to keep me in the loop at all If she's not comfortable with it.

I've noticed from other people sharing that at times the wife Isn't comfortable sharing with a partner initially for whatever reason based perhaps on old programming or beliefs.
I wanted her especially to feel free to move forward without having to worry about including me on any level If she isn't comfortable with that just yet.

She did reach out to him and although he won't be going to the event, the fact she initiated contact suggests it could continue.

She also shared yesterday she had a dream about him and us interacting sexually.
She didn't share any details but the fact that it happened seems to suggests she is considering it on some level and becoming more comfortable and aroused with the idea.

From this point forward I will allow her to bring it up and not mention it otherwise. Give her the space and time needed for things to unfold comfortably for her if it happens, without any pressure from me whatsoever.

[funfortwo]

Always difficult to know how pushy your permission needs to be. Usually best seen in hindsight!
Yes, sometimes you have to be explicit “if you want to fuck him this time, you have my permission to go for it and have some fun.”
But if you overdo it, she might think it’s an obsession that she shouldn’t be encouraging and go off the idea.
And yes, sometimes spontaneously react too. But you have, because you are choosing not to be there at the party.
I think you’re doing well- you’ve talked about it, set a few ground rules, not gone on about it too much, it’s enhanced your sex life already and you’ve given her an easy opportunity to take it to the next level at her own pace.

Thanks for the positive encouragement.

I did send her a message of support and encouragement but also making sure too Focus on how great things have been and how much I love her regardless of the outcome and that she doesn't have to keep me in the loop at all If she's not comfortable with it.

I've noticed from other people sharing that at times the wife Isn't comfortable sharing with a partner initially for whatever reason based perhaps on old programming or beliefs.
I wanted her especially to feel free to move forward without having to worry about including me on any level If she isn't comfortable with that just yet.

She did reach out to him and although he won't be going to the event, the fact she initiated contact suggests it could continue.

She also shared yesterday she had a dream about him and us interacting sexually.
She didn't share any details but the fact that it happened seems to suggests she is considering it on some level and becoming more comfortable and aroused with the idea.

From this point forward I will allow her to bring it up and not mention it otherwise. Give her the space and time needed for things to unfold comfortably for her if it happens, without any pressure from me whatsoever.

My wife has admitted that she would not be able to have sex with her BF with me present. For her, she believes that she wouldn't be able to relax and be herself because she would worry about me rather than focusing on the moment. She has asked me if I ever wanted it to happen, and honestly, I'm not sure. In some ways it would be exciting to watch it happen but, in another way, it would be somewhat awkward. It's really our journey, but she is the person in control of it because it's primarily about her. We've had a few moments when I get to the hotel when he leaves, and she is unsure how to act. We've tended to talk about the entire date, from beginning to end, and finish with the sexual portions last. We've talked about it, and she is so concerned about how I will react and have now decided to go right to the sexual discussion, reclaim her and head to dinner to discuss the date and the deeper discussions about feelings or whatnot. I have received a few videos from her and encourage her to take more of them to help me visualize her experience. She has been a bit reluctant to take them for discretion and wondering how her BF would feel/react. I have assured her that he would eagerly participate in videos if his face isn't showing and they're on her phone. Right now, that's the plan but we take it day to day without worrying about the future plans too much.

[BBCfan]

My wife has admitted that she would not be able to have sex with her BF with me present. For her, she believes that she wouldn't be able to relax and be herself because she would worry about me rather than focusing on the moment. She has asked me if I ever wanted it to happen, and honestly, I'm not sure. In some ways it would be exciting to watch it happen but, in another way, it would be somewhat awkward. It's really our journey, but she is the person in control of it because it's primarily about her. We've had a few moments when I get to the hotel when he leaves, and she is unsure how to act. We've tended to talk about the entire date, from beginning to end, and finish with the sexual portions last. We've talked about it, and she is so concerned about how I will react and have now decided to go right to the sexual discussion, reclaim her and head to dinner to discuss the date and the deeper discussions about feelings or whatnot. I have received a few videos from her and encourage her to take more of them to help me visualize her experience. She has been a bit reluctant to take them for discretion and wondering how her BF would feel/react. I have assured her that he would eagerly participate in videos if his face isn't showing and they're on her phone. Right now, that's the plan but we take it day to day without worrying about the future plans too much.

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Thanks for sharing and extremely well put. I agree with you sentiment.
I could definitely see that scenario unfolding for us as well. Love the idea of reclaiming then discussing more after.

She likes to have me part of it when we talk in fantasy and I like the idea of being there, but in reality I imagine all of us would be more comfortable with just her and him having their time alone.

I do think part of her being unsure is probably because she knows that is the likely scenario and I wouldn't be involved and she's probably worried I won't enjoy that.

I've tried to remind her that it's best she do it alone, especially initially... But my guess is if it does happen that's how it will continue as well, if it continues.

I think I would definitely be okay with that as long as there is lots of talking about it and hopefully getting videos as well.

I think at some point I will stress this a bit more If and when the timing's right.