Girlfriends first date

[thinman]

Very intense! Thank you. Looking forward to the next part.

[DeAd so7]

Very intense! Thank you. Looking forward to the next part.

Hey, I'm glad to hear. Hopefully I'll have the will finally to write out the next part later this evening when I get home from the gym. So, nevertheless. Until then, if you or anybody else has any questions for me. Shoot!

[winnyred]

Does she ever blow him? If so, does she swallow?

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum winnyred.

[nutjob]

Hey, I'm glad to hear. Hopefully I'll have the will finally to write out the next part later this evening when I get home from the gym. So, nevertheless. Until then, if you or anybody else has any questions for me. Shoot!

How much time do you spend thinking about your girlfriend being with James? Like, do you think about it every, single, day, multiple times? Do you look at her and just think, "Man, she's fucking another dude"? Or is it sort of a background and/or intermittent thing, where some days you don't think about it once and then other days, it's the primary thing?

How does your girlfriend see this? I mean, she's spending time with James both in and out of the bedroom, but is she just viewing this as a friends-with-benefits arrangement, or do you think she has feelings for James? If so, how is she managing them vis-a-vis you?

How are you doing, emotionally and mentally? Are you in a good place overall with this situation?

What do you think has been the biggest revelation about yourself that you've uncovered so far in this journey? What do you think your girlfriend's answer to that same question would be? Do you feel like there's anything holding you back at this point, and if so, do you know what it is?

Lastly, does your girlfriend know that you post here? If not, do you think she'd be upset that you're sharing the details?

[thinman]

I’m also interested in a bit of the back story. I don’t recall you mentioning this earlier in this thread. Was this your idea initially, or hers? Did it take a long time to reach the decision to have her be with another man? How did you find James? As I read your postings, he does seem respectful of your relationship with Alex. Do you feel that he respects you and your relationship with Alex? Does he see other women? Thanks very much for your updates!

[DeAd so7]

I’m also interested in a bit of the back story. I don’t recall you mentioning this earlier in this thread. Was this your idea initially, or hers? Did it take a long time to reach the decision to have her be with another man? How did you find James? As I read your postings, he does seem respectful of your relationship with Alex. Do you feel that he respects you and your relationship with Alex? Does he see other women? Thanks very much for your updates!

Hi, let me go ahead and get to answering some of the questions you have. As for the others like was it initially my idea or hers, and how long it took to reach our decision to do this. I am not going to answer, I am sorry. Only because I've been asked this quite a few times at this point, and if I can recall one of the times somebody did ask me here on this posting, so. It should be around. Other than that, let me get around to answering your other questions. Yes, to be quite honest with you I do feel like James honors my boundaries, as well as Alex's when it comes to doing the whole thing with him with our relationship. Albeit I still won't lie, my own emotions do flare at times, haha. And I do end up going through bouts of nervousness and things like that nevertheless still. Even though I do very much trust James. And finally, does James see other women? Atm, no. For starters when we got to talking to him about doing this thing with him. We talked about how we do not foresee us doing this for a long term, and so. With that in mind. After verifying with him that he didn't have a girlfriend or anything, and as perhaps too pushy, and/or controlling our asking for this may come across to others. We asked if he would like to do this with us, that he does not see any other women, just to be on the safe side when it comes to sti's, std's, and things like that. After all, things like HPV and stuff like that seem to be rather common nowadays, so. We would like to avoid it as much as possible of course, haha. Sex can be fun. But having safe sex extends the fun even longer, you know? So, I hope that answers those questions for the most part. Again, sorry about the other questions, but at this point, I'm getting kind of annoyed answering the same questions over and over, albeit of course to no fault of your own, I'm just kind of like ay. Not again! Anyways, if you happen to have any other questions, shoot. And I'll try to answer them when I can.

[DeAd so7]

Does she ever blow him? If so, does she swallow?

There has been a time or two that she has told me that they've done that for fun. But, they like to be safe and wrap it up, so. No, she has not swallowed.

[DeAd so7]

Hey, I'm glad to hear. Hopefully I'll have the will finally to write out the next part later this evening when I get home from the gym. So, nevertheless. Until then, if you or anybody else has any questions for me. Shoot!

How much time do you spend thinking about your girlfriend being with James? Like, do you think about it every, single, day, multiple times? Do you look at her and just think, "Man, she's fucking another dude"? Or is it sort of a background and/or intermittent thing, where some days you don't think about it once and then other days, it's the primary thing?

How does your girlfriend see this? I mean, she's spending time with James both in and out of the bedroom, but is she just viewing this as a friends-with-benefits arrangement, or do you think she has feelings for James? If so, how is she managing them vis-a-vis you?

How are you doing, emotionally and mentally? Are you in a good place overall with this situation?

What do you think has been the biggest revelation about yourself that you've uncovered so far in this journey? What do you think your girlfriend's answer to that same question would be? Do you feel like there's anything holding you back at this point, and if so, do you know what it is?

Lastly, does your girlfriend know that you post here? If not, do you think she'd be upset that you're sharing the details?

Kind of a rather intermittent thing, you know? After all, can't really be thinking about that stuff too much while working or worrying about bills or whatever, haha. But, on the off times that I do, yes. I do kind of have days where I obsess about it. As for your second question, I'm just not comfortable answering it here. Because I'd want to go on and talk about some other things to do with our relationship, and I am just not comfortable discussing it here. I am sorry. As for your third question, for a number of months while getting into this kind of "situation" with me and my girlfriend, I did have days where I would not be in a rather good place. I wasn't thinking of anything like suicide or anything like that just to clear the air on that. And forgive me for bringing up such a sensitive topic, but. I did go through a few rather obsessive kind of depressive episodes on my part. Just some nights that made it hard to think or do anything but just think of the woman I love having sex with another man, and just as I said kind of obsess over it. Some people on here were very kind as to recommend me things that they did to kind of help alleviate their own kind of anxiety they would have when they went through this whole thing also. But, to get on with answering your question. For the most part, things have rather stabilized. And I haven't really had many episodes like the one I talked about for quite a bit now, albeit I did have one rather recently. But, that was me kind of being obsessive that night, rather than a bit depressive and anxiety ridden I guess? And so, yeah. Right now. I am in a good place. My biggest revelation, and I have a couple threads talking about this, is definitely the need to vent about the stuff happening to me currently, either irl stuff to do with this life style. And/or just even fantasy stuff to do with it, when things get cooking with this. When my girlfriend is laying on her back kissing him, or touching him, or even just having sex with him, I feel I NEED to vent about it, both the irl stuff. And again as I said kind of my fantasy stuff. Because, if I don't. I know I'm just going to be obsessing over it. Albeit of course, life gets in the way at times, and even then. Sometimes, like sharing what's going on with us with this life style, i.e. lifestyle stuff and sharing about it. Sometimes I kind of don't want to share about it, it could be simple like I'm just tired, or it could be complex, like it is tied to some sensitive topics that I am just not comfortable sharing except for a select few MAYBE. But even then, it depends. Now, let me move on to your other questions. What my girlfriends revelation for this lifestyle would be? Personally, I feel like her revelation would definitely be like how different this relationship is I guess compared to her friends, haha. For starters, she seems to be getting everything she has wanted at least sexually from James, plus a bit more. And just to clarify of course, just a bit more that doesn't put our relationship or anything in jeporady. For starters, I've discussed a few times my girlfriend and James having a hang out day on Tuesdays where they go to the gym and stuff. And tbh, yes. We've worried about people we know seeing them, but, as I've said. James has been great in being a part of our relationship and not pushing boundaries, that me and her are both comfortable with people seeing them in public, because of the fact that he knows not to try anything in public. After all, this isn't a porno, and another thing, my girlfriend deserves respect and to be treated like a human being above all else, and he seems to understand that. So, again. To get back to what I'm getting at with this to your question, I think my girlfriends revelation would definitely be how much of a kind of mind fuck and/or twist this relationship is, where one day by all accounts and measures people could say she is cheating on me, and the next her and that guy are acting like platonic friends. And so, I think that's awesome. Now, let me move on. Do I feel like anything is holding me back? Personally, I kind of feel like the only things holding me back at least when it comes to this lifestyle with my girlfriend is just what holds everyone back, life in general. Work, sleep, bills, etc. Those are the only things holding me back from exploring this life style more with my girlfriend I feel, at least if I am getting your question answered correctly. Finally, to answer your question, no. My girlfriend doesn't know I post on here. And tbh, I don't plan on telling her. I kind of treat this space as a sort of venting spot for me as a journal if you will. And tbh, I am just not comfortable sharing that place with her. Now, would she be angry I'm sharing here? You're asking. I feel like, no she wouldn't. Only for the most part that, sure I am talking about our life and what she's doing, but. I am NOT sharing any sensitive information about us, hell, not even our real names. If anything though, I feel like the only point of contention would be the pictures I've taken of our texts together between me and her when we first started. Albeit I edited everything, hell. Even the time displayed, I have been regretting rather sharing it a bit. Because I do feel it is a bit of a breach of our trust. Now, I could go on and on. But, I've gone on long enough with these questions. If you happen to have anymore, shoot. But other than that, I hope I answered them all, and I hope you have a nice day.

[DeAd so7]

Hello there everyone, for starters I'll finally be updating this thread this evening on everything else that happened that night. Tbh, I wanted to take a bit of a break off this thread, and with everything else going on. I won't lie I also kind of forgot to update this thread on what's going on finally. I'll be pretty much copy and pasting from a prior convo I was having with somebody on here what was going on, and just tweaking it a bit to make sure there's nothing too sensitive on there. Other than that in the meantime if anybody has any questions, lmk. And I'll try to get back to ya'll when I can.

[DeAd so7]

Alrighty, here is the update finally. I almost forgot to do it before I knocked out, in the meantime if anybody has any questions, shoot. And I'll try to get back to any soon.



So, let me continue because fuck man. There are quite a few other things to talk about. Firstly, how slow everything felt. Seeing Alex just gasp looking at him, and him at her was fucking hair raising. The woman I love just there having sex, hell maybe even making love with James in all consideration was just such a mind fuck man. I think I remember tearing up a bit just looking at them, and thankfully they didn't notice me, because I definitely didn't want them to stop. After that came the kissing, and fuck man. The sounds. Their little pecks and smacks, pecks and smacks as he's slowly transforming my girlfriend in front of me into a sexual being, one that he has her heart and full attention. Not mine, and fuck. I only say that because yeah. I don't remember Alex nor James really acknowledging me much if not at all for that first fuck. They were really devouring each other man. And I literally cannot help but feel my hands fucking shake just thinking about it. Haha. Anyways, yeah. This continues on for a bit, I think about 7 minutes? Maybe 10? But fuuuuck. I just remembered, seeing the death grip he had on her while pumping inside of her with the condom on was crazy. And fuck. Maybe this might be my fantasy speaking, or perhaps my instincts, haha. But, seeing how much he pumped "inside" of Alex, so aggressively. I cannot help but think he was following his animal instincts and wanting to knock her up.

Well. After that, James spent the night. After him and my girlfriend had their "explosive" finish. She went to take a shower, and James got dressed. Waiting for his turn to shower. Ahead of time we made sure to leave waters for both Alex herself, and James after. And so, we kept to our own devices there for about 30 minutes maybe 40 something I want to say? This time, Alex and James didn't decide to continue the fun. Haha, but again. We had him stay around, and we ordered some pizza and watched some movies. James and Alex didn't do much of anything sexual for the rest of that night, except James seeing if she wanted to continue. But, Alex was settled in apparently. So, no more during that night. Haha. The next morning however, James and my girlfriend woke up still kind of hungry even after dinner last night, so we ate first. And afterwards, James asked her if she wanted to "continue" again in the shower this time. And she agreed. And fuck, just hearing the moans through the walls every now and again man, plus the much more now prevalent smacking I'm assuming from them really going at it again, was crazy. But, sex in the shower in the morning definitely didn't seem like a good combo because they got out in like 10 minutes both very tired. So, me and Alex went to our room and we told James we were going to nap for a bit, and James said he would take off. And that was how that morning went.

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the update DA. Love the way you poured out emotions seeing Alex getting fucked by James. Any plans for further hook ups with James? Id she is on bc and they are both tested then James going bare into her perhaps?

[DeAd so7]

Thanks for the update DA. Love the way you poured out emotions seeing Alex getting fucked by James. Any plans for further hook ups with James? Id she is on bc and they are both tested then James going bare into her perhaps?

Hi. For starters, I'm glad to hear that you've enjoyed my discussions of our adventures. As for any future plans? Not any set in stone atm, no. There's something I want to bring up with Alex either today when she gets back from the gym or later this week, and we'll see what happens after I discuss it with her, and we possibly discuss it with James. Yes, she is on bc. And we like to play it rather safe, so no. There is no plans for them to go bare that we've all discussed, haha. But of course, as I said we do like to keep safe. So we do test somewhat often.

[thinman]

Hope all is well there. I’m always looking forward to your posts!

[DeAd so7]

Hope all is well there. I’m always looking forward to your posts!

Hey! Yeah everything is good for the most part. Sorry if you're expecting something though. Nothing has happened really since I last saw them together. And tbh, there isn't any planning for them to meet again atm or anything. But, I'll keep ya'll updated when something comes up.

[DeAd so7]

Hello there everyone, just thought I'd give an update that Alex is going to James's this evening. If anybody has any questions. Shoot, and I'll get back to them when I can.

[venus-can99]

Hope all of you are having fun with this. Is she going alone to spend the night/weekend?

[DeAd so7]

Hope all of you are having fun with this. Is she going alone to spend the night/weekend?

Just the night. But yes. Most likely she will be. But, they've also been going to the gym also recently on Saturdays. So Alex told me there might also be a chance she'll just come home after that if she's too tired after all. She just left for the gym. So, if you or anybody else has any other questions. Shoot, and I'll try to get back to them when I can.

[DeAd so7]

OK. She said for sure she's going to his.

[DeAd so7]

Alright. They had a fun time last night, and she'll be coming back home here soon in a few hours to talk about some of the more intimate details. In the meantime for now, I just want to vent and say from the bit that we played together over the phone while she was with James, it has been very, VERY hot. And I definitely cannot wait for her to be here.

[venus-can99]

Sounds great DA so. Look forward to hearing the details after she is back.

[DeAd so7]

Sounds great DA so. Look forward to hearing the details after she is back.

Hey. Just to let you and the others know. She isn't coming back tonight after all. But, I'll most likely post an update tomorrow when I get the more juicier details when I talk to her tomorrow evening in person instead.

[nutjob]

She isn't coming back tonight after all.

Sounds like she is having a great time! Was that OK with you, or would you have preferred her to come home?

[DeAd so7]

She isn't coming back tonight after all.

Sounds like she is having a great time! Was that OK with you, or would you have preferred her to come home?

It's OK for me. But, I can't lie and say that I didn't want to cuddle up with her when she got back. I'll be talking with her about it if she's in the mood here soon. So, if you or anybody else has any other questions, shoot. And I'll try to answer them here later this evening if I can.

[nutjob]

It's OK for me. But, I can't lie and say that I didn't want to cuddle up with her when she got back. I'll be talking with her about it if she's in the mood here soon. So, if you or anybody else has any other questions, shoot. And I'll try to answer them here later this evening if I can.

I hope she’s back in your arms by now, and you two had a wonderful “reunion”!

When she’s visiting James on her own, how often does she communicate with you? As in, when she’s with him, is she focused on _him_, or does she keep you in the loop as to what’s going on with them? (Not just sexually, but in general.)