Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[scottamadore2]

Hey I want to ask some questions
1 why some woman say size doesn't matter?
2 does marriage or relationship suffers once woman is with bull or boyfriend
3 is it okay to get into lifestyle just after wedding knowing each other only for less than a year?
4is it okay to start lifestyle before kids?
Sidenote : we have a good communication and we always speak about matters as such with each other still I want to know from women who are already in the lifestyle about their experiences

1. They don't want to hurt your feelings.
2. Depends on the husband and wife. The wife must be open to it and want to do it for herself, and the husband must not get too jealous. Both need to understand what they are getting into. If your marriage has issues, this lifestyle will crush your marriage.
3. You seriously got married after ONE YEAR? Seriously, this lifestyle will lead you to divorce.
4. Yes.

Thanks a lot

[irishstag41]

Beautiful hotwives,
I'm just wondering if any of you began seeing an ex with your husbands consent.
After much discussion my wife and I have agreed on her rekindling her relationship with a younger guy she saw years ago. She had feelings for him but this is not a problem. I'm just wondering how to approach it .
She does have a boyfriend but he's business is extremely demanding and they are seeing less of each other atm.
Thanks

[Florgasm]

A MILF is having an affair and effectively cucked her husband to full abstinence of marital sexual activity as a result. How would you suggest her stag lover convinces her to either re-engage with her husband sexually, or alternatively progressively migrate him to acknowledge his cuck and her hotwife status?

[Libertine_Lark]

Has your husband ever expressed a desire for oral sex immediately following a hotwife date? What was your reaction (i.e., positive, negative, neutral, etc.)? The spirit of this question is based in my wanting to avoid appearing perverted, obsessed, or simply grossing out my wife. For those who have tried it or regularly engage in such postcoital activity, how does it make the hotwife feel?

As a side note, I have tried it twice with my wife and we thoroughly enjoyed it. One of the two instances was followed by a lot of deep and intimate kissing — where we both delighted in the very salty flavor. The other time I couldn’t taste her lover at all but enjoyed the feeling nonetheless. I’m sure we would have tried it again but my wife’s relationship with her lover was short-lived. I’m hesitant to bring it up now, for fear of sounding pushy or obsessed with the act.

Thanks in advance for any advice.

LL

[Natatude]

Mine does not, he wants to go downtown and lick up what I have left. When I am finished with a lover I am not allowed to clean up I just have to pull up my panties and come home. I remember the first time he wanted to do it, he asked me if it would change my feelings for him wanting to do it? I have to admit I was kinda thrown back a bit, because he is a man’s man, full beard and all. I was like seriously? He said yes, is that bad? I said well if that’s what you want to do you can and he begged me not to tell my best friend. Because she knows everything about our LS. I promised him I wouldn’t. Songs really enjoys that, and then he makes wild love with me!!! That’s my favorite part!!! 🥰 I’m sorry if I didn’t answer what you wanted.

[Lookingforadventure]

A MILF is having an affair and effectively cucked her husband to full abstinence of marital sexual activity as a result. How would you suggest her stag lover convinces her to either re-engage with her husband sexually, or alternatively progressively migrate him to acknowledge his cuck and her hotwife status?

Sorry for the long delay with no response, I forgot to check this thread for a bit. I'm having trouble answering your question. The problem I have is that the situation you describe is less about a hot wife than about a cheating wife. It sounds like the husband has not consented to it and doesn't even know about it. I think a "hot wife" is someone who is doing it with her husband's full knowledge and support.

But if the situation is making you uncomfortable, you can tell her that you don't like the cheating aspect and ask her to consider being up front with her husband. This might make her stop seeing you, rather than stop cheating, but if that is what you need it is worth mentioning. If you are just hoping to turn this into a hot wife/cuck dynamic, I don't know if you can. Even if she tells her husband, you can't guarantee that he'll be interested in being a cuck or supporting her in the lifestyle.

[Lookingforadventure]

Beautiful hotwives,
I'm just wondering if any of you began seeing an ex with your husbands consent.
After much discussion my wife and I have agreed on her rekindling her relationship with a younger guy she saw years ago. She had feelings for him but this is not a problem. I'm just wondering how to approach it .
She does have a boyfriend but he's business is extremely demanding and they are seeing less of each other atm.
Thanks

I have not, and I'm not sure if I would. I think that being a boyfriend to a hot wife takes a special kind of guy. Not everyone would understand it or be into it. Right now, I keep my hot wife life pretty separate from the rest of my life. An ex, who knows my family and my friend group, might not be trusted to keep things discreet if I approached him about it. I don't think I'd take that risk.

[Lookingforadventure]

Has your husband ever expressed a desire for oral sex immediately following a hotwife date? What was your reaction (i.e., positive, negative, neutral, etc.)? The spirit of this question is based in my wanting to avoid appearing perverted, obsessed, or simply grossing out my wife. For those who have tried it or regularly engage in such postcoital activity, how does it make the hotwife feel?

As a side note, I have tried it twice with my wife and we thoroughly enjoyed it. One of the two instances was followed by a lot of deep and intimate kissing — where we both delighted in the very salty flavor. The other time I couldn’t taste her lover at all but enjoyed the feeling nonetheless. I’m sure we would have tried it again but my wife’s relationship with her lover was short-lived. I’m hesitant to bring it up now, for fear of sounding pushy or obsessed with the act.

Thanks in advance for any advice.

LL

Yes. My husband enjoys cleaning me up afterwards...and I enjoy it too

Don't worry about appearing perverted. I think that the best sex and best relationships come from being able to be open and honest with your partner. If she's not comfortable with it, she can tell you, but she shouldn't judge you. Sounds like you had that conversation with your wife in the past, and she was game. So yay! Just keep being honest with her.

As for how it makes me feel, I love oral sex all the time. There is a specialness, though, when it comes after I've been with my boyfriend. It is a nice way to reconnect with my husband very intimately.

[alicexg]

I've stayed in touch with some of my ex-boyfriends through Facebook and other platforms, but I don’t feel the need to share details about my current lifestyle. Some of them know my family and friends, and I doubt most of them would understand, so I keep it private from my vanilla circle.
Alice

Beautiful hotwives,
I'm just wondering if any of you began seeing an ex with your husbands consent.
After much discussion my wife and I have agreed on her rekindling her relationship with a younger guy she saw years ago. She had feelings for him but this is not a problem. I'm just wondering how to approach it .
She does have a boyfriend but he's business is extremely demanding and they are seeing less of each other atm.
Thanks

[Alockandapass]

Were any of the hotwives against the idea initially and over time came round to the idea and now enjoy it.

Or is it, if the women is against the idea from day one, she generally tends to stay that way of mind?

Thanks

[Libertine_Lark]

Background: Wife is away for a two week work trip. She has played with one other man in the past (eight years ago) and we both very much enjoyed it. Since then, she’s not expressed a desire to re-engage but has left open the possibility when/if the right guy comes along organically and naturally.

I feel like this work trip could be it. In the spirit of being a supportive husband and in the event she does decide to play, how would the VHWs recommend I respond to the inevitable/confessional text? I want to be supportive and happy for her without pushing her too much. Bottom line: what would you want to hear from your husband if you had just slept with another man on a work trip?

Thanks!

LL

[Anonymousrachel]

Were any of the hotwives against the idea initially and over time came round to the idea and now enjoy it.

Or is it, if the women is against the idea from day one, she generally tends to stay that way of mind?

Thanks

When Rob first brought up the idea to me, I was honestly mortified by it. I grew up in a very conservative Catholic household and my dad is a Deacon for our local church and I had even worked for the church before for a few years. However, I did become curious over the years and after talking through it during marriage counseling I decided to give it a try. Turned out that I love the lifestyle! I have had some ups and downs in it all. But the best part was how close it brought Rob and I back together.

[Anonymousrachel]

Background: Wife is away for a two week work trip. She has played with one other man in the past (eight years ago) and we both very much enjoyed it. Since then, she’s not expressed a desire to re-engage but has left open the possibility when/if the right guy comes along organically and naturally.

I feel like this work trip could be it. In the spirit of being a supportive husband and in the event she does decide to play, how would the VHWs recommend I respond to the inevitable/confessional text? I want to be supportive and happy for her without pushing her too much. Bottom line: what would you want to hear from your husband if you had just slept with another man on a work trip?

Thanks!

LL

I think this depends on your dynamic. For example Rob loves to reclaim me after I’ve had sex with another man. So for me, I’d love to get a returning text that would say something like “That’s so hot babe. I can’t wait to reclaim you as soon as I get to see you.”
I also enjoy that recently he I has been waiting in the garage for me when I get home so he can grab me up right away and take me to the bedroom. 🥵

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

Were any of the hotwives against the idea initially and over time came round to the idea and now enjoy it.

Or is it, if the women is against the idea from day one, she generally tends to stay that way of mind?

Thanks

That was me. My husband suggested it after a few years of marriage. I hated the idea. But after some reading about it and also a lot of talking to him about it and understanding it (and him), I changed my mind.

[LatinaWife]

Were any of the hotwives against the idea initially and over time came round to the idea and now enjoy it.

Or is it, if the women is against the idea from day one, she generally tends to stay that way of mind?

Thanks

Hi, what coincidence.. because that is exactly the process we make now. My hubby always had the idea, we even were visting swing clubs and yes, i loved allmen crazy for me, and nevertheless, i couldn't start anything with any of them, i let them masturbate in front of me and all, but touch.. no way.. cannot explain. I have many fantasies, or pornos i watch. And also i love to be a "trophy" for hubby and being a hotwife. Now we are here online with profiles and i noted that it is becoming each time real.. and some "Bulls" are really experts We will see, kissses Rafaella

[Arizona]

Hi, I've started a post about having good communication with my girlfriend, I would like to have your point of view about what I've written please
viewtopic.php?f=48&t=73959

[irishstag41]

I've stayed in touch with some of my ex-boyfriends through Facebook and other platforms, but I don’t feel the need to share details about my current lifestyle. Some of them know my family and friends, and I doubt most of them would understand, so I keep it private from my vanilla circle.
Alice
Update:
My wife went to sweeden to meet her ex. They got together and slept together two nights in a row. She told him about our lifestyle. He is understanding of it. She has decided that she would like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with him. He is 30 she is 44. She has confessed she is still in love with him but it could never work as a primary relationship.
For now they hope to meet up every month or so and go on vacation once a year . I think it is working well and ,although risky , is very erotic

Beautiful hotwives,
I'm just wondering if any of you began seeing an ex with your husbands consent.
After much discussion my wife and I have agreed on her rekindling her relationship with a younger guy she saw years ago. She had feelings for him but this is not a problem. I'm just wondering how to approach it .
She does have a boyfriend but he's business is extremely demanding and they are seeing less of each other atm.
Thanks

[Justaregularguy]

So… a few months ago my wife who is fully aware of my fantasy suggested that she join a dating site and specify she was open to some online fun with somebody. She knows i would excite me for her to have sexual chats with guys or cam with them but she doesn’t want to just be seen as ‘a piece of meat’ so wanted some normal chat first. It came about after a work night out where she got lots of attention and she said it was a big kick for her knowing they wanted her…. Knowing all this what do you think the chances that one day she will become a fully fledged Hotwife?

[coastalkid]

In your experiences and observations does "routine" kill enthusiasm?

My wife and I have been married a long time, 46 years and routine sex has been the biggest enemy. After a steady diet of routine sex I began to have trouble getting excited about having sex with her. It wasn't until I told her that the "thought" of her having sex with someone else was exciting to me. I immediately followed up with I never expected her to do it, I simply told her that the "idea" is stimulating. She graciously began to make little comments during sex and has become very good at making up scenarios to stimulate the mental side of my desire. It broke up our routine for the better.

Has your sex life with or without your husband ever become routine? Have you ever noticed your husband losing enthusiasm from whatever routine they find themselves in? How do you stay aware of, and what do you do to keep things from becoming "routine" for yourself and your husband?

[Xmatty1]

For the wives that enjoy humiliating your husband while with the bull. Why is it a turn on? And what do you think of your husband after a bull humiliates him while he is taking you?

The reason I ask is that my girlfriend has been speaking with a bull who is into all this and she seems to love it, although she has been hesitant to admit it until I assured her that it turned me on. She knows that I like for her to tease me about other guys being better when we are alone. She has been with guys while I watch, but we have never discussed both her and a bull degrading me..

When I asked her what turns her on about it she said it feels like total freedom and trust.That she can go after what she needs and not feel bad.

I’m very excited about where this is headed, but emotions are complex in this arrangement. I have a hard time figuring out why I like this as it is. But I am really interested in what excites her and why. And of course what she thinks of me during and after.

***update
We had a conversation over dinner last weekend where I told her I spend a lot of time thinking about what she thinks about all this. I told her I was surprised that she wanted him to humiliate me in front of her, surprised in a good way. She said that she was only into it as a means to get what she wants. She explained that she is having trouble finding someone that is into fucking her while I watch, and is someone who isn’t a troll, someone just fantasizing online and never intends to meet. So with guys who are into it (bulls), this is just something that comes with that.

However,
When they first started talking he would throw ideas out there and she would place a heart on the ones she liked. She liked them all. Things like,
“So you want me to just full on cuck him”?
“This is what he deserves since he can’t fuck you the way I can” but after this he wrote…

“I can tell you feel the same way” and “we will make him regret this” and she did not put a heart on these

But later she liked..
“That pussy belongs to me when I’m around” and she put the mind blowing emoji on “I want you to feel what a real cock feels like”

He told her that he wants her missionary while she is in my lap, with my hand on her belly so I can feel how much deeper he goes. And wants to bend her over my lap while I sit in a chair so I can watch him stretch her out. She wrote back to home later and said she really wanted this.

One of her suggestions was having both our cocks in her face so she could play with them. And she wanted to see my expression when I saw his big cock next to my small cock.

[SpicySaltnPepper]

Hey there sexy hotwives and vixens. Where are you ladies going to find bulls these days? Any particular apps or websites you like? Both for longer term relationships and for hookups/travel play?

I've had two longer term relationships come to an end lately due to life circumstances, so I'm on the lookout. As a married guy myself, and as much as I like flirting and in person meetings, I don't really have the time to do lifestyle clubs or hotel bars at this stage in life.

[alicexg]

sdc.com

Hey there sexy hotwives and vixens. Where are you ladies going to find bulls these days? Any particular apps or websites you like? Both for longer term relationships and for hookups/travel play?

I've had two longer term relationships come to an end lately due to life circumstances, so I'm on the lookout. As a married guy myself, and as much as I like flirting and in person meetings, I don't really have the time to do lifestyle clubs or hotel bars at this stage in life.

[SpicySaltnPepper]

sdc.com

Hey there sexy hotwives and vixens. Where are you ladies going to find bulls these days? Any particular apps or websites you like? Both for longer term relationships and for hookups/travel play?

I've had two longer term relationships come to an end lately due to life circumstances, so I'm on the lookout. As a married guy myself, and as much as I like flirting and in person meetings, I don't really have the time to do lifestyle clubs or hotel bars at this stage in life.

Interesting. At least in my area, it seems up be heavily weighted to the 65+ crowd when I checked it out a year or so ago. I'm no spring chicken, but I'm also not a senior yet. I'll have to check it out again. Thanks!

[alicexg]

I am not going to say that you rely interely to the site, if you can find in your area parties or events you can check the crowd going, we had luck on 80% of the parties we attend with men below 40, I like my bulls to be between 30 and 40 not more.

[Hungdaddynyc]

Ladies, do you wear anklets often? Does it garner attention? If you’re wearing it and you’re out and about is there ever a good way to be approached and comment on it? Just want to compare with my experience.