I think a lot of people will tell you that non-monogamy won't fix a troubled relationship -- it's more likely to break it apart. (just like having kids)
For those of us with strong marriages, hotwifing seems to bring us closer together, rev up the passion and joy, and the mutual appreciation.
But maybe that's not what you're after. Is it correct that you would like to have some fun and romance, ethically, and for your marriage to survive it? Would you also allow your husband to play with others?
You might start by pondering whether your husband seems like a jealous, possessive sort. Or is he more relaxed? OK with you having male friends, going out alone or with friends, flirting, etc? A sharing kink actually seems exceedingly common amongst men - is it possible that's your husband? And he simply hasn't realized it or talked to you about it? Since you're asking here, you must think the latter type is more like him, and that he's persuadable. Of course, offering your husband his own "hall pass" might help to persuade him if he's reticent, and you'd be OK with it.
One thing that we seem to see in our new hotwives is a revived focus on looking good and feeling sexy, which in turn only makes us husbands desire you even more. Maybe that's a good place to start, until you're ready to have "the talk" with him? See how he reacts to you dressing up, doing a little bit of light flirting, etc? (Maybe he seems annoyed at first, but then wants to take you home and 'reclaim' you! If so, bingo!)
Finally, you'll find lots of men here who can help explain the husband's experience, but we also have a decent community of ladies here who can probably give you better advice about husband-wrangling
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Hope this helps a bit!