Wannabees want to know: whats it like having a hotwife?

[Surrey]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Is it something that was buikt up and turned out to be no big deal?
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Any regrets?

Wannabees want to know the answer to these.
Please share.

[leggysman]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Is it something that was buikt up and turned out to be no big deal?

Even though reality is never exactly the same as pure fantasy, it's wonderful, it's intense, and not at all overrated.

Your spouse having sex with other people - if you love and desire them, it's difficult to imagine it as truly being "no big deal"

Even as things progress from the heart-stopping first time to something that feels more like a new normal, and the edge comes off a bit (both the good and not-quite-as-you-wished parts) it remains very exciting.

Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Any regrets?

Totally happy. No regrets other than wishing she'd started a bit sooner, before kids came along! She's been taking a break for a little while, but I'm really looking forward to getting back into business. Soon I hope! Things are progressing.

[Shadnaster]

Hmm, it's exciting, naughty, frustrating at times, hard to put into words.

I end up seeing my beautiful wife ... mother to my kids, in a whole new light. More sexual. A deeper sexuality than before. A naughtiness that is our little secret that nobody would suspect.

[SilverStag]

We have been doing this a while and sometimes we get into a rut, so I ask her if she wants to stop. She always says "No, I want to see what else is out there".
We are very happy to be in this adventure together.
I(Hubby) love it when she comes home from a date and is glowing and grinning. The fact that she has had an enjoyable adventure is priceless. She not only feels sexier but is happy with herself and that translates to greater confidence and self-esteem. Happy wife, happy life.

[zorro]

We have had many good times and some intensely erotic times, depending on the guy. It's 14 years this year, and I hope it never ends.
No regrets.
It is not overrated. It is a good way to live.

[DonVito4u]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Is it something that was buikt up and turned out to be no big deal?
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Any regrets?

Wannabees want to know the answer to these.
Please share.

One year into the Hotwife lifestyle. Married over 20 years, solid love, trust and communication. We are best friends and lovers. Not into cuckold humiliation, Strictly enjoy watching her have fun with her partners with occasional join in. She's been with 5 different men.
Here's my opinion.

YES. Having a Hotwife is EVERYTHING it's cracked up to be. It's ruined porn for me since I now have my very own porn star. Our sex has sky rocketed, and wife libido is in full swing. Constant sex talk and not just regular sex talk. The good nasty kind; cum filled pussy, sucking five cocks, breeding belly, creampie cleanups, cumslut, fuckhole. solo fuck sessions. So much great sex talk. Wife's confidence has grown, wearing sexier things. Her pussy has physically changed since her last two lovers were big. Pussy is always wet, swollen and squirts every time we have sex. She fucks deep.
Emotionally I appreciate, love and desire her more. She keeps telling me how lucky she is. And our reclaiming after care is a priority. I constantly give her words of affirmation about our love, marriage, feelings, and the lifestyle.

CONS: birth control; she's on the pill. STDs, she's fucked raw a couple times in the heat of passion, so far tests are clean.. hot during the sex, stressful days weeks months after. Her religious morals and upbringing getting in the way of her letting go.

Biggest CON: the amount of work and time spent finding quality men. She has a specific type. But A lot of flakes. Hard to find both physical and emotional chemistry connection. A lot of weeding through messages and chatting. But when u hit gold.. watch out!

Biggest surprise: she needs an emotional connection to really enjoy her self. This threw me for a loop for a minute. Scary to think my wife connecting on a friends level, with possible like/love energy. I've stayed confident in our relationship and demonstrate an alpha male energy of solid security and foundation which she loves to feel from me. Her daddy.

2nd Biggest Surprise: the cost $$.. hotels, bars, outfits, clubs, nails.... it's and expensive hobby.

ZERO REGRETS From both of us. Everything it's built up to be!!!! Go for it!!

[Farmgirl]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Is it something that was buikt up and turned out to be no big deal?
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Any regrets?

Wannabees want to know the answer to these.
Please share.

I'm going to answer how it is being a Hotwife .
It's better than could be imagined.
It's for sure not overrated! I have my cake and eat it too!
It's better than originally contemplated or fantasized about!
Absolutely!!
Regrets, you have to be kidding .

[D+D]

It is everything you hear and more! 11years in and our only regret is not starting years before we did. It takes three things to be successful: a solid marriage full of trust and love, a husband who is secure with his himself and his marriage, and a wife with an insatiable appetite for men and sex. All of that and it is totally awesome. My wife is happy, more confident and successful, more beautiful, and more fun.

[Sissy triple D]

This is a revelation for both of us, very intense and something we still learn something from every time. We have been doing this for several years now and with every lover it is still an adjustment every time. This is something that makes us stronger as a couple. For myself, I dare say that I am proud to be Lady M's cuck. You cannot regret something so beautiful to be allowed and able to experience. It is a roller coaster much up and down but real emotion, desire, hope, disappointment, jealousy, pride, lust,.... I want nothing more than to see my hotwife happy.

[BrunetteLover]

I am proud to be Lady M's cuck.

You Keep Using That Word, I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means

A cuck is a husband who is being cheated on. Cheated on, as in everyone knows but hubby.

Or he knows, and is keeping the peace at home at the expense of humiliation within the community.

If you are proud of it, you are not a cuck.

[Abrandnewstart194]

It is fraught in so many ways. It is fraught with excitement, eroticism, and pleasure, and can really bring a couple closer together than you can imagine, but it’s can also be fraught with angst, self doubt, disappointment, and danger, and can challenge a couple’s commitment to each other.

It’s not all rainbows and lollipops. It takes a lot of work and commitment. It can be confusing for the cuckoldress, and agonizing for the cuck to whom his greatest pleasures are inextricably entwined with his greatest pains.

Not for the faint of heart.

[Surrey]

It is fraught in so many ways. It is fraught with excitement, eroticism, and pleasure, and can really bring a couple closer together than you can imagine, but it’s can also be fraught with angst, self doubt, disappointment, and danger, and can challenge a couple’s commitment to each other.

It’s not all rainbows and lollipops. It takes a lot of work and commitment. It can be confusing for the cuckoldress, and agonizing for the cuck to whom his greatest pleasures are inextricably entwined with his greatest pains.

Not for the faint of heart.

I appreciate your balanced take. Could you please share more about the potential negatives.

[Abrandnewstart194]

There are tremendous opportunities for hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and for the lifestyle you planned and agreed upon to morph into something completely different without consent to it by both partners. It can take on a life of its own.

Hotwives may settle on a Bull that her cuck despises. Also, fucking the same Bull repeatedly will eventually catch feelings, cucks can easily be excluded.

Cuck pleasures are so intertwined with pain that it can be difficult for him to understand when he’s being hurt, and when he’s being gratified until after the fact. That means it’s next to impossible for his Queen to be sure where the line lies, and will inevitably cross it accidentally (or intentionally).

It can be a lot of fun, but both Queen and cuck have to be completely honest and forthright at all times, and willing to raise a red flag when something doesn’t feel right. They have to be willing to stop on a dime and discuss their feelings freely, without judgement, and really LISTEN to each other. If not, resentments will inevitably arise, and that’s poison to any relationship. Finally, Queen and cuck must each keep the other at the center of their worlds. That means complete inclusion, trust, and willingness to forgive when we slip up.

[unclecuck]

You will only get positive answers.
Those that ended up with a disaster or ended up not liking it, are not here.
Just make sure that you want it and able to handle it. Once she get fucked, you can't unfuck her.

Furthermore, this lifestyle needs 100% honesty and communication. You need to know your wife better than she knows herself.

Good luck.

[bewareoflizzy]

Hmm, it's exciting, naughty, frustrating at times, hard to put into words.

I end up seeing my beautiful wife ... mother to my kids, in a whole new light. More sexual. A deeper sexuality than before. A naughtiness that is our little secret that nobody would suspect.

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I had the same experience as a 35 year old husband to a hot wife with strong desires. We conspired and she pursued a younger guy she worked with. It didn't take long for things to develop and soon she was coming home with stories that beguiled.

[leo-cpl]

Very good thread....will try and answer the questions below

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Yes! It's something not for everyone though, although many husbands would want it, few lucky ones who have a plan and adventurous wives experience it
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Neither, if the couple have a strong foundation, good communication and are truthful about their feelings, likes dislikes couples can make it work and enjoy the lifestyle
Is it something that was buikt up and turned out to be no big deal?
Its a big deal !!!! very big deal in fact some cultures people are open about it and its very normal, from where we come its all very discreet!
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Yeah, I would say so....no regrets, but def tested our communication and feelings at times, its all part of the learning process.
Any regrets?

Wannabees want to know the answer to these.
Please share.

[bbarnsworth]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Is it something that was buikt up and turned out to be no big deal?
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Any regrets?

Wannabees want to know the answer to these.
Please share.

It's hard to judge if it's everything it's cracked up to be or over/under rated. It's a very subjective question. For some couples, it certainly is. For some, not so much. In our case, it's been absolutely wonderful.

Did it turn out to be no big deal? Hell no! Ok, at first, yeah. The first couple of times, while not bad, were not all that great. The third time, my wife just couldn't have enough sex with the guy. They went at it literally for hours, with my wife making delightful sounds and having multiple orgasms. It was the experience with this guy that sealed the deal, so to speak. A couple of even better lovers came along later, but it was this guy that made it all worthwhile, and absolutely a big deal.

Yes, we are very happy we went on this journey. We're going on 16 years doing this now, and we have no regrets. There's been a couple of minor bumps along the way; a few flakes and ghosts. But, overall I'd give it an A to an A+.

You asked about potential negatives. There are certainly a number of them:

• STDs are a real possibility, and can't be ignored. Condoms help to reduce the chances, but don't eliminate risk. There are some STDs that can be transmitted even with a condom in use.
• Pregnancy is a potential issue. Assuming all reproductive organs in both the man and woman are intact, the only 100% sure way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. Even having tubes tied or a vasectomy can possibly still result in a pregnancy. Very small risk, sure, but it's there. There's many things you can do to make the chance of getting pregnant be less than 1 in 10,000.
• Hotwifing can act as a magnifying glass on problems in a relationship. It can really cause such problems to rapidly be brought to the fore, and cause disruption in the relationship.
• Jealousy, even if expected, can cause problems.
• Some guys think they would enjoy watching their wives being fucked by another man, but then find out that the reality isn't what they thought it would be. Of course, conversely, some guys think they wouldn't get much from it but find out they are incredibly turned on by their wives fucking another man. Some things you can't know without doing.
• It is possible the wife might decide, after having sex with other men, that she's not really all that into her husband. Rare, but it can happen. I did see it happen once.

Many of these potential negatives can be addressed and mitigated by having absolutely honest and completely open communication before getting into hotwifing. It can be difficult to achieve real, true close communication. It's worth the effort even if you never hotwife.

There's also plenty of potential positives:

• You could get to watch your wife having sex with another man. For some men (me included) this is highly erotic and a real, true pleasure to witness.
• You could get to have sex with your wife right after she's had sex with another man. This is an incredible feeling, and even more so if he's cum inside her before you.
• Your wife can have the time of her life, getting to have sex with a variety of men.
• Your wife can feel happier, more fulfilled, more complete, more wanted, more desired.
• Your sex life can be dramatically improved by the eroticism of it all.
• You can potentially learn more about what makes your wife sexually tick. This can improve your own bedroom experiences together.
• It can be a real enjoyment to watch your wife get ready for a solo date, knowing she's soon heading out the door to have sex with another man. The first time, it can be a bit terrifying (been there). After that, it can be a bit enthralling to help her get ready.
• Your wife can get to experience the thrill of having sex with two men at once; DP (one vagina, one anal), DVP (both vagina), or spit roast (one vagina, one mouth). The latter is my wife's favorite.

Hope this helps!

[SammySigns]

It's been wonderful. I have almost euphoric feelings sometimes.

[Abrandnewstart194]

I careen between wanting to thank my Queen for making me her cuck, begging her to promise me that she’ll always cuck me often with many Bulls or begging her never to cuck me again.

The most difficult is when I’m feeling both ways at the same time.

[Surrey]

Was there 1 step or one right of passage that led to your woman being a hotwife?
Im thinking a mmf experience could be a gateway as she will be more willing to do that, than go solo by herself.

[54321]

I careen between wanting to thank my Queen for making me her cuck, begging her to promise me that she’ll always cuck me often with many Bulls or begging her never to cuck me again.

The most difficult is when I’m feeling both ways at the same time.

Bless your dear heart! I can only imagine!

54321

[Sissy triple D]

I am proud to be Lady M's cuck.

You Keep Using That Word, I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means

A cuck is a husband who is being cheated on. Cheated on, as in everyone knows but hubby.

Or he knows, and is keeping the peace at home at the expense of humiliation within the community.

If you are proud of it, you are not a cuck.

In my opinion, someone who is cheated on by his wife without his knowledge , is not a cuck. Then I think you better have a good talk with your wife and try to get your life back on track. A cuck accepts the fact that his wife has lovers. This acceptance only comes about because all 2 of us want to experience it, each from his point of view. For me as a cuck, I get my excitement from the emotions that arise from this, being jealousy, desire, disappointment, lust, submission and yes ..... PROUD. I am proud of Lady M because we can experience this, I am proud of M because she dares to let herself go like this with her lover K (I had the pleasure of experiencing this last evening and night), I am proud of M because she prefers her lover to me!!! Of course there is also the jealousy, why does she prefer K over me? With him(K) she wants to cuddle and make love and make love and make love.... While I am only allowed to clean up (submission) and sometimes sporadically make love to her(desire and lust) Most of the time I am allowed to make do with myself, if I am not in chastity. So in my humble opinion I may say I am a cuck, a cuck who is proud of his wife.
I really wanted to express my point of view as a real cuck.

[tiedyeHotwife]

[/quote]
I'm going to answer how it is being a Hotwife .
It's better than could be imagined.
It's for sure not overrated! I have my cake and eat it too!
It's better than originally contemplated or fantasized about!
Absolutely!!
Regrets, you have to be kidding .
[/quote]

This rings true for me. I'll add "wish I hadn't resisted for so long".

You will only get positive answers.
Those that ended up with a disaster or ended up not liking it, are not here.
Just make sure that you want it and able to handle it. Once she get fucked, you can't unfuck her.

Furthermore, this lifestyle needs 100% honesty and communication. You need to know your wife better than she knows herself.
Good luck.
[/quote

This is also totally accurate.

"Be careful what you wish for" is a phrase that stuck with us.

The key is that YOU and only YOU define and decide what it will be and how you want to play the game.
This forum is fun to read about how others play it but you are under no obligation to follow anyones lead on this.
What's RIGHT for YOU is what's right. Period.

[allways]

Having been a swinger before I married and then having a wife that could not handle seeing me with another woman
I realised it was all about making her happy. In the end I compromised and so did she.I remained faithfull and we found a happily married man than spins her wheels. She melts whenever he is around and the bonus is besides having a bigger phallus he is also a handyman and is more than happy to nail or screw anything that needs fixing and that results in him being able to bang away unil sated

[Shiphead]

Question for the guys. What was your sex life like before she decided she was interested in fucking other men and getting that NRE? Were you still getting BJ's regularly? Would she let you cum in her mouth? Would she let you bend her around like a pretzel in some crazy positions?
I bet it's when she actually wants that new cock in her that the candy store opens again.

It's like the old joke, "why was the bride smiling when she was walking down the aisle?"

Because she knew she had given her last blowjob.