Wife recently found a new partner.

[Hillcountry66]

Ripping a woman's rectum is no Joke. She should get to a proctologist for an examination and a frank discussion. Making her bleed like that should have ended the relationship.

Thanks. She has recovered now. I do believe it’s because she hasn’t had sex from rear before. Not sure why she tried it now. But she has recovered and doing well

[skoot1958]

A sex can be great, but you need to build up, try helping her with different size plugs and lots of lube, it will not take long before she can easily take someone and enjoy

[zorro]

As much sex as a couple wants is healthy. Decades ago there was nonsense about nyphomania and promiscuity. that is old thinking. The amount of sex any individual wants is a matter of individual choice. If your wife is exploring her sexual side and is open about it with you, this can be a very good thing.

So, the questions that follow: Does your wife want the sex she is getting (I read the answer is yes)?
Is it anything more than just sex? I haven't heard anything hinting at her wanting to replace you. I only hear she wants more of both him and you. You can just do what you are up for, and if she is like most women, she will understand. Her new friend can fill in when you can't. I enjoy my wife's sexuality with other men; it gives me great pleasure, but we do play together. It might give you pleasure as well. You might want to try MFM with them so you get more from it,
Final question: Are you too insecure to allow her her pleasure? Only you can answer that one. When I initially reacted to a former wife's having sex with another man, I had feelings that I was going to lose somethiing. On self-inquiry, I could not identify what I would lose. Instead, she had more pleasure than without an extra.

If she is in perimenopause, she might be experiencing hormonal surges that make fucking other men very appealing. Enjoy it while it's there. Unless there is more you are not sharing with us, my basic reaction is that you are worrying too much.

[bbarnsworth]

If sometimes she can and sometimes cannot feel you, there's no real fixing that per se. There's exercises (kegel exercises) which can help a bit with her vagina such that she can make it tighter. If you have sex with her not long after she's had sex with him, she's not going to feel you very much, if at all, because he is bigger. She'll be more open due to his penis being bigger.

You're treading into uncertain territory here. He's awaken a sexual creature in her, and he's satisfying her urges much more than you can. Some relationships can handle that. Some can't. You need to keep fully open discussion with her, and you should have the right to call it off if you don't feel comfortable. If you ask her to call it off, and she refuses, time to get a lawyer.

[Hillcountry66]

Update. Wife’s partner was away for a few weeks but has come back home and texted my wife he was ready. Wife just finished her period today and we have been busy with school stuff and vacation so we have not had time for sex in about a month. Tomorrow was supposed to be me and wife time. But her partner texted he was ready today. She said her pussy was so swollen and ready to eat. So I asked if I could at least dip it in. I hurried home from work and got 3 pumps in and had to pull out because I was about to shoot skeet. I made a mess on the carpet but it was so tight I couldn’t get more than 3 pumps. Now she is off to her partner. Should I have let him break the seal?

[snoogaloo82]

Update. Wife’s partner was away for a few weeks but has come back home and texted my wife he was ready. Wife just finished her period today and we have been busy with school stuff and vacation so we have not had time for sex in about a month. Tomorrow was supposed to be me and wife time. But her partner texted he was ready today. She said her pussy was so swollen and ready to eat. So I asked if I could at least dip it in. I hurried home from work and got 3 pumps in and had to pull out because I was about to shoot skeet. I made a mess on the carpet but it was so tight I couldn’t get more than 3 pumps. Now she is off to her partner. Should I have let him break the seal?

It could be fun to have had him break the seal first, especially if you love sloppy seconds or thirds, etc.

It all depends on what you enjoy most. Feel free to let him have firsts next time. Then again it's not like you filled her up, so at least she's clean for him, but you and her know the difference so it's really up to the two of you.