It might be a start / or I'm just overthinking.

[Johnny13]

Hello everyone!!

Some of you have read my posts before, some have not.
Long story short:
I'm 31 years old, and my girlfriend is 40 years old, we are engaged but not married yet.
Our sex life got very boring in the last 2, maybe 3 years, as in maybe having sex once 2 or 3 months.

All has changed about 1 month and some weeks ago when I have first gifted her a realistic black dildo.

As some of you know, by chance or by sheer luck, I have met a black guy in the bus station when I am waiting for the bus for going to work.
His name is Abdu, and he is from Senegal, living in Romania since last year.
I already met him a few times, just me and him, and talked about many things, but nothing of sexual nature, we spoke about sports, politics, and overall day to day stuff.

Once again, some of you here already know my desires for my girlfriend to have a long term lover , especially a buddy of mine from Canada *wink wink* that I met here ,which we privately exchanged messages and who has suported and adviced me regarding many things.

My girlfriend does not know about anything that I " plan " for her, as it might be waaaayyy to early, as I have been often adviced not to blow it all up.
She knows about Abdu, and this saturday, all three of us will meet at a pub not far from us.

Also, I do dare to think that she might have some slight idea of what fantasies I have, as we had many times sex since I bought her the black dildo, and she could always see and notice how excited I was when she used it on herself.

That's about it, I just felt the need to express myself here, as I am very excited about our meeting this weekend.
Of course, we will casually meet all three of us, and just get to know better, especially them two, I hope they will find each other pleasant.

[Lovefeet]

Hello everyone!!

Some of you have read my posts before, some have not.
Long story short:
I'm 31 years old, and my girlfriend is 40 years old, we are engaged but not married yet.
Our sex life got very boring in the last 2, maybe 3 years, as in maybe having sex once 2 or 3 months.

All has changed about 1 month and some weeks ago when I have first gifted her a realistic black dildo.

As some of you know, by chance or by sheer luck, I have met a black guy in the bus station when I am waiting for the bus for going to work.
His name is Abdu, and he is from Senegal, living in Romania since last year.
I already met him a few times, just me and him, and talked about many things, but nothing of sexual nature, we spoke about sports, politics, and overall day to day stuff.

Once again, some of you here already know my desires for my girlfriend to have a long term lover , especially a buddy of mine from Canada *wink wink* that I met here ,which we privately exchanged messages and who has suported and adviced me regarding many things.

My girlfriend does not know about anything that I " plan " for her, as it might be waaaayyy to early, as I have been often adviced not to blow it all up.
She knows about Abdu, and this saturday, all three of us will meet at a pub not far from us.

Also, I do dare to think that she might have some slight idea of what fantasies I have, as we had many times sex since I bought her the black dildo, and she could always see and notice how excited I was when she used it on herself.

That's about it, I just felt the need to express myself here, as I am very excited about our meeting this weekend.
Of course, we will casually meet all three of us, and just get to know better, especially them two, I hope they will find each other pleasant.

Hi Johnny, I guess Abdu is a bbc, if your wife likes him and willing to have sex, she would get vast of pleasure from him and it will make your dream real. I hope you have a good weekend together and everybody get pleasure in the meaning of everything.

I am excited to read your weekend story (positive situation) and see her beautiful pics on here. Wish you luck.

[Johnny13]

Hello there buddy.
Well, not sure if he has a bbc, but yes, he is black man, actually, very dark skin!!

It's really just a start, she doesn't have any clue what I wish for her and we are not into this kind of lifestyle that I always dreamt of.
But...who knows.

[Lovefeet]

Hello there buddy.
Well, not sure if he has a bbc, but yes, he is black man, actually, very dark skin!!

It's really just a start, she doesn't have any clue what I wish for her and we are not into this kind of lifestyle that I always dreamt of.
But...who knows.

Well enough amount of alcohol can be reason of good things… In my opinion, if you have a attractive gf, from the begining to the end of your meeting, he dreams about having sex with her for sure. Probably he has a huge cock and if your gf likes Abdu, she wants to get his big cock. At least a blowjob I hope everything will be beautiful for you, as you said who knows maybe she has dream fantasies more than you…

[Long Lurker 34]

J13

[Johnny13]

J13

Yes, yes!
You're that buddy I mentioned!

Tomorrow is the day!

[Johnny13]

Hello everyone.

Updates regarding our Saturday meeting.
Can't really say much happened, but at least my girlfriend now met and got to know him, we chatted about almost everything and before we knew it, around 4 hours have passed in an instant.

Had a good time overall, and it's a step forward.
At least my gf told me home that she likes his deep voice

I have to say that I noticed that Abdu is a bit shy/timid now that she met her, as I could see him a bit tense, as he was not like this when just me and him met before.

However them two also talked preety much and for a moment I excused myself that I need to go to the restroom where I waited for about 10 minutes in hopes they get more relaxed and get to know more without me being there all the time.

Also Abdu is regulary going to the gym/swimming pool, and I know that my girlfriend mentioned me sometimes that we 2 should also start working a bit in the gym.
I'm already devising a plan in my head about how to convince her to go to the gym only with him

When we got home, we had some nice sex, of course including our black dildo in the game, and I might dare to think that she has some slight idea about this, or I am just overthinking.
Somehow I think she might have made some connections in her mind, I got her a black dildo and not long after a black guy appears out of the sudden, but for now, I never said anything to her about it.

That's about it. Hopefully, we will meet again and I'll have better progress and news!

[sandy691196]

One day during sex, or during pillow talk, bring up fantasies. her fantasies first.
Then when your turn comes give reference of a hotwife porn - how an MFM video turns you on. Don't talk of BBC at this stage, it will sound like cheap manipulation.
if and when she gets comfy with basic Hotwife stuff then BBC will come in as a matter of detail.

[Johnny13]

Hello everyone!

Been sometime since my last updates, but I have good news.

We met with Abdu this last saturday at a new place, we discussed what happened since we last met, and he finally started being more talkative.
We must had spent there around 3 hours or so, and as planned I think at least 20 minutes from all this time I was away, " had to " go to bathroom, " had to make a phone call " and so on.
After a while I ordered a beer for myself, while she had tea and Abdu some coffee.
First good new :
The gym subject was brought on by me and we decided we will attend the same gym where Abdu goes and we will go starting this October !!!!!!!!!

About an hour after, my girlfriend got the idea to order some wine, but just me and her drank it, he didn't drank any alcohol, and this is where it got fun!
I could see that she was starting to get tipsy from the first glass already and that's when I decided to have my first " Excuse me, need to go to the toilet " I had spent there around 10 mins by myself and when I got back I could see they were talking all joyful.
Time went by and so did the glasses of wine, she had like 3 glasses while I had 4.

And the second good new, when we parted ways for goodbye she went by herself and hugged him goodbye while also giving him 2 kisses on his cheeks!

Then we got in the taxi, she even had a short nap on the way home, once we arrived we went straight to bedroom, undressed her, gave her a good licking, and I know by this time she was even more than just tipsy, so after licking her, I took out the black dildo which she grabbed by herself and started rubbing herself with it and not long after she inserted the top of it inside as I kept kissing her all over.

After sometime I got over her and had some awesome sex that lasted for about 10 minutes until I came and then we continued the lovey dovey and fell asleep like that, both naked with the dildo on the bedsheets

[ucaneffher]

I think that everything is sounding rather organic which is good, just don't push it or force it. If chemistry is there then it will slowly become obvious. Just be friends, go out on weekends, become consistent and dedicated with the gym and In no time you 3 will know each other well. Remember that you just met him too so it's important to really know who you allow in your life and hers.

The gym idea is great because it has many benefits, health of course , strengthen the friendship because ultimately you 3 will still chitchat while working out together, and my favorite one, it's a safe place for your girlfriend to wear very little and very tight clothes without much judgement.

You can always take her shopping for sexy gym clothes or simply wait until she is showing signs of attraction for him, she will want to look good for your gum sessions and that's when you can encourage her by taking her shopping and suggesting sexier gym clothes. Respect her boundaries obviously.

Another idea, your Saturday outings can slowly change to different places. For example instead of going to a regular bar, go to a bar that may have a dance floor.

Your possibilities are endless as long as you have patience, respect her boundaries, and DO NOT set her up or deceive her by planning anything behind her back and without her knowledge. Just continue forming a friendship just as you're doing and eventually you can plant a seed in her head without pushing for it. She will connect the dots.

[ucaneffher]

I think that everything is sounding rather organic which is good, just don't push it or force it. If chemistry is there then it will slowly become obvious. Just be friends, go out on weekends, become consistent and dedicated with the gym and In no time you 3 will know each other well. Remember that you just met him too so it's important to really know who you allow in your life and hers.

The gym idea is great because it has many benefits, health of course , strengthen the friendship because ultimately you 3 will still chitchat while working out together, and my favorite one, it's a safe place for your girlfriend to wear very little and very tight clothes without much judgement.

You can always take her shopping for sexy gym clothes or simply wait until she is showing signs of attraction for him, she will want to look good for your gum sessions and that's when you can encourage her by taking her shopping and suggesting sexier gym clothes. Respect her boundaries obviously.

Another idea, your Saturday outings can slowly change to different places. For example instead of going to a regular bar, go to a bar that may have a dance floor.

Your possibilities are endless as long as you have patience, respect her boundaries, and DO NOT set her up or deceive her by planning anything behind her back and without her knowledge. Just continue forming a friendship just as you're doing and eventually you can plant a seed in her head without pushing for it. She will connect the dots.

[Long Lurker 34]

I think that everything is sounding rather organic which is good, just don't push it or force it. If chemistry is there then it will slowly become obvious. Just be friends, go out on weekends, become consistent and dedicated with the gym and In no time you 3 will know each other well. Remember that you just met him too so it's important to really know who you allow in your life and hers.

The gym idea is great because it has many benefits, health of course , strengthen the friendship because ultimately you 3 will still chitchat while working out together, and my favorite one, it's a safe place for your girlfriend to wear very little and very tight clothes without much judgement.

You can always take her shopping for sexy gym clothes or simply wait until she is showing signs of attraction for him, she will want to look good for your gum sessions and that's when you can encourage her by taking her shopping and suggesting sexier gym clothes. Respect her boundaries obviously.

Another idea, your Saturday outings can slowly change to different places. For example instead of going to a regular bar, go to a bar that may have a dance floor.

Your possibilities are endless as long as you have patience, respect her boundaries, and DO NOT set her up or deceive her by planning anything behind her back and without her knowledge. Just continue forming a friendship just as you're doing and eventually you can plant a seed in her head without pushing for it. She will connect the dots.

J13
- Listen and learn from UC (you should read his thread too) he has more experience than most.

[Johnny13]

I think that everything is sounding rather organic which is good, just don't push it or force it. If chemistry is there then it will slowly become obvious. Just be friends, go out on weekends, become consistent and dedicated with the gym and In no time you 3 will know each other well. Remember that you just met him too so it's important to really know who you allow in your life and hers.

The gym idea is great because it has many benefits, health of course , strengthen the friendship because ultimately you 3 will still chitchat while working out together, and my favorite one, it's a safe place for your girlfriend to wear very little and very tight clothes without much judgement.

You can always take her shopping for sexy gym clothes or simply wait until she is showing signs of attraction for him, she will want to look good for your gum sessions and that's when you can encourage her by taking her shopping and suggesting sexier gym clothes. Respect her boundaries obviously.

Another idea, your Saturday outings can slowly change to different places. For example instead of going to a regular bar, go to a bar that may have a dance floor.

Your possibilities are endless as long as you have patience, respect her boundaries, and DO NOT set her up or deceive her by planning anything behind her back and without her knowledge. Just continue forming a friendship just as you're doing and eventually you can plant a seed in her head without pushing for it. She will connect the dots.

Hello!

Thank you for your encouragement, tips and hints.
Yes, indeed, hopefully it will materialise.

And that's a brilliant idea regarding her gym clothes!
There's plenty of gym outfits that are sexy/revealing and that's a plus, I hope that we get to that step in the nearby future!

Also, good plan about changing the meeting location, a dance floor sounds exciting as hell now that I think of it.

And yes, I am aware that I must be equipped with plenty of patience, and especially anything that will happen or that I plan, she must know first and not make her any " surprise " that she might decline or react bad.

[Johnny13]

I think that everything is sounding rather organic which is good, just don't push it or force it. If chemistry is there then it will slowly become obvious. Just be friends, go out on weekends, become consistent and dedicated with the gym and In no time you 3 will know each other well. Remember that you just met him too so it's important to really know who you allow in your life and hers.

The gym idea is great because it has many benefits, health of course , strengthen the friendship because ultimately you 3 will still chitchat while working out together, and my favorite one, it's a safe place for your girlfriend to wear very little and very tight clothes without much judgement.

You can always take her shopping for sexy gym clothes or simply wait until she is showing signs of attraction for him, she will want to look good for your gum sessions and that's when you can encourage her by taking her shopping and suggesting sexier gym clothes. Respect her boundaries obviously.

Another idea, your Saturday outings can slowly change to different places. For example instead of going to a regular bar, go to a bar that may have a dance floor.

Your possibilities are endless as long as you have patience, respect her boundaries, and DO NOT set her up or deceive her by planning anything behind her back and without her knowledge. Just continue forming a friendship just as you're doing and eventually you can plant a seed in her head without pushing for it. She will connect the dots.

Hello.
The day has come, later in the evening after work, we will go for the first time at the gym where Abdu attends too.
We will meet right there and see how it goes on.
Excited !

[mundyman]

When you were having sex after your first meeting out with your black friend, did you talk about him at all? Reference him, or having her fucked by a real BBC.

[Johnny13]

When you were having sex after your first meeting out with your black friend, did you talk about him at all? Reference him, or having her fucked by a real BBC.

No, I did not brought up him during sex, but we did had sex and I did use the black dildo on her after we met with him, so she can make some connections.

[mundyman]

When you were having sex after your first meeting out with your black friend, did you talk about him at all? Reference him, or having her fucked by a real BBC.

No, I did not brought up him during sex, but we did had sex and I did use the black dildo on her after we met with him, so she can make some connections.

My suggestion would be to begin to get her to connect the BBC dildo to a real person. Perhaps your friend. Or someone else you see in the gym or in the public.
“Do you think his cock is this big?”
“Close your eyes and imagine this is a real black cock I you. Whose is it?”
“Use his name while his BBC is fucking you!!”
“Who are you thinking of with this big cock in you?”
“This cock is so much bigger than mine. Can you feel how big it is?”
Say thins like this.

[kokomo21]

I wouldn’t rush things, take your time, as you said earlier, let her connect the dots, particularly don’t mention him, all too often these situations go wrong through trying to hurry them along, slow and steady wins the race!

[kokomo21]

I wouldn’t rush things, take your time, as you said earlier, let her connect the dots, particularly don’t mention him, all too often these situations go wrong through trying to hurry them along, slow and steady wins the race!