Building up slowly

[Mrs Curious]

Wow, that really bites on a number of levels….my two cents is you sometimes have to kiss a bunch of frogs before you find your prince.

Kick to the curb is likely going to be the prevailing sentiment.

This being said, no excuse for non communication, literal takes two seconds, I would tell him that and see what he says…

Perhaps he is a emergency worker or something, vs a “ regular “ gig, that may explain things, otherwise his stuck at work was likely dinner with his team, maybe he will be honest with you about what happened, I think this is key.

You two continue to impress me with your efforts and I know they will pay off one day.

These experiences makes us stronger

G

I was pleased to see your reply, and thank you for it. Now that it is a past event, it is much easier to play devil's advocate. I may contact him for a second chance, if he is interested, but the further from the event, the less likely that seems to be. I will continue my search for a playmate. They are definitely out there!

[Mrs Curious]

hoping_she_will_1day, I'm very sorry your wife had to endure this guy being a flake. But, flake he is. I agree with others; it takes only a few seconds to give up dates, and this guy was very bad at that. In this lifestyle, men are a dime a dozen. Finding good men is tricky, sometimes even hard, but it is worth it to find a good one to keep around. It's not enough for your wife and another man to click. He also needs to be a person of character, who won't leave your wife hanging, who respects your wife and you. Your wife is offering him a tremendous gift. To then be a flake and treat her with such disrespect is all too telling.

My wife and I have had to deal with a couple of flakes. The first one we gave the benefit of the doubt. Then he flaked again. We'd met with him once. He was quite good looking, good conversation, and my wife was definitely interested in fucking him. After that, he turned into a flake, and he kept leading her on. We learned from that. No more. Either you mean what you say and follow through, or you're done. The second guy that tried that just got an immediate goodbye and block.

I hope the two of you find what you're looking for. It's very worth it. Very!

Thank you for sharing you experience. It gives me hope. I am over the initial disappointment, and have not lost interest in the hunt. Hopefully there will be good news to report soon ;-)

[Mrs Curious]

I'm so sorry this happened to you guys. It sounded like you finally found a good guy that she was excited about..and the fact that you met in person and they kissed was such a good sign. I think you could give him one more chance, but temper your expectations. If he got cold feet once, he might again. If you want to be really bold, you could ask if there was a reason (other than work) that he got nervous. Maybe he would be open to talking about it.

In the meantime, a big hug from me to Mrs. Curious.

I am so glad to have a friend like you! Your words mean so much, and carry a lot of weight. I have not written him off entirely, but am tempering the way that I open the door to another chance. He di make a verbal "promise"" and I do want to see if he can actually follow thru!

[hoping_she_will_1day]

What a great story! I'm so happy that you had a great experience with this other couple...and then again on your own

Swinging hasn't really ever worked out for Adventurer and I, but when I listen to lifestyle podcasts, I'm jealous of the friendships that many swinging couples have with each other. It sounds like you might have made one of those couple friends. I love how you were able to talk with each other and express your limits, then find a way for sexy play that everyone felt comfortable with. What a wonderful example of how it should be.

As for sex on the bike, well you know how I feel about sex in naughty places

Thank you ma'am. This certainly isn't a natural thing for us, but so far we've been fortunate enough to meet some quality people. This couple is quite a bit younger than us (which I find sexy), but they've been together a long time and have an idea what they're looking for. The nerves were evident in the beginning but calmed over time as everyone got to know each other. I really admired how much focus they placed on each other during playtime, and they were very much into each other as were MC and I. It was also very cool how at ease everyone was together after the deed was done. And based on the message exchanges we've had since then, there's mutual interest in meeting and playing again.

When MC and I were checking to see how much the neighbors might be able to see while we fucked in front of the garage window, it crossed my mind that you and your men would have gotten a thrill from the setting as well. The window shades block about 50% of the light from outside, and it was dusk so we turned off the lights inside the garage. MC went into the yard to check it out, and came back with a grin that said we were good to go. As she laid back on the seat and I was fucking her from above, we were able to look out through the blinds and see the houses across the street, but if anyone had walked up the street they would have struggled to see our motion as I thrust in and out of her. It would have been damn exciting to watch a pedestrian stroll by at the time. Maybe we'll need to do it again.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

I love this post! I am a true follower. Please keep
Us updated

Well hello there, nice to meet you. And thank you for the comment.
I'm happy to report that I am now following your sexy story as well.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

Really enjoying your experiences! Just a quick share - we are a couple aged out of the game. That said: my wife and I discovered that "performance failures" were much less likely to occur in swinging scenarious with other couples when we took it slow and weren't in a hotel under time pressures and we never had a performance failure when we played in our home. We started "playing" early in our marriage in the 1980s and viagra wasn't around. Knowing what I know now, I'd always have some viagra handy. As I got older, I found Cialis worked best for our lifestyle as its effects are a bit more gentle and it lasts longer.

Flakes were a constant problem and as you discovered can really discourage your wife or both of you. Tremendous buildup then nothing. You two are handling it well. Even in situations where my wife was so horny and needed it NOW, we found it better to meet with a prospective guy 2 or 3 times, preferably local so that we hadn't commited tons of travel time and money on hotels until we knew things would work out. In my view, you are leagues ahead of where we were at your age as far as the way you have been approaching your fun. When the wife works and travel and hotels are involved it's harder to coordinate the schedules and establish rewarding long term relationships. It can become a workout with more cancellations and reschedules.

Thanks to both of you for sharing your adventures with us.

Thank you sir for your valuable insight, it's very much appreciated.
I realized few years ago that I was having some performance issues. This was before MC and I chose to play with others. I sampled Viagra and it worked OK, but it was expensive at the time so I didn't pursue it further. Fast-forward a few years...I purchased the generic version of Viagra which also worked pretty well but I really didn't care for how flushed it made me feel. So I switched to the generic version of Sialis and for the last 2.5 years I've been taking 5mg everyday. The results were hit or miss, with some of that misfortune noted in this thread.

I've wanted to have my T level checked, but postponed it until recently and I'm very glad that I finally did it. My test results showed a very low T level (below the normal range) and I began a treatment plan that day. Along with the continued use of the generic Cialis, my testosterone dosage is 0.6 ml injected once per week (in the thigh), and I can absolutely feel a difference in daily life. Super bonus benefit is my performance in play. I'm batting 1.000 since starting the meds.

I appreciate the advice regarding the play setting. I don't know if we'll ever host in our home, but if we do I think it would be intensely sexy. MC is getting more comfortable with the idea of playing locally, so we shall see.

[Seekingmore12]

Since our meeting with the other couple we've exchanged several messages. We're all very much looking forward to another visit, and I'm quite certain that MC is gonna get fucked by that 41 year old! If it turns into a full swap, that'll be a bonus.

Well done, you two….I especially liked this last line, my best wishes as you two continue your journey…..oh and I want to borrow the motorcycle to take lfa for a ride…

G

[stevens4fun]

Great news about the T level therapy, - thanks for sharing that with us, as us older guys find that T levels are a problem and we wonder about the benefits and risks of addressing it. I hope someone opens a thread to discuss it. I'm a pretty lucky guy - in my 70s now and can still get decent wood once or twice a week. Big difference from back in the day, though, when even the slightest thought of sex was a "call to action."

I found that when using viagra, I'd get the best effect when I took it on an empty stomach, early in the day when my T levels were higher. But I didn't like the "flush" you mentioned, except for the fact that it let me know the Viagra had hit my bloodstream and I was "primed." Then later in the day, a headache and a stuffy nose. But my wife loved it....

I experimented and started using a pill cutter to cut the viagra pills in half. Still got a good result, but less side effects later on. And it cut the cost in half. When the wife and I got into our 50s, I changed to Cialis. Less side effects, and I found that even two days after taking a 5 mg dose, I still got hard quickly and was able to perform to my wife's satisfaction (but not her orgasm - had to get out her Hitachi for that, or call her BF over to finish her later in the day - we finally just had him spend the night with her and things went much better).

I've wanted to have my T level checked, but postponed it until recently and I'm very glad that I finally did it. My test results showed a very low T level (below the normal range) and I began a treatment plan that day. Along with the continued use of the generic Cialis, my testosterone dosage is 0.6 ml injected once per week (in the thigh), and I can absolutely feel a difference in daily life. Super bonus benefit is my performance in play. I'm batting 1.000 since starting the meds.

I appreciate the advice regarding the play setting. I don't know if we'll ever host in our home, but if we do I think it would be intensely sexy. MC is getting more comfortable with the idea of playing locally, so we shall see.

[Lookingforadventure]

I am so glad to have a friend like you! Your words mean so much, and carry a lot of weight. I have not written him off entirely, but am tempering the way that I open the door to another chance. He di make a verbal "promise"" and I do want to see if he can actually follow thru!

And I'm glad to call you a friend, too. I so love how you and HSW support and encourage each other. I also like how sexy play with other people is only the special sauce to the main course of sexy play with each other. You guys are awesome.

I'm still hoping this guy will work out for you. It isn't every day that you feel that chemistry. Hopefully he turns out to be worth the effort.

[Lookingforadventure]

…..oh and I want to borrow the motorcycle to take lfa for a ride…

G

Yes please

[hoping_she_will_1day]

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oh and I want to borrow the motorcycle to take lfa for a ride…

G

Thank you sir.
Btw, you can borrow the bike anytime you'd like. This latest romp proved that the bike doesn't need to be moving in order for her have a hell of a ride. The rear shock took a whoopin as the thrusting got harder.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

I've been intending to write an update for a while, and tonight provides a good opportunity as I'm sitting in a hotel room on another work trip while MC is at home. I apologize if this isn't written very well, sleep has been a struggle.

There aren't allot of changes to report, but there are a few rather significant steps that we've taken.

As I've mentioned before, MC does not typically enjoy texting. Unless she's really in the mood to talk then she isn't inclined to engage in a message exchange with anyone, including me. When messages come in that she does not want to respond to, she just doesn't. I on the other hand enjoy the opportunities to get to know other people via message exchange. With this in mind she has changed her approach and agreed to allow me to chat with the guys that she finds interesting.

A few months ago we were approached by another HW/Swinger couple who live in a neighboring state. The husband travels through our area somewhat regularly and his wife was reaching out to see if we would be interested in meeting him. She, he and I had some conversations over the course of a few weeks and when it was confirmed that she (his wife) would not be participating, and honoring our understanding that I would not be involved in her (MCs) conversations with other men, both the other wife and I removed ourselves from to message exchange. When that happened the conversation stopped, even though MC was genuinely interested in meeting him. After a week or so with no conversation, and after confirming that she still wanted to meet him, I asked her if she wanted me to speak to him for her and she said yes. As a result we're working on a scheduling a meet sometime within the next few weeks.

Additionally, another husband from yet another HW/Swinger couple reached out. She saw his message and his picture and found both intriguing. I asked if she would like for me to respond to him, and she said yes. He was really excited to hear back from us and we've had some really fun message exchanges, all of which MC has read. After some time, he asked to take the messages private, and with her explicit approval, we shared each others KIK Id. She really likes this guy, and she's having fun with their private exchanges. She's shared their messages and it's really quite sexy how much she's starting to relax and let her "naughty girl" come out to play. He intends to be back in our area before winter and if things continue as they are now...who knows right??

There've been instances of this type of play in the past that have simply died, so I asked her pretty regularly if she's heard from "him". Apparently this happened a bit too often, and she made that clear to me when she said I was "bird dogging" her. OUCH! When she said that I interpreted it to mean that she didn't want to share what they were saying, and I was actually hurt by it. I thought, if she wants their chat to be private why not just say so. We talked about it the next day, and she explained that what she meant by that was that she wanted to be given time to respond to messages on her own timeline, and she did not intend to withhold anything from me. After a bit more conversation I told her that I would not ask anymore, just don't let this one die like the others did.

Also, I told her that I'm totally cool with her having private conversations. It's important for her to feel safe to say whatever she wants without any concern of hurting my feelings or offending me. Thinking about our old friend & OHW contributor Playboyfan, he frequently mentioned how his Hottie stayed engaged with her admirers privately, and would share when the time was right. I suggested that she take the same approach & embrace the opportunity to open up, let her hair down. I admitted that it would most likely create some angst, but I believe that it's a natural feeling that all husbands go through to some degree. This last weekend, while I was occupied, she and he had fun with their message exchange, and after some time she sent a message to me. It was a picture of herself, topless...and she followed it up with another saying that she wanted some attention, right now! Lucky ME!!

I'm looking forward to getting home this weekend and seeing what naughtiness she's been up to.

[Seekingmore12]

Nice to see you two back and the progress you two are making together….

G

[Lookingforadventure]

I've been intending to write an update for a while, and tonight provides a good opportunity as I'm sitting in a hotel room on another work trip while MC is at home. I apologize if this isn't written very well, sleep has been a struggle.

There aren't allot of changes to report, but there are a few rather significant steps that we've taken.

As I've mentioned before, MC does not typically enjoy texting. Unless she's really in the mood to talk then she isn't inclined to engage in a message exchange with anyone, including me. When messages come in that she does not want to respond to, she just doesn't. I on the other hand enjoy the opportunities to get to know other people via message exchange. With this in mind she has changed her approach and agreed to allow me to chat with the guys that she finds interesting.

A few months ago we were approached by another HW/Swinger couple who live in a neighboring state. The husband travels through our area somewhat regularly and his wife was reaching out to see if we would be interested in meeting him. She, he and I had some conversations over the course of a few weeks and when it was confirmed that she (his wife) would not be participating, and honoring our understanding that I would not be involved in her (MCs) conversations with other men, both the other wife and I removed ourselves from to message exchange. When that happened the conversation stopped, even though MC was genuinely interested in meeting him. After a week or so with no conversation, and after confirming that she still wanted to meet him, I asked her if she wanted me to speak to him for her and she said yes. As a result we're working on a scheduling a meet sometime within the next few weeks.

Additionally, another husband from another HW/Swinger couple reached out. She saw his message and his picture and found both intriguing. I asked if she would like for me to respond to him, and she said yes. He was really excited to hear back from us and we've had some really fun message exchanges, all of which MC has read. After some time, he asked to take the messages private, and with her explicit approval, we shared each others KIK Id. She really likes this guy, and she's having fun with their private exchanges. She's shared their messages and it's really quite sexy how much she's starting to relax and let her "naughty girl" come out to play. He intends to be back in our area before winter and if things continue as they are now...who knows right??

There've been instances of this type of play in the past that have simply died, so I asked her pretty regularly if she's heard from "him". Apparently this happened a bit too often, and she made that clear to me when she said I was "bird dogging" her. OUCH! When she said that I interpreted to mean that she didn't want to share what they were saying, and was actually hurt by it. I thought, if she wants their chat to be private why not just say so. We talked about it the next day, and she explained that what she meant by that was that she wanted to be given time to respond to messages on her own timeline, and she did not intend to withhold anything from me. After a bit more conversation I told her that I would not ask anymore, just don't let this one die like the others did. Also, I told her that I'm totally cool with her having private conversations. It's important for her to feel safe to say whatever she wants without any concern of hurting my feelings or offending me. Thinking about our old friend & OHW contributor Playboyfan, he frequently mentioned how his Hottie stayed engaged with her admirers privately, and would share when the time was right. I suggested that she take the same approach & embrace the opportunity to open up, let her hair down. I admitted that it would most likely create some angst, but I believe that it's a natural feeling that all husbands go through to some degree. This last weekend, while I was occupied, she and he had fun with their message exchange, and after some time she sent a message to me. It was a picture of herself, topless...and she followed it up with another saying that she wanted some attention, right now! Lucky ME!!

I'm looking forward to getting home this weekend and seeing what naughtiness she's been up to.

This is a great update. I'm glad things are proceeding well and that the two of you are figuring out what works for you. Yaay! I hope that the two possibilities (swinger couple and single guy) work out for at least a meet and greet in person.

As for your checking in with MC, I'm glad that she was comfortable enough to tell you that she was feeling pressured by your asking. Your approach sounds like a good one. Just make sure that you are communicating with her as well. As a hot wife, I find it is a delicate balance between letting myself be free to explore my desires at my pace, and also ensuring my husband is getting what he needs out of it. If the angst gets to be too much, or if you are feeling excluded, you need to make sure you are communicating with her about it.

[Her number1]

I've been intending to write an update for a while, and tonight provides a good opportunity as I'm sitting in a hotel room on another work trip while MC is at home. I apologize if this isn't written very well, sleep has been a struggle.

There aren't allot of changes to report, but there are a few rather significant steps that we've taken.

As I've mentioned before, MC does not typically enjoy texting. Unless she's really in the mood to talk then she isn't inclined to engage in a message exchange with anyone, including me. When messages come in that she does not want to respond to, she just doesn't. I on the other hand enjoy the opportunities to get to know other people via message exchange. With this in mind she has changed her approach and agreed to allow me to chat with the guys that she finds interesting.

A few months ago we were approached by another HW/Swinger couple who live in a neighboring state. The husband travels through our area somewhat regularly and his wife was reaching out to see if we would be interested in meeting him. She, he and I had some conversations over the course of a few weeks and when it was confirmed that she (his wife) would not be participating, and honoring our understanding that I would not be involved in her (MCs) conversations with other men, both the other wife and I removed ourselves from to message exchange. When that happened the conversation stopped, even though MC was genuinely interested in meeting him. After a week or so with no conversation, and after confirming that she still wanted to meet him, I asked her if she wanted me to speak to him for her and she said yes. As a result we're working on a scheduling a meet sometime within the next few weeks.

Additionally, another husband from another HW/Swinger couple reached out. She saw his message and his picture and found both intriguing. I asked if she would like for me to respond to him, and she said yes. He was really excited to hear back from us and we've had some really fun message exchanges, all of which MC has read. After some time, he asked to take the messages private, and with her explicit approval, we shared each others KIK Id. She really likes this guy, and she's having fun with their private exchanges. She's shared their messages and it's really quite sexy how much she's starting to relax and let her "naughty girl" come out to play. He intends to be back in our area before winter and if things continue as they are now...who knows right??

There've been instances of this type of play in the past that have simply died, so I asked her pretty regularly if she's heard from "him". Apparently this happened a bit too often, and she made that clear to me when she said I was "bird dogging" her. OUCH! When she said that I interpreted to mean that she didn't want to share what they were saying, and was actually hurt by it. I thought, if she wants their chat to be private why not just say so. We talked about it the next day, and she explained that what she meant by that was that she wanted to be given time to respond to messages on her own timeline, and she did not intend to withhold anything from me. After a bit more conversation I told her that I would not ask anymore, just don't let this one die like the others did. Also, I told her that I'm totally cool with her having private conversations. It's important for her to feel safe to say whatever she wants without any concern of hurting my feelings or offending me. Thinking about our old friend & OHW contributor Playboyfan, he frequently mentioned how his Hottie stayed engaged with her admirers privately, and would share when the time was right. I suggested that she take the same approach & embrace the opportunity to open up, let her hair down. I admitted that it would most likely create some angst, but I believe that it's a natural feeling that all husbands go through to some degree. This last weekend, while I was occupied, she and he had fun with their message exchange, and after some time she sent a message to me. It was a picture of herself, topless...and she followed it up with another saying that she wanted some attention, right now! Lucky ME!!

I'm looking forward to getting home this weekend and seeing what naughtiness she's been up to.

This is a great update. I'm glad things are proceeding well and that the two of you are figuring out what works for you. Yaay! I hope that the two possibilities (swinger couple and single guy) work out for at least a meet and greet in person.

As for your checking in with MC, I'm glad that she was comfortable enough to tell you that she was feeling pressured by your asking. Your approach sounds like a good one. Just make sure that you are communicating with her as well. As a hot wife, I find it is a delicate balance between letting myself be free to explore my desires at my pace, and also ensuring my husband is getting what he needs out of it. If the angst gets to be too much, or if you are feeling excluded, you need to make sure you are communicating with her about it.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

Nice to see you two back and the progress you two are making together….

G

Thank you. We've been laying low, but we're still here. Appreciate your support as always.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

This is a great update. I'm glad things are proceeding well and that the two of you are figuring out what works for you. Yaay! I hope that the two possibilities (swinger couple and single guy) work out for at least a meet and greet in person.

As for your checking in with MC, I'm glad that she was comfortable enough to tell you that she was feeling pressured by your asking. Your approach sounds like a good one. Just make sure that you are communicating with her as well. As a hot wife, I find it is a delicate balance between letting myself be free to explore my desires at my pace, and also ensuring my husband is getting what he needs out of it. If the angst gets to be too much, or if you are feeling excluded, you need to make sure you are communicating with her about it.

It was a bit humbling to accept that I was being over bearing, but I'm proud of her for saying so. Things have smoothed out and she been very forthcoming with her conversations.

I got back home Friday night and she greeted me with a warm hug and soft kiss, and it was not lost on me that she'd picked a special dress for the evening. Being top heavy as she is, she doesn't have many items in her wardrobe that have delicate spaghetti straps, but the dress she wore was that style and I loved it. I found that she had nothing on underneath the dress as my hands roamed across her body. We broke our embrace and she poured me a glass of wine so that I could join her in a drink. We spoke a little about the day and I learned that she had been messaging with "him" right as I walked in. I found that to be very damn sexy. Even better, she was ready to be taken, right then.

I quickly ran upstairs to grab a silicone cock ring and some lube, when I returned she had perched herself in one of our barstools with her ass on the edge of the seat. Surprisingly, we had never fooled around in these seats before and learned that the alignment between her hungry pussy and my engorged cock was perfect. I slid into her and it didn't take long for our naughty talk to kick in as she described some of the conversations that she'd had with him while I was gone. I'd like to say that I lasted a long time, but I'm guessing that no more than 5 minutes passed before I spilled 7 days worth of cum inside her, and it felt glorious!

Things are progressing nicely, and at her pace. I chat with him separately and remind him regularly that she's in charge of their meet when it happens. And also I've told him that she's having fun and that she likes him, but try to throw in some conversation that isn't necessarily sexual. She appreciates that.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

Back on the road again last week and again this week as well but I was home for part of the weekend. MC and I had some time to catch up where she shared the message exchanges with her young stud. She's starting to loosen up and share more about the things she wants to try with him, and I have to admit that it was super sexy to see how she's relaxing with him. Fingers still crossed.

[RuleEmAll]

That's a great update, sounds like you're both enjoying this, curious how it plays out, keep us posted!

[Lookingforadventure]

Back on the road again last week and again this week as well but I was home for part of the weekend. MC and I had some time to catch up where she shared the message exchanges with her young stud. She's starting to loosen up and share more about the things she wants to try with him, and I have to admit that it was super sexy to see how she's relaxing with him. Fingers still crossed.

This makes me smile. Thanks for the update and best wishes to all of you on this adventure.

[Jujube]

Yahoo! Seems like quite a bit of progress since I last checked your thread. MC is soo sexy!