Wannabees want to know: whats it like having a hotwife?

[Macster84]

Question for the guys. What was your sex life like before she decided she was interested in fucking other men and getting that NRE? Were you still getting BJ's regularly? Would she let you cum in her mouth? Would she let you bend her around like a pretzel in some crazy positions?
I bet it's when she actually wants that new cock in her that the candy store opens again.

It's like the old joke, "why was the bride smiling when she was walking down the aisle?"

Because she knew she had given her last blowjob.

Our sex life was good but occasional. Hotwifing ignited fires in both of us. Our sex was whatever we wanted it to be. It wasn't broken, just needed some excitement.

[Shiphead]

Mac84, I would think it also has something to do with age and possibly how long we have been in the current relationship or marriage. Thank you for the response.

[Shiphead]

I should have started this as a thread. Didn't mean to hijack this one.

[Macster84]

Mac84, I would think it also has something to do with age and possibly how long we have been in the current relationship or marriage. Thank you for the response.

Yes, we are celebrating 40 years together. I still chase her around the kitchen table

She still wakes up wanting sex. I have no complaints. Hotwifing was good for lots of reasons. She started to look after herself more. She dressed to be noticed, started wearing perfume and makeup. The fun part was she did this for herself and not because I asked. She liked that another man found her desirable. In fact she made the decision to get lasered as well. She told me if she was going to fuck other men she wanted to look nice for them.

So thoughtful of her.

[Shiphead]

M84,
First let me say "Right on". Sharing my boomer minute.
That is awesome that you still have a lot going on at home and use the LS as variety in your relationship.
You made an excellent point. We all feel better about ourselves when people outside our relationships find us attractive and/or hot and want to jump our bones. (I included myself in that statement even though it hasn't happened in a long time) We want to look our best again, some get in shape, we quit passing gas within earshot of each other, etc. We want to make ourselves put on a little NRE facade if possible. And finally to fuck them so good they can't wait to do it again and again. BTW, the more the merrier. Make a list and have them take a number.

[BT2]

We can answer in the positive to your points 1 and 4. It is everything it was cracked up to be, and we're glad we pursued it.

But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.

Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.

Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.

[Macster84]

We can answer in the positive to your points 1 and 4. It is everything it was cracked up to be, and we're glad we pursued it.

But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.

Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.

Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.

BT2

Everything you said resonates with us. Suze was fortunate as was I that the guy she hooked up with took excellent care of her. He asked her what she wanted and even how she wanted it. They had diner twice beforehand and both got to know one another. We consider ourselves fortunate in our choice and understand it doesn’t always go that way.

And you are correct about the actual watching. I was caught off guard by the passion but very quickly found it a huge turn on. I think having a sturdy marriage helps.

There are certainly a lot of people on here with a lot more experience than us. We enjoy reading about the experiences.

[dinoo]

There's also plenty of potential positives:

• You could get to watch your wife having sex with another man. For some men (me included) this is highly erotic and a real, true pleasure to witness.
  I liked to watch but perhaps more positive is that my wife loved me watching.
• You could get to have sex with your wife right after she's had sex with another man. This is an incredible feeling, and even more so if he's cum inside her before you.
  My experience too.
• Your wife can have the time of her life, getting to have sex with a variety of men.
  Yes, each man has his own benefits.
• Your wife can feel happier, more fulfilled, more complete, more wanted, more desired.
  That is how my wife reacted.
• Your sex life can be dramatically improved by the eroticism of it all.
  My experience too.
• You can potentially learn more about what makes your wife sexually tick. This can improve your own bedroom experiences together.
  Our experience.
• It can be a real enjoyment to watch your wife get ready for a solo date, knowing she's soon heading out the door to have sex with another man. The first time, it can be a bit terrifying (been there). After that, it can be a bit enthralling to help her get ready.
  Can only imagine. In our fantasy story it happened. My my loved this story.
• Your wife can get to experience the thrill of having sex with two men at once; DP (one vagina, one anal), DVP (both vagina), or spit roast (one vagina, one mouth). The latter is my wife's favorite.
  Being spit roasted by strangers was also her favorite.

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[Johnann2227]

Having a hotwife is intense. It is a lot of work. It takes a lot of sacrifice. It is an emotional roller coaster. Everytime your hotwife is on a date with another man you are worried about someone seeing them. You worry that a family member will see her holding hands with her boyfriend walking down the street. You worry that a family friend or neighbour will see them kissing in the street while waiting for an uber, your wife dressed like a slut.

You worry about your kids seeing their mother dressed like a slut heading out for a date. You worry about what excuse you can use to explain why mummy isn't home at breakfast or why she is late for their soccer game.

You can get exhausted having a hotwife. You have to take on most of the chores so that she has the time to preen, to go to the gym, to lay out and get that all over tan, to get those "day after fucking" massages.
You need to be her PA. Be the one to organise her hair, nail, winter spraytan, laser, massage appointments. You need to go and buy her new lingerie for each date. You need to, at times, drive her to and from her dates. Book restaurants and hotels (and at times pay) for some of their dates.
You need to make sure her purse always has 2 or 3 condoms in it before she goes out. You book her monthly doctor appointments for her blood tests to check for STDs. You stay up late in the night jerking off thinking about the fucking she is getting.

But it is also wonderful. Seeing the excitement your wife has as you help her prepare for her dates. Knowing you are doing everything to give her pleasure is so rewarding. Seeing your wife always at her best and glowing is amazing. Seeing her confidence and exuding sex appeal is such a turn on. Seeing other girls looking at her with lust gives you an instant hard on.
Being present when she is with her lover is a blessing. To see her passion, her sexual aggression makes you beam with pride. Hearing her demand to be fucked harder by her lover is fucking awesome The first time you hold her new lover's cock and feed into her hungry pussy is unforgettable. Feeling her push against it tells you that you are giving her what she needs.

If you are truly blessed you get to join them in a threesome. You get to watch him fuck her while she sucks your cock. You get to lay beneath her in a 69 and lick her pussy and his cock while he fucks her doggystyle. The view is heartstopping. Multiply that by 100 if it is a BBC stretching your hotwife's bald, pink pussy.
When her lover has finished fucking her you get to eat her creampie. Sometimes you get to suck his cock clean. You then get to fuck your wife.

When you go out you play, "Would you...?" where you check out other people and if you would fuck them. You know that sometimes your wife will.
Hotwifing is not for many people. Jealousy will drive you crazy. It can end your marriage. It can result in public humiliation. But for us it is everything.

[stonemtncouple]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Fantasy can be bigger better than reality, depends how good your imagination is. Id say for most Hubbys who dream of a Hotwife no its not as big a deal as I imagined.
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Again, depends on your imagination. For me it was under rated but I had wild unrealistic expectations.
Is it something that was built up and turned out to be no big deal?
It was a and still is a BIG DEAL when she fucks another guy. We both love it! It just happens once in a while now.
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Yes we both have benefited for countless reasons. I hope she can continue all though out her life to enjoy men.
Any regrets?
Only regret is that I didn’t marry my now hotwife in my 20’s and got stuck with prude for first marriage.
My current Hotwife is a dream come true! No regrets!

[DavaoMike]

My wife’s boyfriend, Adam, has lived with us for years. He’s almost like a second husband to Maricel, my wife, and basically a part of the family. I can barely remember a time when he wasn’t part of our lives. I do remember that due to the fact that I’m much older than my wife, my libido isn’t what it once was, so Maricel was a bit frustrated. Adam took up the slack, so now everyone is happy.

DM

[MarknSusan]

If you are both wired for it, having a hotwife is absolutely amazing. Expect the most exciting sex, wonderful experiences and more passion for each other than you can imagine!

You both become a team working together to explore new relationships and when my wife finally hones in on a guy she wants, it’s like a cougar catching her prey..LOL

[Cdncuck]

I am proud to be Lady M's cuck.

You Keep Using That Word, I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means

A cuck is a husband who is being cheated on. Cheated on, as in everyone knows but hubby.

Or he knows, and is keeping the peace at home at the expense of humiliation within the community.

If you are proud of it, you are not a cuck.

There's more than one way to skin a cat. There is more than one way to be a cuckold. You can make the rules for you but you have to accept other people can make their rules.

[JR1966]

Having been a swinger before I married and then having a wife that could not handle seeing me with another woman
I realised it was all about making her happy. In the end I compromised and so did she.I remained faithfull and we found a happily married man than spins her wheels. She melts whenever he is around and the bonus is besides having a bigger phallus he is also a handyman and is more than happy to nail or screw anything that needs fixing and that results in him being able to bang away unil sated

Sounds to me that if he wasn’t married she’s be married to him instead of you. Isn’t she supposed to melt around you and not another man? Lol

[trecital]

Sounds to me that if he wasn’t married she’s be married to him instead of you. Isn’t she supposed to melt around you and not another man? Lol

I refer you to the response in the post above yours.

[JR1966]

Sounds to me that if he wasn’t married she’s be married to him instead of you. Isn’t she supposed to melt around you and not another man? Lol

I refer you to the response in the post above yours.

Not sure what that response has to do with mine. I’m just saying it seems as though he really trips her trigger and more than just sexually.

[Janes Husband]

It brings thrills and excitement , and challenged. Probably everything you can imagine, but more intense. It's definitely not 'no big deal'. Not really any regrets, but i'm sure our life would have been just as good without it.

[warmnsalty]

I was a single in the lifestyle for 10 yrs after my divorce from wife #1. LOVED the dynamic of a threesome, loved fucking another guys girl and watching them fuck. Decided I wasn't getting married again unless I found a hot wife of my own. Started dating Mrs Warm, was upfront early on that I liked threesomes. She hadn't ever done any non monogamy but didn't freak out. Our sex life was great, she loves sex, loves to suck, loves to fuck and loves anal. After 6 mo's of committed dating I told her I really wanted to share her. She didn't understand how I'd find it hot to watch anther guy fuck her.

After some conversations and assuring her she had the final say she decided to give it a try. I said that she was in charge, if she wasn't feeling it, wasn't having fun we'd call it quits. This was back when you could use craigslist. I posted an ad looking for a biz guy in town. After vetting settled on a guy, good looking, nice cock experienced. We met for a drink at the bar, he was cool, she liked him. So up to his room we went. He was the perfect first for her. Had told him up front it was her first time and she could stop things at any point. He said that's fine, no pressure. We got into the room and he went into the bathroom. I looked her, told her I loved her and to relax and have fun. I kissed her and started taking off her shirt. Shirt and bra off, deep kissing her as he came out. I backed away and went into the bathroom myself, to give them some time alone to warm up. I stayed in there for 5 min or so, when I came out they were both naked on the bed, he was sucking on her beautiful tits and fingering her. I walked over, told her she looked amazing. She reached over and started sucking my cock, he slid down and went down on her. Off we went, we both fucked her 2x. As we left and walked to the elevator she said that was amazing, can't believe how fun that was. I said I told you so. That was 13 years ago, our sex life is great and hers is even better LOL Zero regrets.

[MarknSusan]

Seeing your wife get excited knowing she has the freedom to explore her sexuality with another person is an amazing thing to experience.

When she finds the right guy she has a glow to her.

She loves to flirt and it’s interesting to watch her as she attracts the guy she wants.

When I watch her having sex or hear what she did on a solo date I can’t even describe how exciting it is.

Zero regrets. It’s the most exciting life we could have ever wanted. We have been at it for more than 30 years and the excitement never goes away or gets old.

[SpicySaltnPepper]

From the bull's perspective, HAVING a hotwife is great!

[discreetlys husband]

Seeing her confidence grow, her knowing that I support her exploration, seeing her enjoy herself- she loves men.

Our intimacy within our marriage is the best it has ever been and we have been married a long time.

We love it!

[trecital]

From the bull's perspective, HAVING a hotwife is great!

Yes, there's "having your own wife be had"
and "having someone else's wife".

Both are hot. I've enjoyed both in the past.
Including "having his girlfriend/fiancé", and then being invited to the wedding. And fucking her after she was married.
Looking back, I'm sure that he knew, but just didn't let on that he knew.

So, "what's it like having a hotwife?". All variants are delicious .

[wulfenus]

It's like the old joke, "why was the bride smiling when she was walking down the aisle?"

Because she knew she had given her last blowjob.

haha, was just at a wedding and one of the guys said about the groom. well that's the
last blowjob he'll ever get.

[C+DofNJ]

For us, still pretty new at this, She has kinda jumped in now with both feet, not that she is all over the place dating, (has had a few) but the conversation between us, since she has taken hold of it, is so delicious! and the hours and days after she has been taken by another man, are off the charts horny and active for us! which only seems to solidify our position!

[Dmo]

You can’t really prepare for it. Even if it’s been a fantasy of yours for years. When it’s your woman, in the moment. With a guy that is completely different that what you are. When you realize the men she’s with is HER type of man. And he looks nothing like you. You have to be mentally tough to digest this. So once you get past this, if you do. It starts getting better and better.